The world of many diversities doesn't belong to anyone or anything

Neither the world of many diversities and communities nor the planet earth nor anything in this infinite space belong to anyone or anything.

All land and space, the nature and natural resources, and all and everything in anywhere in the universe don't belong to anyone or anything.

All and everyone and everything are merely existing momentarily and sharing this infinite space that doesn't belong to anyone and anything. 

'Discrimination', 'separateness', 'borders', 'documentation', 'emigration', 'immigration', 'nationality', 'citizenship', 'legalization', 'criminalization', 'authorization', or 'legal and illegal immigrants' don't exist, as well as all and everyone are free to be existing, living, surviving, moving, and travelling everywhere in the world that doesn't belong to anyone and anything, until different communities claimed possession, ownership, and authorization towards the land and space, the nature and natural resources, and all and everything in this world on planet earth that doesn't belong to anyone and anything, while create lots of story telling and justification (all kinds of beliefs and values) to justify and validate all that (all those egoistic practices that go against nature or the truth of everything as it is).

Unfortunately, even under the era of higher advanced science and technology, of higher education and development, most human beings are being brought up, educated, and empowered under certain beliefs and values to have strong attachment and identification, possessiveness and the sense of belonging, pride and patriotism, and the sense of separateness and discrimination towards what they were being conditioned to think and believe towards 'That is the way of the world', 'That is how things should be done', 'That is who they are', 'That is what belongs to them', 'That is where they belong to', 'That they need to be patriotic to protect what they belong to and what belongs to them', 'That they need approval and recognition and authorization to be who they are and for all and everything (to be born, to be alive, to be existing, to be what they are and not to be what they are not, to think or don't think, to believe or don't believe, to feel or don't feel, to behave or don't behave, to express or don't express, to be living, and to be stop living or to die)', 'That they are different from and more superior than all the others that are not one of them', 'That they have the rights or more rights to be existing, living, surviving, moving, and travelling in certain area of land and space', and 'All the others that are not one of them don't have the rights or have less rights to be existing, living, surviving, moving, and travelling in certain area of land and space that they think and believe that belong to them'.

How ridiculous is that, the authorities, the law makers, the armies, and the soldiers have 'the rights' to hurt and kill all and everyone and destroy all and everything, causing all kinds of unnecessary difficulties and painful suffering unto many innocent lives in the world that doesn't belong to anyone and anything, while all and everyone doesn't even have the rights or freedom to die at one's own wish, that it is illegal and criminalized and punishable for want to stop living due to the existence of all kinds of unnecessary difficulties and painful suffering that exist because of the existence of all kinds of man made greed, selfishness, possessiveness, discrimination, separateness, bullying, cruelty, violence, and madness deriving from ignorance, or because people appreciate and respect all lives and everything, and they don't want to be forced to be engaging in violence to hurt and kill and destroy all and everyone and everything? How ridiculous is that many kind people wish to stop living because they are being forced to become armies and soldiers that hurt and kill others and cause hurtful destruction unto all and everything, and they will be criticized, condemned, and punished for don't want to hurt and kill others?

The many different leaders/authorities/law makers says, "We are here to protect our people and our world," while they are doing many things to hurt the people and the world that don't belong to anyone or anything as much as possible, either intentionally (wittingly) or unintentionally (unwittingly).

The children also don't belong to the parents, not to say, the diverse communities don't belong to anyone or anything.

Certain ambitious leaders/authorities misused the meanings of oneness, non-separateness, non-discrimination, and non-borders, or 'all are one', or 'we are one big family', via the practice of unification/non-diversity/non-individualism/non-independence through manipulation/force/threat/intimidation/oppression/suppression/invasion, by disallowing and criminalizing and destroying diversities and all kinds of freedom, while being ambitious to claim possession/ownership and authorization/control over the entire world of many diversities and communities as well as land, space, and natural resources that doesn't belong to anyone or anything to be governed/controlled under their own particular leadership or authority, to be materializing, supporting, and empowering their particular ambitious vision of an unify non-diverse world under their particular way of thinking and belief, values and desires.

Complete madness. 

The world doesn't have to be like this.

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May all be free, be happy, be peaceful.

Love without possessiveness

Most of the 'love' in this world, is possessive love.

Upon falling in love with something, one will also want to possess that something that one 'loves'. Upon possessing that something that one 'loves', one will also wants to 'control' that something that one 'loves' to be 'the way that one likes and desires it to be'.

"I love you. I want you to be mine. You are mine. You belongs to me. I want you to be good, and always good.

When you behave in the way that I don't like and don't desire and don't agree with, and when you don't behave in the way that I like and desire and agree with, or when you are not good, I am unhappy and angry, and I will punish and hurt you."

Similarly,

"I love this land. I want to keep this land to myself. This land is my land. This land is mine. This land belongs to me.

I love this animal. I want to keep this animal with me. This animal is my pet, my family. This animal is mine. This animal belongs to me.

I love my family, my partner, my children, my brothers and sisters, my community, my people, my pet, and my land.

When the animal, the land, the family, the partner, the children, the brothers and sisters, the community, and the people are the way that I don't like and don't desire and don't agree with, or when they are not the way that I like and desire and agree with, or when they don't give me what I want and they give me what I don't want, I am unhappy and angry, and I will punish and hurt them, because I want them to be good."

What love?

No love.

Only possessiveness and control.

Only anger and vengeance.

Only selfish desires and expectation.

"I don't love you or anything. I don't even love myself. I only love my desires of getting what I want, what I like, and what I agree with, and not getting what I don't want, what I don't like, and what I don't agree with."

Don't fall in love with anything or anyone, if one doesn't know what is love, and doesn't know how to love, but one will be hurting everything and everyone that one thinks one 'loves' very much, out of possessiveness and control and desires.

If one really wants to love, then

Love without possessiveness.

Love without desires of craving and aversion.

Love without control and expectation.

Love unconditionally, and let go.

 

Inquire the truth of everything.

Letting go

What to be letting go?

Let go the idea of 'I' (the ego) and egoism of attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, possessiveness, comparison, judgment, and expectation, as well as all kinds of by-products that come along under the presence of the idea of 'I' and egoism, that give rise to all kinds worldly passionate egoistic ideas, beliefs, values, practices, activities, desires, visions, inspirations, aspirations, or ambitions, that give rise to all kinds of impurities and restlessness.

Let go the idea of 'I' and egoism doesn't mean that one doesn't love or be kind to oneself, or doesn't strive to improve and doesn't look after the well-being of oneself, while deliberately doing everything that would be damaging or hurtful unto oneself.

Let go all kinds worldly attachment and identification of family ties and connections doesn't mean that one abandons one's duty and responsibility towards those who are in some kind of ties and connections with oneself, or doesn't love and be kind to all of them, while deliberately doing everything that would be damaging or hurtful unto all of them.

Let go attachment towards the world doesn't mean that one doesn't look after the well-being of the world, while deliberately doing everything that would be damaging or hurtful unto the world.

It's about performing all one's duties and responsibilities towards looking after oneself and others and the world, without attachment, identification, desires of craving and aversion, possessiveness, comparison, judgment, and expectation.

It's about performing actions while renouncing the fruit of actions.

One is kind towards oneself, all and everyone, and everything, unconditionally, without attachment and identification or the sense of separateness, of 'myself' and 'others', of 'my family and friends' and 'not my family and friends', of 'my community' and 'not my community', of 'my belongings' and 'not my belongings'.

There is no "This is how much I give, and this is how much I deserve to receive in return."

The minds that don't understand the real meaning and practice of letting go, they would be in a state of selfishness, lovelessness, depression, loneliness, and meaninglessness, when they try to 'let go'.

The minds that understand, there is no selfishness, lovelessness, depression, loneliness, and meaninglessness, when they let go 'what I think is myself', all kinds of attachments and identifications, all kinds of ties and connections, and the world.

Inquire the truth of everything.

Proficiency in any particular language doesn't determine the state of mind and behavior

Just as the presence and absence of all kinds of origins, backgrounds, experiences, education, study, learning, training, practice, skills, talents, achievements, status, title, qualification, certification, physical appearance, health condition, fitness level, ability, disability, intelligence, or accumulated information and knowledge, the proficiency in any particular type or many different types of language(s), doesn't determine the state of mind and the behavior of anyone.

Knowing how to proficiently speak, read, write, express, communicate, and interact in all kinds of languages that are existing in this world also doesn't and cannot determine the state of mind and the behavior of anyone.

Wisdom, compassion, peace, understanding, kindness, openness, patience, tolerance, determination, non-possessiveness, non-attachment, non-craving, non-aversion, non-interference, the ability to let go/adjust/adapt/accommodate/withstand, the truth of selflessness and impermanence in all and everything, as well as the ability to allow and respect the perceived reality as it is, and to respect all and everyone and everything as they are, to be sharing the space that doesn't belong to anyone with all and everyone and everything, regardless of whether the perceived reality and all and everything appeared to be something pleasant or unpleasant, desirable or undesirable, and agreeable or disagreeable, are not being determined by the presence and absence of all those names and forms/qualities/abilities/achievements/possessions/identities.

It's very common that most people would ask/question others that they don't know, that they refer as 'foreigners', "Who are you? Where you came from? Where is your origin or birth place? What is your country? Why are you here (in my village/town/country)?"

Many people think and believe that they came from a particular land, that they think and believe is where they belonged, as their ancestors and themselves were born on that land in that space, where they claimed ownership and possession towards the land and the space to be "This is our home, our land, and our space. All these here are ours," and refer themselves as the original inhabitants or the rightful owners/citizens of the land and the space, where they express, speak, read, write, communicate, and interact among themselves under one or a few common language(s) that they think and believe is "Our language(s) and our culture." And they refer all the others that are not (already) one of them, that only exist/arrive/live/make a living on the land and space after them, that have some other backgrounds or cultures, as 'foreigners'.

There are also many people think and believe that many of their social/national problems are caused by the presence of 'foreigners' from other different backgrounds that arrive/exist/live/make a living in their country that belongs to them.

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Before the presence of any other 'foreigners' in any particular land and space in this world that doesn't belong to anyone,

All kinds of humanity/mentality/behavior/family/relationship/community/national problems have already been existing in anywhere and everywhere, among one another where all the people among the one same community that have the one same background of particular ancestry family heritage, ethnicity, culture, belief, values, and practices, where people express, speak, communicate, and interact among themselves under the same common language(s).

All kinds of dissatisfaction, discontentment, irritation, annoyance, frustration, anger, hatred, greed, discrimination, jealousy, selfishness, possessiveness, offensiveness, defensiveness, cruelty, ill treatment, violence, corruptions, mischievous conducts, hurtful behaviors, misunderstanding, non-understanding, disagreements, arguments, fighting, unrest, disharmony, fear, pride, arrogance, control, hypocrisy, lies, backbiting, backstabbing, blame, politics, interference, exploitation, wars, and etc, have always been existing in the minds within the one same family, community, or nation of the similar ancestry/cultural/social/national background.

Ceaseless conflicts have always been existing in oneself in one's own mind, among the different ceaseless thoughts and desires that are selfless and impermanent, not to say, with another mind, among partner/couple, among parents and children, among siblings, among relatives, among friends, among neighbours, among villagers, among all and everyone of the same origin and background. There are lots of craving, aversion, selfishness, possessiveness, jealousy, anger, resentment, disagreement, argument, interference, intimidation, threat, or power and control.

Human beings (The minds) have been hurting oneself, and their own family members, partner/spouse, parents, children, friends, relatives, and community of the one same origin, background and culture, under the influence of ignorance, the idea of 'I' (the ego), egoism, impurities and restlessness, either wittingly or unwittingly.

Making all and everyone to adopt one's particular language and culture, or one's belief, way of living, way of doing things, values and practices, doesn't prevent or remove all kinds of existing 'problems' that derived from the minds functioning under the influence of ignorance, the idea of 'I', egoism, impurities, and restlessness.

All kinds of 'problems' don't come from 'foreigners'.

'Foreigners' of different backgrounds, cultures, beliefs, values, practices, or languages, with different personalities and desires, are not the cause of all kinds of 'problems'.

It's the presence of ignorance, the idea of 'I', and egoism in the minds, on top of the selfless intentionless attributeless survival instinct that exists in all kinds of organisms, that give rise to all kinds of impurities and restlessness in the minds, that contribute to all kinds of 'problems' in this world of many diversities that doesn't belong to anyone and anything.

"Stay away from cult. Stay away from politics." - Swami Sivananda

The world is everything, everything is the world

The world is all and everything. All and everything is the world.

The world doesn't own all and everything. All and everything don't own the world.

The world doesn't belong to anyone and anything. Everyone and everything don't belong to the world.

They are not separated from one another.

Out of ignorance and egoism, the ignorant egoistic minds claimed ownership, possession, and authorization towards the world.

The ignorant egoistic minds desire to make or control the world that they think and believe is theirs, to be and not to be in certain way in accordance to what they desire and don't desire.

All the different ignorant egoistic minds want to get rid of what they don't like, don't agree with, and don't desire from the world that doesn't belong to anyone and anything, while they don't want to be sharing this space that doesn't belong to anyone and anything with some others, and constantly fighting against one another in order to achieve their particular vision of the world that they desire it to be.

Similarly,

The selfless existence and function of a selfless physical body is made up of different selfless components that work together that enabling the selfless physical body to be existing and functioning as what it is, under the selfless support of the selfless supportive elements and energy.

Without the different selfless components, there is no selfless physical body, and vice versa.

Without the selfless supportive elements and energy, there is no selfless physical body existing and functioning as it is.

But if any of these selfless components are not selfless, but all are functioning under the influence of ignorance and egoism, where all the different components claimed ownership, possession, and authorization over the physical body, and they all want the physical body to be and not to be in certain way that is in accordance to the different desires and don't desires of all the different components, and that is exactly what is happening in this world of many diversities that doesn't belong to anyone and anything.

It's like,

The left hand doesn't agree with the right hand, and they are fighting against and hurting each other.

The feet don't like the head, and want to cause damages to the head.

The head doesn't like the hands and want to get rid of the hands.

The stomach wants to get rid of the liver.

The kidneys want to get rid of the stomach.

The liver wants to get rid of the spleen.

The spleen wants to get rid of the bladder.

The bladder wants to get rid of the lungs.

The lungs want to get rid of the heart.

The heart wants to get rid of the glands.

The glands want to get rid of the pancreas.

The muscles want to get rid of the bones.

The collar bone doesn't agree with the spine, and wants to get rid of the spine.

The spine wants to get rid of the muscles around it.

The bones want to get rid of the skin.

The skin wants to get rid of the hair.

The hair want to get rid of the ears.

The eyes want to get rid of the nose.

The nose wants to get rid of the eyes and the ears.

The tongue doesn't want to share the space of the mouth that doesn't belong to anyone and anything with the teeth. While the different senses of different flavor within the tongue are hating one another and want to get rid of each other.

The back muscles are hating the abdominal muscles for sharing the space that doesn't belong to anyone and anything.

The intestines don't want the rectum and the anus to be sharing the space that doesn't belong to anyone and anything.

The blood is being discriminating towards certain components, and only wants to supply nutrients and oxygen to certain components and not to some other components.

The upper teeth are fighting with the lower teeth, while the lower teeth are hating and fighting against each other.

The knees don't want the ankles being part of the legs that don't belong to anyone and anything.

The thumb doesn't like the fingers to be sharing the hand that doesn't belong to anyone and anything.

And so on.

Inquire the truth of everything, and be free.

The world is what it is

The selfless impermanent world is existing, and it is called 'the world', because it is what all and everything are. They are non-separated.

There is no world if there isn't any kind of selfless impermanent worldly existence of names and forms being existing here in this space that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.

Apart from the inevitable selfless impermanent changes due to the inevitable natural decaying process that exists along with all kinds of selfless impermanent names and forms since the beginning of existence, the perceived world is merely what it is (or all and everything are merely being what they are, as they are), it is nothing but the consequences of all kinds of actions/reactions of the selfless minds, where the selfless impermanent changes in the world are indeed influenced and impacted greatly by the sum actions/reactions of the selfless minds that had been, and are occupying this space of the universe that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.

Some minds justify that survival instinct (hunger and thirst) is the reason why there are so many selfishness, greed, discrimination, fear, occupation, fighting, and violence related affairs, events, or suffering existing in this world.

Survival instinct alone, if without the influence of ignorance and egoism, it doesn't cause unnecessary damages (or evitable suffering) to the world that doesn't belong to anyone and anything. The world exists along with all kinds of supportive essential elements for all kinds of existence to be catering the different basic needs of all kinds of names and forms to be existing, maintaining (surviving), and ceased existing. If without the presence of the selfless supportive elements, nothing can exist, there is no world.

Hunger and thirst (lack of energy/energy depletion) -> finding/consuming food and water that doesn't belong to anyone or anything (replenishing energy that doesn't belong to anyone or anything) -> either surviving (energy replenished) or ceased functioning and existing/dying and disintegrating (prolonged and complete energy depletion). Devoid of greed, hoarding, possessiveness, separateness, selfishness, protectiveness, fear, discrimination, or ceaseless and boundless desires for abundant pleasurable enjoyments of the senses beyond basic needs for survival. The earth doesn't belong to anyone. The space, the land, the air, the water, or nature doesn't belong to anyone. There are enough basic needs for all selfless impermanent existence of diverse names and forms to be shared among all and everything that are selfless and impermanent.

It's the presence of ignorance and egoism on top of the survival instinct in the minds that had been and are occupying in the world that is selfless and impermanent, that is limited and conditional, that is why there are many unnecessary human made hurtful physical/mental/emotional damages (evitable suffering deriving from ignorance and egoism) being generated by the passionate impure egoistic minds functioning under the influence of ignorance and egoism into the world of many diversities that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.

It's not survival instinct, but it's the presence of ignorance and egoism that gives rise to the non-existing individual and community existence, separateness, fear towards unknown/death/ceased functioning and existing/non-existence/extinction, craving towards the absence of hunger and thirst (pain and unpleasantness), aversion towards the presence of hunger and thirst, clinging towards continuous supply of supportive elements for desirable comfortable enjoyable elongated life existence, hoarding, possessiveness, selfishness, greed, protectiveness, discrimination, personal and group identities, pride, ideas, beliefs, visions, aspirations, ambitions, desires, politics/power of control, ungratified desires of craving (wants) and aversion (don't wants), dissatisfaction, disappointment, frustration, irritation, anger, hatred, defensiveness, offensiveness, humiliation, retaliation, intimidation, fighting, invasion, occupation, violence, and so on.

Inquire the truth of everything. Attain self-realization towards selflessness and impermanence, and be free.

One will stop generating hurtful action/reaction unto oneself and others, or the world of many diversities in this space of the universe that doesn't belong to anyone and anything.

This (non-violence) is nothing to do with the passionate possessive impure egoistic limited and conditional loving kindness/sympathy/empathy/protectiveness under the influence of ignorance and egoism, where all and everyone are fighting against/hurting one another trying to possess and protect what they think and believe is them and theirs, that they love very much, while all and everyone are indeed hurting all and everything that they think and believe that they love very much, that they think and believe are them and theirs.

None can remove the ignorance and egoism in others for others, but only by the mind itself, alone.

The mind that knows, the mind that is devoid of ignorance and egoism, the mind that is devoid of attachment and identification/possessiveness and protectiveness/craving and aversion/fear and greed/anger and hatred/separateness and discrimination/desires and visions/intention and expectation, the mind that lets go and unattached towards all and everything, the mind that respects cause and effect, nature, or selfless impermanent changes/decaying process, the mind that is resting in silence, is free.

Be free from selfishness, possessiveness, pride, discrimination, petty-mindedness

Selfishness, possessiveness, pride, discrimination, and petty-mindedness, or greed, is not distinctive from self-destruction. It hurts others, and it will hurt oneself.

When a mind, not to say, the minds of a group of community, is being over-powered by selfishness, possessiveness (of claiming ownership and authority towards certain space and nature that don't belong to anyone), pride (towards their particular identity and possession), discrimination (towards the others that the mind(s) perceived as 'foreigners' or 'not one of us'), and petty-mindedness (of unwilling to be sharing the space and nature that don't belong to anyone with all and everyone, or unwilling to look after the general physical and mental welfare of the others, but depriving and destroying the general physical and mental welfare of the others), and under the influence of all these names and forms, the mind(s) generate desires, thoughts, actions and expressions that project the aspiration of either unwelcoming, pushing away, chasing out, and hating towards 'the others', or charging/taxing all others for their existence and all kinds of basic needs for survival in this space that doesn't belong to anyone, it all will come back unto oneself (themselves).

How people (the minds) desire to 'build' their 'living space' that doesn't belong to them or anyone (either full of peace, openness, kindness and harmony that give rise to prosperity for everyone, or full of unrest, selfishness, unkindness and disharmony that give rise to desperation and suffering for everyone), that's the 'living space' that they will be living in.

All kinds of basic survival needs that are available for all kinds of names and forms to be existing and surviving here in this space that doesn't belong to anyone, are coming from the selfless universe or the selfless nature, absolutely available for all and everyone to be existing and surviving here in this space that doesn't belong to anyone, unconditionally and limitlessly, provided that each and everyone needs to be exerting certain effort or energy to be maintaining and looking after their own existence and survival. All and everyone still needs to find food and water, and eat the food and drink the water, which requires certain effort or energy, where the energy is also coming from the selfless support of the selfless universe or nature, unconditionally and limitlessly, until the end of the existence of any particular name and form.

However, the many ignorant selfish possessive discriminating greedy minds thought that they could just claim ownership and authority towards the space and all kinds of basic survival needs that don't belong to anyone as much as they can, keeping for their own existence and survival, while at the same time, either forbidding others from existing and surviving in this space that doesn't belong to anyone, or restricting others' existence and survival by charging/taxing others for being existing and surviving in this space that doesn't belong to anyone.

It's like the air or oxygen. It doesn't belong to anyone. Similarly, the sun, the earth, the space, the land, the water, the nature or natural resources that exist selflessly and unconditionally for the existence and life maintenance or survival of all kinds of names and forms, don't belong to anyone.

Inquire the truth of everything.

Developing correct understanding

Developing correct understanding towards the relationship between identity, separateness, possessiveness, selfishness, fear, greed, desire, anger, hatred, discrimination, unrest, and violence.

All these terms are inter-related or 'good friends' to one another.

All these names and forms are the products of ignorance, the idea of 'I', and egoism.

The presence of the idea of 'I', and egoism, gives rise to individual, family, social, community, and group identity, attaching towards certain similar qualities of names and forms to be identifying as 'I' and 'us'.

The presence of identity gives rise to separateness between 'I' or 'us' and the others that are 'not I' or 'not us'.

The presence of separateness leads to possessiveness towards names and forms that don't belong to anyone as 'my' and 'our', or to be 'mine' and 'ours'.

The presence of possessiveness gives rise to selfishness (these are mine or ours), fear (of losing the possession), and greed (towards possessing more and more possession, and there are endless desires and ambitions).

The presence of selfishness, fear, and greed gives rise to self-protectiveness, defensiveness, offensiveness, dissatisfaction, anger, hatred, intimidation, invasion, occupation, oppression, and discrimination towards ideas, values, practice, activities, affairs, or those that are detrimental to or going against 'my' or 'our' desires and ambitions.

The presence of dissatisfaction, anger, hatred, intimidation, invasion, occupation, oppression, and discrimination leads to unrest and violence, a.k.a. devoid of peace at all levels.

Devoid of peace, or the presence of unrest and disturbance feeds ignorance that fuels the idea of 'I' and egoism.

To be free from all that - Annihilate the veil of ignorance.

To annihilate the veil of ignorance - Attain self-realization, or know Thyself.

To attain self-realization - Perform self-inquiry towards what is 'I', or towards the truth of names and forms (selflessness and impermanence).

To perform self-inquiry towards what is 'I', or towards the truth of names and forms - Purifying the intellectual reasoning and understanding, calming and quieting the restless thought-wave, or thought-current, or thought activities, or annihilating the restless impure egoistic modification of the mind.

To purify, calm, quiet, and annihilate the restless impure egoistic modification of the mind - Annihilate or let go the idea of 'I' and egoism.

To annihilate or let go the idea of 'I' and egoism - Stop feeding or fueling the idea of 'I' and egoism.

To stop feeding or fueling the idea of 'I' and egoism - Freeing the mind from attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, comparison, judgment, and expectation, by developing non-attachment, non-identification, desirelessness, non-craving, non-aversion, non-comparison, non-judgment, and non-expectation.

To facilitate or implement all that - Observe or practice dispassion, renunciation*, seclusion, solitude, mental and emotional independence, simplicity, truthfulness, straightforwardness, contentment, gratitude, generosity, non-possessiveness, non-hoarding, non-greed, kindness, non-violence, non-blind believing/disbelieving, non-blind agreeing/disagreeing, non-blind following, non-worshiping, non-glorifying, non-blind practicing, non-blind propagating, mental strength and stamina (patience, forbearance, perseverance, determination), mental flexibility (acceptance, adaptation, adjustment, accommodation, forgiveness, cheerfulness), mental skill (openness, intentionlessness, desirelessness, correct understanding, right discrimination, right attitude, right effort, right focus, self-discipline, self-control, reasoning, inquiring the truth of everything), Yama (Restraint), Niyama (Observation), Asana (postures), Pranayama (breath control), Pratyahara (withdraw the senses from the sense objects), Dharana (concentration, or being in the present moment), Dhyana (meditation - prolonged concentration/non-grasping/non-association), Samadhi (silence/stillness/timelessness/non-separateness/devoid of 'I' or separateness), the middle path (moderation/balance), self-introspection, and self-inquiry.

Inquire the truth of everything.

*Renunciation - It's nothing to do with becoming a monk or nun living in a monk or nun community. It's about giving up, or letting go, or renouncing the idea of 'I', egoism, impurities, restlessness, the fruit of action, worldly passionate egoistic way of living, identities, titles, status, desires, inspirations and aspirations, ambitions, ideas, values, beliefs, superstitions, practices, affairs, ties and connections, social interactions and activities, glory and fame, pride and arrogance, superiority and inferiority, authoritarianism, grouping, power and control, the sense of belonging, self-esteem and self-worth, guilt and regret, fear and worry, grief and sorrow, clinging and longing, meaningfulness and meaninglessness, positiveness and negativeness, goodness and badness, appropriateness and disappropriateness, accomplishment and non-accomplishment, self-righteousness, possessiveness, separateness, discrimination, prejudice, ill-will, offensiveness, defensiveness, day dreaming, building castle in the air, wild imagination, the past and the future, pleasurable enjoyments of the senses, luxurious indulgence, wealth hoarding/accumulation, extreme hardship, hypocrisy, story telling, fairy tales, lies, slandering, back-biting, gossiping, vain talk, self-glorification, boasting, attention/praise/compliment fishing, lust, jealousy, anger, hatred, feelings of hurt, dissatisfaction, disappointment, resentment, bitterness, vengeance, cruelty, violence, fighting, conflict, debate, argument, justification, selfishness, petty-mindedness, stinginess, corruption, bribery, blaming, competition, comparison, judgment, expectation, intention, interference, self-blame/self-harm/self-torture, extremity, intoxication, obsession, physical and mental addiction, under-active, over-active, over-eating, under-eating, over-sleeping, under-sleeping, mental and emotional dependence, blind faith, blind believing, blind agreeing, blind following, blind worshiping, blind practicing, blind propagating, glorification, admiration, love seeking, praise seeking, acceptance seeking, approval seeking, recognition seeking, agreement seeking, and etc.

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Only through renouncing passionate egoistic attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, and expectation, one can truly love and be kind to oneself and others, and perform selfless actions that would be benefiting the world of diversity without any selfish possessiveness or desire.

The minds that know this, they are not being determined, disturbed, exhausted, frustrated, disappointed, angered or hurt by all kinds of unpleasant and disagreeable names and forms, ignorant actions and reactions, or the consequences of ignorant actions and reactions in the world of ignorance and egoism, while performing actions that benefit the well-being of all kinds of diversities in the world without discrimination or expectation.

The minds that have good intention and aspiration, to be performing actions that would benefit the world as well as to stop others from performing actions that would harm the world, but somehow, the minds are not, or don't know how to be free from attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, and expectation, and thus, they are being determined, disturbed, exhausted, frustrated, disappointed, angered and hurt by all kinds of unpleasant and disagreeable names and forms, ignorant actions and reactions, or the consequences of ignorant actions and reactions in the world of ignorance and egoism.

It's useless to be confronting or fighting against ignorance. By being angry and hating towards the ignorance in the minds and the ignorant thinking and behaviors in the world, doesn't remove the ignorance in the minds, and doesn't stop or reduce the presence of ignorant thinking and behaviors in the world. It only disappoints and hurts oneself even deeper.

Letting go, without possessiveness, without desire, without identification, without expectation, without the urge to control, is the true love, is the real loving kindness, is the unconditional love, is compassion, towards all and everything in this world, regardless of whether it's within a family, or a personal relationship, or love relationships, or friendships, or particular community and global community.

Look into the historical events in the world, and the human being's affairs in individual, family, love relationship, friendship and community, as well as everything that is happening now in one's life and in the surrounding environment. All kinds of man made sufferings deriving from ignorant thinking, actions and reactions, are all relating to survival instinct, possessiveness, desire/aspiration/greed, identification, expectation and the urge to control the world, the family, the children, the relationships, the friendships, the particular community or global community to be and not to be in certain way according to one's particular thinking, belief, values, desires and aspirations.

Everyone are not just trying to paint the world to be in their own particular favorite colours, but, also dislike, disagree with, or be offended, and don't allow all the others to have their own particular favorite colours that are different from their own favorite colours.

To love the world, is not by making or changing the world to become something that is likable, agreeable and desirable to one's desire or vision. It's by letting go.

Similarly, to love someone or everyone, is not by possessing, controlling or expecting them to be and not to be in certain way, but it's letting go. Let everyone being what they are, as they are.

Yoga teachers can only show the way by delivering the teachings, that's all.

Similarly, parents or leaders that really want the family, the community or the world to have peace and harmony, can only show the way by guiding their children or communities towards the importance of respect and harmony among all kinds of diversities, with self-control of 'non-harming' oneself and others.

There are those who don't really want to have peace and harmony in themselves or in others, but only interested in gratifying one's selfish and limitless desires and ambitions, while generating unrest and disharmony in themselves and in others, constantly be offended by the things that they dislike, disagree with and don't desire, who enjoy or indulge in violent and hurtful behavior, as well as influencing their children or communities to also think, believe and behave like them, it's like a psycho training a group of psychos surrounding oneself. Let it be. One can't reason with a psycho, or someone who is under the influence of intoxication, but can only do one's best to stay away from one.

Just like the sun, the water, the wind, the earth and the space, they don't interfere with the law of nature, of cause and effect, and they have no intention to be something good or bad, to give or take, but only being what they are.

Inquire the truth of everything.

Rejecting subjugation and yearning for freedom is basic instinct in all living beings

Yearning towards all kinds of freedom and rejection towards any kind of subjugation being imposed onto oneself is part of the basic instinct in all living beings.

All living beings want total or maximum freedom for themselves, however, there are also human beings that don't mind imposing subjugation or restriction onto other beings that they disagree with or dislike, either by themselves or by others. These minds want all kinds of freedom for themselves, but they disagree with or being dissatisfied with some others having their own freedom.

In the teachings and practice of yoga and buddhism, one doesn't impose subjugation or restriction onto any others, but, only through one's own freewill, one imposes subjugation or restriction onto oneself, to discipline oneself, to have self-control, in order to annihilate ignorance, egoism and impurities in oneself, to attain the highest freedom of existence, which is free from the inevitable restless suffering of names and forms that is subject to selflessness and impermanence, of a perceived worldly life existence deriving from the modification of the mind functioning under the influence of ignorance and egoism. 

Coming from the conscience of this mind itself, yearning to free itself from ignorance and the consequences of ignorance, so that the existence of this body and mind, its thoughts, actions and speech wouldn't cause any painful suffering onto the others in the surrounding environment.

Many people would think and believe that 'democracy' or 'power to the people' is 'freedom from being ruled by others', or what people think and believe which will give them 'the power' that gives them 'the freedom' that they desire, where people have the power to choose and elect a group of people that represent them to form an authorization that will 'serve' them and 'give' them what they want, the way that they desire. But, 'democracy' is only 'sort of power and freedom' to a group of people who make up the majority, and not to the other groups of people who aren't the majority, because not everyone has the same interests and desires towards a world run by a particular system that they prefer and don't prefer. Meanwhile, 'the majority' with the similar interests and desires are not necessarily those who are free from the influence of ignorance, egoism, greed, possessiveness and selfishness, as well as those whom 'the majority' chosen and elected to represent them and form the authorization to serve the people, also might not necessarily be free from the influence of ignorance, egoism, greed, possessiveness and selfishness.

A 'system' that is generated and run by a group of corrupted minds that are functioning under the influence of ignorance, egoism, greed, possessiveness and selfishness would be hurting many innocent common people who just want to live a simple honest life, and hurting the surrounding living environment more than to be 'protecting' the benefits and welfare of the people indiscriminately, or to be 'looking after' the welfare of the surrounding living environment.

That's why the teachings and practice of yoga and buddhism emphasized on the attainment of self-realization through self-conscience, self-freewill, self-effort, self-discipline, self-control, self-purification and self-inquiry to free one's mind from ignorance and the by-products of ignorance, allowing a world that is self regulating under the law of nature, where all beings are self-initiated to free oneself from the influence of ignorance and the by-products of ignorance, where all beings don't need to be regulated under a humans generated 'system' to be or not to be in certain way, or 'be so called protected' under the 'system', where liberation from ignorance and egoism in the beings will efficiently contribute to peace and harmony among all beings in the world of diversities. Then, either with or without a 'humans generated system' in the world, it's neither good nor bad, if the world (the people and the authority that serves the people) is free from ignorance and the by-products of ignorance.

Liberation from ignorance and egoism can never be achieved by the discrimination, regulation, oppression, disciplinary, control, and threat imposed by others, or by receiving so called 'blessing' from 'someone or somewhere', but only through self-initiation and persevered self-effort to discipline, purify and silent one's mind.

It's never about out of self-righteousness based on a particular thinking, belief, practice, values, interests and desires to teach, judge, oppress, control, discipline, change, prosecute, and punish the others that are different from oneself, that one disagrees with and dislikes.

It's not about achieving a world that is preferable to a particular group of people of a particular thinking, belief, practice, values, interests and desires, by running the world under a particular humans generated 'system of law and order' to regulate all and everyone to be and not to be in certain way according to a particular thinking, belief, practice, values, interests and desires.

Under the so called 'democratic system regulated under specific law and order' to be regulating and controlling the people in the world to be and not to be in certain way, some really good leaders with good intentions and great ideas that would benefit the overall welfare of the world also can't do much to free the world from ignorance and the consequences of ignorance, due to being 'restricted' by the 'system of democracy' itself. It's not that 'democracy' is not good, it's just that real freedom for all and everyone without discrimination doesn't come from 'democracy'.

Above all, 'positive thinking' and 'optimism' also couldn't remove the ignorance and the consequences of ignorance in the world.

Inquire the truth of everything.

The world doesn't belong to anyone

Everyone think and say that they love the world.

People love the world so much that everyone want to 'control' and 'protect' the world to be in certain way that they think it's the best way, according to their particular likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements, based on their particular social/cultural/religious/spiritual/political/commercial thinking, belief, values and practice.

Different groups of people representing different types of nationality/ethnicity/culture/religion/spirituality/politic/commercial are fighting and hurting one another to 'control' and 'protect' the world to be the way that each group wants it to be.

People think they love the world so much, and hence, they need to protect the world, but it's not.

People just want to possess and control the world to be theirs, to be the way that they desire it to be.

The world doesn't belong to anyone.

The world is selfless, impermanent and non-discriminative.

Nature will provide sufficient needs for all and everything existing in the world, even if it's just ceaseless momentary existence coming and going.

Unfortunately, the world is occupied by such human beings that are under the influence of ignorance and egoism, who think they love the world very much and they need to be doing something to 'protect' the world, but they are hurting the world, out of selfish desire, boundless greed and survival instinct, but they claim it's love and protection towards the world.

It's the same in the body and the mind.

The body and the mind doesn't belong to anyone, but there's an idea of 'I' claims ownership over the body and mind, and thinks that 'I' love my body and my mind, and 'I' need to do something to 'control' and 'protect' my body and my mind to be in certain way, that 'I' think and desire how it should be.

It's the same in human relationships with each other.

People think and say that they love some others and their relationships with some others, and they need to do something to 'control' and 'protect' those whom they love and their relationships, so that everyone and everything will be good the way that they think how it should be.

It's the same in a country.

The government and the politicians say that they love the citizen and their country, and they need to do something to 'control' and 'protect' the citizen and the country.

It's the same in religion and spirituality.

The religion and spirituality people say that they love their religion and spirituality, and their believers and followers, and they need to do something to 'control' and 'protect' their religion and spirituality, and their believers and followers.

It's the same in any ethnicity and culture.

It's the same in any family, group, society and community.

Human beings just keep hurting all and everything in the world, out of what they think is 'love'.

This 'love' is not about loving the object of love unconditionally and non-discriminatively as it is, but it's loving one's desire towards all and everything should be in certain way that one likes, wants and agrees with.

Don't love the world.

The world doesn't need to be loved.

Don't love anyone and anything, if we would hurt everyone and everything that we think we love very much.

Inquire towards the truth of everything, and be free.

It's not 'our world', if we truly love the world

The world doesn't belong to anyone. The world is fine as it is and it doesn't need anyone to protect it if nobody/no community claim ownership/possessiveness/authorization towards the world and desire the world to be and not to be in certain way according to their particular thinking and belief, values and practice, likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements, or aspiration and expectation towards a world the way that they prefer, that they claimed as "Our world."

Many people like to propagate and say, "The world is ours." and then, "We love our world and we have responsibility towards looking after our world." and then, "We want our world to be like this and not like that." and then follow with, "Protect our world from what we believe as badness and wrongfulness. Get rid of those who are 'bad' and 'wrong', who are 'obstructing' our desire of making our world perfectly the way that it should be."

Just like in all the love relationships among people. Many people don't know what is love when they think they fall in love with someone that they think and believe they love very much, but end up hurting themselves and the one whom they think and believe they love very much. Similarly, we keep hurting the world, when we think and believe we love the world very much, but we don't really know what is love.

We think and believe that we love the person in the relationship with us, but out of ignorance and egoism, there's possessiveness and desire towards the relationship and the person in the relationship with us to be and not to be in certain way, and when the relationship or the person in the relationship with us is not being the way that we expect or desire it to be, but it's being the way that we don't like and don't desire, we will feel disappointed, hurt and angry, and in order to 'protect' the relationship from becoming the way that we don't like and don't desire, we would do something that hurt ourselves and those whom we think we love very much and those whom we think are responsible for 'disturbing' or 'destroying' the relationship that we love very much. And the more we try to 'control' the relationship or the person in the relationship with us to be the way that we desire it to be, we keep hurting the relationship and the person in the relationship with us, whether intentionally or unintentionally, wittingly or unwittingly.

When we claim ownership/possessiveness/authorization towards the world, we don't allow the world being what it is, but we want to 'control' the world to be the way that we desire it to be, and we want to 'protect' the world from being the way that we don't like and don't desire, we are actually 'hurting' the world in the process of making 'our world' the way that we desire, the way that we think how it should be.

When we truly love someone, we love them as they are and we let them go, without claiming ownership/possessiveness/control towards them to be the way that we would like them to be. Allowing them to be what they are, to love us, or not, to be in a relationship with us, or not.

If we truly love the world, even if we think we have good intention, we stop claiming ownership/possessiveness/authorization towards the world to be "Our world." and stop desiring/aspiring/expecting, "We want our world to be like this and not like that." but allowing the world to be what it is.

It's not 'our world'. It's just the world that selflessly allowing all and everything being here.

When human beings begin to claim ownership and authorization towards a land or a space in this world, then only certain kind of people/beings 'will have the rights' and 'will be allowed' to be on that land or be in that space, while some other kinds of people/beings 'won't have the rights' and 'won't be allowed' to be on that land or in that space. But the lands and the space in the world don't belong to anyone or authority. All beings and everyone can be here and there, without anyone claiming ownership and authorization towards the lands and space of the world, as well as without taking any thing for granted.

All kinds of inhumanity and discrimination in the world exist due to the existence of 'authority/government body' that seized ownership and authorization towards a particular land and space and sanctioned all kind of laws of rules and regulations, and 'creating' and 'giving out' certain 'rights' and 'privilege' to certain people and not to some others.

When human beings stop claiming ownership/possessiveness/authorization towards the world, it doesn't mean that everyone would be hurting the world intentionally, or wouldn't be doing something beneficial for the world out of compassion. While those who claim ownership/possessiveness/authorization towards the world and expect the world to be in certain way according to their aspiration and desire of a world that they prefer, would be hurting the world whether wittingly or unwittingly, by protecting what they like and desire while fighting against what they don't like and don't desire.

Anyway, the world will still be what it is, according to the law of nature (cause and effect), with or without many egoistic minds trying to take control over the world to be theirs and desiring a world the way that they like it to be. And the world doesn't have an ego to be bothered about it.

Love all beings and things as they are

If one wants to know yoga, or wants to practice yoga, or wants to be free from all sorts of suffering of unhappiness and restlessness of dissatisfaction, disappointment, frustration, anger, hatred, hurts, guilt, fear, worry, grief, painful sorrow, and etc, one can contemplate on this teaching, if one wants.

Minds that are free from suffering, are being free from ignorance and egoism. These minds don't fall in love with beings or things in this world no matter how good, pleasant, charming and attractive they appear to be, but merely being in peace and harmony while sharing this space of impermanent existence of names and forms with all beings and things out of wisdom and compassion, with correct understanding of the impermanent and selfless nature of all the names and forms in this world under the influence of ignorance and egoism, without expecting/wishing all beings or things have to be the way that the worldly minds would like them to be, but allowing all and everything to be what they are, as they are, even if they are not perfect, or not as good as how the worldly minds would like them to be.

These liberated egoless minds might or might not perform actions out of selflessness and compassion that would benefit the world, without any attachment, identification, craving/aversion, possessiveness, discrimination, judgment and expectation. There's no fear, worry, sorrow, grief, dissatisfaction, disappointment, frustration, anger, hatred, hurt, violence, ill-will, and etc, towards beings, things and happenings that are not necessarily the way that the worldly minds would like them to be. There's no expectation that all other beings must also be like them to be selfless and compassionate to perform actions that would benefit the world. There's no expectation that all other beings would not perform actions that would harm the world. There's no expectation that the world has to be all good and nothing bad after they have performed actions that would benefit the world. They are peaceful as they are, while living, moving and performing actions in the world, being undetermined by their actions and the fruit of their actions, or the impermanent good and bad condition of the world.

Contemplate on these, and be free -

Do one's best to perform actions that one thinks and believes are good and beneficial to the world out of compassion, but let it go instantly. Do not expect the world has to be all good and nothing bad, or there should be more good and less bad. Without the 'I' and possessiveness and desire, "Love the world, as it is, whether in good condition or in bad condition." instead of "I love the world and I want the world to be like this and not like that."

Do one's best to maintain the good health of this physical body out of compassion, without expectation that the body has to be all good and nothing bad. Without the 'I' and possessiveness and desire, "Love this body, as it is, whether in good health or in sickness." instead of "I love my body and I want my body to be like this and not like that."

Do one's best to maintain the good relationship with everyone whom we love, and appreciate things that we love, without expectation that all the relationships with everyone whom we love and things that we love have to be all good and nothing bad. Without the 'I' and possessiveness and desire, "Love all and everything as they are, whether they are the way that the mind would like them to be, or not." instead of "I love everyone and everything, and I want everyone and everything to be like this and not like that."

Those who don't know or don't understand this, would generate more unnecessary disturbs or disharmony in themselves and into the world, out of their 'love' towards the world, beings or things that they 'love' very much, under good or bad intention, whether aware or unaware.

Be free.

Look after our own minds

If we truly love the world we live in,

If we truly love whatever we think we love,

If we truly love peace in ourselves and peace in the world,

Then look after our own minds.

"Out of 'love' towards my self, my life, my body, my mind, my feelings, my home, my family, my friends, my children, my relationship, my marriage, my freedom, my rights, my happiness, my possessions, my God, my religion, my lineage, my ancestor, my teacher, my students, my school, my practice, my 'yoga', my planet, my world, my community, my space, my environment, my pets, my country, my culture, my beliefs, my point of view, my abilities, my profession, my knowledge, my achievement, my reputation, my image and identity, I would do anything to preserve and protect all that I 'love' very much."

If we think we 'love' this and that, and out of 'love', we would do anything to preserve and protect what we think we 'love' very much, to be the way that 'I' think they should be and the way that 'I' want them to be, then know that we don't know what is love.

Be free.

Asteya and Aparigraha - Non-stealing and non-covetousness

From the surface meaning of the word Asteya or non-stealing, it's about not stealing or not taking anything that doesn't belong to us, whether those things has an owner or not, or belonged to somebody or not.

And, from the surface meaning of the word Aparigraha or non-covetousness, it's about not coveting, or not possessing, or not grasping, or not greedy towards worldly objects or material and sensual enjoyments. As well as not accepting bribe or supporting bribery.

Both of them are related to greed. Greed is one of the characteristics of egoism.

Practicing Asteya and Aparigraha, abstaining from stealing and coveting, can help to eliminate greed from one's mind and helps eliminate egoism on the path of self-inquiry.

There are some teachings beyond these literal meanings.

Before we know what is the ego and the truth of names and forms, when we are still influenced by greed, then the practice of non-stealing and non-covetousness has its importance and merits.

When one is observing the practice of Asteya and Aparigraha, one doesn't need to acknowledge others or to glorify oneself for observing Asteya and Aparigraha, one just is. There's no attachment or identification of "I am observing Asteya and Aparigraha."

When we know what is the ego and the truth of names and forms, and we are free from the influence of greed, then all these practice don't mean anything, or are useless. One who is free from egoism and ignorance doesn't need to practice Asteya or Aparigraha as one doesn't need to remind oneself or to restrain oneself not to steal or not to be greedy, as there is no greed or the desire to steal existing in this mind.

Greed exists in many places that we might not be aware of. There are many 'spiritual' aspirants fall into the trap of greed without being aware of it. Greed doesn't just apply onto attachment, craving, longing and grasping towards worldly material objects and achievements.

Longing for merits and virtues is a form of greed. Longing for accumulating good karma by performing good actions is a form of greed. Longing for spiritual achievements, entitlements and acknowledgement is a form of greed. Longing for agreement, supports and association is a form of greed. Longing for good conditions, good relationships and happiness is also a form of greed. Longing for something that we like and want may it be something good and right which doesn't exist in the present moment now is a form of greed. Longing for assistance or blessing from any external source is a form a of greed. Longing for good health and longer life span is also a form of greed. Longing for changing the world to be the way that we think it should be is also a form of greed. Longing to have bigger and more yoga centres is also a form of greed. Longing to be a great yoga teacher to teach yoga is also a form of greed.

One is free from greed when one is completely free from attachment, identification, clinging, longing, craving and aversion, whether towards spiritual or worldly objects and achievements.

One will enter into silence when all forms of gross and subtle greed, desire, attachment, clinging, longing, grasping, craving and aversion subsided.

The realization of unconditional love and peace has nothing to do with the quantity or amount of Karma yoga or selfless service that we can perform through this life existence. Performing lots of charity work or volunteering service might generate some satisfactory happy and joyful feelings, and sense of meaningfulness in the mind, but it doesn't guarantee us liberation from ignorance and suffering, if we don't know what is performing actions without the influence of egoism, without intention, without attachment, identification, craving and aversion.

When we know the truth of names and forms, we will realize there is nothing in this life existence that the mind perceives through the senses that really belongs to 'us', or who we think is 'I', including the existence of the body and the mind, and their functions.

We can be in a relationship with someone. But, this relationship and the person in the relationship with us don't belong to us. We will generate 'problems and unhappiness' for ourselves and the person in the relationship with us, if we think we own this relationship and the person in the relationship with us, or we think they belong to 'I'.

If there is nothing belongs to anyone in this worldly existence of names and forms, there's no such accusation of somebody 'steals' or 'takes' something that 'belongs' to somebody else. It's the same as the teachings of yoga about oneness or non-separateness, and selflessness or I-lessness. The idea of something being stolen from someone by someone (objects and subjects) doesn't exist when we realize oneness or non-separateness.

This doesn't mean that one can take advantage of this teaching to 'take' or 'steal' anything that we like and want, thinking that "I am not stealing anything from anyone, as everything doesn't belong to anyone anyway." This is corrupted thinking influenced by ignorance.

Just like someone might take advantage of the teachings of yoga about "everything is just what it is, it is neither good nor bad" to be doing bad actions, while thinking that "I didn't do anything bad as there is no bad." It is the desires, intention, attachment and identification that makes the difference. While being 'aware' of such actions are 'bad' and still intentionally doing 'bad', while thinking and believing that there is no 'bad', doesn't free one from the consequences of actions, or the bondage of cause and effect.

It also doesn't mean that one can 'take' or 'steal' other people's spouse or children freely, or one can 'take' or 'steal' other people's 'belongings' or 'properties' influenced by some egoistic selfish desires and greed, and thinking 'I' am not committing any violation or intrusion towards anyone's existing life and property. Taking anything that doesn't 'belong' to us is 'stealing', even when there are no owners for anything. Everything and anything is not just doesn't belong to anyone, but also doesn't belong to 'I'.

When one is free from ignorance, egoism, attachment, identification, craving, aversion, and all sorts of impurities, when one is beyond all the perceptions of name and form, one won't be 'taking' or 'stealing' anything or anyone from anybody or anywhere.

When we are living on the earth, being in this space, and consuming the sunlight, the water and the air to be existing, did we ever ask permission from them, or did they give us any permission? The elements of fire, water, wind, earth and ether pervade the entire body and mind, did they ask the permission of this body and mind, or did the body and mind give permission to them?

The elements of fire, water, wind, earth and ether don't exist if the universe doesn't exist. And vice versa.

The universe exists because of the elements, and the elements exist because of the universe.

But out of compassion, everyone and everything co-existing and depending on one another to be existing. The sun, the water, the air, the earth and the space have no intention to be involved in actions of 'giving' and 'taking'. They have no intention to allow or disallow anything to be existing or not. They have no identification of 'I' am 'giving' something from 'I' to someone or something for everything to be existing, or 'I' am 'taking' something from someone or something for everything to cease existing, it doesn't matter who they are, what they are, how they are, where they are.

And above all, there's no 'I' involved in all these 'gives and takes' that is happening from moment to moment.

Before the realization of selflessness or I-lessness, all actions are bound by the idea of give and take, and are not free from the bondage of cause and effect.

Upon the realization of selflessness or I-lessness, all actions are neither give nor take, or are beyond giving and taking, and are free from the suffering of being determined by the inevitable impermanent selfless changes governed by the law of cause and effect.

Om shanti.

A story of egoism, possessiveness, pride, authority, sacredness, language

Language is originally existing as a convenient tool for communication. We should have just leave it as simple as that.

But our ego is always greedy for authority. It takes up a particular language that it hears, learns it, speaks it, becomes familiar with it and calls it "my language", and takes pride in that language.

And then the ego has this idea and belief that no one should insult "my language" as "my language" is something sacred, and it's only entitled for sacred people like me to speak it. "My language" cannot be polluted or contaminated by some other languages that are not as sacred as "my language".

The ego identifies with this language as who "I" am. If anyone insults "my language" is insulting "I". And thus "I" get very upset and angry if anyone tries to insult or pollute "my language". Those who are not sacred beings like me, they cannot speak in "my language" as this will be polluting "my language"...

And then this ego has this idea that other languages are not as sacred as "my language". "My language" is the one and only sacred language in the world. "I" should only speak "my language" and no other languages, as by speaking those languages will contaminate my sacredness...

In the end, the ego believes itself is the most sacred being in the world and allows no one but itself to speak this language. The ego also doesn't want to speak other languages that it believes as not sacred. And thus verbal communication comes to an end for this proud ego with other people. This language has lost its simple purpose to serve as a convenient tool for communication.

In the beginning, nothing belongs to anyone. Everything exists for the convenience of everyone to be existing in this form, until the moment we start to take possession of any names and forms that we experience in this life existence and possess it as ours, such like "my body", "my mind", "my thinking", "my feelings", "my ideas", "my creations", "my achievements", "my belongings", "my family", "my parents", "my children", "my friends", "my partner", "my lover", "my pets", "my country", "my health", "my strength", "my religion", "my culture", "my race", "my ancestor", "my language", "my pride", "my contribution", "my Guru", "my school", "my yoga", "my teachers", "my students", "my reputation", or anything that we think it's coming from "I" and it's "mine", we create inconvenience, restlessness, afflictions, offensiveness, defensiveness, unhappiness, disharmony, anger, hatred, fear and worry for ourselves and others.

End of story.

Om shanti.

Love vs possessiveness

When we tell somebody, "I love you..."
Do we really love this person? Or we love the qualities in this person that we like and agree with? Or we love what we like and want from this person?

And when we tell this person whom we love, "I want to be in a relationship with you..."
Do we really just want to be with this person? Or we want to possess this person to be 'mine'? Or we love what we like and want from the relationship with this person?

x x x x x x x x x x x x x

Out of 'love' towards a person or an object, naturally we (the ego) will have the desire to 'own' this person or this object to be 'mine'.

Out of this 'love' or more accurately, possessiveness, we will have fear of losing this person or this object.

When somebody or something comes in between this person or this object and 'I', 'I' will be very unhappy and angry.

For example, if we are in a relationship with somebody, and one day our partner fell in love with another person. He or she desires to be with the other person and doesn't want to continue to be in the relationship with us anymore. Or there's no third party, but just simply because our partner stops having passionate love feelings for us.

Our mind is being conditioned to react in certain ways. We (the ego) might feel hurt, disappointed and sad, and we might do something ignorant that will hurt ourselves and some other people. Or we will feel very hurt, disappointed and angry, and have anger and hatred towards our partner for stopped loving us or being 'unfaithful' to us, and be angry and jealous towards the other person who has 'taken away' the person whom 'I' love very much, and we might say or do something that will hurt ourselves, and hurt our partner and the other person.

As our mind is being conditioned to think how a relationship should be like. We expect the person in the relationship with us should be faithful and loyal to us, or there should be some sorts of commitment between the two of us, and we should be faithful and loyal to each other.

Our mind also being conditioned to think that if we don't 'love' our partner so much, we won't be feeling so unhappy, if our partner wants to be with another person. And because we 'love' our partner so much, that's why we feel so hurt. People like to say, the stronger the love is, the deeper the hatred will be. But this doesn't seem right. Why?

If we truly love our partner, we love him or her unconditionally, without expecting him or her to love us in return, or love us the way that we want them to love us. We will only wish him or her happiness. Even if he or she chooses to be with another person and not us. We will let go of him or her in peace, as he or she feels that to be with the other person is more happy than to be with us. We wish him or her peace and happiness for being with the person that he or she loves, if we truly love him or her unconditionally.

There won't be any disappointment, anger, hurt or jealousy if we truly love somebody unconditionally. As if we are over-powered by anger and jealousy, we might say or do something that will hurt our partner and the person whom he or she loves. Then how can we say we 'love' our partner, if we will do or say something that will hurt him or her, and the person whom he or she loves so much? It clearly indicates that we don't really love our partner, but we only want to possess him or her to be 'mine'. And if somebody is going to take away something that belongs to 'I', 'I' will be angry and unhappy.

Out of attachment and possessiveness towards the relationship and the person in the relationship with us, we feel the need to 'protect' this relationship, we will have fear and worry of losing this person and the relationship that we have. We might do something that will hurt ourselves, or the person whom we think we 'love' so much, and those whom he or she loves so much, when things don't happen the way that we would like them to be.

This type of 'love' is purely egoistic selfish passionate possessiveness and attachment, with selfish desires and expectations. This type of selfish love only bring unhappiness in ourselves and in the person whom we think we 'love' so much. We are being not free to love somebody, full of doubts, jealousy, fear and worry all the time, and the person whom we 'love' also is not free being 'loved' or 'possessed' by us.

Only unconditional love without expectation will promote peace, happiness and freedom in ourselves and in the person whom we love.

If we need to change ourselves to be 'somebody else' whom we are not, or do something to please someone in order to have him or her to love us in return, then this also doesn't bring peace and happiness. As he or she doesn't really love us the way as we are, but will only 'loves' us when we behave the way that he or she likes and agrees with. Or else he or she doesn't want to 'love' us anymore.

We need to allow the other person to be free to be who he or she is, without expecting he or she to be the way that we would like him or her to be.

And thus even though the qualities in us change all the time, our physical appearance, condition and abilities, our personality, feelings and behaviors, our likes and dislikes also will be changing from time to time, but we will love each other as we are, accepting all our changes as they are. We just love unconditionally without expecting anything in return.

If somebody doesn't love us, or doesn't love us anymore, it is not because we are not good enough. We shouldn't blame ourselves when relationship didn't turn out 'nicely' as how we like it to be.

This is our yoga practice. It is in our relationships with everyone, to love without attachment, conditions or expectation. There's no dissatisfaction, disappointment, anger, hatred, jealousy, frustration, fear, worry, and feelings of hurt, which derived from attachment and possessiveness.

The point is, in a true relationship, without expectation towards each other, out of each other's own free will, they will be faithful and committed to each other, and won't do anything that will hurt one another. It is not about one or both of them expect the other person should be faithful or expect the other person to give them what they want (For example, some people expect a faithful partner and a happy 'perfect' relationship that last forever). We will experience bitterness or unhappiness in any relationships is because the relationships didn't turn out the way that we expect it to be, or the way that we think it supposed to be. We are let down, or disappointed by our own expectations. It is not because the person whom we love didn't love us, or is not good enough.

We (the ego) are angry, disappointed and unhappy is because we didn't get the things that we want, or things didn't happen the way that we like it to be, or we have lost the things that we think they belong to us. It is not because our partner is not faithful to us, or doesn't love us anymore.

For example, it is not necessarily that we will be satisfied and happy when somebody gives us something. The act of giving or receiving is not what make us feel happy and satisfied if we have strong ego and attachment. We only will feel happy and satisfied when we receive something that 'we like', from anybody, or when we receive anything from the people whom we 'like' to be receiving from. Sometimes we won't feel happy and satisfied when we receive something that we 'don't like', even if it is coming from the people whom we think we 'love'. Or we won't feel happy or satisfied even when we receive something that we 'like', but it is not coming from the people whom we want to be receiving from. If somebody whom we dislike gives us something that we like, we won't feel the same as when it is given by someone whom we love very much. This indicates that we will only be happy and satisfied when we get what we want and the way that we want, it's not because the person who loves us gives us something, and it's not because the things that are given to us are something that we like. It is about the right person gives us the right thing the way that we want.

Can we see how selfish we are? We only 'love' the things that we like and want. We are happy and satisfied only when things happen the way that we like it to be. We don't really 'love' the people whom we think we 'love' very much, if we have strong attachment and possessiveness, and have selfish desires and expectations from the people whom we think we 'love'. And so, we stop blaming our partner for being 'unfaithful' or 'not good enough', or didn't give us what we think he or she should give to us, or didn't treat us the way that we want him or her to treat us, or didn't give us the type of relationship that we want.

No one is obligated to be nice to another person. If we expect everyone should be nice to one another, especially when ourselves is nice to other people, and we expect other people should be grateful and thankful, and they should also be nice to us in return, we will be very disappointed, if they don't. But if anyone will be nice to us out of loving kindness from their own free will, not because we have been nice to them, then we appreciate this loving kindness without attachment, without clinging onto this kindness, or craving for more. Without aversion or fear that this loving kindness is no longer available. As true loving kindness is not about something 'in exchange' for something. It's not about give and take.

Be grateful for other people being nice to us out of loving kindness, not because they are obligated to be nice to us, because we have been nice to them. Give without expecting anything in return, although something might come back to us naturally, but not necessarily the way that we expect it to be. Give out of love, not because we are obligated to give back something in return after we receive something. Be nice without expecting any kind of nice reactions in return. Be nice out of love, not because we are obligated to be nice in return for other people being nice to us.

It doesn't matter there's nobody shows gratitude or appreciation for what we give. It doesn't matter if other people don't like or are dissatisfied with what we give. It doesn't matter if other people criticize or condemn us after we give. We are not determined by praise and condemn, compliment and criticism, success and failure, if we know what is non-attachment towards our actions, and renounce the fruit of actions.

May all be free to love, and be loved.

Om shanti.

Love relationships - Want to love, and be loved?

When someone is in love with another person, it's natural that one has the 'desire' to be loved by that person, and if the other person also has the 'desire' to love this person, and to be in a relationship with this person, one 'expects' that being in a relationship means there should be 'commitment' among them towards each other, one starts to have the 'possessiveness' to 'own' the other person and the relationship, thinking that this person is in a relationship with 'I', this relationship belongs to 'I', this person is 'mine', this person should be faithful and loyal to 'I'.

One also has the great expectation that since 'I' love you so much, you should be loving me as much as 'I' love you, and expect the relationship to be the way that 'I' think it should be. And one gets so disappointed, upset and angry when the other person also have other 'desires' to be fulfilled, and those desires are nothing to do with 'I'. Anger, hatred and jealousy over-powering the 'love' that we think we have for the one who we think we 'love'. It clearly shows that we don't really love that person, but just want to possess him or her to be 'mine'. And if we don't get what we want, we are not happy and are very angry.

It also shows that we don't love ourselves either, as we are hurting ourselves with anger, hatred and jealousy. If we don't even love ourselves, how can we love another person 'properly', as we will expect that person will give us what we want that will make us feel loved and feel good?

It doesn't have to be like this.

We can just love, and let him or her to be free to be who he or she is, and let him or her go if that is what he or she desires.

If we know how to love without any selfish desires, expectation and possessiveness, we only wish the one that we love will be happy as he or she is, whether he or she loves us or not, or had loved us but not anymore, and whether he or she loves another person and not us. We are happy as we are, as we love unconditionally. Without expecting him or her to love us the way that we want it to be.

May all who desire to love another, or be loved by another, be free to love and be loved unconditionally.

When two people truly love one another, there is no 'commitment' that needs to be observed. There's no need to have faithfulness or loyalty. Naturally they will stay in that relationship, no matter they are being physically close to each other, or not.

By having expectation towards the one whom we think we love to be faithful and loyal to us, clearly indicates that we don't love this person actually. We only want to fulfill our selfish desire to be loved the way that we want it to be.

Falling in love with someone whom we like very much should be something sweet, content, joyful and happy, but it is not necessarily so, if we start to have doubts, jealousy, anger, disappointment, guilt, fear and worry being in that love relationship, as we attached to that love and the relationship, have clinging onto the feelings of love and sweetness, afraid of impermanent changes, or afraid of losing it, or afraid of some other people will come into the relationship and cause disturbance and destruction in that relationship, and so on.

So unpeaceful, anxious and restless to fall in love and to be in a love relationship, if we don't know how to love 'freely' without attachment and expectation. We are not free for loving someone, and the person whom we love 'very much' also is not free for being 'loved' by us.

 

Non-attachment, non-possessiveness and unconditional love in love relationships doesn't mean that one should be engaging in random love relationships with multiple lovers without responsibility, or encouraging one's partner to be engaging in unlimited love relationships with unlimited lovers. That is pure ignorance. It's about one can let go the loveless relationship with someone who doesn't love oneself, in peace, without feeling of hurts or disappointment, if one knows what is non-attachment, non-possessiveness and unconditional love, without encouraging ignorance and ignorant behaviors.

May all beings be free to love and be loved. 

Be happy.

Additional notes for "Confused relationship mixed with love and hatred?"

Additional notes for "Confused relationship mixed with love and hatred?":

Feelings always changing... It's impermanent. That's why sometimes we feel love, sometimes we don't feel love... It's normal.

Unconditional love is being kind and compassionate towards any beings without selfish desires, selfish intention, judgment, likes and dislikes, craving and aversion, expectation and attachment... It's selfless and unconditional...

There's no differences between us and everyone else. We love everyone including ourselves. There's no differences between "my" family or not "my" family, "my" friend or not "my" friend, people whom I know or don't know, people whom I like or don't like, people whom I agree with or disagree with, people whom I think they are good or not good.

And we do not expect love, gratitude and appreciation in return. There is no anger, hatred, jealousy, disappointment, unhappiness in compassionate love. Just like the sun, the air, the water, the earth and the space are always there giving and providing all the necessary elements and energy for everything to be exist in the universe, without any desires, intention or judgment or comparison or expectation or likes and dislikes, agreement and disagreement... They never ask anything in return...

They don't get upset and angry or disappointed when the people polluting the earth, the water and the air. The space doesn't mind when people start to think that they "possess" the space as their own private space. The wind doesn't mind that the people harvest the wind and make money out of it... The sun doesn't get upset when people condemn the sun is too hot or too much, causing them skin cancer or skin burn... The sun has no intention to benefit anyone to be exist, nor cause anyone discomfort or painful suffering... The sun has no expectation that anyone will be grateful and thankful for its contribution for everything to be exist in the universe... (If we don't want to get skin burn or skin cancer, we take responsibility for ourselves, don't stay under the sun for too long...)

They are always there providing and giving for everything to be exist in this universe... It doesn't matter what are the reactions or judgments coming from the beings about the water is too much or too little, the air is too strong or too weak, the sun is too much or too little, the earth is too soft or too hard, the space is too big or too small...

Selfish passionate love comes with our selfish desires, intention, judgment, expectation, and possessiveness... Expect "my..." to be there for me, support me, love me, appreciate me, take care of me, to be grateful and thankful for "what I did for you and how much I love you..." and etc...

When our desires are not being gratified, when we don't get what we want from "my...", we get upset, angry, unhappy, disappointed...

Passionate love based on qualities, names and forms that I like and want. If I see, hear, smell, taste, touch and think about qualities that I like about you, then I feel love for you... If I see, hear, smell, taste, touch and think about qualities that I don't like about you, I don't feel love for you, I feel disgusting for you...

If you do things and say things that I like and agree with, I am happy and I love you... If you do things and say things that I don't like and don't agree with, I am angry and I hate you...

In selfish passionate love, we only love something that we like and agree with, but we cannot love something that we don't like and disagree with...

Compassionate love is beyond all qualities, names and forms... No love, no hate... Beyond likes and dislikes, agreement and disagreement... We don't have to love or hate anything or anyone... We accept and respect everything and everyone as it is...

If we can love "our" family, "our" friends, "our" parents, "our" siblings, "our" girlfriend or boyfriend, out of compassion, there is no unhappiness, anger or disappointment... We don't own them, and they have no obligation to love us or satisfy our desires or to make us happy... Even if someone we love doesn't love us at all, it doesn't matter... We won't feel hurt from not getting the love that we want... If we are compassionate... We don't need to get love from anyone, because we are love itself...

We have no desire for anyone to give us love... We don't need to... There are unlimited or abundance of love in us already... And we can love anyone without expectation...

That's why selfish possessive type of passionate love relationship ends up sour and bitter, full of anger, hatred, unhappiness and disappointment... It's because our desires are not being fulfilled... We didn't get what we want... The relationship didn't turn out the way that we want... "My..." didn't treat me or behave the way that I want them to treat me or behave...

You see, it's all come from what "I" want and what "I" like... We make ourselves suffer and unhappy... It's not the people that we love or people in the relationship with us that make us suffer and not happy...

Om shanti...