Many people would think and believe that the higher education, knowledge, physical and mental ability, experience, qualification, title, living standard, health condition, fitness level, wealth, success, achievement and contribution that one has, and the more love, liking, agreement, acknowledgment, acceptance, appreciation, accreditation, recognition, approval, respect, praise and compliment received from other human beings from the family, the friends circle, the social network, the community and the society, or from certain organization and authority, that worth being proud of by oneself and others, then the higher the confidence will be.
People are being advised, or coached, or brought up in the way that in order to empower or boost their sense of confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, satisfaction, purposefulness or meaningfulness, people need to work on developing, equipping, attaining, possessing, accumulating and empowering all these names and forms in themselves that worth being proud of. People would then be acknowledged, accredited, praised and complimented for every single 'development', 'improvement' or 'achievement' in all those names and forms, regardless of big or small, to let people think and feel that "I know something", "I can do something", "I can achieve something", "I can give and contribute", "I worth something", "I deserve something", "I am good", "I am good enough", "I am beautiful", "I am strong", "I am useful", "I am meaningful", "I am loved and appreciated", "I am proud of myself", "People are proud of me", and so on, which would 'empower' people's sense of confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, satisfaction, purposefulness and meaningfulness.
But that sense of confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, satisfaction, purposefulness or meaningfulness that built on any impermanent and selfless qualities of names and forms is not real. It's subject to selfless impermanent changes. That's why people can still be experiencing/perceiving/suffering from different kinds of mental and emotional suffering even after attended many different types of empowerment workshops that empowers all these names and forms, that have been helping them on achieving higher education, knowledge, physical and mental ability, experience, qualification, title, living standard, health condition, fitness level, wealth, success, achievement and contribution, and they have been receiving certain amount of liking, agreement, acknowledgment, acceptance, appreciation, accreditation, recognition, approval, respect, praise and compliment from other human beings, especially when all these names and forms start to change into something else, that is no longer available or being the way that they desire it to be.
People would be in painful suffering when the function of the physical body and the thinking faculty starts to deteriorate, when they loose their memory, physical and mental ability, health, fitness, wealth, job, carreer, business, beloved family, relationship, friendship, or companionship, and etc.
The real confidence is beyond qualities, names and forms that are subject to impermanence and selflessness. The real confidence is when 'confidence', 'self-esteem', 'self-worth', 'satisfaction', 'purposefulness' and 'meaningfulness' are not needed to be existing in life existence, when people are no longer being determined or valued by any of all these impermanent qualities of names and forms to be 'who I am', to be proud of, or not, and to be happy, or not.
One can be highly successful in all pursues, but one is not being determined by all those names and forms, as well as there's no fear of losing all those names and forms that generate all kinds of success to oneself.
Those who know this, they are aware of and acknowledging all the physical and mental ability and disability or limitation, what the mind knows and doesn't know, where they can make use of the limited ability and knowledge to be doing something in this world, or not, while they can also work on improving/expanding their limited ability and knowledge, or not, but they are not being determined by all these impermanent and selfless qualities of names and forms to be who they are. They are fine as they are, and they know it's impermanent, and they are fine with all the impermanent changes, as they are. They don't need to develop or empower the sense of confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, satisfaction, purposefulness or meaningfulness to be 'Somebody that I and other people be proud of', as they know all these names and forms are nothing but the by-products of ignorance and egoism deriving from the worldly ignorant egoistic minds that built on worldly egoistic social/cultural/religious/spiritual/commercial/political/educational thinking, belief, values and practice.
The life existence and function of this impermanent and selfless physical body and the thinking faculty needs to be maintained by sufficient energy and the elements of heat, water, air, nutrients, minerals, the earth, and the space for living/resting. They don't need to be maintained by ignorant egoistic passionate ideas/creations/desires/aspiration/inspiration born out of ignorance and egoism. One can live life as one is, without being determined or valued by the presence and absence of the sense of confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, satisfaction, purposefulness or meaningfulness that need to be maintained at a certain level, restlessly. What is success, what is failure, what is meaningful, what is meaningless, what is pride deserving, what is shame deserving, it means nothing to the impermanent selfless body and thinking mind.
There's no fear of losing the qualities and names and forms that make oneself and others feel proud of, that give rise to the sense of confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, satisfaction, purposefulness or meaningfulness, as it doesn't exist in them. There's no craving towards liking, agreement, acknowledgment, acceptance, appreciation, accreditation, recognition, approval, respect, praise and compliment from anyone. There's no aversion towards the absence of liking, agreement, acknowledgment, acceptance, appreciation, accreditation, recognition, approval, respect, praise and compliment from some others. There's absence of insult, offensiveness, defensiveness, disrespectfulness, belittling, loneliness, worthlessness, unloved, or left out.
Those who don't know this, they always live in fear of losing something that give rise to the sense of confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, satisfaction, purposefulness or meaningfulness in them. There's craving and aversion towards the presence and absence of liking, agreement, acknowledgment, acceptance, appreciation, accreditation, recognition, approval, respect, praise and compliment from some others. There's presence of insult, offensiveness, defensiveness, disrespectfulness, belittling, loneliness, worthlessness, unloved and left out.
Those who are not being determined by any qualities of names and forms to be confident, or not, they might not know everything, they might not know how to do many things, and they might not speak many different languages, but they are not determined by all kinds of limitations that disallow them to do certain things, instead, they know how to make use of what they know, what they can do, and what language that they know, to be doing something or achieving something that is within their ability, without being determined by the limitations or what they don't know and can't do or achieve, without being determined by the outcome or the result of their actions being what it is, may it be highly successful, or little bit successful, or completely failure.
Inquire the truth of everything, and be free.
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