Can't help those who don't want to help themselves or don't know how to help themselves, not even one's partner and family.
No matter how much love, adjustment and tolerance or compassionate loving kindness actions being shown upon the suffering minds that have no awareness towards the root cause of their suffering, but only blaming all and everything to be the cause of its painful suffering or disturbed state of mind, that don't have any initiation to help themselves to come out from suffering, but merely expecting and longing to be receiving sympathy and empathy, attention, acknowledgement, appreciation, agreement, praise and compliment from all and everyone in the way that it thinks and expects how it should be to feel better, thinking and believing that, "I was and I am the victim of other people's bad and hurtful behaviors that I didn't and don't deserve, and I deserve sympathy and empathy from all and everyone," these minds would still think and believe that somebody is doing everything that meant to be hurting them, or attacking them, or criticizing them, deliberately and intentionally.
When people offer to share some delicious food with such minds, they react strongly, "Why do you force feed me? You want me to be fat, is it?"
And when people don't offer to share some delicious food with them, they react strongly, "Why are you so selfish?"
Then people don't want to say much that would upset such minds, they react strongly, "Why you don't care for me?"
That's the power of mental illness where it's too late to do anything for such mind, as the mind has lost the very basic ability or will to help itself to be free from suffering.
Inquire the truth of everything.