To speak or not to speak

The wise don't speak much.

They speak only what and when is necessary to speak.

They only engage in dhamma talk, or the truth of what things are. 

The others engage in random restless vain talk, small talk, big talk, interacting, chit-chatting, socializing, flirting, commenting, praising, criticizing, gossiping, slandering, arguing, debating, justifying, manipulating, politicking, scheming, plotting, complaining, moaning, bitching, back-biting, sabotaging, boasting, glorifying, belittling, humiliating, shaming, intimidating, threatening, bullying, story telling, lying, envying, admiring, possessing, clinging, craving, longing, flattering, mourning, comforting, provoking, claiming, proclaiming, blaming, joking, teasing, competing, comparing, judging, expecting, encouraging, discouraging, creating, hoarding, destroying, interfering, controlling, forcing, persuading, luring, tempting, converting, accumulating, empowering, and etc, while righteously think and believe that such action or activity is highly essential for developing and maintaining physical and mental health well being.

The minds justify and proclaim that all those activities are normal and healthy human's behavior, that all human beings are born like that (to be socializing/talking/interacting/mingling), and that it is part of the survival instinct for actively engaging in such activities in order not only to survive but also to expand and prosper, a.k.a. GREED/craving/clinging/longing (to endlessly create and hoard and enjoy more than basic needs for survival).

The wise understand that such ideas, thinking, belief, values, and practice, or such common activities of human beings, are merely the by-products of ignorance or mental corruption/illness, of some physical and mental habits or the conditional thinking and behavior pattern that is partially genetic inherited/engineered but mostly being influenced, developed, cultured, conditioned, and empowered in such way from young (parenting and community social influence), which can be reversed or renounced, by the mind itself, under the presence of the limited conscious awareness, conscious freewill, conscious choice, conscious desire, and conscious effort.

Such as the veil of ignorance that gives rise to the by-products and consequences of ignorance, manifests and exists 'naturally' and 'autonomously' in all minds from the beginning of the selfless impermanent limited and conditional formation and operation of the existence and function of the mind that is non-self, that doesn't even belong to the mind itself, or all minds are existing and functioning under the presence of the veil of ignorance (the selfless impermanent limited and conditional random restless thought process/thought current/modification of the mind under the presence and absence of consciousness/awareness), however, it is absolutely possible for the mind to be aware of that, and be free from that, via self-inquiry and self-realization, under self-initiation and self-effort, by quieting and silencing the restless modification of the mind/thought process/thought current (a.k.a. the annihilation of the veil of ignorance), through the practice of silence under the observation of renunciation, dispassion, solitude, and seclusion, under the help of asana, pranayama, yama, niyama, pratyahara, dharana, dhyana, and samadhi, under the state of consciousness and semi-consciousness, to render the mind one-pointed (stillness/non-wavering) and quiet (the state of clarity).

Even when the mind is alone being isolated from all the others and without any active physical/mental/verbal social interaction or communication or mingling with any other minds, the mind is still restlessly functioning as what it is, the random restless selfless impermanent thought process/thought current/modification of the mind is ceaselessly happening under the presence and absence of consciousness/awareness, consciously and unconsciously undergoing the selfless impermanent states of mind (selfless impermanent changes of ceaseless births and deaths of countless thoughts after thoughts of ceaseless ideas/feelings/emotions/states/memories/imaginations/dreams arising, changing, and passing away) selflessly and ceaselessly processing the mind perception/cognition towards all kinds of names and forms, of sight, sound, smell, taste, sensation, feeling, emotion, thought, memory, imagination, dream, problem solving, solution finding, reasoning, understanding, learning, experiencing, surviving, choosing, desiring, discriminating, and etc.

The mind that understands this, will also understand that the saying/information/proclamation about the cause of loneliness, or depression, or meaninglessness, or joylessness, or some other forms of mental problem or illness, is the lack of or the complete absence of physical/mental/verbal social interaction or communication or mingling with some other minds, is incorrect.

Even when a body and mind that doesn't have the organ of speech or doesn't have the language ability to express and communicate, and/or doesn't have the organs of action to be doing something physical, it doesn't determine the function and the state of mind, or its understanding and non-understanding, unless there is complete absence of the existence and function of the perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting mind or faculty, or if there is complete absence of conscious awareness.

Inquire the truth of everything.

The mind that doesn't love itself or anyone

There are many minds that are functioning under the influence of the veil of ignorance, are wittingly and unwittingly clinging onto and craving towards attaining and possessing endless attention, liking, affection, love, acceptance, acknowledgement, appreciation, recognition, agreement, approval, praise and compliments, support and encouragements, sympathy and empathy, companionship, ties and connections, relationships, or friendships, where they have intense aversion or rejection towards the opposite of all that or the absence of all that, but they don't love themselves or any others at all, even though they would think and believe that they love all the others very much, but then, they will constantly do and say things that will hurt all the others that they think and believe that they love very much upon their desires of craving and aversion are not being gratified, when they don't get what they expect to be getting but they are getting what they don't like and don't desire from the others that they think and believe that they love very much.

The mind that doesn't love itself and any others is actively and passionately showing affection, or kindness, or friendliness, or generosity, or helpfulness to the others with the intention/desire of to be receiving attention, liking, affection, love, acceptance, acknowledgement, appreciation, recognition, agreement, approval, praise and compliments, support and encouragements, sympathy and empathy, companionship, ties and connections, relationships, or friendships in return. And it is disturbed, disappointed, and bitter, upon its such desire/craving are not being gratified after it showed affection, or kindness, or friendliness, or generosity, or helpfulness to others, or after it has done something 'nice' for others. While being 'nice' in front of the others in order to attain what they desire to be getting from the others, but then, they would do and say things that hurt the others behind their backs (hypocrisy and back-biting or back-stabbing or slandering) in order to attain what they desire to be gaining from doing that (politicking and sabotaging).

These minds also think and believe that they are the 'victim' of 'ill-treatment' or 'bad behavior' from the others upon not receiving what they expect to be receiving from the others. "You are ungrateful and bad. You are so unloving and nasty to me. You don't love me. I love you very much and I don't deserve this from you but I deserve better from you," upon not getting what they expect to be getting from the others, or upon getting what they don't like and don't desire.

These minds are also the minds that would be 'suffering' from the sense of loneliness, joylessness, meaninglessness, unloved, unattended, unnoticed, unappreciated, unacknowledged, left-out, low self-esteem, low self-worth, shamefulness, or pride and arrogance, where they themselves as well as some mental health advocators, or psychologists, or holistic/spiritual/religious enthusiasts/practitioners/propagators would think and believe that they 'deserve' extra sympathy and empathy, attention and affection, love and support, or tolerance and forbearance from all the others to be actively enduring and forgiving (passively encouraging and empowering) the repetitive ongoing hurtful behaviors of such minds, as these minds would be constantly behaving in the way that hurt all and everyone, under the influence of such ignorance in themselves.

"I am sorry if I have hurt you unintentionally," and "I love you very much," doesn't mean anything, when these minds would ceaselessly do and say things that hurt all the others repeatedly upon not getting what they expect to be getting from the others as well as in the pursue of getting what they desire to be getting from the others, while they would 'apologize' for their hurtful behavior that they think it's not their intention at all to hurt anyone (either they aren't aware of their behavior is hurtful, or they are denying that their behavior is hurtful, where they think and believe that their behavior is not hurtful at all, but it's a form of loving kindness and generosity and righteousness).

This is a common hurtful behavior (mental blockage/illness or mental corruption) that exists in many family ties and connections and relationships, among spouses, among parents and children, among siblings, among friends and relatives, and among the members of any community that come under similar and/or different ancestral, cultural, and regional backgrounds.

The yoga and/or buddhism practice is all about enabling the minds to see themselves, or to attain self-realization towards the manifestation of this veil of ignorance in themselves, and to free themselves from all that, out of their own conscious awareness, conscious freewill and initiative, conscious effort and self-discipline, under the presence of intense yearning towards liberation/knowledge/freedom/peace, under immovable willpower, perseverance, and determination.

There is nothing wrong or negative upon the mind realizes that it doesn't love itself or any others at all, that it has been hurting all and everyone out of ignorance repeatedly and ceaselessly, wittingly (I know that I have hurt you) and unwittingly (I didn't know that I have hurt you, and I didn't have intention to hurt you).

The mind that understands, it stops chasing after, or craving towards, or clinging onto attention, liking, affection, love, acceptance, acknowledgement, appreciation, recognition, agreement, approval, praise and compliments, support and encouragements, sympathy and empathy, companionship, ties and connections, relationships, or friendships coming and receiving from the others, not being determined by the presence or absence of all that.

It is okay to realize towards and acknowledge to oneself and others (ones parents, children, siblings, spouse/partner, friends, anyone or everyone, and etc) that, "I don't love myself. I don't love anyone. Because I keep doing and saying things that hurt myself and everyone that I thought and believed that I love very much, but I don't." Which leads to the manifestation of unconditional and indiscriminate loving kindness manifesting in the mind towards itself and all the others, where the mind stops/ceases hurting itself and the others, because it understands.

Such mind is free to love or doesn't love, being loved or not being loved, and having or not having any family ties and connections and relationships and friendships, allowing all the others being what they are, as they are.

The sense of loneliness, joylessness, meaninglessness, unloved, unattended, unnoticed, unappreciated, unacknowledged, victimized, left-out, low self-esteem, low self-worth, or pride and shame, doesn't manifest or exist in such mind.

Peace in the world of many diversities that doesn't belong to anyone or anything, begins with the mind that knows and understands this, or the mind that is mentally and emotionally independent or matured.

Just be kind, be loving, be friendly, be generous, and be helpful towards others indiscriminately and unconditionally without the intention/desire/craving/expectation of receiving kindness, love, friendliness/friendship/relationship, generosity, or help in return.

Many minds are being brought up in the way of developing and empowering hypocrisy, untruthfulness, and politicking, where such behavior or practice are being valued and seen as 'the way to maintain peace and harmony among one another in the family ties and connections, friendships and relationships, or community affairs and interactions, and the way to success and prosperity and power and wealth', but it doesn't. That is why the world is in such a great mess under the presence of such ignorant idea, belief, value, and practice deriving from ignorance and empowering ignorance.

Inquire the truth of everything, and be free.

Renounce worldly passionate egoistic thinking and behavior

The teachings and practice of yoga and buddhism are for the minds that are interested to learn and practice and realize the universal teachings or dhamma of yoga and/or buddhism through direct self-realization via purifying and quieting the restless egoistic impure modification of the mind.

The minds that are not interested in learning, or practicing, or realizing yoga and/or buddhism, they don't need to practice yoga or buddhism, not to say, to practice yoga or buddhism as it is.

The core of the teachings and practice of yoga and/or buddhism is about activating the mind purification process to be modifying/changing the limited and conditional passionate egoistic impure restless mind thinking and behavior pattern, a.k.a. engaging in the mind quieting process to be free from the influence of the veil of ignorance a.k.a. the idea of 'I', or the ego, or the conscious/semi-conscious self acknowledgement and the sense of separateness, egoism, impurities, and restlessness, effectively and practically, by renouncing, or letting go, or moving away from the worldly passionate egoistic minds, ties and connections, relationships, affairs, activities, interactions, habits, or the passionate egoistic way of living, thinking, and behavior.

What is normal way of thinking, meaningful way of living, and appropriate behavior for the passionate egoistic minds, is exactly what needed to be renounced or letting go in the teachings and practice of yoga and/or buddhism.

There are different worldly egoistic cultures (different ways of living, thinking, belief and disbelief, evaluation, desire and don't desire, practice, and behavior), while regardless of from the one same cultural background or from the different cultural backgrounds, all and everyone have the freedom of their own particular way of living, thinking, belief and disbelief, evaluation, desire and don't desire, practice, and behavior.

Meanwhile, all kinds of different cultures have some similar common egoistic ideas, values, and practice that they all share in common, that is exactly what needed to be renounced or letting go during the mind purification and quieting process. Or else, even after years and years of practicing yoga and/or buddhism, the mind is still being conditioned by the worldly passionate egoistic mind thinking and behavior pattern to think, to evaluate, to desire, to act and react, or to live life and behave in certain way or not in certain way. The mind is still being restless swaying in between satisfaction and dissatisfaction, elevation and depression, meaningfulness and meaninglessness, happiness and unhappiness, joyfulness and joylessness, togetherness and separateness/loneliness/missingness, goodness and badness, pleased and displeased, enjoyment and suffering, and etc. Even so, there is neither good nor bad, neither right nor wrong about that.

For the minds that sincerely want to practice and realize yoga or buddhism as it is, then they can contemplate upon this, if they want. 

The commonly shared among the different worldly passionate egoistic ideas, beliefs, values, practices, inspirations, aspirations, desires, visions, or ways of living, thinking, and behavior is about -

- "We all need to have family and friends, and we all need to have our particular community mental and emotional support."

or, "Aloneness, being by oneself, living by oneself, eating by oneself, enjoying life by oneself, navigating life existence in the world of impermanence and uncertainty by oneself, dealing with all kinds of challenging condition and situation by oneself, and performing beneficial action to be looking after the well-being of oneself and others and the surrounding environment, without family and friends or community mental and emotional support and interaction, is lonely and unhealthy, is bad and wrong, and is joyless and meaningless."

There is nothing wrong with having the companionship of family and friends or community mingling and interaction and support, but for the minds that want to practice and realize yoga or buddhism, it is about - "We can have family and friends or engaging in community activity and interaction to be giving and receiving mental and emotional support among one another, but we don't need to must have family and friends, or engaging in community activity and interaction to attain mental and emotional support among one another. It is absolutely okay and there is nothing bad, or wrong, or meaningless, or joyless, or unhealthy, if we are being alone and living alone by ourselves without being surrounded by family and friends or without mingling and interacting with any particular community.

Mental and emotional independence is one of the essential criteria and precious element to be developed and empowered in yoga and/or buddhism. All kinds of worldly passionate egoistic cultural/spiritual/religious/political/commercial/national/communal ideas, beliefs, values, and practices are all about developing and empowering mental and emotional dependence, that is a huge hindrance towards attaining direct self realization towards the truth of names and forms - Selflessness, Impermanence, Limitation, Conditional, and Non-self, that is crucial for promoting and maintaining world peace and harmony among the countless diversities in the world of diverse names and forms that doesn't belong to anyone or anything."

- "As human beings, we should behave like this and we shouldn't behave like that."

Which also being brought into the path of yoga and/or buddhism - "As a yogi or a buddhist, we should behave like this and we shouldn't behave like that."

There is nothing wrong with we ourselves want to be behaving in the way that we think and believe as 'good and appropriate', and don't want to be behaving in the way that we think and believe as 'bad and inappropriate' in accordance to our own particular cultural belief, values, and practice, but for the minds that want to practice and realize yoga or buddhism, it is about - "Our own particular cultural belief, values, and practice is only limited to ourselves. Others have their own freedom of their own particular cultural belief, values, and practice. What we think and believe and how we want to behave is our own freedom of thinking, belief, and behavior. What others think and believe and how others want to behave is their own freedom of thinking, belief, and behavior, including our particular immediate family members, parents, siblings, children, relatives, friends, and particular community, not to say all the others that are not our immediate family members, parents, siblings, children, relatives, friends, and particular community. Even the minds that are practicing yoga and/or buddhism, they are not necessarily practicing yoga and/or buddhism as it is, and they have the freedom for what they want or don't want to practice, and how they want to practice."

- "Life like this is joyful and meaningful, and life like that is joyless and meaningless."

There is nothing wrong that we have our own interpretation towards what is meaningful and meaningless, and what is joyful or joyless, but for the minds that want to practice and realize yoga or buddhism, it is about - "Our own interpretation towards what is meaningful and meaningless or joyful and joyless, is only limited to ourselves. All the others, including our family members, parents, siblings, children, friends, relatives, our particular community, and the many other diverse individuals and communities, they all have their own interpretation towards what is meaningful and meaningless, that can be completely different from one another."

Apply this inquiry towards all and everything about ourselves and all the others that are different from us.

The minds that have this understanding, will not be disturbed or offended by the other yoga and buddhism practitioners being what they are, not to say, all the others (non-yoga and buddhism practitioners) that have their own particular worldly egoistic cultural belief, values, and practice that influences their own particular way of living, thinking, belief and disbelief, reasoning and evaluation, desire and don't desire, practice, and behavior, while respecting all and everyone as they are.

If there is intense disagreement or discomfort towards some others' cultural belief, values, and practice or way of living, thinking, and behavior, then one can distance oneself away from such minds, environment, condition, and situation, to minimize coming in contact with anyone and anything that oneself strongly dislikes and disagrees with, as much as possible, while not expecting or bullying the others to change their cultural belief, values, and practice or way of living, thinking, and behavior, that oneself doesn't like and doesn't agree with, or expecting the others to go somewhere else to move away from oneself.

There is a room full of many different people. One person that doesn't like some others or all the others can leave the room, and everyone will have peace. But out of ignorance and possessiveness, this person expects the others that oneself doesn't like to leave the room - "I have the rights and freedom to be here, all these people that I don't like shouldn't be here."

Meanwhile, under certain passionate egoistic cultural practice, the one that wish to leave the room and let all the others to be what they are and have peace, would be stopped by the minds that are being conditioned by the cultural practice about, "No. You cannot leave the room. It is rude and inappropriate to leave the room. You need to stay here and interacting with all the others even if you don't like all the others, and you need to behave yourself as a well brought-up good and civilized human being (which means being a hypocrite that tell all kinds of lies to please all the others)."

So many minds are developing certain degrees of mental illness/blockage because of being conditioned and limited by such cultural practice from young, where it affects their relationship with all and everyone, and many of them who have became parents themselves also conditioning and limiting their own children in such way, to be well-trained professional hypocrite that please all and everyone, while being told that they should either keep all the dissatisfaction, complaints, and unhappiness suppressing within, or there is nothing wrong to be doing and saying everything bad behind people's back (back-stabbing their parents, their siblings, their children, their spouse, their friends, their colleagues, or the members of their particular community, behind their back, while being super nice and loving and hugging and saying all kinds of nice things towards one another all the time in front of them.)

That is not what kindness, compassion, accommodation, acceptance, and respect is about. Real kindness, compassion, accommodation, acceptance, and respect is free from any kind of ill will or resentment towards anyone or anything.

Hypocrisy is merely a hurtful values and practice and behavior that hurt oneself and others. It is indeed a form of hidden abusive behavior that begins in oneself that might grow into the surrounding environment that hurt all and everyone and the surrounding environment, where the accumulated intense disagreement, dissatisfaction, frustration, unhappiness, anger, and resentment towards someone or something are being directed to all the others and objects that are innocent, that are nothing to do with the accumulated intense disagreement, dissatisfaction, frustration, unhappiness, anger, and resentment towards someone or something.

All and everyone have the freedom to be what they are and where they are. All the others have the freedom to be what they are and where they are. We ourselves also have the freedom to be what we are and where we are, but we all need to know and understand that we all are co-existing and sharing the space that doesn't belong to anyone or anything with the many diversities, where there are many things or affairs are not necessarily pleasant, desirable, or agreeable. The infinite space in anywhere and everywhere doesn't belong to 'I', or 'my family', or 'my community', or 'my country', or 'my ancestors', or 'my spirituality/religion', or 'my almighty creator and authority and judge of the universe', or anyone and anything.

It has to come from ourselves to accommodate and respect towards all kinds of diversities that are co-existing in this space and sharing this space, under the presence of correct understanding, without any ill will, frustration, resentment, or bitterness. If we can't accommodate or tolerate this or that, we are the ones that can leave and go somewhere else, and let all the others to have peace and freedom being what they are and where they are.

The minds that don't have this understanding, will easily be disturbed or offended by all the others that have their own particular cultural belief, values, and practice that influences their own particular way of living, thinking, belief and disbelief, reasoning and evaluation, desire and don't desire, practice, and behavior. They expect and insist all the others to also think and behave like themselves. They want to interfere with and change the others either by temptation, reward, conversion, and manipulation, or by force, threat, intimidation, bullying, oppression, suppression, restriction, and/or painful disciplinary and punishment, if not, they want to chase away and eliminate anyone that are different from them. They gather power of control and bullying by encouraging and empowering financial and mental and emotional dependence among their own particular family, siblings, friends, relatives, or community in order to achieve their aspiration, vision, and ambition of to be possessing the power of control towards everyone to think and behave and desire in certain way and not in certain way, to gratify all their desires of what they want and don't want, as well as to be coveting and hoarding unlimited wealth and possessions and enjoyments, or land and space and natural resources that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.

And hence, the highly importance of the observation of dispassion and renunciation, solitude and seclusion, and silence (Mauna), in the path of yoga and/or buddhism, to move the body and mind away from continuously being conditioned and influenced by such worldly passionate egoistic selfish, possessive, prideful, and hurtful ideas, beliefs, values, and practices, while respecting and non-interference towards all the others to be what they are, as they are.

As long as the mind still has the conscious and semi-conscious attachment and identification towards "This is 'I', this is who and what I am, I am this and I am not that, and this is my body, my mind, my ideas/thoughts/thinking, my feelings and emotions, my knowledge, my experience, my qualification, my identity, my self-esteem and self-worth, my confidence, my family, my friends, my relatives, my father, my mother, my siblings, my husband, my wife, my children, my community, my tribe, my village, my birth place, my origin, my country, my nationality, my belief, my culture, my spirituality, my religion, my land, my space, my rights, my deserving privilege, my pride, my belongings, my achievements, my lineage, my teacher, my guru, my yoga, my buddhism, my practice, my fruit of practice, my action, my fruit of action, my peace, my happiness, my realization, my liberation, my freedom, and so on," the mind is not free.

The mind that realized the truth of Selflessness, Impermanence, Limitation, Conditional, and Non-self will understand that -

The idea of 'I' and 'my' or 'mine', is mere ignorance.

The body and mind doesn't even belong to the body and mind itself, or to one another. The body and mind cannot exist or function as what they are, if without energy and all kinds of elements come together selflessly and ego-lessly that enabling the body and mind to be existing and functioning as what they are.

The parents might give birth to the children, but the children don't belong to the parents, and vice versa. Even though the children don't belong to the parents, but the parents are the ones that are responsible for giving birth to the children and have the responsibility, kindness, and generosity of looking after the children until they become independent. Even though the parents don't belong to the children, but the children can be looking after the well-being of the aging parents out of kindness and generosity.

The fruits, the flowers, the leaves, or the structure of the tree don't belong to themselves or one another.

The same as all and everything don't belong to themselves, or anyone, or anything.

Even though all and everything don't belong to anyone or anything, but all and everyone and everything are inevitably inter-supporting and inter-influencing the existence and function of all and everyone and everything, directly and indirectly.

One doesn't need to be acknowledging and identifying as, "I am the citizen of this country. This is my country. This country belongs to me and I belong to this country. This is where I belong. And hence, I have the duty and responsibility to look after the well-being of this country," in order to be performing action to be looking after the well-being of oneself, others, all and everyone, and the surrounding environment (the world of many diversity) that doesn't belong to anyone or anything, while not hurting oneself, others, all and everyone, and the surrounding environment, out of kindness and generosity, out of correct understanding, and out of one's own freewill and initiation.

There is nothing belong to anyone or anything. The existence/function/mechanism/state of mind doesn't even belong to the mind itself, what is there that is belonging to who or what? All and everything are selfless, impermanent, limited, conditional, and non-self. None or nothing can exist as what they are if without all the other names and forms are existing to be inter-supporting and inter-influencing one another selflessly and ego-lessly to be manifesting/existing/changing/decaying/disintegrating/ceased existing as they are. None and nothing belong to anyone or anything.

There is neither good nor bad, neither right nor wrong if the mind is not free. 

However, the mind that is not free might be keep hurting oneself and/or others and the surrounding environment ceaselessly, either wittingly or unwittingly, out of ignorance, under the presence and influence of the idea of 'I' and everything that belong to 'I' (a.k.a. possessiveness and hoarding, or greed and discontentment, or fear, or the urge to control all and everything to be or not to be in certain way, and the sense of belonging, pride, and self-righteousness), impurities, and restlessness.

Inquire the truth of everything.

Possessiveness, jealousy, control, self-righteousness, and hurtful behavior

One of the common habitual thinking and behavior pattern in the world of human beings under many different diversities having different qualities of names and forms is -

"I love you, you are mine."

"If I can't have you, no one else can have you."

"If I can't control you, I will destroy you."

"If you are/I am bad and wrong, I will hurt (punish) you/myself."

"If you go against (don't obey) me (my desire/wish/aspiration), I will hurt (punish) you."

"If I can't enjoy this, no one else can enjoy this."

"If I am in some kind of painful suffering, you all should also be in the same kind of painful suffering." 

All these are the synonyms of one another.

Possessiveness

Jealousy

Control

Self-righteousness 

Hurtful behavior

All are the by-products of ignorance/the idea of 'I'/egoism/restlessness.

 

This is not merely as simple as about someone is being born with certain condition of being needy or attention seeking, but upon not getting everyone and everything to be exactly the way that it desires (the urge to control and self-righteousness) or upon not getting the full attention/ownership that it desires to be getting (possessiveness and jealousy), the mind would generate hurtful behavior that would hurt itself and others or objects that it thinks and believes that it loves very much, that it thinks and believes and desires that everyone and everything that it loves, should belong to itself (and only to itself), and everyone and everything that it loves should always be in accordance to its desire towards how it wants everyone and everything should be like.

Such mind would hurt itself and others or objects that it thinks and believes that it loves very much, when some others express liking and compliment towards the people and objects that it thinks and believes that it loves very much but not really, as that hurtful behavior indicates that it doesn't love anyone or anything, not even itself, but merely 'unwittingly/unconsciously/autonomously' being the slave of the desire of craving and aversion/possessiveness/jealousy/the urge to control/self-righteousness, and impulsively generating actions and reactions that are hurtful and destructive upon ungratified desires.

There are minds that are being born with the condition of being needy and attention seeking, but they don't necessarily have the hurtful tendency/impulse/idea of hurting themselves and others or objects upon ungratified desires, as they have certain degrees of clarity of thinking and correct understanding under the presence of conscious awareness towards "Don't want to hurt anyone or anything, regardless of likable or dislikable, agreeable or disagreeable, and desirable or undesirable affairs/beings/objects/conditions/situations," or "Don't want to hurt someone or something especially the people and objects that one loves very much," even if their specific condition of neediness and attention seeking as well as their desires are not being gratified.

It is a common thinking and behavior pattern (a common mental illness/corruption under different degrees or intensity) that exists in all minds, of all age, in all fields, in all affairs, in the family ties and connection, in the relationship/interaction with other living beings/objects/experiences/activities/surrounding environment, in the social friendship, in the community, in the school, in the work place, in all kinds of organizations, in anywhere and everywhere, in the minds that think and believe and acknowledge that themselves are extremely good and righteous and superior, and in the minds that think and believe and acknowledge that themselves are bad and wrongful and inferior, and desire to be good and righteous and superior, except the minds that had conquered or transcended the selfless impermanent limited and conditional modifications of themselves, that know Thyself.

A common (natural, and yet, evitable) mind disease that manifests in oneself, that not only affects/hurts/damages oneself, but also everyone and everything and the surrounding environment that oneself comes in contact with.

However, like all kinds of names and forms, this common mental disease/corruption/hurtful behavior pattern is also selfless, impermanent, limited, conditional, and non-self, that doesn't belong to the selfless impermanent limited and conditional existence and function of the perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting mind that is neither good nor bad, neither pure nor impure, neither right nor wrong, neither positive nor negative, neither superior nor inferior, which can be weakened and eliminated (cured) under specific cause and pace, that can only be activated by the conscious mind itself, alone, under the presence of conscious awareness, of being conscious/acknowledging towards this hurtful thinking and behavior pattern in itself, and having the conscious freewill/desire to be free from all that, of want to stop hurting itself and others, through engaging in conscious action taking, of consciously activating the (prolonged and persevered) mind purification/silencing process under the help of certain physical and mental observations and practices, under the presence of non-grasping and non-violence or non-forcing.

A mind that is either wittingly/consciously or unwittingly/autonomously/unconsciously being possessive, jealous, controlling, self-righteous, and hurtful, can change and be free from possessiveness, jealousy, the urge to control, self-righteousness, and hurtful behavior, only if it wants to change and be free.

Inquire the truth of everything.

Self-righteousness that hurt and destroy all and everything out of anger, hatred, fear, and greed

It's normal and common that many minds are having the sense of pride and superiority towards their own existence, origin, background, belief, ideas, values, desires, visions, actions, and reactions, and have the sense of self-righteousness towards all and everything based on their particular way of thinking, belief, ideas, values, and desires.

Out of self-righteousness being righteous towards many things based on their own particular way of thinking, belief, ideas, values, and desires, they would hurt and destroy all and everything that they think and believe as 'bad' and 'wrong', or potentially 'hurtful' and 'destructive' unto them and what is theirs, or potential 'obstacles' obstructing them to achieve what they want to achieve, out of anger and hatred, as well as fear and defensiveness, on top of greed and possessiveness.

Out of the sense of fear and defensiveness, where they think and feel that themselves are being intimidated by the strong presence of some others, and hence, they would hurt and destroy what they think and believe is the potential intimidation that can be intimidating them, even when none and nothing is intimidating them.

Fear of being hurt or attacked by some others, one would attack and destroy the potential 'enemies' FIRST, even when the others have no intention and didn't do anything to hurt or attack anyone. 

For example, there is fear in the people towards the potential risk of could be hurt by the poisonous snakes (that have no intention to hurt anyone unless when they needed to defend themselves only if they are being disturbed, threatened, and attacked), and hence, the people want to hurt and destroy or get rid of all the poisonous snakes in the surrounding environment that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.

There is enormous greed in the minds towards possessing and hoarding land and space, food and energy resources and wealth, and endless accumulation of power and control that can gratify all their greedy desires and ambitions, and hence, they desire to invade and conquer and claim ownership towards all the land and space that they think and believe that has something or everything that they want, in order to gratify all their boundless desires, at all costs, of hurting and destroying all and everything, under the name of 'self-righteousness' and 'self-defense' reacting towards 'the existing threat upon them that is actually inflicted by their own self-righteousness, fear, and intentional annoying disturbing behavior unto the others', in order to achieve what they want to achieve.

"We are limited. We cannot be any stronger. We are not as strong as others. And so, we cannot let others to become stronger than us. We need to cause damages unto others, so that others cannot and won't become stronger than us."

There are minds deliberately generate ongoing disturbing annoying behavior unto the others that they dislike and disagree with, to provoke them to react in certain way, that would give them the righteous excuse to hurt and punish, or even destroy the others that they dislike and disagree with.

Just as certain people have fear towards poisonous snakes, and hence, they want to get rid of the poisonous snakes that are just being there as they are without any intention to hurt or intimidate anyone, and upon the poisonous snakes react under the threat of being disturbed and attacked by the people in order to be defending/protecting themselves, the people think and say, "Look. They are so bad and hurtful. They deserved to be destroyed and eliminated from the world. I am doing everyone a favor, by hurting them and getting rid of them so that they won't be able to hurt me and my family and all of you. I am doing this to defend the safety of myself and my family and all of you. Also, after we clear out all the poisonous snakes from this land, we can do whatever we want on this land and take whatever we want from this land."

The minds that have correct understanding, they respect all and everyone as they are, even if they don't agree with all and everyone. They don't possess any land or space claiming as their land or their space, because they know that all lands and space don't belong to anyone or anything. All and everyone are merely momentarily sharing this land and space with all and everything that are different from one another, that might not like or agree with one another, and that's okay. If there are some others that are non-understanding and behaving hurtfully and destructively, they would just stay away from these minds as much as possible, minimize or avoid any kind of dealing or interaction with them. Leave them alone, let them be what they are, while allowing them to be aware of their own mind and their behavior, or not.

The minds that understand, they never feel intimidated by anyone or anything, not even death, not to say, the ones that claimed to be the most powerful and influential people, or the most successful and wealthy people, and carry the highest ranking, class, title, or status in the world. They never admire or look down on anyone. They are free from superiority and inferiority. They are free from self-esteem and self-worth. They don't need to please anyone and they don't need to be pleased by anyone.

All are selfless. All are impermanent. All are limited and conditional. All will change, decay, disintegrate, and pass away, regardless of whether comfortably, gracefully, or elegantly, or not.

Reflect. Inquire. Realize.

Be free from ignorance.

Be free from self-righteousness.

Be free from fear.

Be free from greed and possessiveness. 

Be free from "I need to attack you first even before you do anything 'bad', 'wrong', 'hurtful', or 'destructive' unto me. To show you and all the others that I am strong. I can bully you, but you can't bully me. If you threaten me for bullying you, then it proves that you are bad and wrong, and you deserved to be punished for threatening me. I bully you is all out of self-defense, because I strongly think and believe that you would be bad and hurtful unto me and my family and everyone else, and so, it's totally alright and nothing wrong for me to bully you and hurt you as much as I want, so that you can't hurt me even if I am hurting you. And I want to hurt you, because I think and believe that you are bad, and you deserve punishment."

That is seriously mentally ill. Unfortunately, many minds are indeed not aware of themselves are thinking and behaving in such way. These minds are drowning in painful suffering being lost in ignorance.

"We are the good and righteous people. We need to punish and get rid of all the other bad and wrongful people in the world," and "You are bad and wrong because you don't do exactly what I want and expect you to do." That is what the self-righteous minds strongly think and believe and behave.

Such is the world of ignorance.

Ignorance is the most serious form of mental illness that cause intentional or unintentional hurtful destructive behavior unto oneself and/or others and the surrounding environment in a world that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.

And this ignorance exists in everywhere, where the minds are, in the family, in the relationships, in any community, or in any dealing and affair.

None can remove the ignorance in others.

It's the freedom of the minds towards whether they are aware of ignorance in themselves, or not, and whether they want to be free from ignorance, or not.

It's the freedom of all minds to behave the way that they are, and it's their own responsibility towards all their behaviors/actions/reactions and the consequences of all that.

Inquire the truth of everything, and be free.

The corrupted auto immune system and the existence of all kinds of discrimination and violence in the world of diversity

All kinds of discrimination are existing in this world of diversity that doesn't belong to anyone or anything, that discriminate, hurt, and attack one another among the different minds, are generated/created by the minds that are functioning under the influence of ignorance and its by-products, of the disturbed discontented dissatisfied restless egoistic impure modification/state of mind (the thinking and acting faculty is ill or corrupted under the influence of ignorance and its by-products, or mentally ill, or mentally corrupted).

The selfless existence and function as well as the survival or life maintenance of all the diverse selfless organisms in this world of diversity that doesn't belong to anyone and anything, are relying on the inter-supporting and inter-depending among one another of the many different diversities, in order to be existing/functioning/surviving as what all and everyone are, just as within each single living organism, there are diverse selfless bodily systems and components that work together and make up the selfless life existence and function of a physical structure that doesn't belong to anyone or anything, that need to be inter-supporting and inter-depending among one another, in order to be existing/functioning/surviving/sustaining as what they are.

Even though all the different systems and components are inter-supporting and inter-dependent on one another to be able to exist and function as they are (selflessness), but each of them also have their own respective duty that they need to carryout independently (self-reliance). It's the same in the diverse selfless living organisms in this world that doesn't belong to anyone and anything, where all and everyone are selfless and need to be inter-supporting and inter-dependent on one another to be able to be existing and functioning as they are, but at the same time, all and everyone have their own respective duty that they need to carryout independently, except those that come with certain disability or malfunction (certain severe physical and/or mental disability).

All and everyone and everything (living organisms and non-living objects) also need to depend on the selfless support of the selfless energy and elements to be existing/functioning/surviving/sustaining (impermanent changes from the beginning of coming into existence until the end of existence) as what they are (selfless, impermanent, limited, and conditional).

All and everyone and everything are subject to decay and disintegration (ceased existence). The difference is whether there is the selfless existence and function of a conscious selfless thinking and acting faculty, or not (mobile and immobile, as well as the presence or absence of non-autonomous conscious freewill activities/action/inaction deriving from a conscious selfless perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting faculty via the organs of action/mobility).

If there is the selfless existence and function of a conscious selfless thinking and acting faculty, the difference is whether there is the presence or absence of ignorance and its by-products in the selfless modification of the mind, that influences the thinking/reasoning/understanding/desire/behavior/action/reaction of the conscious selfless thinking and acting faculty, that impacts oneself and others and the surrounding environment.

All kinds of discrimination (ignorant egoistic impure ideas and behaviors under the influence of mental illness or corrupted thinking and behavior under the absence of clarity or correct understanding) that are discriminating, hurting, and attacking one another among the diverse minds, is similar to the corrupted malfunction auto immune system that is hurting and attacking the entire diverse bodily systems and components that needed to be inter-supporting and inter-depending among one another for the selfless impermanent existence/function and survival/life maintenance that is limited and conditional - Hurting oneself or self destruction, by thinking and believing that discriminating, hurting, and attacking others will boost or empower one's survival, but it is actually the complete opposite of that.

There is the difference between "We all stand strong together to attack and conquer those who are not one of us" and "We all are together. There is needless to attack or conquer anyone that is not one of us, as there is none that is not one of us, even when there are many diversities among us, and we all are not the same."

Inquire the truth of everything.

It's not about can't let go, it's about don't want to let go

Many minds think, believe, and say that they can't let go or don't know how to let go.

It's actually they don't want or reluctant to let go. That's all.

"I am hurt and suffering. I don't deserve this. I want them/him/her/someone else to be hurt and suffer as well. They/He/She/Someone else deserve(s) this."

Similarly, in all kinds of unpleasant, undesirable, or disagreeable experiences/conditions/affairs/interactions.

If (it) is something unpleasant, undesirable, and disagreeable, if (it) is something hurting, if (it) is something burning hot, just let (it) go.

Can't really blame anyone or anything, if the mind doesn't want or reluctant to let go.

Be free.

Being undisturbed or unhurt by the ignorance and ignorant behavior of others

Upon knowing Thyself, of knowing what is going on in the selfless mind, being undisturbed or unhurt by the presence of unpleasant, disagreeable and undesirable experiences in the present moment and the flashback memories of the past unpleasant, disagreeable and undesirable experiences, as well as being compassionate and understanding towards the presence of ignorance and ignorant behavior, it doesn't mean that one should be justifying and empowering the ignorance and ignorant behavior that are existing in one's life, in one's family ties or relationships and interactions with some others, or in the world. It also doesn't mean that one should become like them or behaving like them.

Inquire towards the many thinking, beliefs, ideas and sayings in the world that are justifying and empowering the ignorance and ignorant behavior in oneself, or in others.

"If someone is throwing a stone at you, you shouldn't shield yourself or move away."

"If someone is hurting you, you should keep silent, shouldn't retaliate, shouldn't move away, and should encourage them to hurt you more."

"Someone hits you on one side of the face, you should tell them to hit you on the other side as well."

"You deserve all these hurtful behavior and ill treatment from others, because it's your bad karma or sin, and you should be thankful and be grateful for that, because it's reducing your bad karma or sin."

"I should treat you with the same hurtful behavior that you had treated me."

"Everyone should be unattached, letting go and move on, and should not be disturbed or hurt by any kinds of hurtful behavior or ill treatment, and so, it doesn't matter if there are continuous and even more ignorance and hurtful behavior or ill treatment among one another in one's life and in the world."

"Family should stay together no matter what happens, even if there is presence of abusive behavior and ill treatment. Family should never stop loving and supporting and 'protecting' each other, even if everyone is continuously hurting one another, because we all are imperfect human beings. One is selfish and guilty, or it is very wrong and not good, if one abandons the family that is being hurtful and abusive."

That is pure ignorance.

If the house is on fire, and the fire is out of control couldn't be extinguished by all means, there shouldn't be any hesitation to leave the house immediately. There shouldn't be any hesitation such as whether to leave the house, or not, or there's strong attachment or intense love and affection towards the house, or even, the idea of one should let oneself be burnt down together with the beloved house, to show how much one loves the house, til death do us part.

If someone strongly thinks and believes that someone in the family or in the relationship is hurting oneself or is trying to hurt oneself all the time, then there shouldn't be any hesitation to just leave that family or relationship.

If there's some hesitation, or fear, or reluctance, or confusion occur in the mind, and hence, it doesn't want to leave the family or reluctant to let go the relationship that oneself strongly thinks and believes 'for sure' that oneself is a victim of the hurtful or abusive behavior of someone in the family or in the relationship, while keep thinking and feeling that oneself is constantly being hurt or abused by someone physically, mentally and emotionally, expecting that maybe one day that person will stop hurting or abusing oneself, but then, one also keeps blaming someone for causing disturbance or hurt in oneself, and keeps complaining to some others about something wrong and hurtful is happening to oneself, for years and years, and still oneself doesn't want to leave that 'hurtful' and 'abusive' situation for 'certain reason' of 'hesitation', or 'fear', or 'reluctance', or 'confusion'. Then know that, that is pure ignorance in oneself.

Upon being aware of the finger is accidentally being cut by the knife, one would either retract the hand immediately or let go the knife immediately, or both, without any hesitation, so that the cut doesn't go any further or deeper. If oneself is aware of the cut, with or without the sensation of pain, while continuing to keep cutting into the finger further with the knife, then that is something very 'wrong' with oneself. And it's more 'wrong', if one blames the knife for causing serious damage or injury to one's finger, while continuously cutting into one's finger with the knife repeatedly for many times, for years and years, and continuously blaming the knife for causing ongoing injury to one's finger. Mere madness.

Inquire the truth of everything.

Letting go?

The term 'letting go' is neither right nor wrong, but depending on how, when and where the minds use the term 'letting go'.

In the teachings and practice of yoga and buddhism, 'letting go' is coming from the mind itself to itself, to be letting go or eradicating the idea of 'I', or the ego, and letting go or eradicating passionate egoism of attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, judgment, comparison and expectation, or letting go the attachment towards the selfless impermanent limited and conditional physical body and the selfless impermanent modification of the mind, being undetermined or undisturbed by the perception of duality, or the impermanent qualities of names and forms, or all the past and present pleasant or unpleasant, agreeable or disagreeable, desirable or undesirable, and enjoyable or non-enjoyable experiences or memories.

Letting go certain unpleasant experiences in the present moment or in the past, and not being determined or disturbed by the unpleasant experiences that is happening, or the remembrance of certain unpleasant experiences that had happened, doesn't mean that one is denying or ignoring the presence of hurtful and damaging experiences inflicted from some others unto oneself. It also doesn't mean that to be accepting, allowing and encouraging others to be continuously and repeatedly behaving badly or hurtfully towards oneself and others, regardless of wittingly or unwittingly.

Meanwhile, certain minds that have been behaving, acting and reacting in a hurtful and damaging way under the influence of ignorance, egoism and impurities, and they use the term of 'letting go' from themselves to others, to justify one's hurtful and damaging behavior, by telling others who are being affected or hurt by one's hurtful and damaging behavior, to accept, accommodate and forbear one's action or reaction of inflicting such hurtful and damaging behavior unto others, by telling others to let go any complaint, dissatisfaction, disagreement, feelings of hurt, retaliation, anger or resentment towards one's hurtful and damaging behavior, to be forgiving and understanding towards one's hurtful and damaging behavior, while continuously and repeatedly behaving in such way.

Such as, "I am hurting you because you have been bad and you deserve to be hurt," or, "I am hurting you because I want you to be good. It's all because I love you very much. You should be thanking me for hurting you, to reduce your sin," or, "You have made me very upset and angry. You made me do this to hurt you. You should be grateful, and you shouldn't be angry or complain for being punished for your bad behavior." Such deep ignorance.

Inquire the truth of everything.

All are selfish unless the mind realized selflessness

Selfishness is part of the impermanent modifications of the mind. It's part of the survival instinct in all living beings. It's naive to be judging anyone as a selfish or unselfish person, not to say, a good or bad being, even though certain actions/reactions are being perceived as selfishness or unselfishness.

The minds that are free from ignorance and egoism, they don't judge or label anyone as good or bad being, selfish or unselfish person, even though they are aware of the existence of certain kind or unkind, selfish or unselfish actions and reactions in all and everyone, being aware of all kind of modifications of the minds or agreeable/disagreeable behaviors are impermanent and conditional.

The minds that are functioning under the influence of ignorance and egoism, and have no awareness towards the modifications of the mind, are restlessly swaying between good mood and bad mood, being conditioned by the likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements, desires and don't desires of themselves, that are determining their behavior and interactions with the others, where they can be unselfishly easy going, kind and nice at one time, while can be selfishly difficult, unkind and hurtful at some other time depending on the states of their mind.

Those who are behaving selfishly most of the time can sometimes be unselfish under certain reasons or conditions. While those who are behaving unselfishly most of the time can also sometimes be selfish under certain reasons or conditions. Or, people can be selfish in certain things while being unselfish in some other things at the same time. Most of the time, the minds are being less selfish, good or nice to others when the minds are in good mood, upon perceiving something desirable and agreeable to them, while they are being selfish, bad or not so nice to others when the minds are in bad mood, upon perceiving something undesirable or disagreeable to them.

It's neither right nor wrong, neither good nor bad, neither positive nor negative, it's merely the behavior pattern of the minds functioning under the influence of ignorance and egoism, although selfish intention and behavior can cause certain unpleasant consequences to oneself and others, and impacting the condition and situation of the surrounding environment, either intentionally or unintentionally.

Similarly, sometimes what the minds recognized as unselfish intention and behavior might also can cause certain unpleasant consequences to oneself and others, and impacting the condition and situation of the surrounding environment in certain way, unintentionally.

Some minds are aware of selfishness, but they still want to be selfish, either wittingly or unwittingly, due to certain desire, motivation, ambition, aspiration, desperation or fear, regardless of whether they think and believe that selfishness is something bad, wrong and negative, or not.

Some minds are not aware of selfishness in themselves, and they are behaving selfishly most of the time, but they might be thinking and believing and identifying oneself as an unselfish person, while recognizing certain selfishness in some others.

Many minds might think and believe that selfishness is something bad, wrong and negative, that they don't want to be selfish, and they want to be unselfish. They want to be recognized and acknowledged and identified as unselfish people, and they don't want to be recognized, or acknowledged, or identified as selfish people. They might be performing many actions that they think are unselfish actions, and they might not perform any actions that they think are selfish actions. They think and believe that they are unselfish people, as they have been being generous, thoughtful, nice and kind to others, or they have been sacrificing their time, energy, effort and priority for some others for certain reasons, where there's expectation towards receiving acknowledgement and appreciation from others for being generous, thoughtful, nice and kind, while they would be disappointed if their generosity, thoughtfulness, nice treatment and kindness are not being acknowledged or appreciated as they expect how it should be. Such attachment and identification towards the state of selfishness and unselfishness is also part of the modifications of the mind under the influence of ignorance and egoism.

Disappointment towards other people's behavior that the mind thinks and believes as something selfish, wrongful, bad or unkind, while being determined and disturbed by that, is the responsibility of the mind itself for having expectation towards all and everyone should and shouldn't behave in certain way. The minds that understand, they won't be disappointed or determined by the selfishness, wrongfulness, badness and unkindness in the world, as they don't have expectation towards everyone should and shouldn't behave in certain way. They might not agree with certain behavior in certain people, but they understand that it's everyone's freedom for their own behavior, and it's everyone's responsibility towards their own behavior and the consequences of their behavior, may it be it's one's family members or close friends, or someone happens to be famous, powerful, knowledgeable, talented, successful, or highly respected in the world.

Selfishness that derived from survival instinct and other impurities such as desire, ambition, self-glorification, self-protection, jealousy and resentment exists everywhere, including within the same family, friendship, relationship, workplace, classroom, community, competition, not to say, in the field of politics. Out of desire, ambition, self-glorification, self-protection, resentment or jealousy among siblings, friends, partners, classmates, colleagues, communities, competitors, or politics, may it be to glorify oneself in order to gain attention, liking and support from certain people, or to protect oneself and one's desires, benefits and status, or merely to injure or weaken the others in order to achieve success or something that one desires, where siblings, or friends, or partners would hurt one another, either secretly or openly, not to say among classmates, colleagues, communities, competitors, and especially, politics. At one time, people are being nice to one another, while at another time, the same people are hurting one another, when things are not the way that they desire and agree with, or not the way that they expect it to be.

The minds that realized selflessness, are free from egoistic attachment and identification towards the impermanent modifications of the mind. There's neither "I am selfish" nor "I am unselfish." There's neither "I want to be selfish/unselfish" nor "I don't want to be selfish/unselfish."

All are selfish, under the presence of the idea of 'I' and the duality/separateness/survival instinct/attachment/identification/desire/fear that exists along with the idea of 'I', and would hurt anyone in order to achieve one's desire or ambition, or to protect oneself and one's benefits, unless the mind realized selflessness, void of ignorance and egoism, or selfish intention and desire, even though certain actions (both action and inaction) might be perceived by the ignorant egoistic minds as 'selfishness' or 'unselfishness'.

How everyone want to think, act and react, agree and disagree towards all and everything, is everyone's freedom. One can be aware of what is going on in one's mind, and have self-control over one's actions and reactions, or not, without attachment or identification, and let other minds to be aware of what is going on in their mind, and have self-control over their actions and reactions, or not.

Respecting everyone being what they are and how they are, and all are impermanent, without interfering or regulating everyone and everything to be and not to be in certain way. Let everyone be responsible for looking after their own mind and have self-control, or not, and be responsible for the consequences of their own behavior, actions and reactions, even if there's collective responsibility that is also not in the control of anyone.

Let go the thinking and belief about "This, or 'I', deserves or doesn't deserve this and that," based on particular thinking, belief, values and practice.

Realize this and be free.

Understanding the suffering minds and their disturbing hurtful behavior with compassion

The minds that are aware of the modification of the mind, they are capable of having correct understanding under the presence of compassion towards the many suffering minds that would behave, act and react in the way that hurt oneself and others or the surrounding environment, while not being determined or disturbed by the suffering minds and their hurtful behavior, action and reaction, understanding that these disturbing hurtful minds are behaving in such way because they are under the veil of ignorance, that they are actually in great suffering, even if from the appearance, these suffering minds seemed to be finding relief, pleasure and satisfaction through causing inconvenience, disturbance, hurt or damage to themselves and others or the surrounding environment, deliberately.

The minds that realized compassion, they just simply couldn't act or react in the way that would be intentionally hurting anyone through any disturbing, hurtful or damaging behavior, action or reaction that would be causing certain inconvenience, disturbance, hurt or damage to others, even under intense disagreement towards some others who are behaving, acting and reacting in the way that is deliberately causing inconvenience, disturbance, hurt or damage to others, out of great disturb, unhappiness, dissatisfaction, anger and hatred in them, due to ignorance.

Understanding that, such disturbing hurtful minds are actually drowning in great suffering due to ignorance, where these suffering minds are ignorant towards what is going on in themselves, but either wittingly or unwittingly, externalizing and expressing their suffering of all kinds of disturb, dissatisfaction, unhappiness, anger and hatred via such disturbing or hurtful behavior, action or reaction that hurt themselves and others or the surrounding environment, deliberately.

The minds that don't know this, are peaceless, being determined, disturbed, angered and hurt by all kinds of disturbing and hurtful behavior, action and reaction in the world.

The minds that know this, are resting in unconditional peace, regardless of the presence of all kinds of disturbing and hurtful behavior, action and reaction in the world. Not that they are agreeing with, ignoring, empowering or don't care towards disturbing and hurtful behavior in the world, or don't perform any actions that might or might not help the world to be a better place, but, simply because they know and understand towards the modification of the mind, the root cause of suffering and the veil of ignorance, or towards human beings' disturbing, destructive and hurtful behavior, actions and reactions out of suffering under the veil of ignorance. This is nothing to do with forgiveness or accommodation as well. One doesn't need to accommodate such ignorance. Neither there's a need to forgive. Merely there's no need to waste any energy on such ignorance.

Understanding towards the suffering minds with compassion while not being determined by their disturbing and hurtful behavior, doesn't mean that one shouldn't move away from such abusive situation and allowing oneself to be abused by such ignorant behavior or treatment repeatedly, encouraging such ignorance. It has to come from the ignorant minds themselves to be aware of the ignorance and their ignorant behavior, action and reaction, to be initiated to free themselves from ignorance, and to stop behaving, acting and reacting ignorantly.

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Only through renouncing passionate egoistic attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, and expectation, one can truly love and be kind to oneself and others, and perform selfless actions that would be benefiting the world of diversity without any selfish possessiveness or desire.

The minds that know this, they are not being determined, disturbed, exhausted, frustrated, disappointed, angered or hurt by all kinds of unpleasant and disagreeable names and forms, ignorant actions and reactions, or the consequences of ignorant actions and reactions in the world of ignorance and egoism, while performing actions that benefit the well-being of all kinds of diversities in the world without discrimination or expectation.

The minds that have good intention and aspiration, to be performing actions that would benefit the world as well as to stop others from performing actions that would harm the world, but somehow, the minds are not, or don't know how to be free from attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, and expectation, and thus, they are being determined, disturbed, exhausted, frustrated, disappointed, angered and hurt by all kinds of unpleasant and disagreeable names and forms, ignorant actions and reactions, or the consequences of ignorant actions and reactions in the world of ignorance and egoism.

It's useless to be confronting or fighting against ignorance. By being angry and hating towards the ignorance in the minds and the ignorant thinking and behaviors in the world, doesn't remove the ignorance in the minds, and doesn't stop or reduce the presence of ignorant thinking and behaviors in the world. It only disappoints and hurts oneself even deeper.

Letting go, without possessiveness, without desire, without identification, without expectation, without the urge to control, is the true love, is the real loving kindness, is the unconditional love, is compassion, towards all and everything in this world, regardless of whether it's within a family, or a personal relationship, or love relationships, or friendships, or particular community and global community.

Look into the historical events in the world, and the human being's affairs in individual, family, love relationship, friendship and community, as well as everything that is happening now in one's life and in the surrounding environment. All kinds of man made sufferings deriving from ignorant thinking, actions and reactions, are all relating to survival instinct, possessiveness, desire/aspiration/greed, identification, expectation and the urge to control the world, the family, the children, the relationships, the friendships, the particular community or global community to be and not to be in certain way according to one's particular thinking, belief, values, desires and aspirations.

Everyone are not just trying to paint the world to be in their own particular favorite colours, but, also dislike, disagree with, or be offended, and don't allow all the others to have their own particular favorite colours that are different from their own favorite colours.

To love the world, is not by making or changing the world to become something that is likable, agreeable and desirable to one's desire or vision. It's by letting go.

Similarly, to love someone or everyone, is not by possessing, controlling or expecting them to be and not to be in certain way, but it's letting go. Let everyone being what they are, as they are.

Yoga teachers can only show the way by delivering the teachings, that's all.

Similarly, parents or leaders that really want the family, the community or the world to have peace and harmony, can only show the way by guiding their children or communities towards the importance of respect and harmony among all kinds of diversities, with self-control of 'non-harming' oneself and others.

There are those who don't really want to have peace and harmony in themselves or in others, but only interested in gratifying one's selfish and limitless desires and ambitions, while generating unrest and disharmony in themselves and in others, constantly be offended by the things that they dislike, disagree with and don't desire, who enjoy or indulge in violent and hurtful behavior, as well as influencing their children or communities to also think, believe and behave like them, it's like a psycho training a group of psychos surrounding oneself. Let it be. One can't reason with a psycho, or someone who is under the influence of intoxication, but can only do one's best to stay away from one.

Just like the sun, the water, the wind, the earth and the space, they don't interfere with the law of nature, of cause and effect, and they have no intention to be something good or bad, to give or take, but only being what they are.

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The presence and absence of love or loving kindness among one another has no intention or quality to be something good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative, meaningful or meaningless, joyful or sorrowful, or to make someone feel happy/unhappy and loved/unloved. It's the egoistic attachment and expectation towards 'love' and 'loving kindness' among one another, as well as the desire of craving and aversion towards the presence and absence of love or loving kindness among one another, that is why the mind perceives goodness, righteousness, positivity, meaningfulness and joyfulness upon the presence of love or loving kindness among one another, and feels happy and loved. And the mind perceives badness, wrongfulness, negativity, meaninglessness and sorrow upon the absence of love or loving kindness among one another, and feels unhappy and unloved.

Similarly, whenever the mind reacts and perceives disturbance, dissatisfaction, disappointment, disrespectfulness, humiliation, intimidation, offensiveness, hurt, anger, hatred, fear, worry, painful sorrow or suffering towards the presence or absence of certain names and forms, upon coming in contact with undesirable/unpleasant/disagreeable experiences, reactions and treatments, and not coming in contact with desirable/pleasant/agreeable experiences, reactions and treatments, it's due to the egoistic attachment, identification, expectation and the desire of craving and aversion towards the different names and forms or experiences, actions, reactions and treatments.

If human beings really want to live in a world that is peaceful and harmony among all the different diversities, the minds need to be free from the egoism of attachment and identification towards the qualities of names and forms, that empowers separateness and duality, that feeds the desire of craving towards 'superiority and deserving superior treatments from others' and aversion towards 'inferiority and deserving inferior treatments from others', by letting go the worldly cultural/social/national/political/commercial/religious thinking, belief, values and practice about "Because of who and what I am and where I came from, because of my birth place, my origin, my ancestry, my race, my tribe, my gender, my sexual orientation, my religion, my belief, my values, my culture, my nationality, my status, my title, my position, my education, my knowledge, my profession, my physical and mental ability, my achievement, my contribution, my efforts, my sacrifice, my actions and fruit of my actions, my appearance, my influential power, my name and fame, and etc, and hence, I am either more or less superior or inferior than the others, and so, I  (the others) deserve superior or inferior treatments from others (I), and I or the others deserve or don't deserve respect or humiliation.

Unfortunately, most people don't really interested in living in peace and harmony with one another, but would rather enjoying or chasing after the 'superior qualities and status' that enabling them to receive certain 'superior treatments from the others', to stand out among all the others, to be more superior than the others, or be distinguished from some others who are inferior than oneself, to take pride in the attachment and identification towards 'superior qualities and status', to fit into the category of 'superiority'.

Not all, but many of those who are sort of 'possessing' and 'enjoying' certain 'superior' qualities and status will not let go such 'privilege' for being more 'superior' that the others, and they are being fearful towards losing the status of superiority and the pleasure enjoyment of receiving superior treatments from others.

Although many people would think and believe that they want to be living in a world that is peaceful and harmony among one another of different names and forms, but because most human beings are being brought up from young under the many different cultural/social/religious/racial/national/political/commercial beliefs, values and practices, where all is about enforcing a personal and group identity to either take pride or shame towards the different qualities of names and forms, towards oneself and all the others, that determining how oneself perceives, judges and treats all the others, and how oneself expects and reacts towards how the others perceive, judge and treat oneself, and either feel deserved, respected, pleased and satisfied or undeserved, disrespected, displeased and dissatisfied towards the different perceptions, judgments, treatments, actions and reactions coming from the others towards oneself, where the goal of all actions in this life existence, is directly and indirectly about admiring, chasing after, developing, achieving, possessing and enjoying superior qualities, status, enjoyments and treatments.

Instead of to be more open-minded, friendly, cheerful, tolerant, understanding and accommodating, there are more and more minds are being trained, educated, empowered and conditioned to be highly sensitive and defensive towards one's particular 'superior quality and status', and are easily be offended and angered by what the minds perceived and judged as 'offensive', 'disrespectful', 'humiliating' and 'undeserving' perceptions, judgments, comments, criticisms, treatments, actions and reactions from others, and would react with violent hurtful reactions and behaviors, causing unrest and damaging consequences in oneself and others and the surrounding environment.

The parents told the children, the teacher told the students, the religious leader told the followers, and the country leader told the nation, "This is who you (we) are. Take pride in who and what you (we) are and where you (we) came from. You (we) are different from the others. You (we) are superior than the others. You (we) deserve respect and superior treatments from others. Defend your (our) pride. Those disrespect you (us), your (our) pride and what makes you (us) who you (we) are, and those who don't give you (us) your (our) deserving superior treatments, they deserve painful punishments."

The commercial advertisements told the consumers, "You are special. You worth it. Be passionate. Be inspired. Be ambitious. You can have it if you desire. Pamper yourself. You deserve all these luxuries, new toys and pleasurable enjoyments for all your senses. Celebrate everything! Be adventurous! Fulfill your bucket list! Live without regrets! We have everything that you desire that make you feel great!"

Most people are being 'friendly', 'kind', 'calm', 'helpful' and 'nice' if everything is being the way that they expect and desire, and everyone is behaving in the way that they like and agree with, but then, instantly, they would turn into 'unfriendly', 'unkind', 'aggressive', 'hurtful' and 'not nice' once something is not being the way that they expect and desire, and someone is behaving in the way that they don't like and don't agree with. These are the minds that propagate "people should be angry and deserved to be expressing anger and violence towards something they think is bad and wrong, that is undeserving, disrespectful, offensive, humiliating and intimidating towards their particular attachment and identity towards certain names and forms," while manipulating people's anger in order to help them to achieve their aspiration and desire to create and control the world to be 'their way'.

People would think and believe that it's anger or uncontrolled anger that is causing people behaving violently and hurtfully. But, anger itself is not the problem at all. The main culprit that triggers such violent and hurtful behavior/reaction out of anger, is the corrupted ignorant egoistic thinking, belief, values and practice that is influencing and conditioning how the mind perceives, judges, desires, expects, acts and reacts towards the different names and forms, or towards all kinds of experiences, actions, reactions and treatments. Where the mind reacts/behaves violently and hurtfully out of anger towards what the mind disagrees with, doesn't like and doesn't desire, that is threatening its attachment and identity towards certain names and forms, based on those thinking, belief, values and practice.

The world of human beings is really 'sicked' being occupied by ignorant egoistic minds that are selfish and greedy. "As long as I and my people feel safe, fine, happy, comfortable, enjoying and satisfied..." It doesn't have to be like that, but that's the reality in the world of ignorance and egoism.

This world will never be free from all kinds of man made suffering of discrimination, offensiveness, anger, hatred, greed, violence, hurtful behaviors, ill treatments, prejudice, bias, bullying, corruption, intrusions, wars, painful sorrow and unrest, unless human beings be initiated to let go the egoism of attachment and identification, desire of craving and aversion, judgment and comparison, aspiration and expectation towards all kinds of impermanent and selfless qualities of names and forms.

Being aspired and determined to create or control the world to be and not to be in certain way, even if it's coming from the different thinking and beliefs about what is their own version of 'the best, good and right way', doesn't and can't lead to peace and harmony among the diversities.

It's about letting go the aspiration or desire to create or control the world to be and not to be in certain way.

Unity is not about getting rid of diversities, or making all the differences to become one same singular name and form, but it's respecting all kinds of differences as they are.

The history is already there, teaching and showing human beings about this, however, ignorance and egoism hinders the minds from realizing the ignorance and egoism in themselves, to see and learn from the teachings of the past and present consequences of ignorant and egoistic thinking, belief, values and practice in the world, where human beings keep generating actions and consequences of actions that cause more and more damages to peace and harmony, humanity and the environment, while trying to achieve and possess higher and higher superior qualities, status, treatments and enjoyments.

Higher and advance intellect, science and technology that provides higher enjoyments and conveniences to human beings is neither good nor bad, however, it didn't and doesn't remove ignorance and egoism from the minds, and couldn't stop the ignorant and egoistic minds from generating ignorant actions/reactions and consequences of ignorant actions/reactions, empowering the ignorance and egoism in oneself and the others, passing down all kinds of egoistic thinking, belief, values and practice to their next generations, where the world is occupied and run by impure minds under the influence of ignorance and egoism with specific aspiration and desire to create and control the world to be 'mine/ours' and 'my/our way', selfishly inflicting all kinds of unnecessary man made damages and suffering into the world of diversities through utilizing the higher and advance science and technology.

Performing all kinds of yoga practice regularly, and enjoying the effects/benefits of the different yoga practice, without freeing the mind from ignorance and egoism, doesn't bring peace to oneself or the world.

Inquire towards the truth of everything.

Understanding hurtful behavior is part of mental illness

This teaching is for those who would like to help some others or themselves, who felt hurt and angry by some past hurtful experiences, and continuing to feel hurt and angry by those past hurtful experiences, and for many years onward, they would behave in the way that hurt themselves and others out of those hurts and anger either wittingly or unwittingly, while blaming the past hurtful experiences and those who inflicted hurtful behavior onto them for all their failure and unhappiness in life, and for their own reaction of hurtful behavior onto themselves and others, to have clearer understanding towards hurts and hurtful behavior, and be free from such ignorance and suffering.

People would want to think and believe that forgiveness is the key to be free from hurts and be free from anger due to those hurts. There's nothing wrong with that. However, the thinking and belief about "I want to forgive and I have forgiven those who had hurt me" without thorough understanding towards hurts and hurtful behavior won't free the minds from continuing be disturbed by the past hurtful experiences and feel hurt and angry in the present and for the rest of one's life, and would hurt oneself and others out of those hurt and anger, even after many years.

There are some people who refuse to forgive and continuing to feel hurt and angry, and blaming those past hurtful experiences as the cause of their own hurtful behavior and unhappiness in life. There's nothing wrong with that, and it's their freedom to think, feel, act, react and behave as they are.

Meanwhile, there are many people who would want to be free from hurts and anger, who would want to be able to forgive and let go, or who think and believe that they have had forgiven those who had inflicted some hurtful experiences onto them in the past, but somehow, they would still be disturbed very much by the remembrance towards those hurtful experiences and continuing to feel hurt and angry, and would behave in the way that hurt themselves and others out of those reactions of hurt and anger deriving from remembering the past hurtful experiences in the present moment, while thinking and believing that it's the responsibility of those who had inflicted hurtful experiences onto them in the past for ruining their life for behaving in the way that hurt themselves and others, for all their failure and unhappiness in the present moment and the rest of their life.

There is the thought/belief of "I was being hurt by some others who had done something bad, wrong and hurtful to me, and I deserved to feel hurt and angry, and I deserve to continue to feel hurt and angry, and it's their responsibility for all my unhappiness and my hurtful behavior now." This is because the mind didn't or doesn't understand about hurts and hurtful behavior.

Some would even blame themselves for other people's hurtful behavior. "I was bad and I am not good. That's why I deserved all those hurtful behavior from others."

Regardless of whether intentionally or unintentionally, wittingly or unwittingly, randomly or deliberately, people who inflict hurtful behavior onto themselves or others, is all out of ignorance.

Out of ignorance, some minds are intentionally and wittingly inflicting hurtful behavior onto others to hurt others randomly or deliberately, while some are unintentionally and unwittingly inflicting hurtful behavior onto others that hurt others, randomly. Both conditions are a form of mental illness. Those who are not mentally ill, they will have sufficient understanding, awareness and self-control towards their own behavior, action and reaction.

None can reason with those who are ignorant, who are mentally ill, who would behave in the way that hurt themselves and others, wittingly or unwittingly.

It's not something bad or wrong, if the minds are under the influence of ignorance and are mentally ill, where they don't have understanding, awareness and self-control over their own behavior, action and reaction. Just that those behaviors are hurting themselves, their lives and some others.

We can say that it's unfortunate if we reluctantly come/came in contact with a mentally ill unknown person who inflicts/inflicted hurtful behavior onto us randomly, even if it's someone that we know within the family or friend circle. We acknowledge the consequences of other people's ignorant destructive behavior and clean up whatever mess that is necessary, and move on our life without being determined by the destructive behavior of those who are ignorant and mentally ill. We don't and shouldn't blame ourselves. We don't and couldn't blame those who are ignorant and mentally ill, who have no awareness and self-control over their behavior. There is no need forgiveness either. Neither do we need to let go anything. There is no hurt, or anger, or hatred towards the destructive behavior inflicted by those who are ignorant and mentally ill.

We can choose to move away from those who are under the influence of ignorance or mental illness, if we don't want to continuously dealing with the ignorance or mental illness of others, or we can choose to be there to look after them even though we have to deal with their ignorance or mental illness. There's neither right nor wrong either way.

If out of our own ignorance, we have expectation towards all or most of the human beings in the society, especially those whom we know, who are our family members or friends, may it be our parents and siblings, or partners/lovers/children/teachers/leaders, that they should behave and treat us in certain way and shouldn't behave or treat us in certain way, and we feel hurt and angry by their ignorant hurtful behavior inflicted onto us, either intentionally or unintentionally, and continuously to feel hurt and angry for many years onward, and out of those continuous hurt and anger, we ourselves would constantly behave in the way that hurt ourselves and others, while justifying that our suffering, unhappiness and hurtful behavior is all because of those undeserving past hurtful experiences inflicted by bad and wrongful people, then know that, it's our own responsibility for not having the correct understanding towards the modification of the mind, the mind perception of names and forms, actions and reactions, attachment and expectation, and more importantly, the cause of all kinds of hurtful behavior deriving from human beings that hurt oneself and others, either randomly or deliberately.

At the moment when we are experiencing some hurtful experiences, it's normal that we feel pain physically if there's some physical injury, and feel hurt and angry mentally or emotionally. But, after that moment, if we continuing to feel hurt and angry mentally and emotionally, it's due to our own ignorance of grasping or attachment. Even if there is some physical damages that cannot be undone, but what's the point of hurting ourselves further with mental and emotional pain that doesn't need to be there, but we keep feeding them out of ignorance and attachment?

The hurtful experiences might have caused some permanent or momentary physical damages, and might cause momentary mental and emotional disturbance for some time, but it doesn't and couldn't cause prolonged mental and emotional pain unless we ourselves 'grasp onto' and 'allow' those hurtful experiences to determine our life onward and affecting our physical, mental and emotional well being. It's the responsibility of those who inflicted hurtful experiences onto others for inflicting some physical injury or some mental/emotional disturbance in others as it happens, but afterwards, it's our own responsibility if we don't understand that all kinds of intentional or unintentional hurtful behavior are deriving from ignorance and mental illness, just like any destructive natural disaster deriving from the selfless nature that causes random damages to lives and properties and the surrounding environment itself, and we don't want to let go, or don't know how to let go, and continuing to feel hurt and angry for the damages that cannot be undone, and out of those continuous self-empowered reaction of hurt and anger towards the past hurtful experiences, we behave in the way that hurt ourselves and others, either randomly or deliberately, while blaming those ignorant mentally ill people who had inflicted hurtful experiences onto others, or blaming the natural disasters that generated random damages, for 'making' us to behave in the way that hurt ourselves and others for our entire life.

Dealing with undesirable hurtful experiences as it happens, is already energy exhausting. Out of grasping or attachment deriving from our own ignorance, we continue to be dealing with our own self-responsible and self-empowered reactions of continuous hurt and anger towards the past hurtful experiences, is even more energy exhausting. It's unnecessary.

The minds that have correct understanding about the modification of the mind, they don't and won't argue with or save hatred towards anyone, not to say, to argue and be angry with and save hatred towards those who are under the influence of ignorance and mental illness, who can't reason, who have no awareness and no self-control, who behave ignorantly and hurtfully, or blaming them for 'causing' all our failure and unhappiness in life, or blaming them for our own hurtful behavior inflicting onto ourselves and others out of our disappointment, hurt, anger and hatred towards who/what hurt us.

Those who are free from ignorance, who are free from hurts and anger, who understand the mind and who have truly forgiven or let go all kinds of past and present hurtful experiences, they have no aversion or problem towards remembering or talking about all the past hurtful experiences, and being undetermined or undisturbed by remembering and talking about any past unpleasant hurtful experiences, without self-blaming or blaming others for all kinds of hurtful experiences deriving from the ignorance and mental illness of others.

Those who think and believe that they have forgiven those who had hurt them in the past, but they still feel hurt and angry by remembering or talking about the past hurtful experiences even after many years, and they have aversion towards talking about it, as they continue to feel hurt and angry upon talking about it, it means that they haven't understand towards hurts and hurtful behavior, and they haven't really forgiven and let go.

It's everyone's freedom if they want to continue feeling hurt and angry, and 'allowing' past undesirable hurtful experiences to determine and affect their life in the present and for the rest of their life, and out of those reactions of 'hurt' and 'anger' towards remembering the past hurtful experiences, they are behaving in the way that hurt themselves and others, thinking and believing that "It's because of you, I am behaving like this. My life is ruined by you and your hurtful behavior. I am hurting myself and everyone else now because of your hurtful behavior and what you did to me in the past. It's all your fault." Or, they can choose to understand, and stop hating or blaming all those who are ignorant and mentally ill, who behave/behaved hurtfully due to ignorance and mental illness, either randomly or deliberately, not allowing the past hurtful experiences deriving from the ignorance and mental illness of some others to determine or affect their life in the present moment and the rest of their life, and be free.

Out of ignorance, many minds are not aware of themselves are under the influence of ignorance, where one has no correct understanding, awareness and self-control, and hence, one constantly feels hurt and angered by the ignorant hurtful behavior of some others, as well as constantly acting and reacting in the way that hurt oneself and others, out of disappointment, hurt, anger and hatred towards what they perceived as 'hurtful', 'undeserving', 'wrongful' and 'disappointing', either randomly or deliberately. Oneself is also suffering from ignorance and mental illness.

Mental illness is something very common that present in many human minds functioning under the influence of ignorance, including highly educated and knowledgeable people who have a 'normal' family, work and social life, but many people would see 'mental illness' as something 'bad' or a 'taboo' and would be offended to be referred as mentally ill. Only those who are aware of the presence of ignorance or mental illness in one's mind could help themselves to be free from ignorance or mental illness, to stop hurting themselves and others, before it's becoming uncontrollable.

Mental illness doesn't only limited to those who have lost the ability to look after themselves mentally and couldn't have a 'normal' family, work and social life, or need to depend on medications everyday. But anyone who can still live a 'normal' life, but are highly sensitive, attention seeking, defensive and offensive, who are being over-powered by the desire of craving and aversion, who would behave in the way that hurt themselves or others in different ways, out of ignorance, out of disappointment, hurt, anger and hatred, either wittingly or unwittingly, randomly or deliberately, being determined by other people's judgment, expectation, praise and criticism, action and reaction, to evaluate and determine themselves and their life, while blaming others' bad and wrongful behavior for causing them to have hurtful behavior, failure, disappointment, anger, regret and unhappiness in life, they are indeed suffering from certain degrees of mental illness. It's not a criticism. It's not a shaming. It's not an attack. It's to be aware of what is going on in our own minds, to do something about it before it's too late.

If we have truly understood, forgiven and let go, there's no continuous hurt or anger towards anyone or anything from the past or in the present moment. It's our own responsibility for our own action and reaction towards other people's action and reaction. No one can ruin our lives or take away our happiness, unless we allow it to ruin our lives and take away our happiness, even if there are some damages that cannot be undone. When we come to the end of our lives, we will realize that it really doesn't matter. But why suffering so much until the end of life to realize "It really doesn't matter"? Why not now while we are still living? My mother, my father and my brother had all passed away. Life was greatly difficult for them. When they passed away, it really didn't matter about who suffer less or who suffer more. I'm glad that my mother, my father and my brother smiled through the hardships and laughed after crying when life was too hard.

Inquire the truth of everything.