When the mind is lost and doesn't know what to think or do

In this present moment

Either standing, or sitting, or lying down, or being in any position that is comfortable

Closing the eyes gently

Staying still for a few moments

It's okay, if the body needs to move and change position

Focus on the space below the nostrils above the upper lip

Be aware of the breathing

Be aware of the air coming in and going out

The air coming in is slightly cold

The air coming out is slightly warm

The mind might wander away

It's okay

Gently bring the mind back onto the breath

No matter how many times the mind wanders away

Gently bring the mind back onto the breath

If the breath is slow, let it be slow

If the breath is fast, let it be fast

If the breath stops coming and going, let it be

Allowing the breath to be what it is

Allowing the mind to be what it is

No judgment

No expectation

It's okay, if the mind is lost in this present moment

It's okay, if the mind doesn't know what to think or do in this present moment

All and everything are impermanent

The breath is impermanent

The calmed or disturbed state of mind is impermanent

The comfortable and uncomfortable sensations are impermanent

The positive or negative thinking is impermanent

The pleasant or unpleasant feelings and emotions are impermanent

The good and bad experiences are impermanent

No clinging towards what is here, that is pleasant and agreeable

No aversion towards something that is here, that is unpleasant and disagreeable

No craving towards something that is not here

Even this, is impermanent.

It's one's own responsibility towards all one's actions and reactions

"It's you and your actions, that is responsible for the state of my mind, that is responsible for why I feel disturbed, hurt, disappointed, and angry, as well as be responsible for why and how I react with damaging and hurtful behavior towards you out of my disturbed, hurt, disappointed, and angry state of mind that is caused by you and your actions. You need to be responsible for your actions. You are responsible for the state of my mind. My mind is in a state of disturbance, hurt, disappointment, and anger, as well as my violent hurtful actions and reactions towards you and your actions, is all due to you and your actions."

Inquire towards this common understanding and reaction of the many minds in this world, where the minds react and feel disturbed, hurt, disappointed, and angry, upon coming in contact with certain actions/reactions/expressions/speech/behaviors of some others that the mind perceives and recognizes as disturbing, hurtful, disappointing, or anger deserving, that it thinks and believes as what is responsible for the reactions from the others.

It's true that all and everyone is responsible for one's own actions and the consequences of one's actions.

But one must also understand that one's own reactions, or how oneself (chooses to) reacts towards the actions and reactions of the others and their consequences, or towards whatever one perceives and experiences, it's also one's own responsibility.

All and everyone are responsible for their own actions and reactions, as well as the consequences of all that.

It's one's own freedom of choice under the influence of one's own understanding and non-understanding, towards all one's actions and reactions, and be responsible for the consequences of that, as well as be responsible towards the states of one's mind.

It's one's own freedom of choice and responsibility towards how oneself wants to act and react in certain way, or not, towards whatever oneself comes in contact with, or perceives and experiences.

It's one's own freedom of choice and responsibility towards one's way of thinking, belief and disbelief, understanding and non-understanding, likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements, acceptance and non-acceptance, desires and don't desires, action and non-action, reaction and non-reaction, and feel or don't feel (the restless modifications of one's mind), as well as towards the consequences of all that.

It's one's own freedom of choice and responsibility towards whether oneself wants to free one's mind from ignorance, egoism, impurities, and restlessness, or not.

Different minds act, and react differently towards the same name and form, experience, affair, event, condition, or situation, under the influence of the many different ways of thinking, belief and disbelief, understanding and non-understanding, likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements, acceptance and non-acceptance, desires and don't desires, and feel or don't feel.

It is not the particular name and form, experience, affair, event, condition, or situation, has certain quality that is determining how all minds should act and react in certain way, or not.

The mind that understands this, it understands that all the minds that have such common (incorrect) understanding and reaction, it's because these minds are functioning under the influence of ignorance, egoism, impurities, and restlessness, or under the absence of correct understanding.

The mind that understands this, it won't be disturbed or determined by the different actions and reactions of all and everyone, and the consequences of all that. All and everyone has the freedom and responsibility towards the states of themselves (their states of mind), towards their modifications of mind, and towards all their actions and reactions under the influence of their own understanding and non-understanding.

The minds that would act and react in the way that is violent, damaging, and hurtful towards oneself and others, it's because they are not well. They are ill (mentally unwell). These are the minds that would be disturbed, hurt, disappointed, or angry by the disagreeable/unpleasant/damaging/hurtful actions and reactions of some other minds that are also unwell, that are restless/peaceless, that are ignorant, that are in suffering, due to the presence of ignorance, egoism, impurities, and restlessness.

Why would a mind that understands this, that is devoid of ignorance and egoism, would be disturbed, hurt, disappointed, or angry by the actions and reactions of the many minds in this world that are unwell, that are restless/peaceless, that are ignorant, that are in suffering, that are acting and reacting in the way that is damaging and hurtful towards oneself and others, due to the presence of ignorance, egoism, impurities, and restlessness in themselves?

Why would someone who has correct understanding be angry with a stone or a wall that is there being what it is, that oneself ran into and got hurt, while intentionally hurting oneself further more by kicking and punching the stone or the wall, out of anger and hurt, in order to revenge?

Meanwhile, one can choose to act in certain way, or not, in this world, without being disturbed or determined by the ignorant actions and reactions of the others.

"A's action and reaction is A's own freedom of choice and responsibility. B's action and reaction towards A's action and reaction is B's own freedom of choice and responsibility."

Before the mind realizes the truth of selflessness and impermanence, or when the mind is still functioning under the presence of ignorance, the idea of 'I', egoism, impurities, and restlessness, then the states of mind is autonomously being influenced/determined by the influential energy fields and elements (Gunas) that fuel the selfless existence and function of the mind, or be determined and disturbed by the selfless mind perception of names and forms perceived through the senses, of whatever the mind comes in contact with, perceives, or experiences. But, the mind can transcend all that, under the absence of the idea of 'I' and attachment, and no longer be influenced/determined/disturbed by all that, including the different energy fields a.k.a states of mind, that are selfless and impermanent, through annihilating the veil of ignorance, the idea of 'I', egoism, impurities, and restlessness, by quieting and silencing the restless selfless modifications of the mind.

That is the true and highest freedom, knowledge, and power.

That is liberation.

Inquire the truth of everything, and be free.

It's not about can't let go, it's about don't want to let go

Many minds think, believe, and say that they can't let go or don't know how to let go.

It's actually they don't want or reluctant to let go. That's all.

"I am hurt and suffering. I don't deserve this. I want them/him/her/someone else to be hurt and suffer as well. They/He/She/Someone else deserve(s) this."

Similarly, in all kinds of unpleasant, undesirable, or disagreeable experiences/conditions/affairs/interactions.

If (it) is something unpleasant, undesirable, and disagreeable, if (it) is something hurting, if (it) is something burning hot, just let (it) go.

Can't really blame anyone or anything, if the mind doesn't want or reluctant to let go.

Be free.

Upon coming in contact with someone or something that the mind perceives as ignorant, unpleasant or disagreeable

Before the mind developed certain degrees of basic correct understanding towards the modification of the mind, non-attachment, and mental and emotional independence, then the mind needs to move away from what it thinks and believes is disturbing or hurting itself, to have a few precious moments of limited and conditional peace and calmness, even if what the mind thinks and understands might not be true or completely true.

After the mind developed certain degrees of basic correct understanding towards the modification of the mind, non-attachment, and mental and emotional independence, then the mind understands that whatever it perceives or experiences cannot disturb or hurt itself unless it gives such 'power' or 'meaning' to such perceptions or experiences, and allows itself to be disturbed or hurt by them, even if it is something very ignorant, unpleasant or disagreeable, where any disturbance or hurt arise in the mind is due to its own incorrect understanding and reaction towards whatever it perceives or experiences that it doesn't like, doesn't agree with, and doesn't desire.

Meanwhile, the mind doesn't need to be continuously or repeatedly dealing with such ignorant, unpleasant or disagreeable affairs, interactions, ties and relationships, conditions or situations, where it can choose to move away from someone or something that it perceives as ignorant, unpleasant or disagreeable, if it's possible, not because the mind is being disturbed or hurt by that, but for the sake of conserving energy or not to be wasting energy onto dealing with such affairs, interactions, ties and relationships, conditions or situations that are ignorant, unpleasant or disagreeable, even if it's something related to one's immediate family members, such as one's spouse, partner, parents, siblings, relatives or friends, and without any dissatisfaction, disappointment, hurt, anger, hatred or resentment towards anyone or anything.

There is also nothing wrong if oneself feels very disturbed or hurt by someone or something, to the point that it's affecting one's physical and mental well-being, which also affects one's relationships with some others, and hence, it chooses to move away from someone or something that it thinks and believes is disturbing or hurting itself, that it feels disappointed, disturbed and hurt by, that it feels dissatisfied, angry, hating and resent towards, even if it's not all true, such as certain people blame all and everything else but themselves for all their physical and/or mental discomforts, shortcomings, imperfections, failures, mistakes, unhappiness, and unpleasant, disagreeable or undesirable experiences. At least, they can have a few precious moments of peace and calmness to be looking into their own mind to know and understand what is really going on in themselves, if they want.

It's the freedom of all minds for what they understand or don't understand, for how they feel or don't feel, for what they do or don't do with their life existence, or for what they desire or don't desire for themselves.

It's not selfish to move away from those who are ignorant and blaming all and everything else for all its unhappiness while inflict ignorant hurtful behavior unto oneself and others out of ignorance and unhappiness, even if they are one's family members or friends, in order not to be empowering such ignorance.

It's not a weakness to move away from someone or something that the mind perceives as something ignorant, unpleasant or disagreeable, even when all kinds of names and forms are just what they are. Or else, the mind cannot have the precious moments of calmness to see things as they are, if the mind is in a continuous state of disturbance or restlessness.

Inquire the truth of everything.

If self-esteem is so fragile and easily be offended and hurt, why still keep it?

Self-esteem is the shadow of the idea of 'I', or the ego.

It doesn't exist, upon the annihilation of the idea of 'I' from the selfless mind.

It cannot exist under the presence of wisdom, void of ignorance and egoism.

Since it is not something real that can exist independently and permanently, and it is so fragile, while giving so much unnecessary mental and emotional disturbance to oneself and maybe some others that oneself comes in contact with, then why does one still wants to keep it?

None need the presence of self-esteem to be living happily and healthily, and keep improving in life.

None need to be developing, maintaining, empowering and constantly protecting that super fragile easily be offended, hurt and broken self-esteem.

Let it go, and be free.

"How to let go the self-esteem?"

"Give me your self-esteem, I'll throw it away for you."

"Where can I find it and how can I give it you?"

"That's right. You can't find it anywhere, because you can't see it, touch it, grab it, or throw it away, because it doesn't really exist. But then how come you believe so strongly in that, and rely on that, to live life, to be what you are and what you want to do?"

Similarly, there are so many things that doesn't really exist, but the mind is still strongly believe in that, rely on that, and be determined by that, giving so much unnecessary trouble or suffering to oneself and everyone else that oneself comes in contact with, physically, mentally and emotionally.

Inquire the truth of everything.

The most powerful thing in the world, and beyond that

It's unpleasant, disturbing, and even can be life threatening upon coming in contact with difficult situation where one is being discriminated, bullied and threatened with violent abusive behavior, bullying and threats by those who are under the influence of deep ignorance. It's an unfortunate and painful experience, and truly unnecessary event to be happening onto anyone.

One doesn't need to become and behave like those ignorant human beings, where the mind thinks and believes that in order not to be discriminated, bullied and threatened by anyone, one needs to be more powerful than all the others by being more violent, aggressive and cruel than everyone else.

Real power is not coming from being violent, aggressive and cruel to be over-powering all the others, or being charming, persuasive and influential to be captivating all the others to become submissive towards oneself, and to act and behave in accordance to one's commands/desires.

Power is not about the ability of in control of all and everything.

It's about having self-awareness and self-control of not harming oneself or others. One doesn't need to become a bully or a nasty person just because one has been or is being bullied and ill-treated by some others who are ignorant. That's power. Being able to reject or walk away from violent fighting against one another that would cause unnecessary damages towards one another and the surrounding environment, is wisdom. That's power.

The most powerful thing in this world is the nature law of IMPERMANENCE. None, and nothing, can escape impermanence. The so called most 'powerful', 'wealthy', 'knowledgeable', 'successful' person and the champion of all champions in the world, will also have to bow down to IMPERMANENCE.

However, there's something beyond that, which is the knowledge and effort of transcending or going beyond IMPERMANENCE.

One can transcend or go beyond IMPERMANENCE, upon the attainment of the real liberation/independence/freedom in the mind, or SILENCE (selflessness/desirelessness), or the realization of unconditional peace from within, despite all kinds of inevitable impermanent changes and all kinds of 'difficulties', 'ridiculousness' and 'chaos' that are existing in the world, being free from ignorance and all kinds of incorrect thinking, desires or impurities deriving from ignorance, while having the correct understanding/wisdom/knowledge towards the modification of the mind, or the play of ignorance and egoism, and respecting the law of selflessness and impermanence in all kinds of names and forms, that enables one being undetermined and undisturbed by all kinds of impermanent changes, ignorance and the consequences of ignorance in the world, without the idea/urge/desire/action to be interfering with or controlling the world and all the others to be or not to be in certain way in accordance to one's commands or desires by intimidation or captivation, while being unattached towards all and everything or the duality of 'goodness and badness', transcending the mind perception of a worldly life existence of the limited adjuncts of a selfless impermanent body and restless modification of the mind.

Truthfulness and straightforwardness

Truthfulness is not just about being truthful towards others, but it's also about being truthful towards oneself. Those who can't even be truthful towards themselves, how can they be truthful towards others?

Due to intense egoistic attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, and expectation towards the qualities of names and forms in themselves, people who have certain things that they don't like about themselves will also have the tendency of being untruthful towards themselves.

There are many unnecessary personal and relationship 'problems' in people's life is due to either people rather playing mind games of 'politeness' and 'appropriateness', than being straight to the point about what they want and don't want, or people are afraid of being truthful, as they are afraid of 'losing' something that they don't want to loose, if they are being absolutely truthful.

People are afraid of "Expressing their thinking or thoughts, as it is," as they are afraid of their thoughts and ideas about certain dissatisfaction and disagreement towards something or someone would be offensive or upsetting for other people. Or, people never want to be straight and firm about, "This is what I want or don't want," most probably it's because they themselves are not very sure of "That is really what I want or don't want."

Certain cultural and social values and practice don't like truthfulness and straightforwardness in all kinds of relationships and dealings with other people in everyday life, with the intention of "Don't want to offend or upset anyone." Where truthfulness and straightforwardness is being seen as a form of 'rudeness' and 'inappropriateness', and even worst, as a form of 'offensiveness', in the world of hypocrisy, pride, image and reputation.

Some people rather not to hear or know the truth that they don't want to hear and know. "If you are going to tell something that is not nice about my children, then I don't want to know about it. I am a good parent. I taught them to be good, and only be good. They will always be my good children, as long as I don't know anything bad about them." It doesn't matter what is the truth about their children, more importantly, it's about protecting their desired good reputation of "I am a good parent who proudly brought up my children to be all good and nothing bad," as well as, protecting their desired good image of their children of "I love my children as long as I don't know anything bad about them. Don't spoil my love for the good image of my lovely children who are all good and nothing bad."

People think that this 'politeness' and 'appropriateness' will help to make everyone's life easier and lead to more peace and harmony in all kinds of family and social relationships, or make the world a better place, however, it doesn't. It only leads towards further unnecessary problems as well as wasting everyone's time and energy. It also empowers the ignorance and egoism in all and everyone, by very carefully 'protecting' the easily be 'hurt and broken' minds under the influence of ignorance and egoism.

They want to be 'nice' to everyone, however they themselves might be suffering from great mental and emotional disturbance due to they are not happy with certain things that involve other people, but they refuse to express their unhappiness, or disagreement, or what they want and don't want, while holding up and accumulating those unhappy thoughts and feelings, causing mental and emotional imbalanced in themselves.

If people know how to let go, without holding up all kinds of unhappiness or dissatisfaction towards this or that, then that's fine. There's no problem.

Those who can't let go but keep holding up, until a point that they can't hold any more, and they will 'explode', causing more serious 'damages' to oneself and others.

Not only yoga practitioners, but human beings need to learn how to handle all kinds of truthfulness and straightforwardness that oneself might not like, desire and agree with, without being disappointed, offended, upset, hurt or disturbed by something that oneself doesn't like, doesn't desire and doesn't agree with, in all kinds of human relationships and dealings.

Those who would be disappointed, offended, upset, hurt or disturbed is nothing but due to ignorant egoistic attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, and expectation in themselves, towards oneself and others.

The minds that are free from attachment, identification, desires of craving and aversion, and expectation towards themselves and others, they don't need to be untruthful about anything. They can choose to express or don't express their thoughts, ideas and opinions, as they are, but there's no need to be untruthful by expressing something that is not what it is (telling lies or white lies), or only expressing something that everyone would like, desire and agree with. There's no fear of losing something. There's no desire of pleasing anyone for any reasons. Healthy minds don't need to be pleased by anyone. While how everyone reacts towards other people being truthful about their thinking and feelings about something, it's their own freedom and responsibility. Everyone are free to think and feel and react in the way that how they want to think and feel and react. There's no disappointment, offensiveness, upset, hurt or disturb upon coming in contact with all kinds of names and forms that are not necessarily pleasant, desirable and agreeable.

It doesn't mean that one should not move away from certain conversations or dealings that involve abusive and violent behavior, and be attacked and abused under such circumstances. One can move away from energy wasting conversations and dealings that involved abusive and violent behavior, while not being determined or disturbed by others' ignorant behaviors, actions and reactions deriving from ignorance, or mental illness, where the minds don't have correct understanding, reasoning power, clarity, awareness and self-control.

Peace and harmony in the world doesn't mean that there's completely no disagreement or dissatisfaction among one another, where everyone should like and agree with one another, where everyone shouldn't and won't express any thoughts, feelings, ideas and opinions that some others might not like, desire or agree with, while only express thoughts, feelings, ideas and opinions that everyone would like, desire and agree with.

The world of diversity cannot advance or 'grow' towards a healthy state of true peace and harmony, unless the minds are free from egoistic attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, and expectation towards oneself and others, while respecting everyone being what they are, as they are, being different from one another, having different thinking, feelings, ideas or opinions about many things, without generating resentment or offensiveness towards others who are different from oneself, who have different thinking, feelings, ideas or opinions towards oneself, and towards all and everything in the world, that oneself might not like, desire or agree with.

Those who would feel disappointed, offended, upset, hurt or disturbed by those whom oneself loves very much, but they don't love, or stop loving oneself, is due to ignorance and egoism.

"I am so loving and kind to you. I did so many things for you. Why are you so ungrateful, unappreciative and unthankful for it?" This is a common reaction that indicating this mind itself is under the influence of ignorance and egoism, and doesn't know what is love and be kind, or how to love and be kind. They will have to take their own pace and effort to realize the ignorance and egoism in themselves.

Those who have correct understanding, who are free from the influence of ignorance and egoism, who know how to love oneself and all and everything unconditionally, will respect everyone's thinking, feeling and desire of want and don't want, as they are. Respecting all kinds of impermanent changes as they are. There's no disappointment, resentment, hurt, or painful sorrow in such minds.

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Why is that giving something 'nice' and 'comforting' to the disturbed unhappy minds and doing something that will make the minds feel happy, loved and satisfied is not yoga practice or the solution to be looking after the ill mental health?

"People are being unhappy and dissatisfied about many things in life and in this world.

People need to be doing something or anything that would make them feel good, happy and satisfied, especially those who are hurt by other people's bad and wrongful behavior, they need to receive lots of love and comfort from others, to feel love and be loved by others. Love heals. Love is the greatest power that can make the world to be a better place. Everyone needs love. Lack of love is the greatest suffering and painful sorrow."

There's nothing wrong with these thinking, belief, saying, values and practice.

However, it's nothing to do with the teachings of yoga and the yoga practice, that is about freeing the mind from the root cause of disturbance, unhappiness and dissatisfaction, which is by annihilating ignorance and egoism, and it's not by empowering ignorance and egoism.

Doing something that would make the mind feels happy, loved and satisfied whenever it feels unhappy, unloved and dissatisfied about something, will only be empowering ignorance and egoism, which doesn't stop the mind from continuously being determined, disturbed, dissatisfied, angered, annoyed, offended, humiliated, unhappy or hurt by the presence of something that the mind doesn't like, doesn't agree with and doesn't desire, and the absence of something that the mind likes, agrees with and desires, or what the mind perceives as bad, wrong, sad, negative, meaningless, unpleasant, disagreeable, undesirable, painful, disgusting, annoying, offending, disrespectful, undeserving or hurtful.

Those who would discriminate, hate, exploit and hurt others intentionally, and would feel happy and satisfied by inducing suffering in oneself and others, and by seeing others being hurt, are seriously ill mentally. No matter how much 'love' other people give to these seriously ill minds, will still doesn't remove the mental illness as well as ignorant hurtful behaviors/actions/reactions from these minds. These minds might be behaving 'nicely' when all its desires of craving and aversion are being gratified, upon getting what they like and desire, but then they would be behaving 'hurtfully' when one of its desires of craving and aversion is not being gratified, upon not getting what they like and desire, while getting what they don't like and don't desire.

Empowering the desire of craving and clinging towards receiving 'love' and 'affection', 'acceptance' and 'acknowledgement', 'agreement' and 'understanding', 'praise' and 'glorification', 'appreciation' and 'gratitude', 'support' and 'comfort' from others in the minds that perceive suffering of loneliness, lovelessness, low self-esteem, meaninglessness, unhappiness, dissatisfaction, disappointment, inferiority, animosity, fear, worry, disturbs, hurts and painful sorrow due to the influence of ignorance and egoism, not only doesn't free the minds from ignorance and egoism, but it's actually leading the minds towards deeper ignorance and egoism that eventually turning into serious mental health problem.

The only thing that can help the minds that are disturbed or ill to not hurting themselves and others, is coming from the mind itself, freeing itself from ignorance and egoism. No any others and no amount of 'love' and 'affection' receiving from some others can remove the ignorance and egoism from the minds, as giving and receiving 'love' and 'affection' among one another are indeed the by-products of ignorance and egoism that generate the perception of separateness and duality, which is the cause of all kinds of misery and suffering arising in oneself and inflicting unto others.

Healthy minds are not being determined or influenced by the perception of names and forms, to be acting and reacting ignorantly and hurtfully under any unpleasant, disagreeable, undesirable conditions and situations, and vice versa.

Healthy minds that are free from the influence of ignorance and egoism don't need to be receiving 'love' and 'affection', 'acceptance' and 'acknowledgement', 'agreement' and 'understanding', 'appreciation' and 'gratitude', 'praise' and 'glorification', or 'support' and 'comfort' from others, to feel good, right, happy, confident, meaningful, deserving, superior, loved, satisfied, pleased, joyful and content. These minds are peaceful as they are. These minds are not being disturbed, threatened or hurt by the ignorance and the consequences of ignorance in others or in the world.

It's everyone's freedom and responsibility towards what they want or don't want to practice, what they understand and don't understand, and how they think, feel, behave, act and react.

"Lack of love is the greatest suffering and painful sorrow," is what most minds think and believe in, however, that's also revealing the 'problem' of this thinking and belief. It's not 'lack of love' that is causing suffering and painful sorrow in the minds, it's the desire of craving and clinging towards 'love', or 'receiving love', or 'be loved', is not being gratified, that is why the minds are in suffering and painful sorrow, upon the presence of 'lack of love', or upon the absence of 'love'.

Inquire towards the truth of everything.

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Many minds are being disturbed by all kinds of ceaselessly growing 'wrongfulness' and 'suffering that derived from wrongfulness' in the world, while getting anxious and worried towards the world is getting more and more damaged, and hence, they perform certain actions with the intention, desire or aspiration to help the world to become a better place, to save the world from being further damaged by the many 'wrongfulness' of the selfish greedy minds, however, at the same time, they are being determined, disturbed, influenced, frustrated, disappointed, angered, exhausted, intimidated, broken and hurt by the condition and situation in the world that seems like not getting any better, but is getting worse, after they have tried to perform certain actions with the expectation towards the condition and situation in the world has to be and not to be in certain way, as these minds are not free from the influence of egoism, even if they might be practicing some kind of yoga practice, where they don't know what is non-attachment, non-identification, non-craving, non-aversion, non-comparison, non-judgment and non-expectation, and there is passionate intention/desire/aspiration towards creating a world that has more goodness or positivity, and less badness or negativity.

It's good to have people who want the world to be free from all kinds of 'wrongfulness', however, 'wrongfulness' might mean differently in the many different worldly thinking, belief, values and practice.

Disturbed, angered, worried and disappointed minds are easily be manipulated by the selfish greedy minds to be unwittingly helping them to achieve their greedy desires or ambitions. The more anxious of the minds trying to make things right, the easier the minds are being manipulated in certain way that don't really help to make things right.

On one side, it seems like those who are practicing yoga of dispassion and renunciation, of silence and solitude, are being at peace and quietness, by renouncing worldly actions, not going against anything, being unconcerned, or being care-less towards all kinds of worldly egoistic affairs, and hence, it is highly welcoming by the selfish world of discrimination, power and greed, as if more people retreat from the society to go into seclusion, closing the eyes and ears, and staying away from getting involved with the worldly selfish political agendas, there will be less obstacles for the selfish greedy minds to do whatever they want, to gratify all their greedy desires and ambitions.

On another side, those who know what is yoga, who are truly dispassionate and renouncing the world, are the ones who know how to be performing many selfless actions that would bring certain uplifting improvement in the world that is full of ignorance and the consequences of ignorance, but at the same time, they are not being determined, disturbed, influenced, frustrated, disappointed, angered, exhausted, intimidated, broken, or hurt by all kinds of ignorant thinking and behavior in the world, of worsening condition and situation in the world, without passionate intention, desire or aspiration to make the world to become a better place, without expectation towards the condition and situation in the world has to be and not to be in certain way, and without the need of receiving any attention, support, acknowledgement, acceptance, agreement, accreditation, appreciation or thankfulness from the world. There's no attachment or identification towards the sense of goodness, righteousness, positiveness or meaningfulness that based on any particular worldly egoistic thinking, belief, values and practice.

These minds won't be manipulated by the selfish greedy minds to be unwittingly helping them to achieve their greedy desires or ambitions that inflict suffering onto many others in the world in many ways.

Learning and practicing yoga of dispassion and renunciation, of silence and solitude, is indeed about performing selfless actions that are intentionless, that are free from passionate egoistic attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, comparison, judgment, aspiration or expectation.

Detached, unattached, renouncing the world, freeing the mind from being influenced by any particular worldly passionate egoistic thinking, belief, values and practice, and then come back into the world (or not).

It's not about fighting against the ignorance in all the other minds in the world, it's about freeing this mind from ignorance and egoism, and it will know what to do with the world that is full of ignorance and the consequences of ignorance, at peace.

Most people want peace for all, some want peace but not for all, some don't want peace at all, while some want to gain more power and wealth from inflicting unrest in the world.

Above all, it's not about right or wrong, but for those who really want to free one's mind from ignorance, should try to avoid consuming any kind of intoxicants that influence the state of the mind and behavior, where one might be loosing self-control over one's behavior being over-powered by the effect of intoxicants, that might cause unnecessary damage to oneself and others during those few moments under the influence of intoxicants. There's nothing wrong and it's everyone's freedom if people want to enjoy certain intoxicants to momentarily escape from certain frustrations and difficulties in life, especially those who think they are not being over-powered by the intoxicants that they consume without loosing the clarity of the mind or self-control over their behavior.

Inquire towards the truth of everything.

Ignorance

There's nothing wrong when the mind is being affected and disturbed by something that the mind perceives as unpleasant, undesirable or disagreeable, as the mind is not free from ignorance and egoism yet.

The difference between a mind that is free from being influenced by ignorance and a mind that is under the influence of ignorance, is whether the mind is aware of and understands that this disturbance is due to this mind itself is still not completely be free from ignorance and egoism yet, and hence, this mind will continue to work diligently to annihilate ignorance and egoism from itself, or, the mind firmly thinks and believes that this disturbance is due to all the unpleasant, undesirable and disagreeable happenings, actions/reactions and behaviors that this mind believes and judges as bad and wrongful deriving from the ignorance of other people in the world.

Understanding hurtful behavior is part of mental illness

This teaching is for those who would like to help some others or themselves, who felt hurt and angry by some past hurtful experiences, and continuing to feel hurt and angry by those past hurtful experiences, and for many years onward, they would behave in the way that hurt themselves and others out of those hurts and anger either wittingly or unwittingly, while blaming the past hurtful experiences and those who inflicted hurtful behavior onto them for all their failure and unhappiness in life, and for their own reaction of hurtful behavior onto themselves and others, to have clearer understanding towards hurts and hurtful behavior, and be free from such ignorance and suffering.

People would want to think and believe that forgiveness is the key to be free from hurts and be free from anger due to those hurts. There's nothing wrong with that. However, the thinking and belief about "I want to forgive and I have forgiven those who had hurt me" without thorough understanding towards hurts and hurtful behavior won't free the minds from continuing be disturbed by the past hurtful experiences and feel hurt and angry in the present and for the rest of one's life, and would hurt oneself and others out of those hurt and anger, even after many years.

There are some people who refuse to forgive and continuing to feel hurt and angry, and blaming those past hurtful experiences as the cause of their own hurtful behavior and unhappiness in life. There's nothing wrong with that, and it's their freedom to think, feel, act, react and behave as they are.

Meanwhile, there are many people who would want to be free from hurts and anger, who would want to be able to forgive and let go, or who think and believe that they have had forgiven those who had inflicted some hurtful experiences onto them in the past, but somehow, they would still be disturbed very much by the remembrance towards those hurtful experiences and continuing to feel hurt and angry, and would behave in the way that hurt themselves and others out of those reactions of hurt and anger deriving from remembering the past hurtful experiences in the present moment, while thinking and believing that it's the responsibility of those who had inflicted hurtful experiences onto them in the past for ruining their life for behaving in the way that hurt themselves and others, for all their failure and unhappiness in the present moment and the rest of their life.

There is the thought/belief of "I was being hurt by some others who had done something bad, wrong and hurtful to me, and I deserved to feel hurt and angry, and I deserve to continue to feel hurt and angry, and it's their responsibility for all my unhappiness and my hurtful behavior now." This is because the mind didn't or doesn't understand about hurts and hurtful behavior.

Some would even blame themselves for other people's hurtful behavior. "I was bad and I am not good. That's why I deserved all those hurtful behavior from others."

Regardless of whether intentionally or unintentionally, wittingly or unwittingly, randomly or deliberately, people who inflict hurtful behavior onto themselves or others, is all out of ignorance.

Out of ignorance, some minds are intentionally and wittingly inflicting hurtful behavior onto others to hurt others randomly or deliberately, while some are unintentionally and unwittingly inflicting hurtful behavior onto others that hurt others, randomly. Both conditions are a form of mental illness. Those who are not mentally ill, they will have sufficient understanding, awareness and self-control towards their own behavior, action and reaction.

None can reason with those who are ignorant, who are mentally ill, who would behave in the way that hurt themselves and others, wittingly or unwittingly.

It's not something bad or wrong, if the minds are under the influence of ignorance and are mentally ill, where they don't have understanding, awareness and self-control over their own behavior, action and reaction. Just that those behaviors are hurting themselves, their lives and some others.

We can say that it's unfortunate if we reluctantly come/came in contact with a mentally ill unknown person who inflicts/inflicted hurtful behavior onto us randomly, even if it's someone that we know within the family or friend circle. We acknowledge the consequences of other people's ignorant destructive behavior and clean up whatever mess that is necessary, and move on our life without being determined by the destructive behavior of those who are ignorant and mentally ill. We don't and shouldn't blame ourselves. We don't and couldn't blame those who are ignorant and mentally ill, who have no awareness and self-control over their behavior. There is no need forgiveness either. Neither do we need to let go anything. There is no hurt, or anger, or hatred towards the destructive behavior inflicted by those who are ignorant and mentally ill.

We can choose to move away from those who are under the influence of ignorance or mental illness, if we don't want to continuously dealing with the ignorance or mental illness of others, or we can choose to be there to look after them even though we have to deal with their ignorance or mental illness. There's neither right nor wrong either way.

If out of our own ignorance, we have expectation towards all or most of the human beings in the society, especially those whom we know, who are our family members or friends, may it be our parents and siblings, or partners/lovers/children/teachers/leaders, that they should behave and treat us in certain way and shouldn't behave or treat us in certain way, and we feel hurt and angry by their ignorant hurtful behavior inflicted onto us, either intentionally or unintentionally, and continuously to feel hurt and angry for many years onward, and out of those continuous hurt and anger, we ourselves would constantly behave in the way that hurt ourselves and others, while justifying that our suffering, unhappiness and hurtful behavior is all because of those undeserving past hurtful experiences inflicted by bad and wrongful people, then know that, it's our own responsibility for not having the correct understanding towards the modification of the mind, the mind perception of names and forms, actions and reactions, attachment and expectation, and more importantly, the cause of all kinds of hurtful behavior deriving from human beings that hurt oneself and others, either randomly or deliberately.

At the moment when we are experiencing some hurtful experiences, it's normal that we feel pain physically if there's some physical injury, and feel hurt and angry mentally or emotionally. But, after that moment, if we continuing to feel hurt and angry mentally and emotionally, it's due to our own ignorance of grasping or attachment. Even if there is some physical damages that cannot be undone, but what's the point of hurting ourselves further with mental and emotional pain that doesn't need to be there, but we keep feeding them out of ignorance and attachment?

The hurtful experiences might have caused some permanent or momentary physical damages, and might cause momentary mental and emotional disturbance for some time, but it doesn't and couldn't cause prolonged mental and emotional pain unless we ourselves 'grasp onto' and 'allow' those hurtful experiences to determine our life onward and affecting our physical, mental and emotional well being. It's the responsibility of those who inflicted hurtful experiences onto others for inflicting some physical injury or some mental/emotional disturbance in others as it happens, but afterwards, it's our own responsibility if we don't understand that all kinds of intentional or unintentional hurtful behavior are deriving from ignorance and mental illness, just like any destructive natural disaster deriving from the selfless nature that causes random damages to lives and properties and the surrounding environment itself, and we don't want to let go, or don't know how to let go, and continuing to feel hurt and angry for the damages that cannot be undone, and out of those continuous self-empowered reaction of hurt and anger towards the past hurtful experiences, we behave in the way that hurt ourselves and others, either randomly or deliberately, while blaming those ignorant mentally ill people who had inflicted hurtful experiences onto others, or blaming the natural disasters that generated random damages, for 'making' us to behave in the way that hurt ourselves and others for our entire life.

Dealing with undesirable hurtful experiences as it happens, is already energy exhausting. Out of grasping or attachment deriving from our own ignorance, we continue to be dealing with our own self-responsible and self-empowered reactions of continuous hurt and anger towards the past hurtful experiences, is even more energy exhausting. It's unnecessary.

The minds that have correct understanding about the modification of the mind, they don't and won't argue with or save hatred towards anyone, not to say, to argue and be angry with and save hatred towards those who are under the influence of ignorance and mental illness, who can't reason, who have no awareness and no self-control, who behave ignorantly and hurtfully, or blaming them for 'causing' all our failure and unhappiness in life, or blaming them for our own hurtful behavior inflicting onto ourselves and others out of our disappointment, hurt, anger and hatred towards who/what hurt us.

Those who are free from ignorance, who are free from hurts and anger, who understand the mind and who have truly forgiven or let go all kinds of past and present hurtful experiences, they have no aversion or problem towards remembering or talking about all the past hurtful experiences, and being undetermined or undisturbed by remembering and talking about any past unpleasant hurtful experiences, without self-blaming or blaming others for all kinds of hurtful experiences deriving from the ignorance and mental illness of others.

Those who think and believe that they have forgiven those who had hurt them in the past, but they still feel hurt and angry by remembering or talking about the past hurtful experiences even after many years, and they have aversion towards talking about it, as they continue to feel hurt and angry upon talking about it, it means that they haven't understand towards hurts and hurtful behavior, and they haven't really forgiven and let go.

It's everyone's freedom if they want to continue feeling hurt and angry, and 'allowing' past undesirable hurtful experiences to determine and affect their life in the present and for the rest of their life, and out of those reactions of 'hurt' and 'anger' towards remembering the past hurtful experiences, they are behaving in the way that hurt themselves and others, thinking and believing that "It's because of you, I am behaving like this. My life is ruined by you and your hurtful behavior. I am hurting myself and everyone else now because of your hurtful behavior and what you did to me in the past. It's all your fault." Or, they can choose to understand, and stop hating or blaming all those who are ignorant and mentally ill, who behave/behaved hurtfully due to ignorance and mental illness, either randomly or deliberately, not allowing the past hurtful experiences deriving from the ignorance and mental illness of some others to determine or affect their life in the present moment and the rest of their life, and be free.

Out of ignorance, many minds are not aware of themselves are under the influence of ignorance, where one has no correct understanding, awareness and self-control, and hence, one constantly feels hurt and angered by the ignorant hurtful behavior of some others, as well as constantly acting and reacting in the way that hurt oneself and others, out of disappointment, hurt, anger and hatred towards what they perceived as 'hurtful', 'undeserving', 'wrongful' and 'disappointing', either randomly or deliberately. Oneself is also suffering from ignorance and mental illness.

Mental illness is something very common that present in many human minds functioning under the influence of ignorance, including highly educated and knowledgeable people who have a 'normal' family, work and social life, but many people would see 'mental illness' as something 'bad' or a 'taboo' and would be offended to be referred as mentally ill. Only those who are aware of the presence of ignorance or mental illness in one's mind could help themselves to be free from ignorance or mental illness, to stop hurting themselves and others, before it's becoming uncontrollable.

Mental illness doesn't only limited to those who have lost the ability to look after themselves mentally and couldn't have a 'normal' family, work and social life, or need to depend on medications everyday. But anyone who can still live a 'normal' life, but are highly sensitive, attention seeking, defensive and offensive, who are being over-powered by the desire of craving and aversion, who would behave in the way that hurt themselves or others in different ways, out of ignorance, out of disappointment, hurt, anger and hatred, either wittingly or unwittingly, randomly or deliberately, being determined by other people's judgment, expectation, praise and criticism, action and reaction, to evaluate and determine themselves and their life, while blaming others' bad and wrongful behavior for causing them to have hurtful behavior, failure, disappointment, anger, regret and unhappiness in life, they are indeed suffering from certain degrees of mental illness. It's not a criticism. It's not a shaming. It's not an attack. It's to be aware of what is going on in our own minds, to do something about it before it's too late.

If we have truly understood, forgiven and let go, there's no continuous hurt or anger towards anyone or anything from the past or in the present moment. It's our own responsibility for our own action and reaction towards other people's action and reaction. No one can ruin our lives or take away our happiness, unless we allow it to ruin our lives and take away our happiness, even if there are some damages that cannot be undone. When we come to the end of our lives, we will realize that it really doesn't matter. But why suffering so much until the end of life to realize "It really doesn't matter"? Why not now while we are still living? My mother, my father and my brother had all passed away. Life was greatly difficult for them. When they passed away, it really didn't matter about who suffer less or who suffer more. I'm glad that my mother, my father and my brother smiled through the hardships and laughed after crying when life was too hard.

Inquire the truth of everything.

Ignorance in the world is like a selfless natural disaster

Dealing with the ignorance in the world, it's like dealing with natural disaster.

Natural disaster is part of the selfless manifestation or natural phenomena of the nature.

The natural disaster itself is selfless and intentionless. It has no intention to ravage anything, but, it's part of its selfless intentionless power of nature that would cause random damages onto many things and lives under its presence.

We can mourn or be angry for the destruction of things and lives, and try to clean up the mess of the aftermath deriving from natural disaster as much as possible, and move on in life, but we can't really 'blame' or 'hinder' the natural phenomena of the nature being what it is.

Ignorance in the world is just like the selfless intentionless power of destruction deriving from natural disaster being part of the selfless manifestation or natural phenomena of the impure perceptive/cognitive/assertive modification of the mind.

Ignorance and the consequences of ignorance would ravage anything and anyone (oneself and others) either randomly or deliberately, inflicting all kinds of destruction, difficulty, pain, injury and misery onto objects and beings selflessly and intentionlessly under its presence.

We can mourn and be angry for the destruction of things and lives, and try to clean up the mess of the aftermath (the consequences of ignorance) due to ignorant actions deriving from ignorance either in oneself or in others, and move on in life, but we can't really 'blame' or 'hinder' ignorance for being what it is, where its nature of ravaging anything under its presence randomly or deliberately, as even ignorant actions deriving from intentional motive to destroy, damage and hurt something or someone, to cause destruction, difficulty, pain, injury and misery deliberately, that is also part of the nature of ignorance for being ignorant towards ignorance.

One can feel hurt by other people's ignorance and be angry with the consequences of ignorance of other people in the world, in the present moment, where one's life is reluctantly being affected or damaged by the ignorance in the world, but one doesn't need to be determined or continuously be hurt by the ignorance and the consequences of ignorance in the world, by understanding that the nature of ignorance is just like any kinds of natural disaster that would ravage anything under its presence, randomly.

Ignorance in the world is like a solid wall. One feels hurt or might be injured when one accidentally ran into the wall.

One can either move on and let it go even though damages cannot be undone, or one can stand in front of the wall and shouting at the wall, and continuously hurting and injuring oneself by kicking the wall as hard as possible out of anger towards the wall.

Inquire towards the truth of everything.

"Just do our best" in the teachings of yoga

Just like everything else, "Just do our best" can be interpreted differently by different people with different understanding. Positive minds interpret it positively and negative minds interpret it negatively, while minds that have transcended positive and negative interpret it as it is, neither positive nor negative. "Do our best" under a competitive background might mean differently from the teachings of yoga.

In the competitive world, some people propagate "Don't just do your best, but go beyond what you think is your best." While some people propagate "Don't just go beyond your best, but go beyond other people's best."

What is best or what is the limitation in everyone is very different from one another. In the teachings of yoga, one can never compare with one another, but just do one's best at one's own pace.

"Just do our best" in the teachings of yoga means - Whatever we do, we do our best without forcing the body and mind beyond its limitation in the present moment now, and without attachment or identification towards our actions and the fruit of actions, without expectation towards the fruit of actions has to be or not to be in certain way, allowing the fruit of actions to be what it is, as it is, without being determined or affected by the actions or the fruit of actions, and more importantly, all are impermanent. The fruit of actions might not be the way that we think how it should be, even after we did our best, and it's okay.

It's about performing all actions without attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, judgment, comparison and expectation, and just do what is possible while letting go what is impossible in the present moment now, and what is possible and impossible in the present moment now is impermanent. There are different elements determining whether something is possible or not possible in the present moment now. It's not about achieving certain result under certain aspiration or intention and 'I' want to achieve it now, and it's definitely not about pushing the body and mind to the point of breaking down in order to gratify our desire of achieving something.

Maybe the body is ready, but the mind is not ready. Maybe the mind is ready, but the body is not ready. Maybe the body and the mind are both ready, but the condition of the space for something to happen is not ready. Maybe the body and the mind and the condition of the space are all ready, but it's not the right timing yet. Other than the ability of non-attachment, non-identification and non-expectation, the elements of patience, determination, perseverance, tolerance, acceptance, adjustment, adaptation and accommodation, play an important role in "Just do our best".

Some people become more relaxed while be able to work efficiently and achieving more by implementing "Just do our best" in everything that they do, as they are aware of and understand what is the limitation of their body and mind as well as knowing what is possible and impossible according to the current condition and situation in the present moment.

While some people become more tensed and unable to work efficiently under the term of "Just do our best" as either they have no awareness or understanding towards what is the limitation of their body and mind and don't know what is possible or impossible in the current condition and situation in the present moment, or, for some people coming from different background, "Do our best" means pushing the body and mind beyond their current limitation until they break down (the do or die mentality of keep fighting until you drop,) or else, they are not doing their best.

Some people feel that they were being judged by other people's encouragement to them by telling them to "Just do your best, without pushing the body and mind beyond its limitation", as they feel that they were being criticized for trying too hard. While some people feel that they were being judged by other people's encouragement to them by telling them to "Do your best", as they feel that they are being criticized for being not good enough, for haven't done their best yet or not trying hard enough, that they need to try harder than what they can do now. But these encouragements containing the term of "Do your best" have no intention to judge anyone as trying too hard, or not trying hard enough.

All these reactions of "I am being judged" or "I am under attack" when hearing other people saying to them about "Do your best" are merely coming from the highly defensive egoistic mind itself, being sensitive and offensive due to the mind reacts according to how the mind perceives and interprets everything under the influence of defensiveness.

There are quite many minds experienced certain undesirable experiences in the past where they felt hurt, and continuing to feel hurt by some unpleasant 'hurtful' experiences, because they don't know how to free themselves from being determined by the past undesirable experiences, that make them become highly defensive and sensitive towards everything that they experience in the present moment now.

The minds that have correct understanding towards what is going on in the mind, they won't perceive or interpret those terms or any terms as a form of judgment or attack. And even if there's intentional judgment or attack coming from some others towards them, they won't feel offended, as they are not being determined or disturbed by the mind perception of names and forms, because they know what is non-attachment, non-identification, non-craving, non-aversion, non-judgment, non-comparison and non-expectation, while allowing everyone to think and judge or express and behave as they are, allowing all kinds of names and forms to be there as they are.

And hence, to truly help the minds that felt hurt and continuously feeling hurt by something 'hurtful' in the past, it's not about offering to heal what they think is a painful mental/emotional wound existing in their minds and comforting these minds with the things that they like to see, hear, smell, taste, touch, feel and think, to make them feel good momentarily, but it's guiding them in the way that allows them to look into their own minds, to see the truth of those hurtful feelings and what is going on in their minds, that will allow them to be free from being determined by the past experiences upon knowing the truth of what is going on in their minds, where there is no mental/emotional wound existing in their minds that needs to be healed, but merely a continuous stream of impermanent thought activities arising and passing away selflessly deriving from ignorance and egoism of attachment, identification, and ungratified desires and expectations. Neither do they need any comforting treatment of sympathetic/empathetic actions and words from anyone to feel better, as they won't feel hurt anymore once they realized the truth of what is going on in their minds, regardless of something that they experienced in the past or something that they are experiencing now.

Those who understand this, there's no need to be strong, no need to be positive, no need to forgive and let go anything, and no need to be healed, as the selfless mind cannot be hurt upon knowing Thyself.

The minds that don't know Thyself, that are under the influence of ignorance and egoism, where there's an idea of 'I', generates attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, judgment and expectation, they would perceive hurt, and hence, they think and believe that they need to be strong, need to be positive, need to forgive and let go something that they perceived and judged as something 'hurtful', and there's existing painful mental/emotional wounds that need to be healed.

Inquire the truth of everything.

Inquire towards the truth of racism and discrimination

Most people would want to fight for freedom of expression, action and speech.

Many people also want to fight against racism and discrimination, may it be coming from within the society of diversity, or coming from unjust bias government policy.

Many people have no idea/notion/intention of citing racism and discrimination when they want to express, do or say something.

Unfortunately, out of ignorance, anti-racism and anti-discrimination generated lots of unnecessary sensitivity surrounding racism and discrimination that heavily restricting and going against freedom of expression, action and speech, where many people are easily being 'offended' by certain 'expression', 'action' and 'speech', or even the usage of certain scenes, colours, shapes, forms, sounds and words, that they perceive/judge/label/believe/identify/refer/relate as a form of citing 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult', or 'offensiveness'.

May it be those who think and feel themselves are being 'discriminated', or 'racist against', or 'insulted', or 'offended' by what they perceive as 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' or 'offensiveness', and they identifying themselves as the victims of 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' or 'offensiveness', or some other people who want to support those whom they think and believe as the victims of 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' or 'offensiveness', where many people are developing excessive/exaggerate unnecessary high-sensitivity towards certain (and will be increasing) scenes, colours, shapes, forms, sounds, words and maybe some other names and forms, in certain point of view, discussion, expression, speech, writing, artwork, dance choreography, music, song, painting, drawing, sculpture and any other forms of expression/idea/creativity, which ignorant egoistic human minds project the quality of 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' or 'offensiveness' onto almost everything that they perceive, where almost all and everything would also being perceived by these ignorant egoistic minds as something containing the elements of 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' or 'offensiveness', and they don't allow anything that they perceive as containing the element of 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' or 'offensiveness' to be existing in the world, where people are not allowed, or be condemned, or even be criminalized for the usage of certain scenes, colours, shapes, forms, sounds and words containing what these ignorant egoistic minds perceived as 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' or 'offensiveness'.

People want freedom of expression, action and speech, BUT, only limited to within our own acceptance and agreement based on our petite mindedness of how we perceive and judge everything based on our particular thinking, belief, understanding, judgment, values and practice, where minds are easily being disturbed, offended, hurt, insulted by anything that the minds perceive/think/believe/judge/label as a form of 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' or 'offensiveness' towards the identity of certain names and forms that different people identifying as who 'I' am.

For example, about colour. The usage of colours or words of 'white' and 'black' is being 'perceived', 'projected', 'identified', 'labelled' and 'referred' as containing the element of 'racism' and 'discrimination' by those who are anti-racist and anti-discrimination.

The colour of white and black, or the word of 'white' and 'black', have no quality, or meaning, or power, or intention to be 'racist' or 'discriminative'. But they are being 'perceived' and 'projected' by certain people who are anti-racist and anti-discrimination with the quality/meaning/power/intention that contain the element of racism and discrimination.

People who are anti-racism and anti-discrimination are highly sensitive towards the usage of the colour and word of 'white' or 'black' in any kinds of expression, action and speech. And they protest against the use of certain words and colours that reflect 'white' or 'black'.

If the word 'Whitening' is being labelled as a form of 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' and 'offense' towards dark skin tone people, then any colour related to many human beings different types of skin tone will also be 'racist', 'discriminative', 'insult' and 'offensive' towards the different people who come with different types of skin tone. The word 'Darkening' will be labelled as 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' and 'offense' towards fairer skin tone people. Any expression towards any particular colour that certain people like or don't like, prefer or don't prefer, will be labelled as a form of 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' and 'offense' towards the many different skin tone people, may it be 'yellow', 'orange', 'brown', 'pink', 'green', 'blue' and so on, not just 'white' or 'black'. But if this ridiculous sensitivity over the usage of the different colours and words in all kinds of expression, action and speech continuing to be amplified, over-rated and supported by many people who want to go against 'racism' and 'discrimination', then all kinds of colours can also become a thing that contain the element of racism, discrimination, insult and offensiveness in everyday life. Then no one is going to be allowed to have or mention any colours that they prefer or don't prefer, like or dislike, in everything in life anymore. The world becomes a colourless world won't stop those who are ignorant to continue being ignorant, and won't stop those who intentionally want to be racist, sexist and discriminative against anyone and anything that they dislike and disagree with, continuing to be racist, sexist and discriminative.

Life can be so simple and free, but it's becoming so complicated and not free due to many people are being highly sensitive towards all kinds of names and forms that are being projected with the quality of 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' or 'offensiveness' by the highly sensitive minds.

To free the world from any kinds of racism and discrimination, definitely is not achievable by 'protecting' the highly sensitive minds through restricting, disallowing and criminalizing people on "Do not express, do, or say anything that anyone would feel being offended, insulted, discriminated or racist against," which doesn't really eliminate all kinds of racism and discrimination, but instead, it would be empowering the existence of racism and discrimination in the world, that directly and indirectly hinders the freedom of expression, action and speech that most people are fighting for, which is much needed to develop a 'healthy' society, than having a 'sick' society that live under 'oppression', 'control', 'criminalization' and 'prosecution' that are being widely abused in the world.

It's about teaching and training all and everyone regardless of the different diversity of different appearance/colour/shape/ethnicity/nationality/gender/sexual orientation/culture/religion/spirituality/belief/educational background/health and fitness condition/ability and disability, of young and old, to 'respect' and 'allow' all kinds of names and forms being existing in the world as they are, without projecting the quality of 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' or 'offensiveness' onto any kinds of names and forms that they perceived through the senses of what they see, hear, smell, taste, sense/feel and think, and they wouldn't be disturbed, offended, hurt, or insulted by all kinds of names and forms, even if there are certain people who deliberately want to be citing 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' or 'offensiveness' against certain names and forms that they dislike and disagree with, out of ignorance and egoism, self-righteousness, pride and arrogance.

It has to come from people's own conscience/understanding towards "Respecting and allowing all kinds of different names and forms being existing in the world, as they are," and "All kinds of names and forms have no intention or power to 'disturb', 'offend', 'hurt' or 'insult' anyone or anything, even if it's coming from certain minds with such intention, unless the minds have ignorant egoistic attachment and identification, craving and aversion towards certain qualities of names and forms, and the minds 'perceive' and 'project' certain quality onto certain names and forms, identifying/labeling/referring them as 'disturbing', 'offending', 'hurting' and 'insulting', and 'allowing' themselves to be disturbed, offended, hurt, or insulted by those names and forms that they themselves 'perceived', 'projected', 'identifying', 'labeling' and 'referring' as 'disturbing', 'offending', 'hurting' and 'insulting', whether it's intentional or unintentional from anyone, (where mostly are non-intentional from anyone,) but it's coming from one's mind being overly sensitive, deriving from one's own attachment and identification towards certain qualities of names and forms that oneself identifying with as 'I'."

Those who are intentionally being racist and discriminative against certain names and forms that they dislike and disagree with, would be expressing, doing and saying certain things under certain names and forms that they want other people whom they want to be racist and discriminative against to 'understand' their intention/aspiration/expression of "I don't like you and I don't agree with you. I am being racist and discriminative against you. I am intentionally expressing, doing and saying things that I think would hurt and insult you. And I feel good about that and I am being very proud of that." They don't respect and can't allow those whom they dislike and disagree with, whom they want to be racist and discriminative against, whom they intentionally want to hurt and insult, for being existing in their surrounding environment, for being who they are, and for expressing, doing and saying what they want to express, do and say. While they themselves don't like to be 'disrespected' and 'disallowed' for being existing, for being who they are, and what they want to express, do and say.

Aren't everyone who are anti-racism and anti-discrimination also behave, act and react similarly as those who intentionally want to be racist and discriminative?

If people truly want to support freedom of expression, action and speech, is not by 'disallowing', 'controlling', 'condemning', 'criminalizing', and 'prosecuting' those who intentionally want to be racist and discriminative, or more even so, most of those who don't have any intention/idea to be racist, discriminative, insulting or offending towards anyone or anything while expressing, doing and saying something, but their expression, action and speech are being perceived and judged as containing the elements of 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' and 'offense' by the majority of the human beings who are under the influence of ignorance and egoism, who are highly sensitive and who are easily be disturbed, offended, hurt, or insulted by any names and forms that they perceive and judge as disturbing, offending, hurtful and insulting.

People should be allowed being what they are, as they are, even though we might not like or agree with certain behavior or way of thinking, may it be we ourselves don't like and don't agree with other people, or other people don't like and don't agree with ourselves.

It's about how all and everyone react towards everything that they perceived, and know what is non-attachment, non-identification, non-craving, non-aversion, non-judgment and non-expectation, or not, that enable or prevent the minds to be free from perceiving, judging or reacting towards all kinds of disturbing, offensive, hurtful or insulting behavior deriving from some ignorant, egoistic, prideful and arrogant people regardless of intentional or unintentional, which then allowing all and everyone to be who they are, as they are, being ignorant and behaving ignorantly, or not, that allowing freedom of expression, action and speech to be happening as it is, even though most people might still be disliking and disagreeing with one another due to ignorance and egoism, self-righteousness, pride and arrogance.

This doesn't mean that we are promoting and supporting all kinds of violent damaging behavior in the world, as what most 'good' people are concerning about.

All those intentional racist and discriminative expression, action and speech in the world will loose their meanings and potential to disturb and hurt anyone, not because they don't or can't exist anymore due to restriction and criminalization towards certain expression, action and speech, but it's because those who are free from ignorance and egoism stop reacting in the way that give meaning and power to these names and forms to be something that the ignorant egoistic prideful arrogant racist discriminative minds want them to be, which is racist, discriminative, hurtful, insulting and offensive, where they expect people whom they dislike and disagree with to react and feel disturbed, hurt, insulted and offended, and they would feel good about themselves for being successfully 'hurting' those whom they are being racist and discriminative with.

It's about understanding that all kinds of behavior are under the influence of the state of the mind. One won't be intentionally be discriminative towards anyone for anything if the state of the mind is free from the influence of ignorance, egoism and impurities. All kinds of intentional and unintentional ignorant violent damaging behavior, action and reaction are deriving from the mind that is functioning under the influence of ignorance, egoism and impurities.

More importantly, it has to come from self-awareness and self-control towards the state of the mind that influence one's behavior.

No matter how much 'oppression', 'control', 'condemn', 'criticism', 'criminalization', 'prosecution' and 'punishment' that human beings introduced to curb 'racism' and 'discrimination', especially by restricting freedom of expression, action and speech further and further, until one day, no one is allowed to express, do, or say anything, as anything also can turn into a form of 'racism', 'discrimination', 'hurts', 'insult' and 'offense' being perceived and projected by the 'pampered' ignorant egoistic highly sensitive minds, it doesn't eliminate ignorance, egoism and impurities in human minds in the world, and definitely it won't stop ignorant egoistic human beings from behaving in the way that is under the influence of ignorance, egoism and impurities.

It's about all and everyone work on freeing one's mind from ignorance, egoism and impurities. The issue surrounding racism and discrimination will disappear from one's mind upon the annihilation of ignorance, egoism and impurities. There will be less beings in the world would behave, act and react ignorantly upon the annihilation of ignorance, egoism and impurities in human minds. It's not by trying to eliminate the issue of racism and discrimination in the world by restricting, controlling, condemning, criminalizing and prosecuting "Freedom of expression, action and speech" in order to stop or minimize issue of racism and discrimination. It doesn't work, as human minds are still functioning under the influence of ignorance, egoism and impurities, even being 'restricted', 'controlled', 'condemned', 'criminalized' and 'prosecuted' for certain expression, action and speech that are intentionally or unintentionally containing the elements of racism, discrimination, hurt, insult, or offensiveness.

When self-righteous people are discriminating against and criminalizing anyone or anything that they think and believe as containing the elements of 'racism', 'discrimination', 'insult' and 'offense', they don't see it as 'discrimination' and 'anti-freedom of expression, action and speech', they see it as 'upholding righteousness and peace in the world the way that they think how it should be'. It's not. It's what people think and believe as the best solution to curb the issue of racism and discrimination in the world, out of ignorance and egoism as well.

The wise and compassionate saints and sages renounced the world, focusing on attaining their own liberation from ignorance and suffering, let the world be the world, let people behave the way that they behave, let all and everyone realize their own wisdom and liberation from ignorance and suffering through their own effort, or not. And after attaining liberation from ignorance and suffering, they may, or may not, come back into the society, to disseminate the universal teachings to those who have self-awareness and be self-initiated to receive and practice the teachings that would lead them towards attaining liberation from ignorance and suffering, regardless of all the different qualities of names and forms that all and everyone have, which is not who they are.

One doesn't need to react based on how other people expect people to react. One couldn't be discriminated for anything by any 'discriminative names and forms', even though there is intentional discrimination coming from ignorant egoistic prideful arrogant minds against certain names and forms that they dislike and disagree with. That's their freedom for being what they are, being discriminative, racist or sexist. Other people have the freedom for being non-discriminative, non-racist or non-sexist, without anti-racism or anti-discrimination. While some others have the freedom to be anti-racism and anti-discrimination if they want, but they don't have to. Just as people have the freedom to feel being disturbed, hurt, insulted and offended, if they want, but they don't have to.

All and everyone want freedom for being who they are, but, at the same time, they also don't like and don't allow other people being who they are. That's the power of ignorance.

In certain culture, the mentioning of 'fat' to someone is something insulting and inappropriate, while in another culture, it's being perceived as complimenting and non-inappropriate.

Just as the word 'ignorance' is neither good nor bad, but it would be perceived as belittling, offensive and insulting by the minds that are prideful and arrogant and wouldn't like to be related to ignorance, while the minds that are free from pride and arrogance wouldn't be belittled, offended or insulted, but acknowledging that it's the truth of most minds including oneself, are not free from the influence of ignorance.

Those who are racist and would deliberately invoke any kinds of discrimination towards certain names and forms that they dislike and disagree with, are actually suffering from a form of mental disturbance. They can't help themselves by having such strong aversion towards certain names and forms that they dislike and disagree with. Just like some people are suffering from certain mental disturbance where they would get very irritated or disgusted upon coming in contact with certain objects of names and forms that they strongly averse towards, such as particular sight, shape, colour, sound, smell, taste, sensation, visualization, space, position, or direction, as well as being disturbed by other people's certain ways of doing certain things. There are quite many people are suffering from certain kind of mental disturbance, but mostly are not aware of it.

Just like we would feel sympathy towards those who are suffering from certain physical or mental illness, we can also be compassionate towards those who can't help themselves for being racist and discriminative, because they are in a form of mental suffering.

Inquire the truth of everything, and be free.

It's not 'our world', if we truly love the world

The world doesn't belong to anyone. The world is fine as it is and it doesn't need anyone to protect it if nobody/no community claim ownership/possessiveness/authorization towards the world and desire the world to be and not to be in certain way according to their particular thinking and belief, values and practice, likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements, or aspiration and expectation towards a world the way that they prefer, that they claimed as "Our world."

Many people like to propagate and say, "The world is ours." and then, "We love our world and we have responsibility towards looking after our world." and then, "We want our world to be like this and not like that." and then follow with, "Protect our world from what we believe as badness and wrongfulness. Get rid of those who are 'bad' and 'wrong', who are 'obstructing' our desire of making our world perfectly the way that it should be."

Just like in all the love relationships among people. Many people don't know what is love when they think they fall in love with someone that they think and believe they love very much, but end up hurting themselves and the one whom they think and believe they love very much. Similarly, we keep hurting the world, when we think and believe we love the world very much, but we don't really know what is love.

We think and believe that we love the person in the relationship with us, but out of ignorance and egoism, there's possessiveness and desire towards the relationship and the person in the relationship with us to be and not to be in certain way, and when the relationship or the person in the relationship with us is not being the way that we expect or desire it to be, but it's being the way that we don't like and don't desire, we will feel disappointed, hurt and angry, and in order to 'protect' the relationship from becoming the way that we don't like and don't desire, we would do something that hurt ourselves and those whom we think we love very much and those whom we think are responsible for 'disturbing' or 'destroying' the relationship that we love very much. And the more we try to 'control' the relationship or the person in the relationship with us to be the way that we desire it to be, we keep hurting the relationship and the person in the relationship with us, whether intentionally or unintentionally, wittingly or unwittingly.

When we claim ownership/possessiveness/authorization towards the world, we don't allow the world being what it is, but we want to 'control' the world to be the way that we desire it to be, and we want to 'protect' the world from being the way that we don't like and don't desire, we are actually 'hurting' the world in the process of making 'our world' the way that we desire, the way that we think how it should be.

When we truly love someone, we love them as they are and we let them go, without claiming ownership/possessiveness/control towards them to be the way that we would like them to be. Allowing them to be what they are, to love us, or not, to be in a relationship with us, or not.

If we truly love the world, even if we think we have good intention, we stop claiming ownership/possessiveness/authorization towards the world to be "Our world." and stop desiring/aspiring/expecting, "We want our world to be like this and not like that." but allowing the world to be what it is.

It's not 'our world'. It's just the world that selflessly allowing all and everything being here.

When human beings begin to claim ownership and authorization towards a land or a space in this world, then only certain kind of people/beings 'will have the rights' and 'will be allowed' to be on that land or be in that space, while some other kinds of people/beings 'won't have the rights' and 'won't be allowed' to be on that land or in that space. But the lands and the space in the world don't belong to anyone or authority. All beings and everyone can be here and there, without anyone claiming ownership and authorization towards the lands and space of the world, as well as without taking any thing for granted.

All kinds of inhumanity and discrimination in the world exist due to the existence of 'authority/government body' that seized ownership and authorization towards a particular land and space and sanctioned all kind of laws of rules and regulations, and 'creating' and 'giving out' certain 'rights' and 'privilege' to certain people and not to some others.

When human beings stop claiming ownership/possessiveness/authorization towards the world, it doesn't mean that everyone would be hurting the world intentionally, or wouldn't be doing something beneficial for the world out of compassion. While those who claim ownership/possessiveness/authorization towards the world and expect the world to be in certain way according to their aspiration and desire of a world that they prefer, would be hurting the world whether wittingly or unwittingly, by protecting what they like and desire while fighting against what they don't like and don't desire.

Anyway, the world will still be what it is, according to the law of nature (cause and effect), with or without many egoistic minds trying to take control over the world to be theirs and desiring a world the way that they like it to be. And the world doesn't have an ego to be bothered about it.

Learn how to free the mind from all kinds of disturbs or hurts

When a mind/person feels disturbed, unhappy, angered, disappointed or hurt by something, usually the impulsive reaction will be expecting some kind of sympathy or empathy from other minds/people, and looking forward to be comforted, loved, looked after, acknowledged, or supported by other minds/people. And most minds/people would also think and believe that that is how people should react towards other people's state of minds that are disturbed, unhappy, angry, disappointed or hurt, to be there to be listening to what they think is disturbing their minds and comforting these suffering minds/people by showing them love, care, acknowledgement and support, to be sharing and lessening their 'unhappiness' or 'suffering', in terms of generating a 'loving kindness' society/community. There's nothing wrong with that and it might give the troubled/disturbed/unhappy/angry/disappointed/hurt minds certain degrees of relieve, to feel better, but it doesn't help them to be free from the root cause of the suffering from disturbs, unhappiness, anger, disappointment, or hurts. Instead, most probably it might be unintentionally empowering or feeding the attachment, clinging, craving or expectation in people’s mind.

Just like giving sugary fizzy drinks to the unhappy kids might make them feel happy, but they would crave for more sugary drinks to make them feel happy. As once the craving is being gratified, it would only intensify the craving. And if their craving is not being gratified, they would be more unhappy. That's not freedom at all.

There's clinging, craving and expectation towards receiving sympathy, empathy, love, affection, care, acknowledgement, or support from others, even though there's nothing wrong with receiving sympathy, empathy, love, affection, care, acknowledgement, or support from others, as this is what most worldly minds/people believe and expect the society/community/family/relationship/friendship should be, but the mind is not free. If for some reasons, the mind doesn't get what it thinks and believes it deserves to be getting from others, it will be more disturbed/unhappy/angry/disappointed/hurt and would do things that would hurt itself and/or others. This is not freedom.

As well as most egoistic minds would want to feel that they are needed by others to feel good and meaningful about themselves and their life existence, that they are capable to give and show love, care, affection, sympathy, empathy, acknowledgment and support to others who 'need' them. Again, there's nothing wrong with that, just that these minds would feel bad or meaningless if for some reasons they think that they are not needed by some others, or when they think that other people do not appreciate what they give. This is not freedom.

Only those who can go beyond worldly thinking and belief can penetrate the real meaning of this teaching and practice. It doesn't mean that everyone in the society will become 'cold', 'heartless' or 'lack of sympathy/empathy', but the minds are free from clinging, craving or expectation towards receiving the 'deserving' love, care, affection, sympathy, empathy, acknowledgment and support from others to feel loved, cared, worthy, comforted, acknowledged or supported, to feel good and meaningful, by knowing what is going on in the mind and be free from ignorance and egoism, and thus, be free from all kinds of disturbs, unhappiness, anger, disappointment, or hurts. One doesn't need anyone to be there to be listening to one's 'troubles', 'unhappiness' or 'hurts', to be 'comforted', as there's no trouble, unhappiness or hurt existing in this liberated mind. One also can give and show sympathy, empathy, love, care and support to others without the attachment, identification, craving, intention or expectation in order to attain good and meaningful feelings towards oneself or one's life existence. That is true freedom and compassion.

Yoga practice such like cleansing technique, breathing exercises, yoga asana exercises, chanting, prayer, or concentration practice, can also give the effects of relieving certain degrees of disturbs, unhappiness, anger, disappointment or hurts in the minds, but again, it doesn't stop the mind from continuing be disturbed, unhappy, angry, disappointed, or hurt by something that they don't like, don't want and don't agree with, that they think is bad, wrong, disturbing, unhappy, frustrating, disappointing, or hurtful, if the mind is not free from ignorance, egoism and impurities.

Those who truly want to learn and practice yoga, it's not about doing some forms of yoga practice to be getting some conditional and impermanent physical/mental/emotional benefits or getting some momentary relief from what they think is painful suffering, but they learn how to free the mind from the root cause of all kinds of suffering, of disturbs, unhappiness, anger, disappointment, or hurts.

Naturally, the society will have more physical/mental/emotional healthy minds/people, where the minds/people realized unconditional love from within, know how to look after themselves and love others unconditionally, being free from clinging, craving, aversion or expectation.

But not many minds/people would understand and appreciate the greatness of this freedom. Most minds/people believe in and want a society/community/family/relationship/friendship that builds on 'needing each other' all the time to feel love, good, happy and meaningful, and to feel less lonely or to escape loneliness. That's how people are being taken advantage by others who have selfish intention being in a relationship or friendship. Even in the world of yoga, some yoga teachers or so called 'gurus' take advantage of the yoga students for their vulnerability when the students longing or expecting to be receiving comfort, sympathy, empathy, kindness, love, care, affection, acknowledgment, or supports from the yoga teachers or 'gurus'.

It's everyone's freedom for what they think or don't think, believe or disbelieve, want and don't want. People don't have to practice yoga of freeing the mind from ignorance, egoism and impurities, but just want to do some yoga practice regularly and engaging in social/community activities, to attain some momentary physical/mental/emotional benefits or relief, to attain some kinds of conditional and impermanent good, positive, loving, happy and meaningful feelings.

Work diligently to free the mind from ignorance, egoism and impurities, if one wants to attain or realize this freedom.

How to stop/not feeling hurt in love relationship?

Many people experience hurtful feeling or 'heartbroken' derived from love relationship that is not the way that they like/expect it to be, or it didn't have a happy ever after ending. In the beginning it was all good and happy, but after some time, something changed, it's not the same as before, and it turns sour and bitter, and then completely broken. It's quite painful/hurtful/sorrowful.

Some people would like to know how yoga can help them to be 'healed' from hurts, or how to be free from getting hurt in love relationship, or how to stop/not feeling hurt in love relationship?

The yogic way to be free from all suffering is through understanding/knowing the truth of suffering. It's not about 'healing' as many would think what it is. All suffering derived from ignorance and egoism. Once ignorance and egoism is annihilated, there's nothing or none needs to be 'healed'.

Some people had tried to let go after they learned about the teachings of yoga about letting go, but they found that it's very difficult or impossible to let go. This is because they don't have the correct understanding of what is going on in the mind. Upon understanding what is going on in the mind (all the impermanent selfless modification and changes in the mind and the real cause of pain/hurt/sorrow/bitterness), all the pain/hurt/sorrow/bitterness ceased existing, there's needless to let go anything.

- It's not an obligation or compulsory duty as a human being to must possess one or many love relationship/friendship to live life 'happily' or 'normally'.

One doesn't need to possess one or many love relationship/friendship to live life happily as one is, if the mind is free from being conditioned by worldly/cultural thinking and belief. It's merely part of the worldly/cultural thinking and belief that many people think and believe that everyone must possess one or many love relationship/friendship to live life happily and meaningfully. Most people's values of life, self-worth, success, confidence, happiness and the senses of meaningfulness are very much being determined by having one or many (good) love relationship/friendship, which is unnecessary at all if one's mind is free from ignorance and egoism. If people don't have any love relationship/friendship or they have bad/unhappy/broken love relationship/friendship, they would think and feel bad, unworthy, low confident, failing, depressed, or meaningless about themselves and their life. This is truly unnecessary. One can be friendly to all beings without the need of possessing one or many (good) 'committed love relationship' or 'friendship', and still be happy as one is.

- If we really want to be in a love relationship, we must first learn how to respect everyone and love everyone as they are.

When we feel unhappy/dissatisfied/disappointed/angry/hurt in a love relationship, ask ourselves this, "Do we love them as they are? Are we being possessive towards the people in a relationship with us and have expectation towards everyone about how they should behave or feel?"

Even if we dislike and disagree with this, everyone has the freedom to behave or feel the way that they (want to) behave and feel, even if they are being in a 'committed' relationship with somebody. No one is obliged to respect 'commitment in a relationship'. True relationship where two parties truly love each other and want to stay together out of their own freewill, doesn't have 'commitment' to be respected. Even after being in a relationship, people have the freedom of how they feel and what they want, whether they want to love someone, or stop loving someone, or don't want to love someone, or they changed from being loving/caring to unloving/uncaring, or they want to stay in a relationship or end a relationship, or they merely want to be single again even though they still love the person in the relationship with them, or they want to be with someone else, or they couldn't help themselves being selfish/abusive, or they are suffering from depression/emotional problem/behavior problem/greed/dissatisfaction/lustful desire, and etc.

Meanwhile, we also have the freedom and rights for how we want to feel (whether okay or not okay) and what we want to do with the relationship, to decide whether to let go or continue the 'broken' relationship depending on what is best for everyone, especially when it includes children. There's neither right nor wrong, neither good nor bad in any decision made. If we truly know what we want and don't want, and what is best for everyone, there's no difficulty in making decision and there's no guilt or regret in any decision made. Such like, ending a 'violent/abusive' relationship is better for oneself and the children, without hurtful/revengeful/fearful feelings due to compassion and understanding in oneself, being compassionate towards the person in the relationship with us is suffering from mental/emotional/behavior problem.

- Find out the truth of our feelings of love towards the person in the relationship with us.

Do we really love the person in the relationship with us, or we only love what we like and want from being in the relationship with someone? When 'we' feel angry/disappointed/betrayed/unhappy/hurt in a 'broken' relationship, it's really nothing to do with how the people in a relationship with us behave in the relationship, whether they didn't treat us nicely or they treat us badly, or how they want to feel, whether they feel love or don't feel love for us, or what is their decision/desire, whether to continue staying in or ending the relationship with us. When we feel angry/disappointed/betrayed/unhappy/hurt, it's because 'I don't like/want/agree with this' - Things are not being the way that we want it to be, or the relationship is not going to the direction that we want it to be.

If we truly know what is love, self love, unconditional love and what is relationship, then how we feel won't be determined by how other people behave or feel towards us and whether the relationship is perfect or imperfect. We would love and accept them as they are, even if they don't love us, or don't want to love us, or don't want to be in a relationship with us, or want to love someone else, or want to be in a relationship with someone else. We don't and shouldn't agree with or support or encourage any 'hurtful/wrongful/abusive' treatment or behavior from anyone, but at the same time, we don't have to be influenced or determined by other people's 'hurtful/wrongful/abusive' treatment and behavior. We won't do or say things that would hurt them or those whom they love. We also won't hurt ourselves in order to hurt them or make them feel bad/guilty/disturbed. We would wish everyone (whom we love or don't love) peace and happiness whether they love us/be nice to us, or not.

- Understand/Inquire the root cause of hurtful feeling in love relationship.

All hurtful feelings derived from ungratified desire of craving and aversion in our own mind (not getting what we like and want and getting what we don't like and don't want, and losing what we like and want), it's not caused by bad relationship/bad life experience of bad people/partner/spouse/lover and their wrong doings or bad behavior. It's how the mind reacts towards what it experiences or perceives that it doesn't like, doesn't want and doesn't agree with. It's the responsibility of the mind itself whether to be disturbed or be undisturbed by all the unpleasant/challenging experiences.

- If we truly love the person in the love relationship with us, we won't feel hurt even if they don't love us, or stop loving us, or love someone else.

Most minds/human beings are not perfect, full of ignorance, selfishness and impurities.

We would understand that due to ignorance and egoism, people would behave selfishly and irrationally, and be unloving towards the people in a relationship with them, regardless whether they think they love or don't love the person in the relationship with them. People would do and say things that would cause physical/mental/emotional pain, even when they think they love the person in the relationship with them, not to say especially when they don't really love the person in the relationship with them. We are hurting ourselves if we expect everyone to be perfectly 'good' and 'loving' the way that we think it should be, the way that we want them to be.

- Respecting the law of impermanence.

The nature of minds/feelings/relationship/togetherness is impermanence, forever changing.

Everyone has the freedom and rights to love or not to love someone, or stop loving someone whom they used to love. Feelings will change. What we want in life will change. Life will change. Condition and situation will change. There's nothing wrong with feelings changing from time to time. Most minds/human beings are not free from ignorance and egoism and are identifying strongly/passionately with fleeting feelings as 'who they are', their relationship with everyone and life existence are very much being influenced and determined by those fleeting feelings.

We would let go this relationship and the person in the relationship with us, in peace, if this relationship doesn't work, even when two people still love each other, but couldn't continue the relationship for some good reasons, not to say when one person in the relationship doesn't feel love for the other person and doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore, or prefer to love someone else and be with someone else.

We will wish the person in the relationship with us and the people whom they love/cherish peace and happiness. Ourselves would also have peace and happiness being free from anger, hatred, jealousy, regret, guilt, disappointment, dissatisfaction, or hurts.

- There is nothing wrong and it's okay and we have the freedom and rights to feel angry, disappointed and hurt, but we don't have to, if we understand.

If we feel angry, disappointed and hurt in a broken love relationship (when the relationship turns into something that we don't like and don't want, or the person in the relationship with us doesn't behave or feel the way that we expect/would like them to behave or feel,) it's because we think we love the person in the relationship with us, but we don't really love them. We don't even love ourselves. We only love what we like and want of what we experience/get from being in the love relationship the way that we like and want it to be.

We are the one who is selfish, as we have expectation towards how the relationship should be like and how the person in the relationship with us should feel or behave, or how they should treat us in the way that we like and want. And when we don't get what we like and want, and are getting what we don't like and don't want, or we are losing what we like and want towards the relationship and the love from the person in the relationship with us, we (the egoistic mind) feel betrayed, ill-treated, angry, jealous, dissatisfied, disappointed and hurt.

- Who is feeling hurt?

It's the ego, or the identification of 'I' who feels hurt by the perception of hurtful/wrongful/undeserving experiences under the influence of ignorance and egoism.

If the mind is free from ignorance (knowing the truth of suffering) and egoism (free from the idea of 'I', attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, judgment, comparison and expectation), this mind won't perceive hurtful/wrongful/undeserving experiences and react with hurtful feelings. This mind won't be/feel hurt by anything, even if the perceptions of names and forms or life experiences are very unpleasant and challenging, when everything is not the way that we would like it to be.

- Realize selflessness, the truth of 'I' and 'I am hurt by something hurtful'.

'I' and 'I am hurt by something hurtful' doesn't exist upon the realization of the truth. There's no 'I' existing. There's no one existing to be hurt, or experiencing hurt, or feeling hurt. There's no one needs to be healed from hurt. All experiences are just what they are, neither hurtful nor not hurtful, upon the annihilation of ignorance and egoism. If anyone still feels hurt by something being perceived as 'hurtful', and believes that 'I' need to be healed from hurt, it's due to ignorance and egoism.

- Realize non-separateness or oneness of unconditional love.

One doesn't need to rely/depend on receiving love/relationship/friendship/companionship/acknowledgement from anyone (not even 'God') to feel loved/confident/complete/satisfied/meaningful, if one realized non-separateness/oneness of unconditional love, without discrimination of self and not-self/others, conditions, possessiveness, attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, judgment, comparison, or expectation. There's no unhappiness, anger, hatred, jealousy, disappointment, dissatisfaction, or hurt. It doesn't matter we have or don't have any love relationship, and whether the love relationship turns out well or not well. One is still happy and peaceful as one is.

If we don't know what is love or how to love, we will only end up unwittingly and ceaselessly hurting ourselves and those whom we think we love very much, especially those in a relationship with us. It's because we don't love ourselves and we don't love those whom we think we love. We don't love anyone, not even 'God', we only love the desires of what we like and want.

Be free.