"Why the observation of solitude and seclusion or aloneness is highly important?"
That is because, during that few precious moments of being in the space of solitude, seclusion, or aloneness, under the absence of any other minds or beings, or the entire world, without physical/mental/emotional communication and interaction with any other minds (devoid of family/parents/siblings/relatives/friends/partner/children/communities/colleague/employer/employee/authority/rules and regulations/cultural and spiritual influences/worldly social ethical influences), one can be completely relaxed, opened, free, honest, and truthful, being what oneself is, allowing the selfless impermanent thoughts, feelings, and emotions being what they are, as they are, ceaselessly arising, changing, and passing away, under the absence of association, attachment, identification, craving, aversion, comparison, judgment, or expectation, under the absence of threats or punishments, devoid of unnecessary physical/mental/emotional tension, fear, limitation, restriction, dishonesty, untruthfulness, hypocrisy, pretentiousness, superiority or inferiority, pride or shame, good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative, appropriateness or inappropriateness, meaningfulness or meaninglessness, selfishness or unselfishness, should or shouldn't, offensiveness or defensiveness, and etc.
That is highly essential for the selfless conscious and unconscious evolution to be evolving towards constructive evolution, where the selfless thinking and acting mind can have a few moments of tension-free, or judgment-free, or expectation-free, or undisturbed, or quiet, or peaceful state of mind, to attain direct self realization towards knowing Thyself, of knowing the truth of selflessness, impermanence, limitation, conditional, and non-self in itself, in its selfless impermanent limited and conditional existence and function/modification/state of the mind, and in all kinds of names and forms and qualities, and hence, be free from ignorance, the idea of 'I', egoism, impurities, and restlessness, and the consequences of all that, of all kinds of painful mental and/or emotional disturbance or suffering, where there is absence of mental and/or physical activities/behaviors/actions/reactions that hurt oneself and others and the surrounding environment.
However, all that has to be initiated or happening under one's own self-initiative, out of one's own conscious freewill/desire/choice, and not by being forced/controlled/restricted/oppressed/punished/abandoned/outcast/discriminated by some others to be in a space of solitude, seclusion, or aloneness (confinement/imprisonment by forced), unwittingly and reluctantly, that go against one's conscious freewill/desire/choice, which only will agitate the mind even more violently, empowering impurities and restlessness, a.k.a. empowering the veil of ignorance and the by-products of ignorance.
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Even though there is no other minds or beings and affairs that involved some others in that space of aloneness that will allow the mind to be free, to just be what it is, to think or don't think, to feel or don't feel, to do what it desires to do and not doing anything that it doesn't desire to do, devoid of comparison, judgment, expectation, control, interference, oppression, restriction, or punishment coming from some others impose unto oneself, the mind will still be unwittingly and continuously generating unnecessary tension.
Even though, in the space of aloneness, the mind doesn't need to please anyone or prove to anyone about anything, because there is none other but oneself. But then the mind thinks, "I don't need to please anyone or prove to anyone about anything, but I can, and I need to please myself and prove to myself that I can do this and that, I can achieve this and that, and I can be this or that."
Similarly, there is no other minds or beings and affairs that involved some others in that space of aloneness, for the mind to generate likes or dislikes, agreements or disagreements, or desires of craving or aversion towards other minds or beings and affairs that involved some others. But then the mind thinks, "There is no other minds or beings and affairs involved some others for me to generate likes or dislikes, agreements or disagreements, and desires or don't desires, but I can like or dislike, agree or disagree with, and desire or don't desire towards myself, my mind, my body, and the surrounding environment (that is without anyone else but myself) being in certain way or not in certain way."
Even though there is no presence of anyone else and there is not any disagreeable undesirable unpleasant affairs or disturbing hurtful behaviors of others in the surrounding environment of the space of aloneness that appeared to be the reason for the mind to think and believe and feel, "It is because of you all and all your behaviors and all the affairs that are bad, wrong, disturbing, and hurtful, that's why I am disturbed, unhappy, dissatisfied, upset, angry, restless, hurt, and suffering."
Then the mind thinks, "Even though there is nothing happening and there is no one here now that is bad, wrong, disturbing, and hurtful, that will make me feel disturbed, unhappy, dissatisfied, upset, angry, restless, hurt, or suffering, but how come I am still in a disturbed, unhappy, dissatisfied, upset, angry, restless, hurt, and suffering state of mind, when I remember and think about all those past experiences and the images of some others that had made me feel disturbed, unhappy, dissatisfied, upset, angry, restless, hurt, and suffering in the last few seconds/minutes/hours, or yesterday, or last week, or last month, or last year, or many years ago?"
That will initiate the mind to inquire and understand about what is going on in itself, or in the selfless impermanent restless modification of the mind.
It is not the others, or the happenings, or the experiences, in the present moment or in the past, that are making the mind feel disturbed, unhappy, dissatisfied, upset, angry, restless, hurt, or suffering, but it is how the mind reacts in this present moment now towards all and everything that it perceives/experiences in the present moment, as well as how it reacts in this present moment now towards what it remembers and thinks about what it has been perceiving/experiencing, or what it perceived/experienced, that it doesn't like, that it doesn't agree with, that it doesn't desire, that it recognized as something bad and wrong, unpleasant and hurtful, or disturbing and undeserving.
The self realization deriving from performing self inquiry to be inquiring towards what is going on in the mind by the mind itself, will allow the mind to take full responsibility towards all its thinking, feelings, emotions, desires, behaviors, actions, and reactions, and the consequences of all that.
If I do this, this is the consequences. Maybe pleasant and constructive. Maybe unpleasant and destructive.
If I don't do this, this is the consequences. Maybe pleasant and constructive. Maybe unpleasant and destructive.
This is something painful, harmful, and destructive, that I don't, and I won't inflict unto myself and/or others and the surrounding environment.
It is my own responsibility towards what I do and don't do, and towards the consequences of what I do and don't do.
It is my own responsibility towards how I feel or don't feel, and how I react or don't react towards all and everything that I perceive/experience and what I don't get to perceive/experience, that I like or dislike, that I agree or disagree with, and that I desire or don't desire.
All minds have the freedom to be what they are, and what all minds are (what and how they think, believe, feel, desire, behave, act, and react, or not) cannot determine this mind being what it is.
All and everyone and everything are selfless, impermanent, limited, conditional, and non-self.
A healthy, peaceful, and harmonious personal physical and mental well-being, family, relationship, community, or society begins with the minds under the presence of such universal understanding or common sense.
It is not about controlling all and everyone to behave or don't behave in certain way under the control with threats/temptations of judgment and punishment/reward.
It is about allowing all and everyone, regardless of the small children, or young people, or adults, or elders, to be open to inquire towards the truth of everything, and attain direct correct understanding.
Allow and guide all the young people and children to be open, to be self initiative, to be independent (not just physically or financially, but also mentally and emotionally), to doubt, to agree and disagree, to desire or don't desire, to question, to inquire, to make mistake out of ignorance (without being judged and punished), to learn from their own mistake, to develop reasoning power and have correct understanding, that lead to constructive behavior in oneself and in the diverse communities, effortlessly.
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Respect the small children and young people, ask their opinion and permission, about everything, such as -
What do they think and feel or understand about themselves, their family, their parents, their siblings, their teachers, their classmates and schoolmates, their daily activities, their life, and the surrounding environment or the world that they perceive or experience?
Whether they want to do this and that, or not doing anything?
Whether they want to go here or there, or not going anywhere?
Whether they are hungry or thirsty, whether they want or don't want to eat or drink, and what or when they would like to eat or drink? Explain to them about the consequences of the different choices of food and drinks, while let them decide for themselves, and learn about responsibility and self independence.
Whether they are okay and happy, or not?
Whether they feel comfortable, safe, and at peace, or not?
Whether they are being disturbed or upset by something, or not?
And, if they are not okay and not happy, regardless of whether they understand or don't understand why they think and feel that they are not okay and not happy, ask their opinion and permission, about -
Whether they would like to be okay and be happy?
Whether they would like to have peace and peaceful happy relationship/interaction with all and everyone?
Whether they want to learn and know about something or anything, and if they want, what they would like to know or learn about?
Whether they want to be alone and have some privacy, to not communicate or interact with anyone for the time being?
And, whether they want other people around them to be okay and be happy as well?
Allow them to express their thoughts, thinking, feelings and emotions, understanding and non-understanding, likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements, or desires and don't desires, as they are, directly and honestly, without the tension of fear towards being judged, being criticized, being scolded, being punished, or being belittled/teased for being what they are, for non-understanding, for being ignorant, for making mistakes, for being direct and honest about expressing their thoughts or thinking, their feelings and emotions, their understanding and non-understanding/likes and dislikes/agreements and disagreements, and what they desire and don't desire.
Allow them to cry, to laugh, to be quiet, or to be active, to express themselves as they are. Let them learn how to allow the feelings and emotions being what they are, that there is neither right nor wrong, and understand that all are impermanent.
Allow them to recognize and understand about the impermanent level of low energy or high energy in their body and mind, and whether to take rest or to be active accordingly. Let them learn and understand about impermanence and non-self. Let them learn how to channel their excessive energy constructively.
Allow them to be open, to experience, to make mistake and learn from their own mistake, to doubt, to question, to inquire, and to understand towards what is going on in their mind, and whatever they perceive in the surrounding environment, and they don't have to blind-believe, blind-follow, blind-practice, blind-propagate anything from anyone, even if it's coming from their parents/elders/best friends/teachers, but to reason all and everything.
Allow them to learn how to become independent physically, mentally, and emotionally.
Allow them to develop physical/mental/emotional strength and flexibility, of patience, forbearance, perseverance, determination, adaptation, adjustment, accommodation, acceptance, letting go, non-attachment, non-identification, non-craving, non-aversion, non-clinging, non-comparison, non-judgment, and non-expectation, at their own pace, without forcing, out of their own freewill.
Allow them to be what they want to be, and not forcing them to be what they don't want to be.
Without fictional story telling, fairy tales, lies, untruthfulness, hypocrisy, politics, empty promises, fear sowing, threats, painful punishment, temptations, magic, miracle, or superstition. Let them see the world as it is, and develop reasoning power and right discrimination, without fear.
Without comparison, judgment, or expectation.
Without empowering egoistic ideas, attachment, and identification.
That they don't need to be somebody that possesses specific quality/condition/ability/achievement/pride to be happy and peaceful, or to be what they are, or to live life meaningfully.
That they don't need to please anyone or prove to anyone about anything, in order to attain love, attention, agreement, acknowledgement, approval, recognition, praise and compliment, or encouragement, to be what they are, to be happy and peaceful, or to live life meaningfully.
That they don't need to rely on receiving love, attention, agreement, acknowledgement, approval, recognition, praise and compliment, or encouragement from some others or all the others, to be what they want to be, or to do what they want to do, or to live life as it is.
That they themselves have the freedom to be what they are, and what they want to be, to have their own way of thinking, belief/disbelief, values, practices, desires and don't desires, likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements, understanding and don't understanding, behaviors, actions, and reactions, at their own responsibility, while allowing and respecting all the others also to be free to be what they are and what they want to be, to have their own way of thinking, belief/disbelief, values, practices, desires and don't desires, likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements, understanding and don't understanding, behaviors, actions, and reactions, at their own responsibility.
But they don't need to be determined by the many different types of thinking, belief/disbelief, values, practices, desires and don't desires, likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements, understanding and don't understanding, behaviors, actions, and reactions of all the others.
That they don't have to say yes to everything, and they can say no to something that they don't desire and disagree with.
That they can just do their best on what they can do and what they like to do, and do what is possible, without forcing or hurting themselves and/or others, and allowing the fruit of action to be what it is, that they are not being determined by the action and the fruit of action. It is okay that if they can't do something, or if it is not possible to do something, or if they didn't achieve what they wanted to achieve.
That they have the freedom to be what they are, to make their own choices, and to have their own desires and don't desires, and they are also being responsible towards the freedom of being what they are, their choice making, and their desires and don't desires, and be responsible towards the consequences of all that.
Allow them to learn how to look after themselves, and when they know how to look after themselves, they will also know how to look after all the others and the surrounding environment, naturally and efficiently.
Allow them to learn how to balance between activity and rest, to understand and respect the impermanent condition of the body and mind in the present moment now, to develop self management.
Once they know how to accept, respect, and be kind to themselves as they are, and have peace and happiness in themselves, under the presence of correct understanding or the absence of the idea of 'I' and egoism, not being determined or disturbed by all kinds of madness or ignorance in this world, then naturally, they will also know how to accept, respect, and be kind towards all the others, regardless of what and how all the others think, feel, behave, act, and react, or not.
Such minds won't hurt themselves, or others, or the surrounding environment, out of their own freewill and understanding, universal common sense, or conscience. Without obligation. Not because they have to. Not because they are being forced/threatened to behave or not behaving in certain way. Not because they need to please all and everyone and not offend or upset anyone.
Such children and young people will grow up into responsible understanding adults, friends, siblings, partners, lovers, parents, teachers, students, colleagues, members and/or leaders of the community or the world of many diversities that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.
Inquire the truth of everything.
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