Love without possessiveness

Most of the 'love' in this world, is possessive love.

Upon falling in love with something, one will also want to possess that something that one 'loves'. Upon possessing that something that one 'loves', one will also wants to 'control' that something that one 'loves' to be 'the way that one likes and desires it to be'.

"I love you. I want you to be mine. You are mine. You belongs to me. I want you to be good, and always good.

When you behave in the way that I don't like and don't desire and don't agree with, and when you don't behave in the way that I like and desire and agree with, or when you are not good, I am unhappy and angry, and I will punish and hurt you."

Similarly,

"I love this land. I want to keep this land to myself. This land is my land. This land is mine. This land belongs to me.

I love this animal. I want to keep this animal with me. This animal is my pet, my family. This animal is mine. This animal belongs to me.

I love my family, my partner, my children, my brothers and sisters, my community, my people, my pet, and my land.

When the animal, the land, the family, the partner, the children, the brothers and sisters, the community, and the people are the way that I don't like and don't desire and don't agree with, or when they are not the way that I like and desire and agree with, or when they don't give me what I want and they give me what I don't want, I am unhappy and angry, and I will punish and hurt them, because I want them to be good."

What love?

No love.

Only possessiveness and control.

Only anger and vengeance.

Only selfish desires and expectation.

"I don't love you or anything. I don't even love myself. I only love my desires of getting what I want, what I like, and what I agree with, and not getting what I don't want, what I don't like, and what I don't agree with."

Don't fall in love with anything or anyone, if one doesn't know what is love, and doesn't know how to love, but one will be hurting everything and everyone that one thinks one 'loves' very much, out of possessiveness and control and desires.

If one really wants to love, then

Love without possessiveness.

Love without desires of craving and aversion.

Love without control and expectation.

Love unconditionally, and let go.

 

Inquire the truth of everything.

There's no fear, guilt or regret upon the absence of ignorance

Fear, guilt and regret only exist in the minds under the presence of ignorance.

There's no fear, guilt or regret in the minds upon the absence of ignorance.

Those who want or have the need/urge/instinct to bully, manipulate and control some others through instilling fear, guilt and regret in others, they don't like to hear about mental and emotional independence, or freedom from ignorance and egoism, because then they can no longer bully, manipulate or control towards those who are mentally and emotionally independent, who are free from fear, guilt or regret, upon the absence of ignorance and egoism.

Bully, manipulation and control through instilling fear, guilt and regret in the minds, is something very common in many minds, in family, in parenting, in love relationships, in friendships, or in the community under certain cultural, spiritual, religious, political or national belief, values and practice.

The minds want to bully, manipulate and control other minds is due to fear exists in themselves. Those who are free from fear, they don't need to bully, manipulate or control anyone.

The world of human beings under the influence of ignorance and egoism, being the slaves of ignorance and egoism, causing lots of suffering in themselves and unto others, is not just madness, but also ridiculously amusing or hilarious.

The mind that is free from ignorance transcends all kinds of superstitious belief and practice. There's no magic. There are only tricks or hypnotism. If superstitious belief is true and powerful, if magic is real and powerful, and if hypnotism is so powerful, the world would be free from all kinds of suffering already, where all and everyone can attain liberation from ignorance and egoism instantly through superstitious belief and practice, magic or hypnotism. Instead, all these belief and practice are being used to be empowering ignorance and egoism for gratifying passionate egoistic greedy ambitious selfish desire and aspiration.

Inquire towards the truth of everything, and be free.