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Tuesday, July 30, 2013

My life stories - Part 11

My life Stories - Part 11
Stories from my past memories - childhood, family, friends, growing up, poverty, integrity, dreams come true, finding peace and happiness, Buddhism, Yoga, and now...

I wasn't interested in getting into any love relationships or thought of getting married to someone, before I met my husband in 2005. I was nearly 35 years old and had never been in any relationship before, not even went out for a romantic outing with anyone. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend or a husband.

I wasn't and am not perfect. I didn't and don't intend to be one. I don't have a nice personality or attractive appearance, and don't know how to behave appropriately when being in a relationship. My personality and behavior were far away from ladylike and gentleness. For many people, being direct and straightforward are being seen as bad attitude or weakness for socializing and interacting in the society. For countless times, I watched people always being friendly, polite and nice in front of some other people, but they can't hold their tongues to complain and criticize about other people behind their backs. Of course that's their freedom of thoughts, actions and speech. But, I'll stay away from this type of social interactions of hypocrisy and back-biting as much as possible.

In yoga practice, we purify our minds until there’s no ill-will or ill-thinking about anyone. There’s nothing to complain about or criticize anyone whether in front or behind their backs. When we criticize about others, it’s not because others are bad and wrong, or when we compliment others, it’s not because others are good and right, but it’s our mind being impure and project impurities of good and bad qualities onto everyone and everything that our minds perceive through the senses, under the influence of personal likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements based on what our egoistic minds believe what things are.

I never interested to make myself or my appearance to be attractive to attract anyone's attention and liking. If anyone doesn't like me or disagree with my way of thinking and behavior, and if people feel intimidated or offended by my presence, I'll let them be and I'll stay away so that they will have peace. Those who suffer from low self-esteem will easily feel intimidated or offended by anyone and anything, even though nobody is intentionally being intimidating or offensive towards anyone. It has to come from their own effort to be free from low self-esteem, which is part of the egoism. If anyone wants to create unnecessary problems, I'll leave immediately, and let them take the responsibility for the consequences of their actions. If anyone doesn't appreciate me or doesn't want to be in my life anymore, I'll let them go. I don't expect anyone to be nice to me and love me. I never try to please anyone so that they will love me or be nice to me. People will be nice to me and love me if they want, as they like, out of their free will. And I will be grateful and thankful for their love and kindness for me.

Compassion is not about trying to please everyone to make them feel good, happy and comfortable, by giving them whatever they like and want, to gratify their desires of craving and aversion. But it's to allow everyone to be aware of what is going on in their minds, and realize the truth to be free from ignorance and egoism, and transcend suffering and realize unconditional love and peace that is not coming from anyone or anything outside this body and mind, but it's beyond the impermanent life existence, beyond the body and mind, beyond all our actions and inactions, beyond all the good and bad qualities of name and form, and beyond all our relationships with everyone and everything. It's from within oneself unconditionally when one is free from ignorance and egoism.

My husband said that I am a strange person and beyond confident. I rarely look into the mirror as I don't mind at all how I look. I also don't mind about how other people look at me and what they think of me. I am neither highly confident nor over confident, as I don't need to feel confident at all. I don't feel bad about myself, and I don't think I am better than any others. It's okay if others want to look down on me, that's their freedom, but I don't look down on anyone. What others want to think, act and say about other people is their freedom of thinking, action and speech, but what others think, act and say about me cannot determine what I am and am not. I don't look up to anyone either. I respect all my teachers and appreciate those who inspire me, but I don't try to become like them. I don't need to agree or disagree with everyone with many different types of thinking and behavior. I respect everyone as they are, even if my mind thinks that they are not good and not right based on what my mind believes what is good and bad, right and wrong. And I admire nobody, even when my mind thinks that they are great and wonderful, based on what my mind believes what is great and wonderful. Most of the time, I don't comment about anything and anyone.

There's nothing wrong to give praise and compliments to others to encourage people to do good and continue to improve, but the one who needs encouragement of praise and compliments from others to motivate it to do good and continue to improve is the ego, and by giving the ego what it likes and wants won't help to eliminate the ego, but it's feeding and strengthening the ego instead. That's why in traditional yoga classes, the teacher rarely gives praise and compliments, it isn't that the teacher is arrogant or doesn't appreciate the students' good performances, but it's not to feed and strengthen the ego of the yoga students. Those who are really practicing yoga don't need any praise and compliments from anyone to motivate them to do good and continue to improve.

In many families in the modern society, when the parents want to ask the children to be doing something for themselves or for other people, the parents will try to encourage or motivate the children by giving them something that they like and want as rewards after they have done what they were asked to do. It's about performing actions in exchange for something in return. There's nothing wrong with that. But, this is completely the opposite of the teachings of yoga. The children will grow up with the idea that they will only be motivated to do something only if they can get something that they like and want in return. Or else they won't be motivated to do anything, even if it's something beneficial for themselves. In yoga, we perform actions for ourselves and for others out of our free-will and loving kindness, without expecting something that we like and want in return.

And so, it's not easy to be friend with me, not to say for anyone to be in a relationship with me and shares life with me. I do my best to be kind to others, but not in the way that what other people expect kindness to be like. Instead, people might think that I am being unkind to them. But that's their freedom of thinking and reaction.

Once, I went through a serious purification process where lots of rash and pimples appeared on my face and my whole body for more than one and a half years, I didn't feel bad or worry, and didn't try to do something to get rid of them. My husband saw me in such condition for many months, and he wanted to give me some money to go to a beauty salon to get some treatments, but I said to him, "No need. They will go away one day." And they went away months later.

I only use hair shampoo once or twice a month and everyday I take shower with water only. I use soap only for washing my hands. My travelling wash bag contains only a toothbrush and toothpaste.

I don't need to celebrate birthdays or anniversaries. I don't have a wedding ring or wedding photos. My husband once made a ring out of straw that he picked up from the ground while we were travelling in Varanasi and he gave it to me and told me that we were 'officially' married. On another time he secretly put three Bodhi leaves in my diary because I told him it was my first time saw a Bodhi tree when we were travelling in Rishikesh. I only realized the Bodhi leaves were there when I opened my diary a few days later. He also gave me three river stones that he found at the riverbank of the Ganges in Rishikesh. My husband doesn't need to give me material things as presents as I am not interested in material things or presents. He doesn't need to give me anything to show that he loves me, or for me to feel loved by him, or for me to love him. I love him as he is. I only appreciate life every moment, from day to day. I live everyday as it is and step by step. I don't have future plans. I don't need to own properties or things. I don't need to have enjoyments. People like to say that we should do things that will make us happy, but I don't need to do anything special that can make me happy, as I don't need to feel happy. I am happy as I am.

I'll share the stories from the past if it would help others to find a way to peace and freedom. But, I leave the past at where they belonged, I don't keep them in the present. There will always be changes and unexpected happenings in life, some pleasant and unpleasant experiences, and people coming and going. I do my best to have peace in myself and stay away from meaningless and energy wasting human-made troubles as much as possible, and channel my life existence and energy to practice and teach yoga, and cultivate thoughts of may all be free from ignorance and have peace.

My husband is very different from me. He was gentle and romantic. My husband once tried to be romantic and sang a love song to me, but I thought he was just humming a song for himself, and I didn't pay any attention to him and his singing. When he told me about it later, I said to him that I would try to learn to be more sensitive towards his love and affection for me.

I had been living on my own for many years, but I never felt lonely. And I fully enjoyed those peaceful and quiet moments being with myself. I have some good friends, and occasionally, I would visit them at their homes, or go out with them to have a coffee or lunch gathering. In the past, I didn't have to tell or inform anyone about how I feel, what I am doing, where I am going, or when I will be coming back home, until my husband came to Malaysia to be with me in 2007. My parents never questioned me about all these things. It wasn't that they didn't care, but they didn't need to worry for me at all.

I wasn't and aren't skillful in social interaction, or to engage in any social conversations. Most probably it's because I was never interested in socializing, mingling, or accumulating personal friendships. Socializing, mingling and chit-chatting are good for worldly social interaction and public relation, but it is detrimental for yoga and meditation practice. It stimulates the thought waves and strengthens the worldly attachments, identifications and ideas, and empowering the desires of craving and aversion. Just list out what people usually talk about in a social conversation, and see how much our minds are being influenced and affected by all those daily conversations about worldly matters. And we might realize what is the cause for our minds being over stimulated and suffer from restlessness, and from where we have been accumulating lots of physical, emotional and mental tension that we need to de-stress or unwind ourselves from time to time. I never need to do something special to unwind myself, as I seldom accumulate unnecessary tension.

In most conversations, many people like to ask or want to know about the past and the future. Most people want to be friendly by starting a social interactive conversation, where they want to talk about themselves and also to hear other people talk about their stuffs, they want to give their opinions and also to hear other people's opinions, they want to know about other people and want to be known by other people as well. There's nothing wrong with the worldly social interactions between human beings. But in yoga practice, it's about knowing oneself. It's not about knowing other people or want to be known by other people. Minds that are conditioned by worldly thinking and ideas might think that it is a form of selfishness when some people don't show interest to know about others. But in yoga, one practices disinterest in worldly affairs as well as other people's affairs. It isn't that yoga practitioners don’t care for what is happening to the world and other people, but one must take care of one’s mind first before one can care for the world and others efficiently.

When one’s mind is free from ignorance, egoism, attachment, identification, desires, craving, aversion and all sorts of impurities, and realizes unconditional love and peace in oneself, being firmly resting in peace undisturbed by all the qualities of names and forms, then naturally, without any intention or expectation, one will be contributing peace into the world by stop generating unrest and disharmony into the world. By taking care of oneself, to have peace in oneself, is actually loving and caring for the world and the society.

One must learn about oneself and know about oneself by quieting and purifying the mind through self-introspection and self-discipline, and then one will know how to love and care for oneself, before one can actually know about others, and love and care for others. The entire society will become more peaceful and harmony when everyone learns about oneself, knows oneself, and loves and cares for oneself.

Instead of wasting energy in socializing or talking about worldly ideas and affairs, I conserve energy for practicing and teaching yoga. Talking about worldly ideas and affairs won't help anyone to be free from worldly identifications and attachments towards worldly names and forms, and it won't make the world to be a better place. In fact, talking about this and that will stimulate the mind, and it doesn't help to quiet the mind. Yoga and meditation practice is mainly to quiet the mind. The states of the world will change towards peace and harmony only if each and everyone who are existing and living in the world has self-awareness and self-control, to make an effort to change themselves to purify and quiet their minds, to be free from ignorance and egoism. The world is just what it is. It is neither good nor bad. It's the occupants of the world that are projecting good and bad qualities into the world and contributing peace or unrest into the world. The one who is pure, being free from good and bad qualities, perceives the world as it is.

Though I am not interested in accumulating personal social friendships, I do my best to be friendly to all. I don't discriminate people into friends or not friends. There's no special treatment towards certain people. Those who think they deserve to be treated in certain ways that they think they should be treated, they will only be disappointed by their own expectation. But it's people's freedom if they want to discriminate everyone into friends and not friends, and have expectation towards how other people should act and react, behave and response according to their own practices, beliefs and values, and they feel annoyed or offended by other people who have different actions and reactions, different behaviors and responses being influenced by different practices, beliefs and values.

In the teachings of yoga, friendliness is being kind and compassionate towards all and everyone without ill-will, prejudice or bias towards anyone and without discrimination of friends and not friends, likes and dislikes, good or bad behavior people. We have self-control over our actions and speech to stop generate actions and speech that will cause unrest and disharmony in others or in the society. We constantly be aware of the impurities in our minds, and unceasingly purify our minds to be free from all sorts of impurities, so that we won't hurt ourselves and others out of the influence of impurities like anger, hatred, jealousy, greed, dissatisfaction, disappointment, pride, arrogance, desires, lust, feelings of hurts, doubt, fear and worry.

There's no possessiveness or attachment towards anyone to be 'my friend'. There's no expectation towards friendships for getting something that we want, like attention, acknowledgement, companionship, interaction, trust, care and support, or getting rid of something that we don't want, like loneliness and boredom. There's no expectation towards others that people have to be friendly and nice to us. We allow everyone to be friendly and nice to us, or not. We don't feel offended when we don't get the appropriate reactions that what most people expect to be getting from other people. We don't expect people should react and behave in certain ways according to our own thinking, social ethics, cultural values, belief and practice. We respect all and everyone to be different from us for having different personalities, characteristics, behaviors, opinions, values, policies, thinking and beliefs. We don't try to interfere with, or to control, or to change other people to be the way that we think they should be, but allowing everyone to be the way as they are.

If people feel hurt or disturbed by other people's actions and reactions, that is their own responsibility coming from how their minds react towards all the perceptions of names and forms, influenced by their egoism, attachment, identification, craving, aversion and expectation based on their own particular conditioned thinking and beliefs. Those who are free from egoism, attachment, identification, craving, aversion and expectation based on certain conditioned thinking and beliefs, will not be hurt or disturbed by anything or anyone.

Being in a relationship and to share living space with another person was a great challenge for me in the beginning. There were lots of things I needed to learn, to adjust, to adapt, to accommodate, to tolerate, to accept, to let go of selfishness and the ego. But all these are parts of our yoga practice. And I am still learning.

My husband is a good man and a good husband. He is very friendly, kind-hearted and generous. It is very good karma to have him in my life. He loves me very much, and I appreciate his love for me and I love him as he is.

Before my husband came to Malaysia to be with me, I was teaching aerobics dance classes in and around Kuala Lumpur for living, while he was working in a refuge in the Pyrenees in France.

We met each other for the first time in the Sivananda Dhanwantari Yoga Vedanta Ashram in South India, where we did the International Yoga Teachers Training Course in January 2005.

Without any intentions, we talked about yoga and Buddhism for a few times during the one month course. I never asked him where he came from, where he lived, what he did in the past, what he was doing then, or who he was in general. I didn't even know what nationality he has. I never interested in knowing about the past, or try to know anyone from where they come from, or what they do, or who they are.

He stayed back in the Ashram for another few months after the course ended, while I came back to Malaysia, continued to teach aerobics dance classes and yoga classes. I wrote him a letter sent to the Ashram after I came back, as I felt that he needed Dhamma at that time. The letter was all about Dhamma, there's nothing romantic at all. He told me later that the letter meant a lot to him, and he had kept the letter with him all the time wherever he went, until now.

Without any intentions, we both attended the Advance Teachers Training Course in February 2006. My initial plan was to stay back in the Ashram to perform selfless service for three months after the course ended. I would stay longer if I had more money. But the savings that I had was only just enough for the course and for staying in the Ashram for three more months. I didn't know that my plan would change, and my life too. A few days later after we met again for the second time, he asked me if I wanted to travel with him in India learning more yoga and meditation under different schools and teachers. I didn't answer him at that time because I wanted to stay in the Ashram after the course, and I couldn't afford to go travelling somewhere else. We kept a distance with each other in the Ashram as we respect the Ashram's rule of male and female students' segregation, and we didn't say anything about it anymore.

Just a few days before the course finished, a spontaneous thought arose in my mind during one of the evening Satsang meditation sessions, that if he came to me right after the meditation finished and asked me to travel with him in India, then I would go with him. But if he didn't come to me that night and didn't ask me that question at that time, then I wouldn't go with him, but stay in the Ashram for the next three months. And miraculously, as everyone was leaving the meditation hall, he was waiting for me at the exit and he grabbed my hand and pulled me to the side and asked me in the dark, "Do you want to travel with me in India?" And I said yes. So, we went travelling together in India after the course ended. We spent two and a half months together, where we came to know each other deeper. We both got really sick from food poisoning for a month from the first day we arrived in Delhi. During that time, we took turn to take care of each other at our worst condition.

Then he went back to France, while I came back to Malaysia without any expectation that we would see each other again. I mentioned to him before, that he could come to Malaysia to teach yoga with me if he wanted. We didn't really have any contacts since then.

He went back to India for the third time in the end of 2006, while I was in Malaysia. I didn't go to India. Nine months later after the last time we saw each other, he called me from India one afternoon, telling me that he had booked a flight to come to Malaysia. He came in February 2007 and never left. We got married in the end of 2008.

All relationships and life experiences will have ups and downs. It's subject to impermanence or changes. When two people who come from different cultural backgrounds with different personalities come together, there will be some conflicts arise from time to time. It depends on the depth of our understanding, acceptance, adaptation, adjustment, accommodation, tolerance, forgiveness and letting go, for us to be able to stay cheerful and happy in life, disregard all the agreements and disagreements, likes and dislikes, ups and downs in life and in the relationship. But most important is we need to know what we really want in life for ourselves.

My mother tongue is Cantonese, and my second languages are Mandarin and Malay. Before my husband came to Malaysia living with me, I seldom spoke English in daily conversations except when I taught classes I used very simple and minimal English. My husband and I had many misunderstanding especially in the beginning because my English comprehension was really limited and I also have bad hearing due to constant shouting to teach aerobics classes under the loud music. My husband speaks very softly. I had to ask him to repeat his sentences again and again. It was frustrating for him. I used to talk very loud and fast, which was really difficult for my husband because he has sensitive hearing and suffers from tinnitus. He suffered a lot from my loud speaking. As years past by, I started to speak more softly and slowly. And my husband had to keep correcting my English pronunciations and the usage of tenses. It took me few years to learn to pronounce words like egg, eight, three, world, girl, file, wild, duck, abdomen, buttocks, wrists, necessarily, vocabulary, probably, and etc. Even now after many years speaking in English, I am still having trouble pronouncing words like thought, thigh, they and there. When I speak in English, I am actually translating directly from Chinese. And there are no tenses in Chinese language. My husband said that he couldn't understand me and constantly misunderstood what I wanted to say because I didn't know how to use the correct pronunciation and tenses to tell my stories or when I wanted to say something. But we understood that very well, and we learned to be patient and accommodate each other when we talked to communicate.

It didn't and doesn't matter to me about how other people perceive me, as I am what I am. I accept and love myself as I am. I don't live my life according to the worldly thinking, beliefs, and current trends, to meet up other people's expectation, neither will I try to please anyone by pretending to be somebody whom I am not. If people don't like something or everything about me, it's their freedom. Everyone is responsible for their own happiness and unhappiness. Nobody can make another person happy or unhappy. If people want to be happy, no one can make them unhappy. If people want to be unhappy, no one can make them happy. When people feel happy is because they are getting something that they like and want, and are not getting what they don't like and don't want. When people feel unhappy is because they are getting something that they don't like and don't want, and are not getting what they like and want. It's not because things or people are being good or bad, nice or not nice. Even my husband's likes and dislikes, and his mind perception about me also cannot determine me, or change me, for what I am and how I think, act and feel. And I can't make my husband happy. Neither can he make me happy. We are happy as we are.

Most of the time, the truth is not something agreeable or pleasant to the minds that are not free from attachment and identification towards certain conditioned thinking and beliefs influenced by ignorance and egoism. Most people perceive their own reality under the influence of conditional thinking and beliefs, they don't see the truth as it is. Those who are not free from ignorance and egoism might have heard about the truth from others, but they might not like the truth, or don't agree with the truth realized by others. Because they haven't realized the truth through their own realization. They perceive everything based on their own thinking and beliefs and they live in their own personal reality. And people shouldn't believe in the truth realized by others, even if it's coming from Buddha or any saints and sages. Everyone has to realize the truth by themselves.

People want and expect the truth to be something that they like and want, that is agreeable to their own personal worldly thinking and beliefs. Everyone who attached to different thinking and beliefs would perceive their own personal reality differently from one another. Everyone has their own perception of reality that is being different from one another and there's nothing wrong with that. But the universal truth is still the one same truth whether people like and agree with it, or not, whether people think and believe it's the truth, or not. As the truth is not a belief, or intellectual analysis. It's the way of how things are, as they are. But most people don't want things to be what they are, but they want things to be the way that how they like and want it to be, or the way that they think it should be.

This also shows that how kind and loving is my husband for him to love me and accept me as I am. It's a great challenge for him to be in a relationship with me and to share life with me.

That's also why I am never interested in joining any 'groups'. I am free to be who I am, as I am. And I am free from getting involve in gossips, vain talks, conflicts, condemn, criticism, and so on. When we have bad things to say about others, it's not because others are being bad and wrong, but it's because our minds are not pure. If our minds are pure, there's no bad thing to say about others, even if we are aware of something that isn't good and right about someone based on what our minds believe as good and bad, right and wrong. Worldly minded people might think that being silence towards things that are bad and wrong is supporting all those bad and wrong things. But, what people think and believe as good and bad, right and wrong, is very subjective, it's not necessarily the truth of what things are. By being vocally and physically violent towards something that is bad and wrong won't change the reality of those things being bad and wrong. But everyone must develop self-awareness and self-introspection in themselves to be aware of their own minds, to be initiative and make an effort to purify their own minds, and have self-control over their own thinking, actions and speech.

By telling people that they are ignorant or wrong and bad, won't make people stop being ignorant or wrong and bad. It has to come from their own self-awareness and self-control.

I do things in my own ways and at my own pace. There's no stress or tension. I'm not greedy to run a bigger retreat centre with higher capacity and income. We do everything by ourselves (my husband and I) within our own capacity. We don't need to rely on any 'employees' to run the yoga retreats. As it won't be the same. It will become a business, with higher expenses and costs. We do all the teachings, cooking, driving, accommodation arrangement, emails response, website updates, cleaning, washing, maintenance, and shopping all by ourselves.

If some people don't understand about what we do, we don't expect that they should understand. If people aren't really interested in the traditional yoga practice about quieting the mind through the annihilation of ignorance and egoism, and they don't have the humility to learn and practice yoga, but they are only interested in joining some fitness yoga exercise classes, and they are not interested in our yoga retreats or what we teach, that's their freedom. We will suggest to them to go to some other yoga fitness centres that might provide cheap and cheerful yoga exercise classes. As these people are not really interested in learning and practicing yoga. There are many yoga asana instructors in the world that will provide fitness yoga exercise classes to these people who only interested in doing some stretching, strength and flexibility fitness workout, to be able to do many yoga asana poses that they want to be able to do, and to look good and feel good about themselves. There's nothing wrong with that and it's their freedom. We would appreciate very much to have the free time to focus on our own personal practice.

Many people said that they are interested in yoga and they want to learn yoga, but when they hear the teachings of yoga about letting go of egoism, attachment, identification, desires, craving and aversion, either their minds will start to be opened towards what they didn't know before, and be able to see what is going on in their minds, or their minds will be rejecting what they don't know, or what is contradicted to their existing thinking and beliefs, and they want to runaway from what they minds don't like and don't agree with. The stronger the ego is, the stronger the rejection towards the teachings of yoga about the annihilation of the ego will be.

I am responsible for my own thoughts, actions and speech within my own efforts, with self-awareness, self-discipline and conscience. I am always truthful to myself and others. I accept myself as I am, and I love myself as I am. I don't need to be hypocrite or tell lies to justify myself to anyone. I respect other people who have their own different thinking, beliefs and behaviors. I don't apply my own way of thinking, belief and behavior onto other people. I allow everyone to be different from me, and from one another. If other people don't like the way that I am, or disagree with the teachings of yoga, that's their freedom.

I just do my best within my ability and limitation. Some people being optimistic and they think and believe that they can change the world, that's their freedom. But even Buddha never claimed that being enlightened and be free from ignorance and suffering could change the world. Buddha didn't have intention to change the world or have expectation that the world will be changed by his enlightenment, his presence, or by the teachings of Buddhism. He just shared the path towards liberation. Naturally, one will be contributing peace and harmony into the world and stop contributing unrest and disharmony into the world, when one attains unconditional love and peace being free from ignorance and suffering.

Although I don't belong to any groups, but I respect everyone has their own groups, where they think they belong to, or if people feel the need to attach onto certain identifications and to obtain certain recognition to be who they are. Some people think that they need to mix into certain groups and be accepted by those groups, to feel that those are the places where they belong, to interact and share something in common among the people in those groups.

Some people join certain groups for getting some personal gains, or business exchange and benefits. But then they will complain that they are not free to be who they are, and are being 'pressured' or 'forced' to do things the way that the groups believe how things should be done. As by joining certain groups, there are some standards and qualities, or rules and regulations in the groups that the members have to comply to and be recognized as being part of them, or else they will be criticized, or condemned, or expelled. You'll have to be like them or behave like them, and you are not free to be yourself anymore. You and your life are being observed by others all the time, and are bound to play by the rules of the games or activities once you joined any groups.

Some people don't like and don't agree with the way we are, as they can't understand why we want to keep very low profile, that we are not eager to promote our yoga retreats, and they would try to give us many advices about how we should run our yoga retreats and how to live our lives, even though we never interested to ask anyone for any advice. We let them be free to express their minds to give their opinions. But then when they realize that we are happy with the way as we are and have no interest to follow any of their advices, they would feel offended and disrespected. In yoga practice, we refrain ourselves from this type of egoistic action and reaction with attachment and expectation influenced by worldly thinking, concepts and ideas.

I have no greed to get any 'helps' or 'benefits' from any 'groups' to 'enhance' or 'improve' our social life, or life condition, or income. If I need to do something or to attain something, I depend solely on my own effort to get things done. Or else, I don't. It doesn't matter if I didn't get what I wanted. I don't let other people to determine or control my life and my freedom about how I should live life and how I should feel and express myself. I also don't need any encouragement, acknowledgement, support, or companionship from some other people or friends to motivate me to do something that I want to do.

No doubt that the existence of everything and everyone is inter-dependent on many others. But, everyone has to work independently towards liberation. When serious Sadhaka advance in their practice, they will renounce the world and go into seclusion for at least five or six years cutting off all kinds of communications with family and friends completely. Nowadays, many people who identify themselves as 'yoga practitioners' or 'yogis', who say that they love yoga and like doing a particular style of yoga asana practice, they are not really interested in dispassion and renunciation. And that is their freedom of what they want to do with their life existence.

I believe in the one same nature in everything, which is the truth of impermanence and selflessness. I see the same nature in everything, despite all the different qualities of name and form that exist in everyone, that generate separateness, likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements. From separateness, there arise craving and aversion, conflicts, discrimination, fear, anger, hatred and jealousy in us. Though I do things in my own way, I don't feel myself as an individual being separated from any other beings even though I don't join any groups or attach onto certain identifications to be who I am. I don't need to obtain any recognition or support from any social groups to be somebody.

What I do and don't do is just actions and inactions, it's not who I am. Whatever I experienced in the past and am experiencing now, it's not who I am. Whatever qualities I had or didn't have in the past, and what qualities I have or don't have in the present, it's not who I am.

I have no expectation towards life, or towards myself and other people, or in my relationships with anyone. Neither will I be disappointed with myself or other people, as I don't expect anything. By having expectation won't change the reality that I don't like into something that I prefer, and I am not interested at all to change other people to be the way that I think they should be.

I live in the present moment. I don't have much desires, almost none. I am contented as I am. I allow the universe to bring me whatever and wherever. I have no fear and worry towards 'what's next' or 'what if'. I let the universe to take care of everything. I just need to do my best, perform all my duties and responsibilities. I do my best to help people around me, like my family and friends and people who come to learn about yoga, but I can't help anyone if people don't help themselves. If people don't help themselves, I'll let them be. It's their freedom of what they want to do with themselves and their lives.

I am not determined by the result or the fruit of actions. There's no success nor failure, no praise nor condemn, that can motivate or demotivate me to perform actions, or not. I don't need any acknowledgment, recognition, approval, appreciation, gratefulness and thankfulness from anyone to motivate me to perform actions, to feel happy and meaningful, or not.

And so, it's really not easy to deal with or to live with a person like me. As I can be very 'stubborn' or 'hard' in my own way. Or some might say this is self-centred. I let people think what they want to think, and say what they want to say, and I am still what I am. I never try to please anyone and I don't need anyone to please me. It's not that I don't care for others. But I don't try to interfere with others' freedom to be what and how they are. I allow people to be happy or unhappy, and to take full responsibility for themselves. I have no intention to make anyone unhappy or to hurt anyone deliberately. I wish everyone peace and happiness. I wish everyone be free from unhappiness and suffering. But I can't and don't make people become peaceful and happy. People are peaceful and happy is because they are free from ignorance and they allow themselves to be peaceful and happy. I let everyone to be what they are. I can't control or dictate their thinking and feelings, what they like and dislike, what they want and don't want. If they want to be ignorant or unhappy, and attach to qualities of name and form to be who they are, I'll let them be.

I am happy as I am. This is why I am always cheerful and lighthearted even if there's some challenging situations arise in my life, as I am not disturbed or determined by my pleasant and unpleasant life experiences, and undetermined by other people's judgments, opinions, likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements. If my mind is ever being disturbed by certain names and forms, I could let it go very fast.

I take full responsibility for the consequences of my decisions and actions made. There are no regrets. If the consequences of my decisions or actions are unpleasant, I take them as they are. Most of the time, good and right decisions and actions are not necessarily bringing pleasant consequences. Life experiences can be very unpleasant and difficult, but it doesn't mean that we did something wrong or bad.

Yoga and meditation and Buddhism practice is practical in every moment in life while we experience happiness and unhappiness, pleasant and unpleasant experiences in life and in relationships with anyone (including the relationship with ourselves, our body and mind). The practice is in the present moment now, being aware of the reality as it is and accepting the reality as it is, without generate attachment or identification, without craving or aversion towards the qualities of name and form that our mind perceives through the senses. There's no such thing as "I did a lot of yoga and meditation practice in the past", or "I do lots of yoga or meditation", or "I am going to practice yoga and meditation in the future".

I share what I am with the guests who come for our yoga retreats. I don't teach yoga to other people according to what we learned from the yoga teachers training course curriculum or the teaching manual, or from reading yoga books, or from hearing from somebody else about what is yoga and how they teach yoga.

Whatever I am and am not, whatever I do and don't do, it's not who I am. It's all nothing but impermanent changes of qualities of names and forms.

May all be free, be peaceful.

Om shanti.

For more stories about our relationship, you can read on this link Love Came Slowly

Monday, July 29, 2013

Yoga, India, Indian, Hinduism?

Some good yogis feel 'yoga' is being manipulated. They want to protect the lineage of ‘authentic yoga’. They insist that yoga belongs to India, or Indians, or Hinduism. I respect what they think and believe - according to history the practice of 'yoga' did start in India, and was rooted in Hinduism.

But even though the practice of yoga originated in India that doesn’t mean that yoga only belongs to India, or Indians, or Hindus. Yoga is for all of humanity. It exists in the universe for all beings to transform spiritually, to be liberated from suffering.

Being in India, or being an Indian, or being a Hindu doesn't guarantee us peace and compassion or enlightenment. If it did then every Indian, or Hindu or anyone in India would know yoga and have attained self-realization, there wouldn’t be any ignorant beings, and suffering would not exist in India, or for Indians, or for Hindus.

If yoga belongs to India and Hinduism, then no one else but only Indian and Hindus can be 'allowed' or 'qualified' or 'authorized' to realize yoga of selflessness, or compassion and unconditional peace, to be free from suffering, while all the others who are not Indian or Hindu will never realize yoga, or be selfless, compassionate and peaceful, or be free from suffering. But, yoga doesn't belong to anyone with a particular quality of name and form. All and everyone are subject to the suffering of impermanence and selflessness, and anyone also can realize selflessness and be free from suffering upon liberation from ignorance. Just like if 'God' exist, 'God' doesn't belong to anyone.

Although we all live in different regions in the world, have different nationalities or skin colour, features, or cultures, or language, or beliefs and religious influences, we all come from the same source.

How can we limit and condition yoga to a certain region and religion when the basic teaching of yoga is oneness or non-separateness? What is the difference between this religion and that religion, or being religion-less? What is the difference between this nationality and that nationality on this tiny little earth compared to all the other planets in the universe? Even though we all have different beliefs, religions (or not), characteristics, personalities and appearances we are all living beings sharing the same space in the universe, dependent on the elements of fire, wind, water, earth and space to exist. Beyond names and forms our true nature is the same. We are not different nor separated from one another.

Yoga exists in all beings regardless of where we are, who we are, what we are or how we are.

The teachings of yoga and Buddhism are all about selflessness, non-dualism, oneness, attributelessness, namelessness and formlessness. Even though the practice might be different, the end of the practice is not different from each other.
If this is not what yoga is - oneness or non-separateness, then I don't want to practice 'yoga' nor share 'yoga' with other beings. Those who think 'yoga' belongs to them can keep their 'yoga' for themselves.
When the Buddha attained enlightenment he never claimed that he founded Buddhism, nor do the teachings and practice of Buddhism belong to any race, sect or caste, nationality, or religion, or being. It always existed in all beings regardless of the differences of names and forms, or whether beings are separated by time, space and causation, and whether we realize Dhamma or not. The Dhamma of Buddhism existed before Buddha realized the truth and became enlightened. Buddha didn't own the teachings of Buddhism or Dhamma. Dhamma doesn't belong to anyone or any place. Anyone and everyone, even the most ignorant beings, or the most evil beings in the universe, can realize Dhamma and attain enlightenment. It is within every being and beyond time, space and causation. Other beings in other regions of the world attained enlightenment before and after Buddha.

Even though the Buddha came from India, attained enlightenment in India, and taught Buddhism in India, dhamma didn't originate in India. Dhamma does not come from a geographical region or era - it is beyond time and space. Dhamma does not belong to anyone.

Om shanti.

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Namaste - Respect all beings as they are...

When we put the palms together in front of our heart, and say 'Namaste' to greet somebody, it also symbolizes the Dharma about respect all beings as they are, and there's no differences nor separateness between us and all beings.

'Respect' in the path of yoga and meditation, is seeing the true and pure nature in all beings, and able to accept everyone as they are, beyond all the different qualities of names and forms that generate separateness and distinguish everyone from one another.

We respect all beings even though we might not agree with their thinking and beliefs, nor support their actions or behaviors.

When we think we need to show 'respect' to those who are elder than us, who are smarter or better experience than us, or who are higher ranking or higher social class than us, who are more important or superior than us, who had helped us and be kind to us, and at the same time we expect ourselves to be respected by those who are younger than us, who are less smart or less experience than us, or those who we think they are lower ranking or lower social class than us, who are less important or inferior than us, and we cannot respect anyone who had not helped us nor be kind to us, who we think and believe they are bad or evil, then this is not the same type of 'respect' that we are talking about in the path of yoga and meditation.

In the path of yoga and meditation, the act of 'respect' is free from superiority and inferiority, likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements, nor being influenced or determined by the qualities of names and forms, as we see the same universal consciousness in all and everyone.

We show respect to all and everyone as they are, whether human beings or non-human beings, whether good behavior beings or bad behavior beings, whether we agree with them or not, whether we like them or not, whether they are older or younger than us, whether they are higher or lower ranking and social status than us, whether they are richer or poorer than us, disregard what are their race, caste, sect, culture, work, achievements, physical condition and appearance, gender, family and educational background, religious background, nationality, personality, beliefs, friends or not friends, those who like us or dislike us, those who love us or hate us, those who are kind to us or unkind to us, those who praise us or criticize us, and etc.

Only when we know the real meanings of 'respect', we then can be truly compassionate, as there's no more the sense of separateness, superiority or inferiority in us, and this will allow us to be able to be kind and compassionate towards all beings, without being influenced by the different qualities of names and forms that our ego likes and dislikes, agrees and disagrees with. It is being free from egoism, attachment towards the qualities of names and forms, pride and arrogance, judgment, expectation, discrimination, hatred, violence and fear.

Om shanti.

Adjust ourselves to adapt and accommodate the yoga (asana) classes, is part of our yoga practice...

Yoga classes are different from fitness exercise classes, where the fitness exercise class format and intensity is purposely designed and adjusted to suit each individual different fitness level and liking. Especially when it is about running a commercial business to provide physical health and fitness exercise classes or services to the clients, then the classes have to be designed into multi levels, different varieties and choices to suit all and everyone, try to 'make sure' everyone is happy and satisfied with the classes and services that the fitness centres provide and sell.

Naturally, when we attend yoga (asana) classes, we usually like to attend the type of yoga (asana) class that is catering for the fitness level that we think we have, and is designed to suit our liking (what types of asana practice and intensity that we prefer, of what we like and want to do).

Very often in the commercial types of yoga (asana) classes, when we don't like the type of yoga asana exercises and intensity that the teacher teaches in the class, we will go to the teacher and tell the teacher what we want for that yoga class, and expect or demand the teacher to give us some other types of exercises and intensity that we prefer, depending on our mood and what we like and want to do for that class.

In fitness classes, it's about what 'the clients' want and like, and give them what they want and like. 'I' pay to get what 'I' want and like, and so, give me what 'I' want and don't give me what 'I' don't want.

But yoga classes is different from fitness classes. Yoga classes are here for us to learn about life, and to accept life as it is, while we do our best to adjust and accommodate every situation and condition that is not necessarily the way that we think it should be, or how we like it to be.

It is for us to practice letting go of the ego, likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements. It is for us to let go of craving and clinging onto something that our ego likes and agrees with, and let go of aversion towards something that our ego doesn't like and disagrees with.

It is not about what type of yoga asana exercises and intensity that we do in the yoga class that matters. It is the practice of non-attachment and letting go while performing the yoga asana exercises that our ego likes or dislikes, agrees and disagrees with.

It doesn't matter what is the format and intensity of the yoga class that is being taught by the yoga teacher, we do our best in that class. Do what we can do, and not forcing ourselves to do what we cannot do in that present moment, according to the condition and abilities of the physical body in that time being. Accepting the present condition and abilities of the physical body as it is. Allow impermanent changes to happen from moment to moment and accept all the changes as they are.

Sometimes we find the same type of asana practice is harder for us, and sometimes it's easier for us. It's not because of the exercises or the intensity of the yoga (asana) class is different from what it was that makes us feel harder or easier, but it is because of our own impermanent physical conditions and abilities, as well as the state of our mind that is constantly changing.

We adjust ourselves into any types of yoga classes and different intensity. We accept and accommodate the yoga class as it is, without judgment about the yoga class as easy or difficult, nor judging our performance, our physical conditions and abilities as good or bad. Without expectation towards the yoga class that it should be something that we like it to be, or expect the yoga practice or yoga exercises to be adjusted to accommodate what we like and want. Without expecting our performance to be the way that we think it should be. If we have certain physical limitations, or illness, or injuries during that time being, we adapt ourselves into the practice by making some adjustment, without expecting the class to be adjusted and to accommodate our physical limitations.

Life doesn't adjust itself to suit our preferences, and it doesn't accommodate our liking to be something that we like it to be. But, instead we have to learn to adjust ourselves to adapt any life situations, and be able to accommodate any life conditions as it is.

We cannot expect life or the world to be the way that we like and want it to be. We will be very disappointed by our own expectation, as the entire worldly life existence doesn't belong us, nor in our control of how we want it to be.

We allow life and the world to be what it is, while do our best in adjusting ourselves to adapt and accommodate life as it is, not necessarily the way that we like it to be.

Om shanti.

Sunday, July 14, 2013

Neti neti - Negating who we are not, is part of our basic yoga practice...

This sounds like being negative, but it is an easy and effective way to realize who we are not, and thus realize who we really are.

I am not this, I am not that.

I am not the body. I am not the mind. I am not the ego. I am not the intellect.

I am not the thoughts, the sensations, the feelings, the emotions, the thinking, the beliefs, the habits.

I am not the dreams. I am not the dreamer.

I am not the memories. I am not the imaginations.

I am not the likes and dislikes, the agreements and disagreements, the craving and aversion.

I am not the breathings, the heartbeats, the energy, the elements.

I am not the good qualities. I am not the bad qualities.

I am not happy. I am not unhappy.

I am not the calmness. I am not the restlessness.

I am not the anger, the hatred, the jealousy, the fear, the worry.

I am not the doer of actions. I am not the receiver of the fruit of the actions.

What is impermanent, constantly changing and doesn't belong to 'I', is not 'I'.

Keep negating until there's nothing more to be negate.

The One and only that we cannot negate after negating everything, is who we really are.

Om shanti.

"Are you a Buddhist?" or "Are you a yogi?" - An invalid question

"Are you a Buddhist?" or "Are you a yogi?"

These questions is like asking, "Are you selfless?"

The basic teachings of Buddhism and yoga are the same. It's all about realizing the truth about names and forms, remove dualism, egoism and ignorance, and transcends suffering.

It's about non-separateness or all is one.

It's about namelessness and formlessness, beyond all the differences of quality and appearance, colours and shapes.

It's about non-identification with the qualities of names and forms.

It's about unconditional peace, wisdom and compassion.

There's no difference between this type of teaching and that type of teaching, if it brings us to realize the truth to transcend names and forms, the egoism and ignorance, and realize unconditional peace, wisdom and compassion.

And so, when somebody ask this question to a person who is really practicing the teachings of Buddhism, or who is really practicing the teachings of yoga, then this question is invalid, just like asking a selfless person, "Are you selfless?"

Whenever we identify ourselves as a "Buddhist" or a "Yogi", we actually generate separateness between 'I' being a Buddhist or a yogi and with those who are not a Buddhist or a yogi.

We can call ourselves anything that we like, and can be anything that we want. But whether we are truly practicing the teachings or not, only ourselves will know.

I can call myself a "Buddhist" or a "yogi", give myself an appearance of a "Buddhist" or a "yogi", and behave like a "Buddhist" or a "yogi" should be behaving, but it doesn't mean anything.

If I am really practicing Buddhism or yoga, I don't need to name or call myself a "Buddhist" or a "yogi".

It is everyone's freedom to call us whatever they think what we are to them.

If people think I am a Buddhist, let them call me a "Buddhist".

If people think I am a yogi, let them call me a "yogi".

But that's not what I really am.

I am neither a "Buddhist" nor a "yogi", nor a "yoga teacher", nor a "good person", nor a "happy person", although from the appearance of what I am doing, I seem to be like a "Buddhist", or a "yogi", or a "yoga teacher", or some people might perceive me as a "good person" or "happy person".

Call myself anything that I like, but that won't change nor determine who I am.

Om shanti.

Wednesday, July 10, 2013


In the teachings of yoga, forbearance is the highest Sadhana. Without forbearance, we will be over-powered by impurities that arise due to the craving and aversion coming from the ego towards what it likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements, and generate reactions that might bring harmful effects onto ourselves and other beings.

The weaker is the ego, the easier is the practice of forbearance, and vice versa. When the ego is very strong, forbearance seems like impossible, as pride and arrogance is predominant in the mind, and the mind will be over-powered by anger, hatred, jealousy, dissatisfaction, fear and worry, and will generate reaction that will cause disharmony in oneself and others.

Those who have very little forbearance, will perceive everything negatively, like to find faults in everything and blames on others for their unhappiness, and complain a lots about this and that which they don’t like and disagree with.

In the beginning, when we practice the teachings of yoga about forbearance, we try to forbear any discomfortable or difficult conditions and situations in life without generate aversion. We try to forbear insults without generate reaction of anger, hatred, ill-will, retaliation, or vengeance. We try to walk away from other people's behaviors that are violent or unkind. If we couldn't walk away and are caught up in such situations, we endure and be patient. As this will also pass away.

At this stage, our mind still categorizes certain actions and speech are insulting, certain conditions and situations are discomfortable and difficult, and the ego will feel insulted or unhappy when it comes in contact with all these undesirable experiences. As well as we are still identifying with the egoistic thinking mind as ‘I’. And thus, we (the egoistic mind) need to have certain degrees of forbearance, forgiveness, patience, tolerance, adaptation, adjustment, accommodation for us to withstand all these life experiences that the mind recognizes and categorizes as ‘insult’, ‘discomforts’, ‘difficulty’ or ‘suffering’, have self-control over our thoughts, speech and action, without generate reaction that will cause further unnecessary harmful effects onto ourselves and other beings.

When we know about the truth of things, which everything is just what it is. They are not something good or bad, positive or negative, happiness or suffering, easy or difficult, praise or condemn, compliment or insult, as well as the ego is weakened or eliminated, then there is nobody, or ‘I’ being there to experience ‘insult’, ‘discomforts’, ‘difficulty’ or ‘suffering’. There is no need to forbear anything, as there is no ‘insult’, ‘discomforts’, ‘difficulty’ or ‘suffering’ that ‘I’ need to forbear.

That is real freedom or liberation. Liberation is not in the future, which we believe it will happen after we perform lots of virtues and merits. Liberation is not about getting everything that we like and want, and not getting anything that we don’t like and don’t want. Liberation is being aware of the present moment now while accepting the reality as it is, without craving and aversion towards the qualities of names and forms that the mind likes and dislikes, agrees and disagrees with. And thus stop generating reaction that will bring cause and effect that binds us to birth and death.

Liberation is in this very moment, when there is no attachments, no craving or aversion in the mind, when we know about the truth of names and forms, and have transcended the identification with the ego, the body and the mind.

Forbearance is indeed advance yoga practice. To forbear physical, mental and emotional discomforts in the beginning of our yoga practice until we realize the truth, and there is no need of the practice of forbearance at all. Being able to perform many hours of yoga asana practice that require certain degrees of skills, strength, flexibility and stamina, is not really advance practice if we don’t know the practice of forbearance, easily being disturbed and determined by what we see, hear, smell, taste, touch and think that we don’t like and don’t agree with. We are irritated, frustrated and unhappy when we come in contact with what we don’t like and disagree with, or when we are not getting what we like and want.

Forbearance is not separated from the practice of Mauna, or silence. To not react towards any insults and discomfortable or unpleasant experiences, and restrict the egoistic mind to express itself through thoughts, action and speech, to refrain it from generating harmful thinking, action and speech out of anger, hatred, jealousy, dissatisfaction, fear or worry.

Forbear injuries (physically, emotionally, mentally), forebear insults, forbear humiliation, forbear undesirable circumstances, conditions and situations, is highest Sadhana.

Under any circumstances, do not generate anger, hatred, violence, retaliation, or vengeance.

The power that supports forbearance is forgiveness and the power that heals all injuries or hurts is unconditional love.

Love all beings as they are. See the ignorance behind all the actions and reactions that are hurting ourselves and other beings.

Be kind and compassionate towards ourselves and other beings.

Stop hurting ourselves and other beings by dissolving all under current of anger, hatred, violence, retaliation, or vengeance in us with forgiveness and unconditional love.

Om shanti.

Sunday, July 7, 2013

Ignorance is nothing to do with the degrees of intelligence

Ignorance is the absence of wisdom. Ignorance is not knowing the truth of names and forms, and the wrong identification with the body and mind as an individual 'I'. All sorts of attachments derived from this ignorance and wrong identification. All sorts of restlessness, unhappiness, dissatisfaction, disappointment, fear, worry, anger, hatred and suffering derived from attachment.

In the presence of wisdom, ignorance disappears.

Knowing a lot of things or knowledge is different from knowing the truth of things as they are.

We can be knowing a lot of things through the perception of names and forms through the eyes, ears, nose, tongue, body and mind, from study, research, debate and discussion, but it doesn't mean that we know about the truth of all these names and forms. It doesn't mean that we are free from suffering, dissatisfaction, unhappiness, disappointment, anger, hatred, jealousy, agitation, depression, fear, worry, craving and aversion that derived from ignorance.

If we truly know about the truth of names and forms, there won't be any attachments towards any names and forms, qualities or dualities. There's no craving nor clinging towards something that has the qualities of 'good', 'pleasantness', 'positive' or 'happiness'. There's no aversion towards something that has the qualities of 'bad', 'unpleasantness', 'negative' or 'unhappiness'.

There's no difference between success and failure, praise and condemn, compliment and criticism, pleasantness and unpleasantness, happiness and suffering, when we know the truth of things as they are.

We can be highly intelligent and very knowledgeable, but we can also be ignorant about the truth of things at the same time. We can be over-powered by egoism, pride and arrogance, and have lots of attachment towards the qualities of names and forms. Be disturbed and determined by whatever the mind perceives through the senses from moment to moment.

Ignorance is not what some people translate from English dictionary, which means stupid, unintelligent, lazy, or don't want to learn, or don't want to have self-improvement.

Some people see this word 'ignorant' as an insult. If somebody tells us, "You are not happy is because of ignorance.", we will be very upset and angry, as we feel insulted by these words. "What! Are you saying that I am stupid?!"

This is the ego reacts towards things that it hears that it doesn't like and disagrees with. Pride and arrogance is there, that's why we feel insulted. If we are free from pride and arrogance, or are free from egoism, we will not be disturbed, nor determined by any insults verbally, mentally or physically.

The point is, if we get upset and angry because we feel somebody's speech is insulting or criticizing us with certain kind of words that our mind believes and categorizes as insults, bad or negative, then we are truly ignorant. We don't know about the truth of names and forms. That everything is just what they are. They have no quality or intention to be something insulting or complimenting.

If we know about the truth of names and forms, we will not be disturbed, nor determined by any kind of speech, thoughts or actions coming from anybody, even if that person has the intention to insult us with some insulting speech, thoughts or actions. That is his or her freedom to say, or think, or do anything that he or she likes. We allow everyone to be free to express what they want to express. But we don't have to be disturbed, nor determined, nor influenced by it.

Om shanti.

Monday, July 1, 2013

"Are yoga teachers happy?"

There was this search word came to my blog, "Are yoga teachers happy?"

Not all 'yoga teachers' or 'yoga practitioners' are happy in everyday life experiences, or are happy with themselves, or are happy with the world and the environment, as it is. Not all of them are free from unhappiness. Whether we are free from unhappiness, are happy or not, is not determined by 'who we are' nor determined by 'what we do'.

We don't have to be a 'yoga teacher' to be happy, nor being a 'yoga teacher' will make us happy.

Just like a 'mother' or a 'father' can be a happy 'mother' or 'father', or can be an unhappy 'mother' or 'father'. It is very personal and vary from person to person, on how they deal with every situation and condition in life.

The 'yoga teachers' that we think we know, are normal human beings also, they are not any different from 'other human beings' who have good and bad feelings, who have certain degrees of egoism and ignorance, certain desires and attachments, certain degrees of anger, dissatisfaction, disappointment, fear and worry. Everyone is still in the process of experimenting life existence, and in search of the truth, or liberation, or real happiness, or peace.

There is nothing wrong when unhappy feelings arise in the mind due to certain unpleasant experiences, but most important is that if we are practicing yoga and meditation with the correct mentality and attitude, we should be able to be aware of all the activities in the mind, be aware of all the action and reaction of the mind towards the objects of the senses, without identification with the body and mind, without being over-powered by all these thoughts activities, feelings and emotions, and not generate attachment to them, without craving for pleasant or happy feelings, without aversion towards unpleasant or unhappy feelings.

As long as the mind is still functioning, as long as the ego is there, there will be perception of different qualities of names and forms that are pleasant and unpleasant. There will be reactions coming from the mind towards what the ego likes and doesn't likes, agrees and disagrees with. There will be pleasant and unpleasant feelings arise due to this process in the mind. But, if we have developed certain degrees or strength of awareness from our persistent yoga and meditation practice, which is going beyond all these mind perceptions and activities, we do not generate attachment, craving or aversion towards all these perceptions and activities in the mind. That itself is liberation.

There are many 'yoga teachers' and 'yoga practitioners' in the world nowadays as 'yoga' seems to be a 'trendy' thing to do, and there are so many demands for 'yoga classes' everywhere especially in the big cities, especially 'yoga classes' that are marketed, designed and catered for fitness, beauty and health. But whether the 'yoga teachers' or 'not yoga teachers' are liberated or not, is not to be judged by anyone from their appearance, behavior, action and reaction. As liberation is not a thing that can be judged by the qualities of names and forms. Attributelessness, namelessness and formlessness, is beyond the qualities of names and forms that our mind can perceive.

Only ourselves will know whether we are liberated or not. Nobody needs to justify themselves whether they are liberated or not.

We don't need a 'certificate' to certified us that we are liberated, if that is what we are.

We can pretend to be happy beings and disguise as liberated beings, in front of other people, but we can't hide the truth from ourselves, if we are not free yet, we are still affected and determined by egoism, ignorance, impurities and suffering in our mind.

Happy or not, really depends solely on the state of mind, or how pure is the mind. There are many different elements or factors influencing the state of mind from moment to moment.

It also depends on how we want to define 'happiness'? It can be anything for different people.

In yoga and meditation, one who has conquered his or her own mind and the ego is eliminated, is indeed free from unhappiness or suffering. It is not necessarily one has to be happy all the time. The moment we are free from unhappiness, that moment is peace, is liberation.

Most of us are having a mixture of happy and unhappy feelings, swaying back and forth from one extreme to the other extreme. Sometimes we have more happy feelings and less unhappy feelings. Sometimes we have more unhappy feelings and less happy feelings. Sometimes we are easy to be happy. Sometimes we are difficult to be happy.

Our behaviors, action and reaction are very much influenced by the state of our mind, which is not pure and not free yet. And our behaviors, action and reaction will bring us some happy and unhappy consequences in return.

Happy or unhappy is a pleasant or unpleasant feeling or thought that arise in the mind, that will stay for a while, and will change and disappear from the mind. It is impermanent.

A person who knows the truth, will be aware of all these pleasant and unpleasant feelings, without generate craving, clinging or aversion, and allow all these feelings to come and go in the mind, without judgment, without expectation. As we don't own the mind, or any activities in the mind.

The one who knows the truth doesn't need to be happy, or to be positive, as there is nothing that can induce unhappiness or negativity in his or her mind.

Everything is just what they are. All the names and forms has no intention or power to make us happy or not happy, to give us happiness or unhappiness. It is all coming from our own mind, depends on how much we attached to the mind, the thinking, the beliefs and the feelings, and how much the mind attached to the qualities of names and forms, and be affected and determined by them.

There is nobody being there feeling happy or unhappy. There is no 'I' being there to feel happy or unhappy. It's just some happy or unhappy feelings arising and passing away in the mind.

It depends on how much our mind is being affected, or disturbed, or influenced, or determined by all the names and forms that it perceives through the senses.

It depends on how efficient is the practice of non-attachment in the mind towards all the pleasant and unpleasant feelings, without generating craving, clinging and aversion.

It depends on how fast or how easy for the mind to be able to let go of unpleasant or unhappy feelings. The mind can be happy or unhappy for a few years, or months, or weeks, or days, or hours, or minutes, or seconds, or a moment, or not at all.

Anyone, whether 'yoga teachers' or not, human or non-human beings, if they know the truth of this mind or themselves, and are being compassionate as they are (not about try to be compassionate), then naturally there will be no unhappiness or suffering can exist in them. Their mind is free from all sorts of impurities that arise due to the absence of compassion. And absence of compassion is due to egoism and ignorance. If the mind is free from egoism and ignorance, and realize compassion, peace is there. Peace is nothing to do with the existence of pleasant and happy feelings.

We want to think and believe that all 'yoga teachers' are supposed to be enlightened beings who have transcended suffering and life existence, to be here to guide us (the unliberated or ignorant ones) to be liberated from suffering or unhappiness. If so, we will be very disappointed. As there are not many 'yoga teachers' are in such level of pure consciousness.

The 'yoga teachers' that we see, who are giving instructions in 'yoga classes' for performing some forms of yoga asana exercises or yoga practice with different types of brands and names, are not necessarily as perfect as what we think they should be. And it's okay.

There are many people who 'teach' yoga classes after attended some 'yoga teachers training course' and attained a few 'certificates' and 'qualifications', but not all are already completely be free from impurities, egoism, ignorance, attachment, craving and aversion, or had transcended life existence, the body and mind, suffering and ignorance. And there's nothing wrong with that.

If we expect all 'qualified yoga teachers' should be enlightened and liberated before they give yoga classes or teach yoga to other people, then there will be very few such 'yoga teachers' in the world. As those who are enlightened and liberated are not necessarily 'yoga teachers' or are giving 'yoga classes' in the yoga studios, or yoga centres, or yoga fitness clubs. But that doesn't mean that they do not share their wisdom and compassion with other beings.

Do not criticize nor look down on these 'yoga teachers' who seem to be not perfect nor liberated yet, as all and everyone are the same consciousness without qualities, without name and form, beyond birth and death, but in the moment we are veiled by egoism and ignorance about who we really are.

As yoga students, we are not looking forward to be like our 'yoga teachers'. We don't have to find a perfect liberated 'yoga teacher' for us to imitate and become like him or her. Even if a liberated teacher is here guiding us, it is up to our own realization about the truth of ourselves. The liberated teacher cannot give us liberation.

Open our mind and be patient, and wait, if we really want to find a real 'yoga teacher' that we can't recognize from his or her behavior, appearance or certificates. As 'yoga teachers' are not defined by their personalities, behaviors, appearances, actions and reactions, nor are being stamped on their forehead with the tag 'yoga teacher', nor whether they were graduated from an internationally recognized and affiliated yoga school of yoga teacher training courses.

The universe will bring the teacher and the student together at the right time and the right place. And this yoga teacher is not necessarily in a form of human beings. It can be right in front of us, or it is within us already. In fact, it is our own Self. As all the other 'yoga teachers' are also a manifestation from our own mind.

Om shanti.

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