Beyond confidence

What make a person truly confident?

Nameless and formless confidence manifests naturally and effortlessly, upon the mind accepts and loves itself unconditionally, as it is. Such mind doesn't need to be confident or portray confidence.

This person doesn't need to show or prove to oneself or the world about, "I am confident."

This person doesn't need any attention, liking, support, agreement, acknowledgement, approval, affirmation, praise, and compliment coming from anyone about, "I am good enough to be confident."

This person doesn't need to be confident, to feel confident, to look confident, or to speak, stand, walk, sit, pose, or present oneself in front of the world confidently, not to say, to attend 'confidence boosting workshop/training', or to be inspired and empowered, to become a highly confident person, or to boost the existing confidence level to become 'more' confident than what it is.

Confidence doesn't come from learning, or training, or pretending.

True confidence doesn't come from desirable physical and mental condition/appearance/abilities/achievements, family or social background, social and financial status, family ties, relationship and friendship, social interaction activities, accumulated knowledge/experience/success/accomplishment, level of education and intelligence, talents or super extraordinary talents, and etc.

Confidence doesn't come from the presence and absence of any particular name and form, not to say, it doesn't come from participating in any kind of confidence empowerment workshop or training.

Confidence doesn't come from thinking, believing, acknowledging, affirming, projecting, and identifying as, "I am super confident."

If a person needs to attend certain kind of confidence empowerment workshop or training, then, no matter how many times and how much one has been undergoing such confidence empowerment training, trying to learn to become confident, to be getting deserving acceptance, appreciation, acknowledgement, recognition, liking, love, praise, and compliment from oneself and all the others about, "Yes. I am now good enough to be accepted and loved by myself and everyone else, and hence, I am a highly confident person," and presents oneself 'confidently' in front of the mirror or to the world based on what the mind thinks and believes as 'confidence', confidence will still be non-existing in this person.

One just need to stop trying to be good and successful enough in order to be able to accept and love oneself, to be proud of oneself, and to make other people to be proud of oneself, or to be 'deserving' to be getting attention, love, liking, support, agreement, acceptance, acknowledgement, recognition, approval, affirmation, praise, and compliment from all and everyone, and unconditional confidence will manifest as it is, naturally and effortlessly.

It's not about being dissatisfied with oneself in this present moment, and trying to become someone else that one is not, but having the self-awareness towards knowing what is one's strength and weakness, working on improving what is possible to be improved, and allowing impermanent changes and improvement to be happening as they are, without attachment, identification, craving, aversion, comparison, judgment, or expectation.

Being confident doesn't mean being strong, or tough, or aggressive.

Confidence doesn't mean that one can do and achieve everything that one would like to do and achieve. It's about one is not being determined or defined by what one can do or cannot do, and can achieve or cannot achieve. One doesn't need to feel and be proud of oneself, and doesn't need other people to feel and be proud of oneself.

When the mind has gone beyond all kinds of qualities of names and forms that are selfless and impermanent, when the mind is no longer being determined by any selfless impermanent quality of names and forms to be "I", or "who/what I am", then, the nameless and formless confidence will be there, as it is, without the mind thinking, believing, acknowledging, affirming, projecting, and identifying as "I am super confident."

Pride and arrogance, shame and humility, or envy and jealousy, don't exist in such mind.

Success and failure, achievement and non-achievement, or superiority and inferiority, mean nothing to such mind.

One is neither lack of confidence (I think I am not good enough and undeserving) nor full of confidence (I think I am good enough and highly deserving).

One is beyond what the worldly passionate egoistic minds think and believe as 'confidence'.

Such mind doesn't admire or look down on anyone.

Such mind doesn't even compare or compete with itself, not to say, to be comparing and competing with anyone else, even when one is actively engaging in certain kind of competitive competition.

Such mind never stop improving itself even when it is resting in contentment and is being comfortable with itself, as it is (NOT because it is discontented with itself, thinking and believing that itself is 'not good enough', or 'never good enough', or 'non-deserving'), and it does its best in whatever it is pursuing, without forcing itself beyond its limitation, without fear, without expectation, and it allows and respects the fruit of action being what it is, being undetermined by the action and the fruit of action.

Inquire towards the truth of everything, and be free.