To speak or not to speak

The wise don't speak much.

They speak only what and when is necessary to speak.

They only engage in dhamma talk, or the truth of what things are. 

The others engage in random restless vain talk, small talk, big talk, interacting, chit-chatting, socializing, flirting, commenting, praising, criticizing, gossiping, slandering, arguing, debating, justifying, manipulating, politicking, scheming, plotting, complaining, moaning, bitching, back-biting, sabotaging, boasting, glorifying, belittling, humiliating, shaming, intimidating, threatening, bullying, story telling, lying, envying, admiring, possessing, clinging, craving, longing, flattering, mourning, comforting, provoking, claiming, proclaiming, blaming, joking, teasing, competing, comparing, judging, expecting, encouraging, discouraging, creating, hoarding, destroying, interfering, controlling, forcing, persuading, luring, tempting, converting, accumulating, empowering, and etc, while righteously think and believe that such action or activity is highly essential for developing and maintaining physical and mental health well being.

The minds justify and proclaim that all those activities are normal and healthy human's behavior, that all human beings are born like that (to be socializing/talking/interacting/mingling), and that it is part of the survival instinct for actively engaging in such activities in order not only to survive but also to expand and prosper, a.k.a. GREED/craving/clinging/longing (to endlessly create and hoard and enjoy more than basic needs for survival).

The wise understand that such ideas, thinking, belief, values, and practice, or such common activities of human beings, are merely the by-products of ignorance or mental corruption/illness, of some physical and mental habits or the conditional thinking and behavior pattern that is partially genetic inherited/engineered but mostly being influenced, developed, cultured, conditioned, and empowered in such way from young (parenting and community social influence), which can be reversed or renounced, by the mind itself, under the presence of the limited conscious awareness, conscious freewill, conscious choice, conscious desire, and conscious effort.

Such as the veil of ignorance that gives rise to the by-products and consequences of ignorance, manifests and exists 'naturally' and 'autonomously' in all minds from the beginning of the selfless impermanent limited and conditional formation and operation of the existence and function of the mind that is non-self, that doesn't even belong to the mind itself, or all minds are existing and functioning under the presence of the veil of ignorance (the selfless impermanent limited and conditional random restless thought process/thought current/modification of the mind under the presence and absence of consciousness/awareness), however, it is absolutely possible for the mind to be aware of that, and be free from that, via self-inquiry and self-realization, under self-initiation and self-effort, by quieting and silencing the restless modification of the mind/thought process/thought current (a.k.a. the annihilation of the veil of ignorance), through the practice of silence under the observation of renunciation, dispassion, solitude, and seclusion, under the help of asana, pranayama, yama, niyama, pratyahara, dharana, dhyana, and samadhi, under the state of consciousness and semi-consciousness, to render the mind one-pointed (stillness/non-wavering) and quiet (the state of clarity).

Even when the mind is alone being isolated from all the others and without any active physical/mental/verbal social interaction or communication or mingling with any other minds, the mind is still restlessly functioning as what it is, the random restless selfless impermanent thought process/thought current/modification of the mind is ceaselessly happening under the presence and absence of consciousness/awareness, consciously and unconsciously undergoing the selfless impermanent states of mind (selfless impermanent changes of ceaseless births and deaths of countless thoughts after thoughts of ceaseless ideas/feelings/emotions/states/memories/imaginations/dreams arising, changing, and passing away) selflessly and ceaselessly processing the mind perception/cognition towards all kinds of names and forms, of sight, sound, smell, taste, sensation, feeling, emotion, thought, memory, imagination, dream, problem solving, solution finding, reasoning, understanding, learning, experiencing, surviving, choosing, desiring, discriminating, and etc.

The mind that understands this, will also understand that the saying/information/proclamation about the cause of loneliness, or depression, or meaninglessness, or joylessness, or some other forms of mental problem or illness, is the lack of or the complete absence of physical/mental/verbal social interaction or communication or mingling with some other minds, is incorrect.

Even when a body and mind that doesn't have the organ of speech or doesn't have the language ability to express and communicate, and/or doesn't have the organs of action to be doing something physical, it doesn't determine the function and the state of mind, or its understanding and non-understanding, unless there is complete absence of the existence and function of the perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting mind or faculty, or if there is complete absence of conscious awareness.

Inquire the truth of everything.

The mind that doesn't love itself or anyone

There are many minds that are functioning under the influence of the veil of ignorance, are wittingly and unwittingly clinging onto and craving towards attaining and possessing endless attention, liking, affection, love, acceptance, acknowledgement, appreciation, recognition, agreement, approval, praise and compliments, support and encouragements, sympathy and empathy, companionship, ties and connections, relationships, or friendships, where they have intense aversion or rejection towards the opposite of all that or the absence of all that, but they don't love themselves or any others at all, even though they would think and believe that they love all the others very much, but then, they will constantly do and say things that will hurt all the others that they think and believe that they love very much upon their desires of craving and aversion are not being gratified, when they don't get what they expect to be getting but they are getting what they don't like and don't desire from the others that they think and believe that they love very much.

The mind that doesn't love itself and any others is actively and passionately showing affection, or kindness, or friendliness, or generosity, or helpfulness to the others with the intention/desire of to be receiving attention, liking, affection, love, acceptance, acknowledgement, appreciation, recognition, agreement, approval, praise and compliments, support and encouragements, sympathy and empathy, companionship, ties and connections, relationships, or friendships in return. And it is disturbed, disappointed, and bitter, upon its such desire/craving are not being gratified after it showed affection, or kindness, or friendliness, or generosity, or helpfulness to others, or after it has done something 'nice' for others. While being 'nice' in front of the others in order to attain what they desire to be getting from the others, but then, they would do and say things that hurt the others behind their backs (hypocrisy and back-biting or back-stabbing or slandering) in order to attain what they desire to be gaining from doing that (politicking and sabotaging).

These minds also think and believe that they are the 'victim' of 'ill-treatment' or 'bad behavior' from the others upon not receiving what they expect to be receiving from the others. "You are ungrateful and bad. You are so unloving and nasty to me. You don't love me. I love you very much and I don't deserve this from you but I deserve better from you," upon not getting what they expect to be getting from the others, or upon getting what they don't like and don't desire.

These minds are also the minds that would be 'suffering' from the sense of loneliness, joylessness, meaninglessness, unloved, unattended, unnoticed, unappreciated, unacknowledged, left-out, low self-esteem, low self-worth, shamefulness, or pride and arrogance, where they themselves as well as some mental health advocators, or psychologists, or holistic/spiritual/religious enthusiasts/practitioners/propagators would think and believe that they 'deserve' extra sympathy and empathy, attention and affection, love and support, or tolerance and forbearance from all the others to be actively enduring and forgiving (passively encouraging and empowering) the repetitive ongoing hurtful behaviors of such minds, as these minds would be constantly behaving in the way that hurt all and everyone, under the influence of such ignorance in themselves.

"I am sorry if I have hurt you unintentionally," and "I love you very much," doesn't mean anything, when these minds would ceaselessly do and say things that hurt all the others repeatedly upon not getting what they expect to be getting from the others as well as in the pursue of getting what they desire to be getting from the others, while they would 'apologize' for their hurtful behavior that they think it's not their intention at all to hurt anyone (either they aren't aware of their behavior is hurtful, or they are denying that their behavior is hurtful, where they think and believe that their behavior is not hurtful at all, but it's a form of loving kindness and generosity and righteousness).

This is a common hurtful behavior (mental blockage/illness or mental corruption) that exists in many family ties and connections and relationships, among spouses, among parents and children, among siblings, among friends and relatives, and among the members of any community that come under similar and/or different ancestral, cultural, and regional backgrounds.

The yoga and/or buddhism practice is all about enabling the minds to see themselves, or to attain self-realization towards the manifestation of this veil of ignorance in themselves, and to free themselves from all that, out of their own conscious awareness, conscious freewill and initiative, conscious effort and self-discipline, under the presence of intense yearning towards liberation/knowledge/freedom/peace, under immovable willpower, perseverance, and determination.

There is nothing wrong or negative upon the mind realizes that it doesn't love itself or any others at all, that it has been hurting all and everyone out of ignorance repeatedly and ceaselessly, wittingly (I know that I have hurt you) and unwittingly (I didn't know that I have hurt you, and I didn't have intention to hurt you).

The mind that understands, it stops chasing after, or craving towards, or clinging onto attention, liking, affection, love, acceptance, acknowledgement, appreciation, recognition, agreement, approval, praise and compliments, support and encouragements, sympathy and empathy, companionship, ties and connections, relationships, or friendships coming and receiving from the others, not being determined by the presence or absence of all that.

It is okay to realize towards and acknowledge to oneself and others (ones parents, children, siblings, spouse/partner, friends, anyone or everyone, and etc) that, "I don't love myself. I don't love anyone. Because I keep doing and saying things that hurt myself and everyone that I thought and believed that I love very much, but I don't." Which leads to the manifestation of unconditional and indiscriminate loving kindness manifesting in the mind towards itself and all the others, where the mind stops/ceases hurting itself and the others, because it understands.

Such mind is free to love or doesn't love, being loved or not being loved, and having or not having any family ties and connections and relationships and friendships, allowing all the others being what they are, as they are.

The sense of loneliness, joylessness, meaninglessness, unloved, unattended, unnoticed, unappreciated, unacknowledged, victimized, left-out, low self-esteem, low self-worth, or pride and shame, doesn't manifest or exist in such mind.

Peace in the world of many diversities that doesn't belong to anyone or anything, begins with the mind that knows and understands this, or the mind that is mentally and emotionally independent or matured.

Just be kind, be loving, be friendly, be generous, and be helpful towards others indiscriminately and unconditionally without the intention/desire/craving/expectation of receiving kindness, love, friendliness/friendship/relationship, generosity, or help in return.

Many minds are being brought up in the way of developing and empowering hypocrisy, untruthfulness, and politicking, where such behavior or practice are being valued and seen as 'the way to maintain peace and harmony among one another in the family ties and connections, friendships and relationships, or community affairs and interactions, and the way to success and prosperity and power and wealth', but it doesn't. That is why the world is in such a great mess under the presence of such ignorant idea, belief, value, and practice deriving from ignorance and empowering ignorance.

Inquire the truth of everything, and be free.

Healthy body happy mind?

Just like the many common and popular terms of 'mental and emotional healing' and/or 'spiritual healing', or 'be positive, be strong', or 'you can fly', or 'you deserve', or 'you are unlimited', or 'you can be/do/achieve anything that you desire', and etc, similarly, the term of 'healthy body happy mind' is also one of the many common and popular terms in the world of yoga, and they are neither good nor bad, neither right nor wrong, but all these common and popular terms are nothing to do with the teachings and practice of yoga.

The minds that are still functioning under the presence and influence of the veil of ignorance, need to be prompted/inspired/motivated/attracted by certain pleasant, desirable, agreeable, enjoyable, motivational, or attractive 'benefit'/'result'/'goal'/'achievement', in order to be inspired and aspired to do something or anything. And hence, there are many different types of 'motivational positive encouragement' existing to motivate the minds to be engaging in certain kind of yoga practice to begin with. If there is persistence and regularity in the engagement in some kind of yoga practice, the mind might or might not start to realize and understand towards all those 'motivational positive encouragements' are not the objective, or the highest goal, or the end of the yoga practice.

Very few minds that are already endowed with the basic correct understanding from young, and that have the intense immovable yearning towards liberation, self discipline, and the mental and emotional independence, where they will devote their entire life existence and function, or their entire attention and energy onto the path of yoga and/or buddhism diligently to inquire the truth of everything internally and externally to know Thyself, even if they have read or heard from someone or somewhere, or they have realized and understood from the very beginning that the path of yoga and/or buddhism is not an easy or pleasant path, but rather there are many challenging obstacles and difficulties arising from time to time, internally and externally, where they endure or forbear, and break through or move around all kinds of unpleasant or even painful obstacles or difficulties, and upon the direct self realization towards knowing Thyself takes place, they might or might not return to the world of ignorant egoistic impure restless suffering minds, served as the reflective object and/or subject for the suffering minds that are in searching for genuine guidance or way towards liberation, to reflect/contemplate upon themselves to know Thyself.

Do not mistaken such devotion onto the path of yoga and/or buddhism as 'Being a monk or a nun living in the temple or ashram with the monk/nun community', as that doesn't guarantee that the mind is practicing yoga and/or buddhism as it is.

There is nothing wrong with 'healthy and fit physical body' and 'happy minds'. 

It is indeed very good to have a 'healthy and fit physical body' with minimum illness, injury, weakness, limitations, or disabilities. It saves lots of unnecessary expenses, conserves life existence/effort/energy, and generates less evitable inconveniences to oneself and others, if one has the basic general knowledge or universal common sense, correct understanding, and proper action taking to avoid or prevent all kinds of evitable unnecessary physical illness, injury, limitation, or disability that is not due to inevitable genetically inherited physical and/or mental condition from the beginning of formation and birth, or if upon the presence of any kind of treatable/recoverable illness or injury, one has the self initiative and understanding to take immediate action to be rehabilitated from the existing treatable illness or injury attentively as soon as possible, before it becomes worst if being left unattended without proper action taking or necessary medical treatments.

It is also very good to have a 'happy mind', even if that state of happiness/satisfaction/comfort is also merely a momentary state of the mind, that is limited and conditional, that is coming and going, that will appear and disappear, that will arise, change, and pass away, but a mind that is in a state of happiness/satisfaction/comfort, will most probably be nicer and kinder to oneself and others, and will be less violent and hurtful unto oneself and others, even if such pleasant behavior is only presence during that momentary state of happiness/satisfaction/comfort.

Just as some people where their mind is being over-powered by the veil of ignorance, will appear to be more difficult than usual, and behaving irrationally and violently upon the presence of hunger or tiredness that is not being satisfied immediately, and even more so upon the presence of hunger or tiredness is persisted not being attended for an extended duration (non-gratification of needs/desires), while they appeared to be more easy going and a lot nicer when there is absence of hunger or tiredness, or upon the hunger or tiredness is being attended immediately and disappeared (gratification of needs/desires).

Such minds are unwittingly being the slave of the conscious/semi-conscious desires of craving and aversion, as well as the non-conscious urges/fluctuation of hormonal changes/involuntary autonomous bodily functions/conditions/situations. Such minds would become agitated/grumpy/bad mood if it doesn't get to sleep when it desires to sleep, or it doesn't get enough of sleep, or the sleep is disturbed by something or someone, or upon waking up but not fully awake yet.

Even though it is not necessarily, but it is a lot easier for the mind that is in a good mood or in state of comfort, happiness, or satisfaction, to be 'more easy going', or 'nicer', or 'kinder', or 'forgiving', or be able to 'let go' and 'not be bothered by' something or anything, even if that is conditional, and it is only possible for a limited duration.

Especially under the absence of the basic essential correct understanding towards what is happening in the mind itself, on top of under the presence of grasping as well as the absence of certain degrees of self control, the mind that is in a state of unhappiness/disturbance/great disappointment/unpleasantness/discomfort/dissatisfaction/painful suffering/exhaustion/tiredness/hunger and thirst, will tend to be violent and hurtful unto oneself and others and the surrounding environment, either wittingly or unwittingly, randomly or deliberately, intentionally or unintentionally.

And more importantly, if under the absence of correct understanding on top of the presence of incorrect understanding, the mind might unwittingly or ignorantly harming the existence and function of the body and mind as well as directly or indirectly harming others and the surrounding environment during the process to achieve a 'healthy and fit physical body' and/or 'happy mind'. Such as some minds feel good, happy, satisfied, or accomplished upon successfully damaging/hurting/manipulating/exploiting/destroying some others or something in order to achieve what they like and desire.

Meanwhile, 'healthy and fit body' and 'happy mind' are not necessarily relate to one another, or the shadow of one another.

Under the presence and influence of the veil of ignorance, the mind can still be unhappy about something or everything even if the body is super healthy and fit, or is highly energetic and free from illness/injury/weakness/stiffness/limitation, or under the presence of correct understanding, the mind can still be cheerful and happy even if the body is unhealthy and unfit, or is undergoing certain unpleasant and undesirable illness, injury, weakness, stiffness, limitation, disability, discomfort, or painful suffering.

No doubt that, it will be very good if all and everyone can have a 'healthy and fit physical body' as well as a 'happy mind' at the same time. There will be more peace and harmony or less unrest and disharmony, in this world of many diversities that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.

More importantly, a 'happy mind' doesn't necessarily mean that the mind is free from the influence of the veil of ignorance and the by-products of ignorance.

There are many minds are being happy and feeling good and satisfied because of the gratification of certain desires of craving and aversion, or the manifestation of the momentary conditional sense of confidence, strength, success, achievement, or accomplishment, upon experiencing/achieving/receiving/possessing/enjoying what the mind likes, agrees, and desires, that the mind thinks and believes and recognizes as 'superior' quality or status, while not experiencing/getting/receiving/possessing/suffering what the mind doesn't like, doesn't agree, and doesn't desire, that the mind thinks and believes and recognizes as 'inferior' quality or status.

The gratification of the desires of craving and aversion, or the momentary conditional sense of confidence, strength, success, achievement, or accomplishment, as well as during the process of achieving all THAT, are not necessarily be free from certain activities that are harming/hurting/exploiting some others or the surrounding environment directly and/or indirectly, either wittingly and/or unwittingly, that impact all and everyone and everything and the surrounding environment short-termly, medium-termly, or long-termly, under the presence of boundless empowered greedy desires, inspirations, aspirations, visions, and ambitions waiting to be materialized and fulfilled endlessly.

It is also common and natural that most minds would like to have longevity or long life span, to be able to live as long as possible, as well as to be aging gracefully and joyfully, and to enjoy all kinds of enjoyments as much as possible, if it is not possible to be immortal and forever youthful infinitely, devoid of decay, aging, old age, weakness, stiffness, illness, injury, immobility, limitation, disability, or death.

Many minds might relate 'healthy and fit body' with 'longevity', because scientifically or biologically, a 'healthy and fit body' has the bigger possibility of having a longer life span.

'Healthy and fit or youthful and energetic body' and 'longevity' are not necessarily the shadow of one another, where there are many people don't or didn't live long due to certain impactful activities/conditions/situations even when the body is/was still in the tip top good health, fitness, youthful, and energetic condition.

Except certain inevitable intentionless natural causes of death regardless of short or long life span (impactful accidents and diseases/non-human's ignorance induced natural disasters/genetically inherited underlying condition/natural process of decay and disintegration), there are many evitable unnecessary non-natural causes of death as well as physical and/or mental painful suffering, is due to the hurtful and impactful activities/conditions/situations/ties and connections/relationships/interactions/communications/affairs deriving from the minds that are functioning under the presence and influence of the veil of ignorance, a.k.a. the idea of 'I'/the ego (the conscious and semi-conscious self awareness or self acknowledgement under the presence of conscious and semi-conscious awareness upon the state of consciousness and semi-consciousness), egoism, impurities, and restlessness.

There are many evitable unnecessary human's ignorance induced detrimental and impactful conditions, situations, affairs, activities, ties and connections, relationships, interactions, communications, accidents, illnesses, diseases, injuries, damages, abuse, bully, violence, fighting, killing, unrest, oppression, invasion, intrusion, war, discrimination and prejudice, unjust and cruelty, exploitation and desperation, or all kinds of evitable painful physical and mental/emotional suffering inflicted by oneself and/or others, that are impacting, threatening, damaging, and detrimental towards the surrounding living environment and atmosphere, or the life existence and function as well as the over-all physical and mental well-being of all and everyone.

All THAT are the by-products deriving from the minds under the influence of all kinds of worldly egoistic ideas/affairs/beliefs/values/practices/visions/agendas/activities, especially selfish politicking or political power games, greedy commercial/financial/economical endless investment, development, growth, expansion, and empowerment (beyond the basic need of essential infrastructure development and management for all kinds of diversities to be existing and living in simplicity under a conducive peaceful and harmonious environment freely and indiscriminately), in order to support endless wealth and status accumulation and hoarding, or to gratify and materialize boundless desires, pleasurable physical and mental enjoyments, inspirations, aspirations, visions, and ambitions waiting to be fulfilled, being empowered by as well as empowering selfishness, possessiveness, sense of belonging and pride, mental and emotional dependence, the power of unity or togetherness, or more precisely, the power of control and authority for maximal survival and expansion (that is widely being misunderstood or linked to non-separateness or oneness or non-duality in yoga and/or buddhism), such as family-hood, brotherhood and sisterhood, gangsterism, nationalism, communism, capitalism, tribalism, leadership, organization, authorization, anarchy, monarchy, democracy, dictatorship, or authoritarianism, as well as the sense of self-esteem and self-worth, pride and shame, superiority and inferiority, envy and jealousy, fear and the urge to control and interfere or manipulate all and everything to be or not to be in certain way, discrimination and prejudice, and all kinds of corruption, exploitation, intrusion, invasion, occupation, fighting, or war, domestically and externally, either being generated wittingly and/or unwittingly, that directly and/or indirectly impacting all and everyone and everything, even to the minds that are functioning under the absence of grasping under the presence of correct understanding (non-feeding ignorance), not to say, even more so to the minds that are functioning under the presence of grasping and incorrect understanding (ignorance gives rise to ignorance, and that also feeds and empowers ignorance).

There are many unnecessary and evitable environmental damages or detrimental conditions and situations that give rise to unnecessary physical and mental painful suffering in the many minds are not because of the sake of 'survival', but the empowered boundless and endless greedy desires, inspirations, aspirations, visions, and ambitions of the minds of human beings functioning under the presence and influence of the veil of ignorance.

What is the point of having 'longevity' or 'continuously living as long as possible', under a 'healthy and fit and energetic physical body', to accumulate and hoard unlimited 'wealth and possessions', or to enjoy unlimited pleasurable enjoyments of the senses, while wittingly or unwittingly harming/hurting/exploiting all and everyone and everything and the surrounding environment, directly or indirectly, in the process of achieving all THAT?

That is why the highly essential and practical teachings and observation or practice in yoga and/or buddhism about non-grasping, non-association, non-attachment, non-identification, non-craving, non-aversion, non-judgment, non-comparison, non-expectation, live in the present, letting go the desirable and undesirable past memories and future imaginations, renunciation, dispassion, desirelessness, contentment, non-greed, simplicity, generosity, kindness, respect, non-discrimination, inclusivity, forbearance, adjustment, adaptation, accommodation, non-possessiveness, solitude, seclusion, mental and emotional independence, open mind, non-blind believing/following/glorifying/worshiping/agreeing/disagreeing/practicing/propagating, silence (Mauna), concentration and meditation, all kinds of attention demanding and effort exerting/action taking exercises, self-introspection and self-investigation, self-inquiry and self-realization, and the middle path, to practically and effectively moving the body and mind (physically and mentally) away from continuously being bombarded, hammered, disturbed, conditioned, and influenced consciously/semi-consciously/unconsciously by so much over-whelming impactful worldly egoistic ideas/affairs/beliefs/values/practices/visions/aspirations/ambitions/agendas/activities/all kinds of 'motivational positive empowerment' to achieve endless higher and higher success, status, power, wealth, and enjoyment', in order to purify and quiet the restless egoistic impure modification of the mind, to develop, promote, and empower mental and emotional independence and correct understanding, to practically and effectively freeing the selfless impermanent limited and conditional perceptive, cognitive, intellectual, emotional, thinking, and acting faculty/mind from the influence of the veil of ignorance.

The mind that understands this, it appreciates and makes good use of the availability of a 'healthy and fit and energetic physical body' without harming/exploiting anyone or anything under the presence of unconditional peace and correct understanding, to perform actions/activities that are beneficial to all and everyone and everything and the surrounding environment that doesn't belong to anyone or anything, while being at peace being undetermined or undisturbed upon the non-availability of a 'healthy and fit and energetic physical body' to be performing any actions/activities.

Inquire the truth of everything. 

Inquire towards mental and emotional healing or spiritual healing

'Mental and emotional healing', and/or 'spiritual healing', is a very common and popular term in the world of yoga, however, that is nothing to do with the teachings and practice of yoga.

There is neither right nor wrong, neither good nor bad, as all and everyone have the freedom of their own way of thinking, belief/disbelief, values, practice, desire, inspiration (what and where the mind learn something or everything from, that influence and motivate them for practicing and promoting something or everything), and aspiration (being inspired, influenced, and motivated by someone or somewhere to do and achieve and promote something or everything).

If there is the existence of an individual pure and perfect 'spirit/soul/consciousness' that is permanent, independent, unlimited, unconditional, and immortal residing in the impermanent limited conditional mortal body and mind, then that permanent independent unlimited unconditional infinite 'spirit/soul/consciousness' cannot be hurt, or injured, or damaged, or modified, or destroyed, by anything, not to say, there is no such existence existing.

And hence, the idea and practice of 'spiritual healing' is absolutely invalid.

The selfless impermanent limited conditional mortal finite existence and function/modification of the mind (the physical structure and operation of the brains/the central and peripheral nervous system/the cognition/the thinking process or input processing and output response) can be determined, affected, disrupted, hurt, injured, damaged, modified, and destroyed by something of certain internal or external detrimental hurtful impact, activity, condition, and situation, that might or might not be improving or deteriorating, or be treated by certain treatments or action taking.

Such as the development and maintenance of the function or mechanism of the senses and organs of the senses or the organs of perception and the cognition of knowing, recognizing, reasoning, and understanding, the degrees of intelligence or the accuracy, efficiency, and speed of the intellectual reasoning, problem solving, solution finding, and possible outcomes/consequences visualizing or speculating, the power of memory to memorize and to recall or remember, or the speed of learning, memorizing, and remembering, and etc, can be determined, affected, modified, conditioned, and influenced directly and indirectly by the limited and conditional availability and conscious choices of food consumption/energy inputs/clean air and oxygen sufficiency/sufficient clean and safe water intake and replenishment/sufficient essential nutrients and minerals intake/physical and mental activities and habits/internal and external detrimental or conducive surrounding environment, condition, and situation for life maintenance and over-all well-being/balance between energy input and output/energy conservation, depletion, and restoration, and etc, under the presence or absence of certain knowledge and understanding and appropriate/immediate action taking.

Meanwhile, the manifestation of certain feelings/emotions/thoughts/desires/ideas/manifestation of dreams, or the conscious/semi-conscious/non-conscious state of mind might be determined, affected, influenced, conditioned, or prompted by the mind perception of names and forms of all kinds of experiences regardless of under the presence or absence of grasping, or under the presence or absence of conscious and semi-conscious awareness, even when most of the time upon the state of consciousness, the mind has no awareness or recollection towards many things internally and externally as it is being busy with something or focusing attentively onto something, but the manifestation of certain reactions, ideas, thoughts, desires, feelings, and emotions arising from the conscious/semi-conscious mind reaction reacting towards something or everything, internally and/or externally, or not, is solely determined by the presence or absence of grasping under the presence or absence of the veil of ignorance.

Under the presence of grasping under the presence and influence of the veil of ignorance, there is the idea of 'I', or the ego, or the conscious/semi-conscious self acknowledgement in the mind, that thinks and believes, and that is identifying with and acknowledging that, "I am experiencing something that is disturbing/hurtful/painful mentally and emotionally. This is hurting me mentally and emotionally. I am mentally and emotionally disturbed/damaged/injured/hurt. I need to be healed from mental and emotional disturb/damage/injury/hurt. I am practicing yoga/buddhism hoping that it can relieve/heal/remove my mental and emotional disturb/hurt/damage/injury/pain instantly, gradually, eventually, partially, or completely."

Under the absence of grasping under the absence of the veil of ignorance, there is no idea of 'I', or the ego, or the conscious/semi-conscious self acknowledgement arising in the selfless mind to be associating, attaching, and identifying, not to say, grasping and reacting ignorantly towards all kinds of perceived names and forms/experiences that are pleasant or unpleasant, desirable or undesirable, agreeable or disagreeable, enjoyable or non-enjoyable, and soothing or painful, except to be performing necessary action for life maintenance under conducive supportive environment/condition/situation in accordance to availability, mobility, and possibility, to create and maintain a conducive supportive beneficial environment/condition/situation for all and everyone ego-lessly, indiscriminately and unconditionally, and to avoid or move away from detrimental harmful environment/condition/situation, if possible.

There is only the selfless impermanent limited and conditional conscious and semi-conscious ego-less mind under the presence of conscious/semi-conscious awareness, being aware of the conscious and semi-conscious perception/cognition/knowing/reasoning/understanding/remembering/recognizing/possible consequences projecting, or the conscious and semi-conscious voluntary activities under conscious effort/freewill/choice and clarity or the non-conscious and autonomous involuntary activities without conscious effort/freewill/choice, upon coming in contact with certain names and forms/experiences/conditions/situations being perceived via the senses and the organs of the senses, upon the state of consciousness and semi-consciousness in the present moment now, devoid of grasping/association/attachment/identification, knowing that all and everything are all impermanent, limited, conditional, and non-self, being reflected in the mind manifesting/arising/changing/passing away upon the all pervading timeless selfless universal consciousness that doesn't belong to anyone or anything, that enabling the perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting faculty/mind being what it is, as it is, that is either functioning efficiently or inefficiently, that is being aware, or semi-aware, or unaware.

All minds are selfless, regardless of the presence or absence of grasping or the veil of ignorance, functioning ego-lessly or egoistically.

All selfless minds can be functioning or performing action ego-lessly or egoistically.

The selfless and ego-less conscious/semi-conscious perceiver/knower/experiencer/thinker/input receiver and processor/output responder/action performer being what it is, existing and functioning under the presence of conscious and semi-conscious awareness upon the all pervading timeless actionless universal silent witness/consciousness, is being undetermined/unaffected/undisturbed/unhurt by the mind perception/cognition/acknowledgement towards all kinds of selfless impermanent limited conditional and non-self names and forms of different qualities/conditions/situations/activities/changes that arising, ceaselessly changing, and passing away at their respective cause and pace, being perceived and reflected in the selfless impermanent limited conditional and non-self modification of the mind upon the state of consciousness and semi-consciousness.

Regardless of whether the reflection of the perceived names and forms is being reflected in the mind as it is (under the absence of the veil of ignorance), or not as it is (under the presence of the veil of ignorance), and regardless of how long the reflection of the perceived names and forms stays or lingers in the mind, or regardless of the presence and absence of grasping, or regardless of the presence or absence of egoistic reaction/judgment/desires or doesn't desire/likes or dislikes/agreements or disagreements/pleasing or displeasing/comforting or hurting/manipulating or non-manipulating/the presence or absence of disturbance manifesting in the mind, reacting towards the reflection of all those perceived names and forms, it doesn't determine/affect/change the names and forms being what they are, as they are.

In the modification of the mind/the thinking process/the thought activities, the selfless egoistic perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting faculty/mind can reacts towards the apples or oranges with different judgments/opinions/reactions/desires or doesn't desire/likes or dislikes/agreements or disagreements/pleasing or displeasing/comforting or hurting/manipulating or non-manipulating towards the reflection of the perceived apples or oranges in the modification of the mind, but all those thinking/reactions in the mind doesn't determine/affect/change the apples or oranges being what they are, as they are.

The apples or oranges (non-sentient selfless living organisms existing, functioning, and changing unconsciously), as well as the selfless non-egoistic minds (sentient selfless living organisms existing, functioning, and changing consciously/semi-consciously/unconsciously) that are free from grasping or the influence of the veil of ignorance, are not being determined, or disturbed, or changed, or offended, or promoted/demoted, or motivated/demotivated, by any kinds of thinking and reaction or expression/behavior towards them coming from the different minds.

It is only when the mind is functioning under the presence of grasping, under the presence and influence of the veil of ignorance, that there is the thinking/reaction/manifestation of the delusive/incorrect/false thought/idea/acknowledgement/feeling/emotion of, "I am being disturbed and hurt by all these names and forms/experiences/expressions/behaviors that are bad, wrong, negative, offensive, and hurtful, that are disturbing and hurtful to me physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually."

One can be hurt or injured physically by something or some others, including the organ of the brains (the hardware of the perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting faculty/mind), regardless of the presence or absence of grasping, but none can be hurt or injured mentally or emotionally under the absence of grasping under the absence of the veil of ignorance, that need to be 'healed' mentally and emotionally, not to say, none can be hurt or injured 'spiritually', that doesn't exist, where 'spiritual damage and spiritual healing' is invalid.

Such as the selfless and ego-less (the absence of conscious/semi-conscious self awareness/acknowledgement/sense of separateness) plants (the non-sentient living organisms), they can be determined, conditioned, influenced, and affected by certain kind of internal and/or external limitation and condition, impact, disease, illness, injury, or damage to their physical structure, growth, development, regeneration, reproduction, and ceaseless impermanent changes (non-conscious evolution), while there are ceaseless ego-less autonomous non-conscious intentionless survival activities and response to deal with (ceaselessly adjusting and adapting to) the current internal and external condition, to maintain life existence to the maximum under the best available and possible conducive condition or surrounding environment as much as possible, where they can expand and extend their roots and branches/leaves to reach the essential water and sunlight, that going around or even breaking through any obstacles, to avoid or move away from detected harmful condition, and even disguising themselves, or even be equipped with thorns or certain poisonous sap, to keep away from any kind of potential predators, until the natural process of decay and disintegration takes place, or until they ceased living and existing, while devoid of any egoistic intentional constructive or destructive activities/intentions/desires/behaviors/actions/reactions, unlike the egoistic minds of the sentient living organisms that come with the conscious and semi-conscious awareness under the state of consciousness and semi-consciousness.

The highly egoistic perceptive cognitive intellectual and emotional minds of the selfless human beings that are operating under the presence of conscious and semi-conscious awareness upon the state of consciousness and semi-consciousness, and that also operating unconsciously under the absence of conscious/semi-conscious awareness upon the essential state of unconsciousness/deep sleep/coma, but then, the egoistic conscious/semi-conscious minds of the human beings keep generating unnecessary evitable conscious and semi-conscious *hurtful damaging activities/ideas/behaviors/actions/reactions/intentions/desires/inspirations/aspirations/ambitions, under the presence of grasping, under the presence and influence of the veil of ignorance, under the presence of conscious and semi-conscious awareness, upon the state of consciousness and semi-consciousness.

*Hurtful damaging activities are being generated even out of what the mind thinks and believes as 'good intention' based on their particular thinking, belief, values, and practice about what is good and bad, what is right and wrong, or what is deserving and undeserving. And hence, out of the sense of self-righteousness, pride, possessiveness, greed, jealousy, anger, hatred, or fear, the mind wants to control, influence, change, manipulate, discipline, punish, hurt, or destroy what the mind thinks, believes, reasons, understands, evaluates, judges, recognizes, or categorizes as 'bad', 'wrong', 'negative', 'offensive', 'disrespectful', 'belittling', 'humiliating', 'intimidation', 'threat', 'evil', 'condemn, humiliation, shame, and punishment deserving', 'foreigner', 'outsider', 'not one of us', and etc.

*Hurtful damaging activities exist in oneself towards the body and mind of itself, in couple relationship hurting the other or one another, among the minds that think they love one another very much (not really, but only selfish possessiveness and the gratification of lustful desires), among family ties and connections, among siblings, among parents and children, among friends, among relatives, among the same ancestral heritage/culture/belief/spirituality/religion/ethnicity/tribe/community/organization/nationality/area/district/country/political party, and etc, not to say, among the different ancestral heritages/cultures/beliefs/spiritualities/religions/ethnicities/tribes/communities/organizations/nationalities/areas/districts/countries/political parties, and so on.

All those hurtful damaging activities towards others or one another, are due to the minds are functioning under the presence and influence of the veil of ignorance. It is the most serious form of unnecessary and evitable hurtful destructive mental illness in the world of human beings. The egoistic minds of the human beings justify and argue that, "Human beings are also animals. Human beings are imperfect. All beings have the freedom to behave as they are, and so, we are free to make as many mistakes as we want, and we can cause as much hurtful damages as we want."

The selfless but egoistic conscious/semi-conscious mind/perceiver/knower/experiencer/thinker/input receiver and processor/output responder/action performer under the presence of grasping under the presence and influence of the veil of ignorance, is ignorantly being determined/affected/disturbed or 'hurt' by all THAT that the mind reasons/understands/judges/recognizes as undesirable, unpleasant, dislikable, disagreeable, non-enjoyable, hurtful, or painful to itself.

It is common and natural that, either wittingly and unwittingly as well as directly and indirectly, there are many minds are more or less being determined, disturbed, affected, or hammered by the presence of ceaseless and boundless hurtful and impactful behaviors and activities and their consequences being generated by human beings that are functioning under the presence and influence of the veil of ignorance, that give rise to many different unhealthy conditions and situations that are detrimental to the over-all physical and/or mental well-being of all and everyone and everything and the surrounding environment, in the world of many diversities that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.

If the mind really wants to practice and realize yoga, it needs to let go the idea of 'mental and emotional healing', or 'spiritual healing', because the presence of association, attachment, identification, and expectation towards that idea itself is a hindrance towards the realization towards Selflessness and Non-self.

Yoga and buddhism is about the eradication of the veil of ignorance, to attain direct self realization towards the universal truth of Selflessness, Impermanence, Limitation, Conditional, and Non-self in all kinds of names and forms, via quieting the restless egoistic impure thought activities or thinking process, or modification/state of the mind, by turning the outgoing tendency of the mind inward to focus within for self-introspection and self-inquiry or self contemplation to be inquiring and contemplating towards what is going on in the modification of the mind, of what the mind thinks and believes and identifies as 'I' and everything that 'I' come in contact with/experience/learn/know/understand, that 'I' like and don't like, agree and don't agree, desire and don't desire, enjoy and don't enjoy, believe and don't believe, do and don't do, achieve and don't achieve, have and don't have, possess and don't possess, and etc, under the help of certain physical and mental observations and practices.

The genuine yoga and/or buddhism enthusiasts/teachers/practitioners don't need/don't promote/don't empower 'mental and emotional healing', not to say, 'spiritual healing', if the mind has the basic correct understanding towards the essential basic teachings and practice of yoga and/or buddhism that is based on the universal dhamma/truth of Selflessness, Impermanence, Limitation, Conditional, and Non-self.

The objective of the existence and function of the teachings and practice of yoga and/or buddhism, is for the selfless egoistic impure restless ignorant suffering mind to attain direct self realization towards the truth of the selfless impermanent limited conditional and non-self existence and function of itself, that doesn't even belong to the body and mind itself, via non-grasping.

The direct self realization towards the universal truth/dhamma of Selflessness, Impermanence, Limitation, Conditional, and Non-self in all kinds of living and non-living names and forms under the presence of non-grasping, will enable the mind to know and understand that there is no existence of a permanent independent individual self existence of 'I', of an infinite immortal individual consciousness/soul/spirit existing, that resides in and belongs to the mortal selfless impermanent limited conditional body and mind, and/or vice versa.

Such mind won't be determined, or disturbed, or manipulated, or intimidated, or bullied, or hurt by anyone or anything, even if the physical body or the physical component of the brains (the hardware of the thinking process/thought activities/inputs processing and output responding) is suffering from certain evitable or inevitable, acute or chronic, and reversible or irreversible illness, or damages, or injuries, or wounds, or pain, or natural process of decaying or aging.

Either there is presence or absence of conscious/semi-conscious thinking process/thought activities/inputs processing and output responding, either under the complete or semi functional/non-corrupted, or malfunction/corrupted, or non-functional/inactivation of the conscious and semi-conscious perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting faculty.

There is nothing soothing or painful/good or bad/positive or negative/enjoyment or suffering, if there is the absence of conscious or semi-conscious awareness upon the state of unconsciousness.

There is nothing, if there is the absence of thinking process/thought activities/modification of the mind, or upon silence, under the presence of conscious and semi-conscious awareness upon the state of consciousness and semi-consciousness (Samadhi/Nirvana/Nirbhana), and under the absence of conscious and semi-conscious awareness upon the state of unconsciousness, while the mortal body and mind is still existing and functioning selflessly, impermanently, limitedly, conditionally, and non-selfly, not to say, upon the ceased functioning and existence of the mortal body and mind.

If there is the presence of thinking process/thought activities under the presence of conscious and semi-conscious awareness upon the state of consciousness and semi-consciousness, there can be the presence or absence of the veil of ignorance, or there can be the presence or absence of grasping or non-grasping, or there can be the presence or absence of disturbance/unrest/painful suffering/violence or all kinds of impurities/ideas, as well as the impermanent limited and conditional momentary sense of satisfaction and dissatisfaction, happiness and unhappiness, goodness and badness, righteousness and wrongfulness, positiveness and negativeness, meaningfulness and meaninglessness, or joyfulness and joylessness, or the mind may or may not be resting in unconditional peace, or silence.

All kinds of thinking/thoughts/feelings/emotions/sensations/memories/imaginations/experiences/names and forms/qualities/relationships/conditions/situations/affairs, and all and everything, are all impermanent, limited, and conditional, regardless of pleasant or unpleasant, desirable or undesirable, agreeable or disagreeable, enjoyable or non-enjoyable, soothing or painful, constructive or destructive, beneficial or detrimental, positive or negative, possibility or impossibility, goodness or badness, happiness or unhappiness, and so on.

If the mind knows what is "Being aware of all kinds of names and forms arising, changing, and passing away without grasping," there is no reaction or manifestation of the idea/thought of mental and emotional or psychological 'hurt' or 'injury', even if the physical body or the component of the brains is suffering from certain illness, or injury, or damage, or is undergoing the natural decaying/aging/function declining process.

If there is already the foundation of non-grasping, where the perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting mind is consciously/semi-consciously being aware/conscious of all THAT without grasping, the mind will be undetermined, or undisturbed, or unhurt by all THAT (the reflection of the perceived names and forms being reflected in the mind and/or the names and forms themselves being what they are, as they are, and constantly changing), that are selfless, impermanent, limited, conditional, and non-self.

That is freedom, or liberation, or unconditional peace.

This freedom, liberation, or unconditional peace doesn't mean that there is only the manifestation/perception/experience of pleasant, desirable, agreeable, enjoyable, or soothing names and forms, qualities, affairs, activities, relationships, interactions, communications, conditions, situations, or surrounding environment, or there is no manifestation/perception/experience of anything that is unpleasant, undesirable, disagreeable, non-enjoyable, or painful.

It is about the absence of grasping towards all kinds of manifestation/perception/experiences/names and forms/qualities/dualities/conditions/situations/relationships/affairs/interactions/communications/ties and connections, under the presence of conscious/semi-conscious awareness, upon the state of consciousness and semi-consciousness.

The mind is resting at peace unconditionally, amid all kinds of conscious/semi-conscious/voluntary and unconscious/involuntary/autonomous physical and/or mental activities for life maintenance that are happening ceaselessly throughout the entire physical body, as well as all kinds of impermanent names and forms/activities/changes in the surrounding environment in the world of many diversities that doesn't belong to anyone or anything, that is full of all kinds of ignorance and consequences of ignorance deriving from the minds of the human beings that are functioning under the presence of grasping under the presence and influence of the veil of ignorance.

There is absence of hurtful ideas/thoughts/desires/feelings/emotions in such mind, where the mind naturally and effortlessly doesn't generate any action or reaction that hurt oneself, or others, or the surrounding environment, under any condition or situation, because it understands towards the truth of selflessness, impermanence, limitation, conditional, and non-self, as well as there is respect/acceptance towards the nature's law of cause and effect.

There is needless of self-control or self-effort to not hurt anyone or anything in the mind that is rendered quiet and clear under the absence of grasping, as self-control or effort to restrain one's behavior/action/reaction, is needed only when there are still the selfless manifestation of some hurtful ideas/desires/thoughts/feelings/emotions arising in the selfless modification of the mind under the presence of grasping, reacting towards certain unpleasant, undesirable, disagreeable, non-enjoyable, or painful experiences/affairs/interactions/relationships/ties and connections/conditions/situations, and hence, the mind is still being determined and disturbed by all THAT.

But more importantly, if the disturbed mind has the basic correct understanding and has the self-control or effort to hinder all those hurtful mental reactions/ideas/desires/thoughts/feelings/emotions from externalizing and turning into physical actions/activities that hurt oneself and others and the surrounding environment.

There is neither good nor bad, neither right nor wrong, if the mind is still being determined and disturbed by the mind perception of names and forms under the presence of grasping.

Just by having the basic correct understanding and self-control, and under the presence of certain degrees of non-grasping, is already what the practice of yoga and/or buddhism is about.

There is the presence of kindness, or non-violence, or non-hurtful towards oneself and others and the surrounding environment. None needs to be perfect in order to be kind, to have certain degrees of understanding and self-control of not hurting oneself and others and the surrounding environment that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.

The selfless timeless attributeless actionless intentionless beginningless and endless universal consciousness that pervades all and everyone and everything under different qualities of names and forms within and without, that gives rise to the conscious/semi-conscious awareness/consciousness to the sentient living organisms upon the states of consciousness and semi-consciousness, cannot be determined, affected, modified, changed, increased, decreased, contaminated, hurt, damaged, or destroyed by anything.

There is no existence of a permanent independent individual self identity of an individual immortal pure 'soul/spirit/consciousness' existing or residing in all kinds of living organisms, not to say, an individual 'soul/spirit/consciousness' that can be hurt or injured by something or anything, that needs to be healed from 'hurt', or 'illness', or 'damage', or 'injury'.

The mind that understands, it doesn't get upset towards anything, or it is not being disturbed by anything, or it doesn't suffer for 'the ignorance and consequences of ignorance in and from anyone'.

"Everyone has the freedom of being what they are, as they are. Your actions/reactions and the outcome of your actions/reactions is your freedom of choice and responsibility. My actions/reactions and the outcome of my actions/reactions is my own freedom of choice and responsibility. None is responsible for the actions/reactions and the outcome of actions/reactions of the others. If I react and feel disturbed and hurt by the actions/reactions and the outcome of actions/reactions of the others, it is my own freedom of choice and responsibility, and if out of my reaction and feeling of being disturbed and hurt by something or someone, I would perform action to hurt myself and others and the surrounding environment, it is my own freedom of choice and responsibility."

"It is because of you and your bad and wrongful and hurtful behavior/action/reaction, that is why I react and feel like this, and that is why I behave and act like this. It is all your fault and responsibility for all my hurtful destructive violent reactions/feelings/behaviors/actions," is incorrect and invalid.

The minds that would generate hurtful destructive violent behaviors/actions hurting oneself and others and the surrounding environment, as well as the minds that react and feel disturbed and hurt mentally and emotionally by the hurtful destructive violent behaviors/actions of the others, and would become hurtful, destructive, and violent like the others, are all functioning under the presence of grasping under the presence and influence of the veil of ignorance.

If all minds of the human beings in the world of many diversities that doesn't belong to anyone or anything have this absolute knowledge and understanding, or if all minds are mentally and emotionally matured or independent to have clarity of thinking and correct understanding, there is no existence/manifestation of violent destructive hurtful activities/affairs/relationships/interactions/communications/conditions/situations of hurting one another and the surrounding environment.

Inquiry the truth of everything.

Possessiveness, jealousy, control, self-righteousness, and hurtful behavior

One of the common habitual thinking and behavior pattern in the world of human beings under many different diversities having different qualities of names and forms is -

"I love you, you are mine."

"If I can't have you, no one else can have you."

"If I can't control you, I will destroy you."

"If you are/I am bad and wrong, I will hurt (punish) you/myself."

"If you go against (don't obey) me (my desire/wish/aspiration), I will hurt (punish) you."

"If I can't enjoy this, no one else can enjoy this."

"If I am in some kind of painful suffering, you all should also be in the same kind of painful suffering." 

All these are the synonyms of one another.

Possessiveness

Jealousy

Control

Self-righteousness 

Hurtful behavior

All are the by-products of ignorance/the idea of 'I'/egoism/restlessness.

 

This is not merely as simple as about someone is being born with certain condition of being needy or attention seeking, but upon not getting everyone and everything to be exactly the way that it desires (the urge to control and self-righteousness) or upon not getting the full attention/ownership that it desires to be getting (possessiveness and jealousy), the mind would generate hurtful behavior that would hurt itself and others or objects that it thinks and believes that it loves very much, that it thinks and believes and desires that everyone and everything that it loves, should belong to itself (and only to itself), and everyone and everything that it loves should always be in accordance to its desire towards how it wants everyone and everything should be like.

Such mind would hurt itself and others or objects that it thinks and believes that it loves very much, when some others express liking and compliment towards the people and objects that it thinks and believes that it loves very much but not really, as that hurtful behavior indicates that it doesn't love anyone or anything, not even itself, but merely 'unwittingly/unconsciously/autonomously' being the slave of the desire of craving and aversion/possessiveness/jealousy/the urge to control/self-righteousness, and impulsively generating actions and reactions that are hurtful and destructive upon ungratified desires.

There are minds that are being born with the condition of being needy and attention seeking, but they don't necessarily have the hurtful tendency/impulse/idea of hurting themselves and others or objects upon ungratified desires, as they have certain degrees of clarity of thinking and correct understanding under the presence of conscious awareness towards "Don't want to hurt anyone or anything, regardless of likable or dislikable, agreeable or disagreeable, and desirable or undesirable affairs/beings/objects/conditions/situations," or "Don't want to hurt someone or something especially the people and objects that one loves very much," even if their specific condition of neediness and attention seeking as well as their desires are not being gratified.

It is a common thinking and behavior pattern (a common mental illness/corruption under different degrees or intensity) that exists in all minds, of all age, in all fields, in all affairs, in the family ties and connection, in the relationship/interaction with other living beings/objects/experiences/activities/surrounding environment, in the social friendship, in the community, in the school, in the work place, in all kinds of organizations, in anywhere and everywhere, in the minds that think and believe and acknowledge that themselves are extremely good and righteous and superior, and in the minds that think and believe and acknowledge that themselves are bad and wrongful and inferior, and desire to be good and righteous and superior, except the minds that had conquered or transcended the selfless impermanent limited and conditional modifications of themselves, that know Thyself.

A common (natural, and yet, evitable) mind disease that manifests in oneself, that not only affects/hurts/damages oneself, but also everyone and everything and the surrounding environment that oneself comes in contact with.

However, like all kinds of names and forms, this common mental disease/corruption/hurtful behavior pattern is also selfless, impermanent, limited, conditional, and non-self, that doesn't belong to the selfless impermanent limited and conditional existence and function of the perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting mind that is neither good nor bad, neither pure nor impure, neither right nor wrong, neither positive nor negative, neither superior nor inferior, which can be weakened and eliminated (cured) under specific cause and pace, that can only be activated by the conscious mind itself, alone, under the presence of conscious awareness, of being conscious/acknowledging towards this hurtful thinking and behavior pattern in itself, and having the conscious freewill/desire to be free from all that, of want to stop hurting itself and others, through engaging in conscious action taking, of consciously activating the (prolonged and persevered) mind purification/silencing process under the help of certain physical and mental observations and practices, under the presence of non-grasping and non-violence or non-forcing.

A mind that is either wittingly/consciously or unwittingly/autonomously/unconsciously being possessive, jealous, controlling, self-righteous, and hurtful, can change and be free from possessiveness, jealousy, the urge to control, self-righteousness, and hurtful behavior, only if it wants to change and be free.

Inquire the truth of everything.

Self-righteousness that hurt and destroy all and everything out of anger, hatred, fear, and greed

It's normal and common that many minds are having the sense of pride and superiority towards their own existence, origin, background, belief, ideas, values, desires, visions, actions, and reactions, and have the sense of self-righteousness towards all and everything based on their particular way of thinking, belief, ideas, values, and desires.

Out of self-righteousness being righteous towards many things based on their own particular way of thinking, belief, ideas, values, and desires, they would hurt and destroy all and everything that they think and believe as 'bad' and 'wrong', or potentially 'hurtful' and 'destructive' unto them and what is theirs, or potential 'obstacles' obstructing them to achieve what they want to achieve, out of anger and hatred, as well as fear and defensiveness, on top of greed and possessiveness.

Out of the sense of fear and defensiveness, where they think and feel that themselves are being intimidated by the strong presence of some others, and hence, they would hurt and destroy what they think and believe is the potential intimidation that can be intimidating them, even when none and nothing is intimidating them.

Fear of being hurt or attacked by some others, one would attack and destroy the potential 'enemies' FIRST, even when the others have no intention and didn't do anything to hurt or attack anyone. 

For example, there is fear in the people towards the potential risk of could be hurt by the poisonous snakes (that have no intention to hurt anyone unless when they needed to defend themselves only if they are being disturbed, threatened, and attacked), and hence, the people want to hurt and destroy or get rid of all the poisonous snakes in the surrounding environment that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.

There is enormous greed in the minds towards possessing and hoarding land and space, food and energy resources and wealth, and endless accumulation of power and control that can gratify all their greedy desires and ambitions, and hence, they desire to invade and conquer and claim ownership towards all the land and space that they think and believe that has something or everything that they want, in order to gratify all their boundless desires, at all costs, of hurting and destroying all and everything, under the name of 'self-righteousness' and 'self-defense' reacting towards 'the existing threat upon them that is actually inflicted by their own self-righteousness, fear, and intentional annoying disturbing behavior unto the others', in order to achieve what they want to achieve.

"We are limited. We cannot be any stronger. We are not as strong as others. And so, we cannot let others to become stronger than us. We need to cause damages unto others, so that others cannot and won't become stronger than us."

There are minds deliberately generate ongoing disturbing annoying behavior unto the others that they dislike and disagree with, to provoke them to react in certain way, that would give them the righteous excuse to hurt and punish, or even destroy the others that they dislike and disagree with.

Just as certain people have fear towards poisonous snakes, and hence, they want to get rid of the poisonous snakes that are just being there as they are without any intention to hurt or intimidate anyone, and upon the poisonous snakes react under the threat of being disturbed and attacked by the people in order to be defending/protecting themselves, the people think and say, "Look. They are so bad and hurtful. They deserved to be destroyed and eliminated from the world. I am doing everyone a favor, by hurting them and getting rid of them so that they won't be able to hurt me and my family and all of you. I am doing this to defend the safety of myself and my family and all of you. Also, after we clear out all the poisonous snakes from this land, we can do whatever we want on this land and take whatever we want from this land."

The minds that have correct understanding, they respect all and everyone as they are, even if they don't agree with all and everyone. They don't possess any land or space claiming as their land or their space, because they know that all lands and space don't belong to anyone or anything. All and everyone are merely momentarily sharing this land and space with all and everything that are different from one another, that might not like or agree with one another, and that's okay. If there are some others that are non-understanding and behaving hurtfully and destructively, they would just stay away from these minds as much as possible, minimize or avoid any kind of dealing or interaction with them. Leave them alone, let them be what they are, while allowing them to be aware of their own mind and their behavior, or not.

The minds that understand, they never feel intimidated by anyone or anything, not even death, not to say, the ones that claimed to be the most powerful and influential people, or the most successful and wealthy people, and carry the highest ranking, class, title, or status in the world. They never admire or look down on anyone. They are free from superiority and inferiority. They are free from self-esteem and self-worth. They don't need to please anyone and they don't need to be pleased by anyone.

All are selfless. All are impermanent. All are limited and conditional. All will change, decay, disintegrate, and pass away, regardless of whether comfortably, gracefully, or elegantly, or not.

Reflect. Inquire. Realize.

Be free from ignorance.

Be free from self-righteousness.

Be free from fear.

Be free from greed and possessiveness. 

Be free from "I need to attack you first even before you do anything 'bad', 'wrong', 'hurtful', or 'destructive' unto me. To show you and all the others that I am strong. I can bully you, but you can't bully me. If you threaten me for bullying you, then it proves that you are bad and wrong, and you deserved to be punished for threatening me. I bully you is all out of self-defense, because I strongly think and believe that you would be bad and hurtful unto me and my family and everyone else, and so, it's totally alright and nothing wrong for me to bully you and hurt you as much as I want, so that you can't hurt me even if I am hurting you. And I want to hurt you, because I think and believe that you are bad, and you deserve punishment."

That is seriously mentally ill. Unfortunately, many minds are indeed not aware of themselves are thinking and behaving in such way. These minds are drowning in painful suffering being lost in ignorance.

"We are the good and righteous people. We need to punish and get rid of all the other bad and wrongful people in the world," and "You are bad and wrong because you don't do exactly what I want and expect you to do." That is what the self-righteous minds strongly think and believe and behave.

Such is the world of ignorance.

Ignorance is the most serious form of mental illness that cause intentional or unintentional hurtful destructive behavior unto oneself and/or others and the surrounding environment in a world that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.

And this ignorance exists in everywhere, where the minds are, in the family, in the relationships, in any community, or in any dealing and affair.

None can remove the ignorance in others.

It's the freedom of the minds towards whether they are aware of ignorance in themselves, or not, and whether they want to be free from ignorance, or not.

It's the freedom of all minds to behave the way that they are, and it's their own responsibility towards all their behaviors/actions/reactions and the consequences of all that.

Inquire the truth of everything, and be free.

The bully and its bullying

Bullying is a form of mental illness.

The bully is a person or a mind that is suffering from mental illness.

Not all forms of mental illness are violent, hurtful, or destructive, but the mental illness of bullying is violent, hurtful, and destructive unto oneself and others.

Bully and bullying exists in anywhere and everywhere. In the family, among spouses, among parents and children, among siblings, among relatives. In the community, among friends, among lovers, among schoolmates, among classmates, among teachers and students, among businesses, among bosses and bosses, among employers and employees, among colleagues, among neighbours, among countries, among leaders and leaders, among leaders and followers, among human beings, among human beings and other living beings, among all and everyone that are existing and functioning under the influence of a restless impure modification of the mind. It is the by-products of ignorance, the idea of 'I', egoism, impurities, and restlessness in the modification of the mind.

The bully has endless and boundless desires waiting to be gratified and fulfilled, and it wants to gratify and fulfill all its endless and boundless desires via bullying/threatening/manipulating/exploiting the others.

The bully thinks and believes that itself is more intelligent than many others. But unfortunately, they are not, because if they are intelligent, they won't be what they are (a bully), and behave as they are (bullying others).

It thinks and believes that itself is the one in power to be juggling/controlling/influencing/manipulating the others to act/react/behave or don't act/react/behave in certain way that it desires, that will make all its desires come true.

The minds that are wise (not necessarily intelligent), they won't try to juggle/control/influence/manipulate/bully/threaten anyone or anything to be or not to be in certain way. If they want, they can even help the others to develop sufficient knowledge or correct understanding that will help to unveil the wisdom within all and everyone. Highly intelligent and the accumulation of worldly knowledge doesn't necessarily mean that the mind is wise, or the wisdom within a.k.a. the knowledge of life existence, is unveiled to the mind.

Out of ignorance, the ones that were/are being bullied by some others in certain way, they might think and believe that in order to stop being the victim of a bully, is to become a bully themselves, that they think and believe it will make them feel strong and powerful, which doesn't work, because that will only be exposing the ignorance, low self-esteem, inferiority, insufficiency, fear, and weakness (powerlessness) in themselves. It doesn't make the sense of low self-esteem, inferiority, insufficiency, fear, or powerlessness in them to disappear. It doesn't really make them strong and powerful.

Even the most 'powerful' person in the world will still be troubling by the sense of low self-esteem, inferiority, insufficiency, fear, or powerlessness in them, if they haven't attained self-realization towards the wisdom within.

Those who have attained self-realization towards the wisdom within, they don't need to 'be powerful', they are powerful, selflessly, intentionlessly, desirelessly, namelessly, and formlessly. And that selfless power of wisdom and compassion, doesn't threaten, or control, or manipulate anyone or anything to be in certain way that is desirable and agreeable, but the mind is peaceful as it is, unconditionally.

The person becomes a bully, or the bully is existing, through bullying and threatening the others.

A bully is also a manipulator. Through manipulating and threatening others, it gains the power of bullying, to become a bully.

"Give me what I want, or else, I will punish you, and you will be in painful suffering. All I want is for you to be good and happy. I want you to be happy. If you make me happy, and you will also be happy. Be nice to me, and I will be nice to you. If not, I will make you suffer. You just need to do what I want you to do and give me what I want, and I will be good and you will be good too, and there will be no punishment, and there will be no painful suffering. Everyone is good and happy." - The common statement of any kind of bully.

The bully manipulates the others to think and believe that they are weak and dependent, and that they need to depend on it (not someone and/or something else), no matter what and how.

The survival of a bully is coming from bullying/manipulating/threatening "some others". If there is nobody being there to be engaging with the bully, then the bully and its bullying has no "target" to aim at, in order to be what they are.

The power of bullying or manipulation of the bully/manipulator is being given and empowered by the others whom themselves ignorantly/willingly to give in or surrender to the desires or the threats/bullying/manipulations of the bully/manipulator.

If all and everyone just stop thinking and believing that themselves are weak and dependent, that they can never be strong and independent as being told by the bully/manipulator, where they realize that they are weak and dependent is because they were/are being bullied/threatened/manipulated by the bully/manipulator to think and believe that they are weak and dependent, and hence, they (can) stop gratifying the desires (not giving in or surrender to the threats) of the bully/manipulator, then the bully/manipulator will loose its power to bully and manipulate anyone or anything.

The bully or the manipulator, as well as the exploiter, cannot exist or cannot have the power to be what they are, if they are no others being there to be engaging with them, being the ones that are being bullied, or manipulated, or exploited by them.

Even if someone is really physically/mentally/financially weak, and needed to be dependent on some others to survive, it doesn't need to and shouldn't be dependent on someone who is a bully. It can look out for and depend on some others who are not a bully, but with kindness and wisdom, who don't need to be a bully to be bullying others in order to gratify their desires. There are many others who are not a bully, who don't need to survive or to be 'superior, strong, and powerful' by bullying others.

To stop the existence of any kind of bully and bullying, all and everyone just need to stop giving in to or gratifying the desires of the bully, that stops empowering the bully and its bullying, and eventually, the bully will no longer have the power of bullying to bully anyone or anything.

Once give in, it will be more difficult to be free from the bully and its bullying. Because upon each time giving in, it will be empowering the bully and its bullying. The bullying will never come to an end, not until the bully looses the power of bullying that is empowered by those who give in to the desires/bullying/threats/manipulations/exploitation of the bully.

Want to stop any kind of bully and its bullying? Then stop empowering all that.

Stop engaging with the bully.

Stop negotiating with the bully.

Leave the bully to be by itself, to be engaging and negotiating with itself.

No doubt that, the bully and its bullying has certain power being given, powered, and empowered by those who give in to the bully and its bullying.

But the selfless wisdom and compassion of nature, that exists in all and everyone, and the nature's law of cause and effect, is even more powerful.

Many people might think and believe that the bully is fearless, that is why it is a bully that bullies others, but actually, it's the exact contrary. Those who are fearless don't need to bully anyone or anything, not to say, to be bullied by someone or something. Both the bully and the bullied are all acting/reacting/behaving under the presence of fear.

Most people (except the ones that are selfish, ignorant, greedy, violent, and destructive) want to be living under a peaceful and harmonious living environment that is conducive for enjoying either a comfortable life existence all by oneself, or have a pleasant relationship and interaction with all the others in the surrounding environment. By inflicting violent, hurtful, and destructive action/reaction/behavior unto others and the surrounding environment will only destroy the peaceful and harmonious living environment, where all and everyone, including those who inflict violent, hurtful, and destructive action/reaction/behavior unto others and the surrounding environment, won't be able to survive or make a living, not to say, to be enjoying either a comfortable life existence all by oneself, or have a pleasant relationship and interaction with all the others in the surrounding environment.

The difference between a mind that wants (needs) to bully others and a mind that doesn't need to bully anyone or anything -

The mind that doesn't bully, knows and understands what the bully doesn't know and doesn't understand. No matter how much 'power' and 'control' that the bully thinks and believes that it has, that comes from bullying/threatening/manipulating/oppressing/exploiting/punishing/hurting the others, it is always being in a state of inferiority than those who don't need to bully anyone or anything, because there is something that it doesn't know and doesn't understand, that many others know and understand.

The more the mind wants to be more superior or powerful than the others, the more inferior and powerless is the mind than all the others.

If you think you are a victim of a bully, you just need to know that you are, and will always be, more superior and powerful than the bully, without the need of being a bully yourself. All you need to do is, not accepting the bullying, and walk away, and leave the bully by itself.

The bully will beg you and everyone that it bullies, "Please come back, and let me bully you. I love you. I will always love you. Please come back. I need you to be here for me to be a bully. If everyone leaves me, there is nobody here for me to bully."

 

Controlling others is not self control.

Discipline/punish others is not self discipline.

It is harmful and destructive in the intention and action of controlling and disciplining others.

It is beneficial and constructive in the intention and action of self control and self discipline.

And more importantly, self discipline is not about self punishment or be disciplined/punished by others.

Self discipline is about coming from the selfless thinking and acting faculty (the selfless mind) itself, out of its own desire or freewill, to be purifying, filtering, and quieting its own restless impure egoistic modification of the mind, a.k.a. removing/annihilating the veil of ignorance that is veiling the existing absolute knowledge of the selfless impermanent limited and conditional life existence, and hence, enabling the selfless thinking and acting faculty to be knowing/realizing the selfless intentionless attributeless timeless unlimited and unconditional wisdom and compassion (the selfless intentionless power of nature that enables all and everything to be forming/existing, changing, decaying and disintegrating/ceased existing), that is always there, within the selfless impermanent limited and conditional existence and function of the selfless perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting faculty of the selfless physical body, where all these names and forms are selfless, impermanent, limited, and conditional, that only exists for a momentary duration in this infinite space that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.

There is no violence, or hurtful action/reaction/behavior unto oneself or others in self discipline.

Inquire towards the truth of everything.

Love without possessiveness

Most of the 'love' in this world, is possessive love.

Upon falling in love with something, one will also want to possess that something that one 'loves'. Upon possessing that something that one 'loves', one will also wants to 'control' that something that one 'loves' to be 'the way that one likes and desires it to be'.

"I love you. I want you to be mine. You are mine. You belongs to me. I want you to be good, and always good.

When you behave in the way that I don't like and don't desire and don't agree with, and when you don't behave in the way that I like and desire and agree with, or when you are not good, I am unhappy and angry, and I will punish and hurt you."

Similarly,

"I love this land. I want to keep this land to myself. This land is my land. This land is mine. This land belongs to me.

I love this animal. I want to keep this animal with me. This animal is my pet, my family. This animal is mine. This animal belongs to me.

I love my family, my partner, my children, my brothers and sisters, my community, my people, my pet, and my land.

When the animal, the land, the family, the partner, the children, the brothers and sisters, the community, and the people are the way that I don't like and don't desire and don't agree with, or when they are not the way that I like and desire and agree with, or when they don't give me what I want and they give me what I don't want, I am unhappy and angry, and I will punish and hurt them, because I want them to be good."

What love?

No love.

Only possessiveness and control.

Only anger and vengeance.

Only selfish desires and expectation.

"I don't love you or anything. I don't even love myself. I only love my desires of getting what I want, what I like, and what I agree with, and not getting what I don't want, what I don't like, and what I don't agree with."

Don't fall in love with anything or anyone, if one doesn't know what is love, and doesn't know how to love, but one will be hurting everything and everyone that one thinks one 'loves' very much, out of possessiveness and control and desires.

If one really wants to love, then

Love without possessiveness.

Love without desires of craving and aversion.

Love without control and expectation.

Love unconditionally, and let go.

 

Inquire the truth of everything.

Acceptance and unconditional loving kindness doesn't mean that one must be engaging in a form of relationship with all and everyone

Some minds misunderstood that acceptance and unconditional loving kindness is about (continuing) to be engaging in a form of relationship/family ties/connection/life sharing or physical and mental interaction with some others (including one's close family members, life partner, relatives and friends), even if there is the presence of certain regular/ongoing/repetitive intentional and random abusive hurtful damaging behavior/action/reaction deriving from the disturbed/confused/violent/suffering/restless/offensive/defensive/possessive state of mind under the influence of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness, or mental deformity/limitation/illness. Or, in another term, allowing/supporting/empowering/giving opportunities to others to be continuously generating abusive hurtful damaging physical and mental behavior/action/reaction out of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness or disturbed state of mind/mental illness that cause intentional and random hurtful damages/suffering unto oneself and others and the surrounding environment that doesn't belong to anyone, that is evitable, that can be avoided.

The presence/existence of acceptance and unconditional loving kindness in the mind towards all and everyone in this world of selfless impermanent names and forms, is about one is resting in unconditional peace not being disturbed or determined by the ignorance of others. It doesn't mean that this mind needs to be engaging in a form of relationship/family ties/connection/life sharing or physical and mental interaction with all and everyone that are existing selflessly and impermanently in this world that doesn't belong to anyone.

Not engaging in any form of relationship/family ties/connection/life sharing or physical and mental interaction with anyone, it doesn't mean that acceptance and unconditional loving kindness is absent/non-existing in the mind. It doesn't mean that one doesn't or cannot accept/respect/love and be kind to others unconditionally for being what they are, as they are.

Acceptance and unconditional loving kindness, where oneself has the correct understanding that allows oneself to accept/respect/love and be kind towards all beings/minds as they are, that gives rise to unconditional peace in oneself under the presence of non-discrimination/non-aversion/non-violence/non-judgment/non-interference (the absence of discrimination/aversion/violence/judgment/interference) towards all the other beings/minds that are functioning/thinking/reasoning/understanding/feeling/desiring/behaving/acting/reacting under the influence of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness, or mental deformity/limitation/illness, it doesn't mean that one should (continuing) be engaging in a form of relationship/family ties/connection/life sharing or physical and mental interaction with all the others (including one's existing close family members, life partner, relatives and friends), that involve(s) certain regular/ongoing/repetitive intentional and random abusive hurtful damaging behavior/action/reaction deriving from the disturbed/confused/violent/suffering/restless/offensive/defensive/possessive state of mind, or mental deformity/limitation/illness.

One has the freedom of choice to move away from such beings/minds as much as possible, to NOT allowing/supporting/empowering/giving opportunities to these beings/minds to be continuously generating abusive hurtful damaging physical and mental behavior/action/reaction out of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness/disturbed state of mind/mental illness that cause intentional and random hurtful damages/suffering unto oneself and others and the surrounding environment that doesn't belong to anyone.

One is not being disturbed or determined by the hurtful damaging behavior/action/reaction of the others, understanding that all those beings/minds that are behaving/acting/reacting in a hurtful damaging way towards themselves/others/the surrounding environment is due to the presence of ignorance/mental illness, while respecting/allowing all beings/minds to be what they are, as they are, without discrimination/aversion/violence/judgment/interference towards all those beings/minds that are functioning/thinking/reasoning/understanding/feeling/desiring/behaving/acting/reacting under the influence of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness, or mental deformity/limitation/illness, but one doesn't need to be staying/standing there, not moving away from such beings/minds and their intentional and random abusive hurtful damaging behavior/action/reaction.

More importantly, one is free from the influence of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness, where one has the clarity of thinking and peace in the mind deriving from the presence of correct understanding (the absence of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness or mental illness), and hence, one doesn't behave/act/react in a hurtful damaging way that hurt oneself and others and the surrounding environment that doesn't belong to anyone.

Even if one is aware of oneself is inevitably functioning under the influence of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness, or is suffering from certain kind of mental deformity/limitation/illness, it's okay, be kind to oneself, accept that this mind is not perfect, that it is unwell, while without discrimination, aversion, or judgment towards oneself (the selfless mind) that is unwell, but, under the presence of certain degrees of precious self-awareness (being aware of the state of oneself/the state of mind, or what is going on in the modification of one's mind), being aware of oneself might be behaving/acting/reacting in certain way that would cause hurtful damaging consequences unto oneself and/or others, that is evitable, that can be avoided, this mind can have self-initiative and self-effort to start looking after the well-being of itself (the selfless thinking faculty or the selfless perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting mind), so that this mind would minimize or avoid hurting oneself and/or others.

One doesn't and cannot interfere with all the others being what they are, as they are, or control/discipline/transform the others to be or not to be in certain way, but one can have self-awareness, self-control, self-initiative, self-effort, self-discipline, and determination, to be undergoing self-transformation or mind purification process (changing one's mind's behavior pattern, or modifying/quieting the modification of one's mind, or thinning-out/annihilating ignorance, egoism, impurities and restlessness in the mind), or even, attaining the ultimate direct self-realization towards the truth of selflessness.

However, many minds, including those that are highly educated, talented, intelligent, knowledgeable, and so called highly successful, accomplished, influential, and powerful in this world, might have lost or don't have that certain degrees of essential self-awareness, of knowing what is going on in themselves, where the mind is completely ignorant towards the presence of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness/mental illness in themselves, where one doesn't have the clarity of thinking and peace in the mind, being over-powered by the intense ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness or mental deformity/limitation/illness, and hence, one would constantly behave/act/react in a hurtful damaging way that hurt oneself and others and the surrounding environment that doesn't belong to anyone, either intentionally or randomly. The ongoing and endless unrest, selfishness, greed, discrimination, exploitation, violence, self-harm, harm others, and cruelty in the world that doesn't belong to anyone, is a reflection of the existence of many minds that are unwell.

Be understanding and be kind towards all these disturbed restless suffering minds, by not being disturbed or determined by these minds and their disturbing hurtful damaging behavior/action/reaction, by NOT allowing/supporting/empowering/giving opportunities to these minds to continuously generate hurtful damaging behavior/action/reaction unto oneself by moving away from these minds as much as possible, while allowing them to be aware of what is going on in themselves, or not, and whether they will help and look after themselves, or not. As none can remove the ignorance/suffering for another, not even one's close family members/life partner/relatives/friends, but only by oneself through one's own self-awareness, freewill, self-initiative, self-effort, self-control, self-discipline, and determination.

The sincere yoga practitioners renounced all kinds of worldly relationships/family ties/connections/interactions, including the non-problematic ones, not to say, relationships/family ties/connections/interactions that involves intentional and random abusive hurtful damaging behavior, in order to be looking after the over-all well-being of oneself, before one can help those that one loves and cares very much, that also need to know how to help themselves and look after the over-all well-being of themselves.

That's why don't wait until the mind loses that certain degrees of precious self-awareness. One must be able to help oneself, as none can help oneself if one loses or doesn't have the basic ability/awareness to help oneself, even if help from others is always available.

Upon attaining direct self-realization towards the truth of selflessness, a.k.a timelessness, oneness, non-separateness, namelessness, formlessness, attributelessness, birthlessness, and deathlessness, all kinds of myths, fairy tales, white lies, or superstitions created by the minds that were/are functioning under the veil of ignorance, egoism, impurities, and restlessness, with the intention to sow fear and temptation in other minds, to be tempting, threatening, intimidating, exploiting, bullying, and oppressing other minds, in order to gain certain power of control towards other minds to be or not to be in certain way in accordance to their own selfish desires and don't desires, regardless of whether it's within a family or a community, will all dissolve and disappear from the mind.

Such mind is fearless and peaceful as it is, regardless of the existence of all kinds of man made madness in this world, while respecting the law of nature and all kinds of selfless impermanent changes as they are, devoid of the idea of 'I' and the egoistic attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, judgment, or expectation. That is liberation.

Inquire the truth of everything, and be free.