Some minds misunderstood that acceptance and unconditional loving kindness is about (continuing) to be engaging in a form of relationship/family ties/connection/life sharing or physical and mental interaction with some others (including one's close family members, life partner, relatives and friends), even if there is the presence of certain regular/ongoing/repetitive intentional and random abusive hurtful damaging behavior/action/reaction deriving from the disturbed/confused/violent/suffering/restless/offensive/defensive/possessive state of mind under the influence of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness, or mental deformity/limitation/illness. Or, in another term, allowing/supporting/empowering/giving opportunities to others to be continuously generating abusive hurtful damaging physical and mental behavior/action/reaction out of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness or disturbed state of mind/mental illness that cause intentional and random hurtful damages/suffering unto oneself and others and the surrounding environment that doesn't belong to anyone, that is evitable, that can be avoided.
The presence/existence of acceptance and unconditional loving kindness in the mind towards all and everyone in this world of selfless impermanent names and forms, is about one is resting in unconditional peace not being disturbed or determined by the ignorance of others. It doesn't mean that this mind needs to be engaging in a form of relationship/family ties/connection/life sharing or physical and mental interaction with all and everyone that are existing selflessly and impermanently in this world that doesn't belong to anyone.
Not engaging in any form of relationship/family ties/connection/life sharing or physical and mental interaction with anyone, it doesn't mean that acceptance and unconditional loving kindness is absent/non-existing in the mind. It doesn't mean that one doesn't or cannot accept/respect/love and be kind to others unconditionally for being what they are, as they are.
Acceptance and unconditional loving kindness, where oneself has the correct understanding that allows oneself to accept/respect/love and be kind towards all beings/minds as they are, that gives rise to unconditional peace in oneself under the presence of non-discrimination/non-aversion/non-violence/non-judgment/non-interference (the absence of discrimination/aversion/violence/judgment/interference) towards all the other beings/minds that are functioning/thinking/reasoning/understanding/feeling/desiring/behaving/acting/reacting under the influence of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness, or mental deformity/limitation/illness, it doesn't mean that one should (continuing) be engaging in a form of relationship/family ties/connection/life sharing or physical and mental interaction with all the others (including one's existing close family members, life partner, relatives and friends), that involve(s) certain regular/ongoing/repetitive intentional and random abusive hurtful damaging behavior/action/reaction deriving from the disturbed/confused/violent/suffering/restless/offensive/defensive/possessive state of mind, or mental deformity/limitation/illness.
One has the freedom of choice to move away from such beings/minds as much as possible, to NOT allowing/supporting/empowering/giving opportunities to these beings/minds to be continuously generating abusive hurtful damaging physical and mental behavior/action/reaction out of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness/disturbed state of mind/mental illness that cause intentional and random hurtful damages/suffering unto oneself and others and the surrounding environment that doesn't belong to anyone.
One is not being disturbed or determined by the hurtful damaging behavior/action/reaction of the others, understanding that all those beings/minds that are behaving/acting/reacting in a hurtful damaging way towards themselves/others/the surrounding environment is due to the presence of ignorance/mental illness, while respecting/allowing all beings/minds to be what they are, as they are, without discrimination/aversion/violence/judgment/interference towards all those beings/minds that are functioning/thinking/reasoning/understanding/feeling/desiring/behaving/acting/reacting under the influence of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness, or mental deformity/limitation/illness, but one doesn't need to be staying/standing there, not moving away from such beings/minds and their intentional and random abusive hurtful damaging behavior/action/reaction.
More importantly, one is free from the influence of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness, where one has the clarity of thinking and peace in the mind deriving from the presence of correct understanding (the absence of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness or mental illness), and hence, one doesn't behave/act/react in a hurtful damaging way that hurt oneself and others and the surrounding environment that doesn't belong to anyone.
Even if one is aware of oneself is inevitably functioning under the influence of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness, or is suffering from certain kind of mental deformity/limitation/illness, it's okay, be kind to oneself, accept that this mind is not perfect, that it is unwell, while without discrimination, aversion, or judgment towards oneself (the selfless mind) that is unwell, but, under the presence of certain degrees of precious self-awareness (being aware of the state of oneself/the state of mind, or what is going on in the modification of one's mind), being aware of oneself might be behaving/acting/reacting in certain way that would cause hurtful damaging consequences unto oneself and/or others, that is evitable, that can be avoided, this mind can have self-initiative and self-effort to start looking after the well-being of itself (the selfless thinking faculty or the selfless perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting mind), so that this mind would minimize or avoid hurting oneself and/or others.
One doesn't and cannot interfere with all the others being what they are, as they are, or control/discipline/transform the others to be or not to be in certain way, but one can have self-awareness, self-control, self-initiative, self-effort, self-discipline, and determination, to be undergoing self-transformation or mind purification process (changing one's mind's behavior pattern, or modifying/quieting the modification of one's mind, or thinning-out/annihilating ignorance, egoism, impurities and restlessness in the mind), or even, attaining the ultimate direct self-realization towards the truth of selflessness.
However, many minds, including those that are highly educated, talented, intelligent, knowledgeable, and so called highly successful, accomplished, influential, and powerful in this world, might have lost or don't have that certain degrees of essential self-awareness, of knowing what is going on in themselves, where the mind is completely ignorant towards the presence of ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness/mental illness in themselves, where one doesn't have the clarity of thinking and peace in the mind, being over-powered by the intense ignorance/egoism/impurities/restlessness or mental deformity/limitation/illness, and hence, one would constantly behave/act/react in a hurtful damaging way that hurt oneself and others and the surrounding environment that doesn't belong to anyone, either intentionally or randomly. The ongoing and endless unrest, selfishness, greed, discrimination, exploitation, violence, self-harm, harm others, and cruelty in the world that doesn't belong to anyone, is a reflection of the existence of many minds that are unwell.
Be understanding and be kind towards all these disturbed restless suffering minds, by not being disturbed or determined by these minds and their disturbing hurtful damaging behavior/action/reaction, by NOT allowing/supporting/empowering/giving opportunities to these minds to continuously generate hurtful damaging behavior/action/reaction unto oneself by moving away from these minds as much as possible, while allowing them to be aware of what is going on in themselves, or not, and whether they will help and look after themselves, or not. As none can remove the ignorance/suffering for another, not even one's close family members/life partner/relatives/friends, but only by oneself through one's own self-awareness, freewill, self-initiative, self-effort, self-control, self-discipline, and determination.
The sincere yoga practitioners renounced all kinds of worldly relationships/family ties/connections/interactions, including the non-problematic ones, not to say, relationships/family ties/connections/interactions that involves intentional and random abusive hurtful damaging behavior, in order to be looking after the over-all well-being of oneself, before one can help those that one loves and cares very much, that also need to know how to help themselves and look after the over-all well-being of themselves.
That's why don't wait until the mind loses that certain degrees of precious self-awareness. One must be able to help oneself, as none can help oneself if one loses or doesn't have the basic ability/awareness to help oneself, even if help from others is always available.
Upon attaining direct self-realization towards the truth of selflessness, a.k.a timelessness, oneness, non-separateness, namelessness, formlessness, attributelessness, birthlessness, and deathlessness, all kinds of myths, fairy tales, white lies, or superstitions created by the minds that were/are functioning under the veil of ignorance, egoism, impurities, and restlessness, with the intention to sow fear and temptation in other minds, to be tempting, threatening, intimidating, exploiting, bullying, and oppressing other minds, in order to gain certain power of control towards other minds to be or not to be in certain way in accordance to their own selfish desires and don't desires, regardless of whether it's within a family or a community, will all dissolve and disappear from the mind.
Such mind is fearless and peaceful as it is, regardless of the existence of all kinds of man made madness in this world, while respecting the law of nature and all kinds of selfless impermanent changes as they are, devoid of the idea of 'I' and the egoistic attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, judgment, or expectation. That is liberation.
Inquire the truth of everything, and be free.
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