Mind the action reaction of oneself, don't mind the action reaction of others

It is a natural common egoistic mind behavior pattern in most minds where upon the state of consciousness/wakefulness and semi-consciousness/semi-awake and semi-sleep, the mind is being busy minding about the action and inaction as well as the reaction and non-reaction of the others, being determined and disturbed by all THAT (what others do and don't do and how others react or don't react) wittingly and unwittingly, as the mind ceaselessly and spontaneously reacts towards all THAT that the mind perceives and recognizes as something good or bad, right or wrong, should or shouldn't, agreeable or disagreeable, desirable or undesirable, and pleasant or unpleasant, based on its own particular way of thinking, belief/disbelief, likes and dislikes, desires and don't desires, agreements and disagreements.

The mind is being pleased and empowered by the gratification of its desire of craving and aversion, while being displeased, dissatisfied, disappointed, demotivated, belittled, unhappy, annoyed, offended, or angry upon the non-gratification of its desires of craving and aversion, upon others don't act/react in the way that it expects how others should act/react (the good and right way based on its own particular belief, values, and practice about what is good/bad/right/wrong/should/shouldn't), or upon others act and react in the way that it thinks and believes that others shouldn't act/react (not the good and right way, but the bad and wrong way based on its own particular belief, values, and practice).

The minds that are not interested in learning and practicing and realizing yoga and/or buddhism, they don't have to practice yoga and/or buddhism, not to say, to practice yoga and/or buddhism as it is.

The minds that are interested in learning and practicing and realizing yoga and/or buddhism, then, only if they want, they can practice yoga and/or buddhism (practically and effectively in everyday life affair/activity/ties and connections/relationship/friendship/interaction/communication beyond the yoga class or the yoga practice session, or beyond all kinds of physical and mental yoga and/or buddhism practice), as it is.

In the beginning on the path of yoga and/or buddhism, the mind needs to have the essential basic correct understanding towards,

"All and everyone have the freedom to think, believe, behave, act, and react, in certain way or not in certain way, as they are, as well as, not thinking, not believing, not behaving, not acting, or not reacting, in certain way or not in certain way, as they are. All and everyone are responsible towards their own particular way of thinking, belief, behavior, action, and reaction, as well as also be accountable for the consequences of their own particular way of thinking, belief, behavior, action, and reaction, in certain way or not in certain way."

The mind that understands this, will not be disturbed or determined by the thinking, belief/disbelief, agreement/disagreement, desire/don't desire, like/dislike, behavior, action/inaction, and reaction/non-reaction as well as the consequences of all THAT, that are coming from oneself and all and everyone.

"How the mind think, believe/disbelieve, agree/disagree, desire/doesn't desire, like/dislike, behave, act, and react towards all and everyone and everything, is the freedom of choice and responsibility of the mind itself." 

"The mind is accountable for the consequences of the thinking, belief/disbelief, agreement/disagreement, desire/don't desire, like/dislike, behavior, action, and reaction of itself towards all and everything, but none is accountable for the thinking, belief/disbelief, agreement/disagreement, desire/don't desire, like/dislike, behavior, action, and reaction of all the others towards all and everything."

"Peace and happiness in the mind, is the freedom of conscious and semi-conscious choice/effort/action taking/understanding/responsibility of the mind itself. Similarly, the presence and absence of violence, anger, hatred, bitterness, resentment, admiration, jealousy, intimidation, disappointment, dissatisfaction, offensiveness, defensiveness, fear, worry, discontentment, greed, unrest, and unhappiness in the mind is the freedom of conscious and semi-conscious choice/effort/action taking/understanding/responsibility of the mind itself, where the mind has the conscious and semi-conscious freewill/choice/effort/understanding towards either grasping or non-grasping, holding onto or non-holding onto, letting go or non-letting go towards something or all and everything, and it is the freedom of action reaction of the mind itself, whether to act and react in certain way or not in certain way (either non-grasping or grasping, holding onto or letting go, to be disturbed or undisturbed, to be happy or unhappy, to be selfish or unselfish, to be kind or unkind, to be constructive or destructive)."

"The mind reacts and feels pleased, satisfied, motivated, empowered, good, happy, and meaningful is because its desires of craving and aversion are being gratified, while the mind reacts and feels displeased, dissatisfied, demotivated, hammered, bad, unhappy, and meaningless is because its desires of craving and aversion are not being gratified. It is not the names and forms that the mind perceives/experiences/comes in contact with are having the quality or intention to make the mind reacts and feels in certain way or not in certain way."

"Some people react and feel good and happy when some others give them some apples that they like very much, but they react and feel bad and unhappy when some others give them some oranges that they hate very much. Meanwhile, some people react and feel good and happy when some others give them some oranges, but they react and feel bad and unhappy when some others give them some apples. It is not the quality or intention of the apples or the oranges that make the people react and feel in certain way or not in certain way. The people are happy and satisfied is because either they are getting/experiencing/coming in contact with what they like and desire and agree with, or when they don't get/experience/come in contact with what they don't like and don't desire and don't agree with. The people are unhappy and dissatisfied is because either they are getting/experiencing/coming in contact with what they don't like and don't desire and don't agree with, or when they don't get/experience/come in contact with what they like and desire and agree with."

"Looking after the general physical and mental well-being of the body and mind is the sole responsibility of the body and mind itself upon reaching certain degrees of maturity in the physical and mental development, unless there is completely absence of the physical and mental development of such conscious and semi-conscious physical and mental ability either due to deformity upon birth, or young age, or disease/illness, or injury, or aging, or being conditioned and suppressed by the worldly egoistic ideas, belief, values, and practice of non-development/non-encouragement/suppression/prohibition towards mental and emotional independence under certain selfish and greedy ambitions/visions/agendas in a couple/a family/parents and children/siblings/a community/a tribe/an ethnicity/a culture/a spirituality/a religion/a country/an organization under the sense of belonging/ownership/possessiveness and the urge to influence and control all and everything to be the way that one desires."

"How all and everyone live life and make use of the selfless impermanent limited conditional and non-self momentary life existence and function of the body and mind, and the outcome of that, is the responsibility and accountability of all and everyone themselves."

Only upon the mind is being undetermined or undisturbed by all THAT (the thinking, belief/disbelief, agreement/disagreement, desire/don't desire, like/dislike, behavior, action/inaction, and reaction/non-reaction of oneself and all the others towards all and everything as well as the consequences/outcome of all THAT), then there is possibility for the restless modification of the mind to be rendered calm and quiet effectively under the state of consciousness and semi-consciousness, that will enable the mind to see, or know, or understand all and everything that the mind comes in contact with, clearly as they are, as it is, under the presence of conscious and semi-conscious awareness/cognition/intellectual reasoning/understanding/knowing, under the absence of grasping.

The mind needs to divert the outgoing tendency of "busy minding and interfering towards the thinking, belief/disbelief, agreement/disagreement, desire/don't desire, like/dislike, behavior, action/inaction, and reaction/non-reaction of all the others towards all and everything being conditioned by their own different particular way of thinking, belief/disbelief, agreements/disagreements, desires/don't desires, and likes/dislikes towards all and everything" inward onto minding and introspecting the selfless impermanent limited conditional and non-self thought process/modification/state of the mind of itself, without grasping, and not being determined or disturbed by all THAT (the action/inaction/reaction/non-reaction and their consequences of oneself and/or all the others), regardless of agreeable or disagreeable, desirable or undesirable, and pleasant or unpleasant based on one's thinking, belief/disbelief, likes and dislikes, desires and doesn't desires, or agreements and disagreements.

The mind needs to free itself from the sense of self-righteousness and interference towards the freedom of all the others being what they are, as they are.

Such mind will have more and more peace, will be more and more quiet and clear, and will have more and more understanding towards the selfless impermanent limited conditional and non-self existence and function or modification of itself and everything.

Non-grasping/Non-clinging/Non-holding onto/Letting go/Non-possessive, is the entire practice of yoga and/or buddhism, while all the other practices such as yoga asana and pranayama practice, concentration and meditation practice, chanting and japa, renunciation, solitude, seclusion, silence (mauna), and etc, are merely some helping tools that can help the mind to turn inward to focus within, to render the restless thought process/modification/state of mind calm, quiet, and clear, to develop the correct understanding that leads towards the timeless unconditional peace in oneself that illuminates unto all and everyone and everything in the surrounding environment, indiscriminately and unconditionally.

The mind that has established firmly on Non-grasping/Non-clinging/Non-holding onto/Letting go/Non-possessiveness, doesn't need to observe or partake all the other practices or observations, however, there are some momentary limited and conditional beneficial side effects deriving from all those regular physical and mental practices that can help to empower and maintain certain degrees of physical and mental health and fitness condition up to certain extend, that enables the body and mind to have the basic health and fitness condition to be performing ego-less activities/actions that can benefit oneself and all and everyone and everything and the surrounding environment that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.

It's absolutely nothing bad or wrong, if under certain condition and situation, there is no availability or there is not enough basic health and fitness condition for the body and mind to perform certain or any actions/activities for oneself and/or others and the surrounding environment. It really doesn't matter. But more importantly, is that the mind is at peace unconditionally under any conditions and situations, under the presence of correct understanding, under the absence of grasping/clinging/holding onto/possessiveness.

What and how much the mind knows and doesn't know, understands or doesn't understand, not to say, what and how much other minds know and don't know, understand or don't understand, is not important at all, but the absence of grasping onto all THAT, is the upmost important element that will lead the mind towards knowing and understanding the truth of everything that the mind knows or comes in contact with, as it is.

The mind is limited and conditional. It is the truth. It is not a weakness or shame/condemn/punishment/suffering deserving. 

Just like the mirror and the reflection being reflected by the mirror. The mirror that is devoid of movement, distortion, crack, dust, stain, or obstacle between the mirror and the object of reflection (the mind that is devoid of the veil of ignorance/the ego/egoism/impurities/restlessness), will reflect anything that is being reflected on it, as it is.

It is not important that the flawless motionless mirror doesn't and cannot reflect all and everything of all angles and all directions at once, where it can only reflects what is there in front of it (what the mind knows or comes in contact with, is limited, and what the mind doesn't know or doesn't come in contact with, is unlimited. The sum accumulated knowledge is limited, the continuous endless accumulation of knowledge is unlimited), but more importantly, whatever that is being reflected on the flawless motionless mirror will be reflected as it is (the truth as it is, or the correct understanding towards what the mind knows or comes in contact with).

Most importantly, the mirror is not being determined, or contaminated, or disturbed, or modified by the reflection of all kinds of objects under different qualities of names and forms that is being reflected unto it.

Similarly, the mind that is devoid of grasping, is not being determined, or contaminated, or disturbed, or modified by the selfless impermanent limited conditional and non-self modification of the mind, of random thought activities/thinking process, of whatever the mind perceives/experiences/comes in contact with towards all kinds of names and forms under different qualities (pleasant or unpleasant/good or bad/positive or negative/desirable or undesirable/agreeable or disagreeable/enjoyable or non-enjoyable/soothing or painful), and vice versa.

The only difference between the mirror and the mind, is that the mirror is a non-living object that doesn't has the conscious/semi-conscious freewill, or choice, or effort, or organs of action to perform action/reaction to be in or move away from certain beneficial or detrimental conditions or situations, while the mind is part of the living organism that has the conscious/semi-conscious freewill, or choice, or effort, or organs of action to perform action/reaction to be in or move away from certain beneficial or detrimental conditions or situations.

Inquire the truth of everything. 

Taking responsibility towards the action, reaction, desire, and behavior of oneself

The very basic yoga practice or teachings of yoga that the students of yoga learn in the yoga class even before trying to learn about some basic yoga exercise or yoga asana and pranayama practice, is about taking full responsibility towards oneself, towards all the different impermanent states of mind, of the thinking, understanding, feelings, emotions, ideas, belief and values, likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements, desires and don't desires, behaviors, actions, and reactions being generated through the body and mind, towards looking after oneself physically, mentally and/or emotionally, as well as towards making decision to be performing certain action/inaction, and to be active or take rest physically and/or mentally, in the present moment NOW accordingly, under the respective internal physical/mental and external environmental condition/situation/ability/disability/limitation/possibility/impossibility in the present moment NOW, that is impermanent, that is constantly changing.

Even though there is no infinite immortal individual self existence of 'I' existing in the selfless impermanent limited and conditional body and mind, but the selfless body and mind is indeed the one that is wittingly and/or unwittingly generating different countless cause after cause that give rise to respective different effects, deriving from certain behavior/action/reaction that are being generated under specific conscious desire/choice intentionally and/or under instinctive urge non-intentionally.

There is no infinite immortal individual self existence of 'I' that exists in the selfless body and mind to be responsible towards all the causes being generated by the selfless body and mind, while the selfless body and mind is responsible towards all the causes and effects that are being generated either wittingly (consciously by conscious choice and desire) or unwittingly (non-by choice unconsciously/instinctively/autonomously).

Regardless of whether wittingly or unwittingly, consciously or instinctively, intentionally or unintentionally, the body and mind is still the one that is responsible towards all its actions/reactions/behaviors being generated under conscious desires or instinctive urges of autonomous physical and mental activities being over-powered or conditioned by internal genetic inheritance or by external influential conditions.

There is sickness, or injury, or painful/unpleasant sensations in this body and mind, and this body and mind is undergoing this sickness, or injury, or painful/unpleasant sensations, while all the other bodies and minds are not undergoing all THAT, that is only happening in this particular body and mind, being perceived under the presence of the selfless conscious mind awareness of this particular mind.

Even when the mother can commiserate towards the painful physical and mental suffering that her child is suffering, and she herself is also being in a state of painful suffering upon seeing her child being in a state of physical and mental suffering, but she cannot replace the child or swap place with the child, to be the one who suffers the painful physical and mental suffering that the child is undergoing or suffering. She cannot take the medicine and receive the treatment, for her child to be recovering and become better. Her child has to take the medicine and receive the treatment to be recovering and become better.

It is the responsibility of the selfless perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting mind towards how it behaves, acts and reacts towards all and everything that it perceives/experiences/comes in contact with or doesn't come in contact with, as well as towards the consequences of all its behaviors, actions and reactions.

The minds that think and believe that there is completely no conscious freewill by choice to choose how to behave, act, and react under conscious awareness, where they think and believe that all behaviors, actions, and reactions are 'instinctively/autonomously/under the absence of conscious freewill' being influenced by the existing internal and/or external specific cause that leads to specific effect (that they think and believe as fixed, or non-modifiable), it is because they haven't attained direct self realization towards the truth of Thyself, or the selfless perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting mind, the mind stuff, the ego and egoism, the veil of ignorance, the selfless universal consciousness, the conscious mind awareness, the conscious mind evolution or the path of self inquiry and self realization, Selflessness, Impermanence, Limitation, Conditional, Non-self, Non-grasping, Silence, and Transcend, even if they have been accumulating all kinds of knowledge and information about all that coming from someone and somewhere, or under the help of innovative tools under advanced science and technology.

The mind that understands this, it is free, as it is.

It knows that its selfless impermanent states of mind, of happiness and unhappiness, peacefulness or peacelessness, doesn't need to be determined by whatever it perceives/experiences or doesn't perceive/experience internally and/or externally, regardless of whether the internal and/or external experiences/non-experiences/conditions/situations are pleasant or unpleasant, agreeable or disagreeable, desirable or undesirable, enjoyable or non-enjoyable.

The selfless impermanent restless modifications/states of mind, of all kinds of random thinking/thoughts/ideas/feelings/emotions that ceaselessly arising and passing away/coming and going, also cannot determine the ignorance free thinking and acting mind that knows what is non-grasping/non-attachment/non-identification/non-craving/non-aversion/non-comparison/non-judgment/non-expectation to be what it is, to be existing and functioning, to be performing action/inaction, without being determined by the selfless impermanent modifications/states of mind/mind stuff that is non-self, that doesn't belong to the selfless thinking and acting mind, not to say, all kinds of mind perception of names and forms being perceived through the senses via the sense organs, internally and/or externally.

It respects and doesn't restrict the freedom of thinking or not thinking, belief or disbelief, understanding or non-understanding, desire or don't desire, and the different types of behavior, action, and reaction of all the other minds being what they are, as they are, but all that and all kinds of pleasant or unpleasant, agreeable or disagreeable treatments coming from others unto itself, cannot determine itself to be happy and peaceful, or not.

Under the presence of conscious awareness on top of the presence of correct understanding, the ignorance free thinking and acting mind can choose how it behaves, acts, and reacts towards all and everything.

It doesn't need to control anything. It doesn't need to defy the nature's law of cause and effect being what it is. It doesn't need to defy or deny the natural process of decay and disintegration, or death. But it has the conscious awareness and correct understanding to be influencing the selfless impermanent changes in certain way in NOW, even if the body and mind is existing and functioning under certain inevitable restriction or limitation.

It doesn't need to stay there not moving away from any kind of natural disasters/hazards/dangers/risks/man made difficult and hurtful condition and situation, or ill treatments from others.

It doesn't need to argue with or fight against the ignorance of others.

It doesn't need to change or convince and convert others to be thinking, believing, understanding, desiring, behaving, acting, and reacting in certain way or not in certain way.

It may or may not do its best to help all the others to be free from the influence of ignorance, if there is the opportunity and possibility, without any obligation, and without egoism of attachment, identification, desire of craving and aversion, comparison, judgment, or expectation, allowing and respecting all and everyone to be what they are and what they are not, as they are, and to take their own pace under their own cause and effect, to be changing in certain way or not in certain way, or not.

That is what mental and emotional independence is about.

That is what the basic yoga and/or buddhism practice is about.

The mind that doesn't understand this, it thinks and believes that, "It is because of you and how you treat me, it is because of them and how they treat me, it is because of everyone and everything that had happened and that is happening to me, that is why I behave, act, and react like this and not like that, that is why I feel disturbed or pleased, meaningful or meaningless, that is why I am happy or unhappy, peaceful or not peaceful, and that is why I do this and not doing that, that is why I behave like this and not behaving like that." And more so, "It is because of my genes, that is why I am thinking, believing, reasoning, understanding, desiring, behaving, acting, and reacting like this and not like that," or even, "It's not my fault. Don't blame me for my bad behavior and ignorance. It's the responsibility of my bad genes inheritance inherited from my bad parental lineage."

It is true that a mango seed (the original cause) gives rise to a mango tree that gives mango flowers and fruits of mangoes, and it doesn't give rise to all other kinds of trees, flowers, and fruits that are not mango, however, the selfless impermanent changes from the seed being planted, to being nurtured, to be growing into a full blown matured tree that give rise to flowers and fruits, or not, are conditional, are not fixed. It depends on the availability and non-availability of certain environmental conditions, as well as the planter of seed/tree under the presence or absence of conscious awareness and understanding and effort that can influence the entire process of planting and nurturing that mango seed/tree/flowers/fruits.

The seed, the tree, the flowers, the fruits, the planter, or the environmental conditions, are all selfless, impermanent, limited, conditional, and non-self. It doesn't mean that under the truth of selflessness, impermanence, limitation, conditional, and non-self, there are no conscious by choice activities deriving from the selfless thinking and acting minds functioning under certain ideas and understanding/non-understanding, that have the organs of actions to be performing all kinds of intentional and non-intentional activities under certain conscious desires/don't desires or aspirations in this world of diversity that doesn't belong to anyone or anything, that are impacting and influencing all and everything in certain way, selflessly, regardless of constructively or destructively.

If the mind has only one single opportunity of one single timing to be learning yoga and/or buddhism during its entire selfless impermanent limited and conditional life existence and function, is to be learning about taking full responsibility towards its selfless impermanent limited and conditional existence and function that is non-self, that doesn't even belong to itself.

If the mind truly knows how to take full responsibility towards itself, towards its selfless impermanent modification/state of mind, of all kinds of selfless impermanent conscious by choice or unconscious autonomous instinctive thought activities, ideas, thinking, feelings, emotions, understanding, desires, behaviors, actions, and reactions, regardless of whether it is being conditioned by genetic inheritance condition, or being influenced by some external influential conditions and situations, this mind will have peace, unconditional peace, not being determined or disturbed by the presence/absence of all kinds of pleasant or unpleasant/agreeable or disagreeable/desirable or undesirable/enjoyable or non-enjoyable experiences/happenings/conditions/situations/impermanent changes, that are happening internally or externally.

The more the mind has peace, the more the mind can understand this and that clearly, as it is.

If the mind wants to be happy, none and nothing can make the mind unhappy.

If the mind wants to be unhappy, anyone and anything also cannot make the mind happy. 

And it's okay, if the mind doesn't understand something or many things.

Keep practicing.

Never give up. 

Inquire the truth of everything.

Purify. Meditate. Inquire. Realize. 

Freedom of existence and function, of physical, mental, and emotional freedom

Although there is no permanent independent self existence of 'I' existing in all and everything, that are depending on many different individual selfless elements to work together for all and everything to be existing and functioning as what all and everything are, and the selfless existence and function of all and everything as well as the different individual selfless elements that work together for all and everything to be existing and functioning, are non-self, that are depending on the availability of the selfless support of the selfless energy and elements to be existing and functioning to be what all and everything are, as well as being governed by the nature's law of cause and effect to be evolving/decaying consciously and/or unconsciously, it doesn't mean that freedom is non-existence in all and everything, or freedom is non-essential, or there shouldn't be any issue if all kinds of freedom are being restricted in all the different kinds of conscious living organisms that are endowed with the selfless conscious awareness to be living, and be conscious/aware of a selfless impermanent limited and conditional momentary life existence of themselves and their surrounding environment.

There are some inevitable limitation of existence and function due to some biological genetic traits inheritance that give rise to certain condition/limitation of the physical structure of the living organisms (that come with or without the perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting faculty), as well as give rise to certain condition/limitation of the mental and/or emotional state (that come with the perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting faculty).

But there are also many unnecessary limitation/restriction that don't need to be there, that are deliberately and/or randomly restricting the freedom of existence and function imposed unto oneself and others, by oneself and/or others, out of ignorance, under the influence of certain worldly passionate egoistic impure thinking, ideas, beliefs, values, desires, visions, and practices, that contributes to many unnecessary physical, mental, and emotional health problems that eventually lead to destructive hurtful behavior problems inflicted unto oneself and/or others and the surrounding environment, which is not coming from the inevitable biological genetic traits inheritance, but due to the existence of many types of man made restrictions of not being able to just be what all and everyone wants to be, to be free to exist and function as one is, to think, to believe or disbelieve, to feel, to express, to behave, to act and react, to evolve consciously, or simply to live life in certain way or not in certain way, under the selfless intentionless support of the selfless energy and elements to be existing and functioning in the momentary selfless impermanent existence of all and everything that are endowed with the selfless conscious awareness to be aware of one's own limited and conditional existence as well as being aware of all and everything else in the surrounding environment.

The general well-being and evolution of certain living organisms that are without the function of a perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting mind that is functioning under the presence of conscious awareness to be conscious/aware towards its own selfless existence and function, where there is no conscious sentimental/emotional perception/experience of pleasurable enjoyment and painful suffering, are also being impacted greatly by the presence of certain restricted condition and limitation in the surrounding environment, not to say, all kinds of living organisms that come with the function of a perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking and acting mind functioning under the presence of conscious awareness to be conscious/aware towards its own selfless existence and function, where there is the conscious sentimental/emotional perception/experience of pleasurable enjoyment and painful suffering.

The freedom of existence and function, or the physical/mental/emotional freedom, is highly important for the general well-being and evolution of all kinds of conscious living organisms, just by being existing and functioning selflessly and impermanently, as what they are, in this world that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.

However, under the influence of ignorance, many human beings are growing up being told/taught/influenced/conditioned/tempted/disciplined/oppressed/threatened/bullied/controlled, "Do this. Don't do that. Think like this and believe in this. Don't think like that and don't believe in that. Say this. Don't say that. Behave like this. Don't behave like that. Stand, walk, and sit like this. Don't stand, walk, and sit like that. Act and react like this. Don't act and react like that. You should feel like this. You shouldn't feel like that. This is good and positive. That is bad and negative. This is meaningful. That is meaningless. This is happiness. That is unhappiness. This is a boy thing. That is a girl thing. Women should behave like this. Men should behave like that. Women should do this and shouldn't do that. Men should do this and shouldn't do that. This is pride deserving. That is shame deserving. Do this and be like this, you will be praised, rewarded, and loved. Do that and be like that, you will be condemned, punished, and unloved. Do not question the truth of what you have been told to obey and follow, and to believe and practice."

Almost all and everyone have been growing up in a condition of, "Don't ask why. Just obey and follow," because most parents/teachers/minds also don't really understand why, as that was how they have been brought up and living in the community that is all about control and authority, rules and regulations, judgment and reward/punishment. That was how they have been treated by their parents/teachers and all the others, and that is how they treat their own children/students and all the others. People either live under oppression and fear (keep the head down, just obey, don't question anything, and don't upset/offend anyone, to avoid painful punishment), or become an aggressive violent authoritarian bully themselves.

That kind of ignorant egoistic mentality, thinking, understanding, reasoning, ideas, beliefs, values, and practice, is not merely being conditioned and influenced by a particular type of thinking and behavior pattern under the influence of the internal biological genetic traits inheritance that was passed down from many generations, hormonal activity, food consumption, energy and elements, and the selfless intentionless survival instinct influence, but more so, being conditioned and influenced (restricted and oppressed and manipulated) by external environmental influence and empowerment, of unwittingly and ceaselessly being influenced by the particular type of mentality, thinking, reasoning, understanding, ideas, beliefs, values, desires, visions, and practices, that are not only inherited from birth, but even more so, that are adopted/picked up after birth coming from someone and/or everyone, from the family/community/social circle/medias/spirituality/politics.

There is extremely limited freedom of existence and function, of limited physical/mental/emotional freedom of being what all and everything are, and a highly restricted conscious evolution. It's like a watermelon is being constraint in a box of a particular shape, to be growing into that particular shape. Human minds are also being constraint in a 'box' of a particular shape that is full of fear, lies, hypocrisy, untruthfulness, politics, possessiveness, selfishness, discrimination, separateness, greed, oppression, intimidation, threat, painful punishment, violence, pride and shame, and etc, to be evolving into that particular shape. Limiting the unlimited conscious evolution of the mind, to attain the absolute knowledge of ALL THESE, to be free from ignorance and the by-products of ignorance, that would be beneficial to humanity, and all and everything in this world of many diversities.

Conscious evolution is neither good nor bad. Some minds evolve consciously and intentionally towards constructive thinking and behavior, while some minds evolve consciously and intentionally towards destructive thinking and behavior.

But it is highly essential for the mind to be opened, not being limited and constraint in a 'box' of a particular shape, to be inquiring towards the truth of everything, to learn and experience without constraint, to evolve consciously and freely towards attaining correct understanding and peace, that lead to constructive thinking and behavior in oneself.

All minds need to be allowed to be free to inquire the truth of everything, to attain direct experience and self realization and correct understanding, even if all minds need to learn from their own ignorance and mistakes/misunderstanding/non-understanding, and learn from the consequences of ignorance and the ignorant thinking and behavior, all by themselves, and not by being controlled, oppressed, intimidated, threatened, disciplined, bullied, or punished with painful punishment inflicted by some others.

It's about coming from oneself, having the conscious awareness towards the presence of limited knowledge in itself (that there are many things that it doesn't know), and be initiative to acquire not only unlimited but absolute knowledge, as well as doubting the truth of many things, and be free to be inquiring towards the truth of everything, to attain direct experience and self realization, without blind-believing, blind-following, blind-practicing, blind-agreeing/disagreeing, or blind-propagating anything from anyone.

The physical, mental, and emotional freedom, that reflects and impacts the physical, mental, and emotional well-being, is being highly restricted, oppressed, and conditioned by the many man made egoistic restrictions, control, rules and regulations in the family, at school, at work place, in the particular community, in the country, and in the world of many diversities.

One of the basic essential function/natural instinct of the mind, of 'doubting'/'questioning'/'inquiring' towards the truth of something and anything is being perceived and recognized as something 'sinful' and punishable in certain community under certain beliefs, values, visions, and practices. How absurd is that? This ignorance exists even in the minds that are so called highly 'educated', 'knowledgeable', 'successful', or 'powerful' in this world, while they think and behave in the way that hurt all and everyone and the surrounding environment, out of ignorance and the by-products of ignorance.

Many physical/mental/emotional health problems are not (merely) genetically inherited from parental ancestry genes inheritance, but, even more so, being impacted greatly by the highly limited and restricted freedom of existence and function, or, simply being what all and everyone are, as they are, where there is absence of peace in the mind that would give rise to correct understanding that lead to wholesome behavior/action/reaction, as all these human minds are constantly being constraint, disturbed, over-whelmed, and hammered by the ongoing fear, worry, exhaustion, exploitation, discrimination, intimidation, threat, bully, restriction, limitation, uncertainty, confusion of "You (of father, mother, brother, sister, friend, lover, partner, children, community, teacher, leader, authority, or even, 'The One' that is forbidden and punishable in many countries to say its name) said that you love me and that I shouldn't hurt you, but you keep hurting me repeatedly and constantly", violence, cruelty, selfishness, greed, dissatisfaction, disappointment, despair, anger, betrayal, lies, story telling, untruthfulness, hypocrisy, authoritarianism, politics, empty promises, and etc, since the moment of birth and growing up into adulthood and until the end of the momentary life existence.

The minds have been being restricted/hammered in such way, and they also restrict/hammer all the others in such way. Ignorance feeds and empowers deeper ignorance.

All that can be reversed, be weakened and thinned-out, or even, be annihilated completely. The disturbed peaceless unhappy dissatisfied hurtful fearful suffering state of mind, the corrupted thinking and behavior pattern, the ignorance, the idea of 'I', the egoism, the impurities, the restlessness, and the by-product of all that, all kinds of evitable suffering, can be empowered by ignorance, but even more importantly, all that can be weakened, and annihilated, under intense yearning towards liberation, freedom, and peace.

There is nothing wrong with all kinds of agreeable or disagreeable, desirable or undesirable, pure or impure, good or evil, and positive or negative thinking, thoughts, ideas, feelings, emotions, desires, and don't desires in the minds.

The most important thing is that, there is the basic correct understanding, or even the essential presence of doubt/ignorance of "I don't know, and hence, I want to know about everything that I don't even know what they are (the unknown)", towards the selfless manifestation of all these selfless impermanent names and forms in the selfless modification of the mind, that ceaselessly arising, changing, and passing away in the modification of the mind, governed by the nature's law of cause and effect, where the thinking and acting faculty is consciously aware of all these selfless impermanent thinking, thoughts, ideas, feelings, emotions, desires, and don't desires in the modification of the mind, and it realizes, knows, and understands that all these are merely some selfless impermanent names and forms that come and go in the modification of the mind, without grasping, association, attachment, identification, clinging, craving, aversion, judgment, or expectation towards all that, to be in certain way or not to be in certain way, allowing all that to arise, to stay for a while, to change, and to pass away, as they are.

Allow all kinds of thoughts, ideas, feelings, emotions, desires, and don't desires to be there in the mind, as they are, but without being over-powered by all these selfless impermanent names and forms. They are impermanent. They are not the selfless think and acting faculty. The selfless thinking and acting faculty doesn't need to be the slave of all that. They are not 'I'. There is no 'I' existing to be identifying with all that.

Not coming from some others restricting and commanding the mind to live life, think, feel, desire, behave, act and react like this, or don't live life, think, feel, desire, behave, act and react like that, but coming from the mind itself, having the basic correct understanding, out of its own conscious awareness/freewill/desire/choice/action, not generating grasping, association, attachment, identification, clinging, craving, aversion, judgment, or expectation towards all that in the selfless impermanent modification of the mind. Transcending both the internal genetic traits inheritance influence that is inevitable (not by conscious choice) as well as the external surrounding environment influence that is evitable, that can be filtered by conscious choice and action, to move away from certain detrimental influence/condition/situation/environment/connections/inputs/activities, or to be engaging in certain beneficial influence/condition/situation/environment/connections/inputs/activities, as much as possible, if it is possible.

Unlike unconscious evolution that is unwittingly being limited and conditioned by the internal genetic traits inheritance and the external surrounding environment, conscious evolution can be activated even under the presence of detrimental influence/condition/situation/environment/connections/inputs/activities and/or under the absence of beneficial influence/condition/situation/environment/connections/inputs/activities, under the presence of doubt and suffering that gives rise to the intense yearning towards attaining absolute knowledge, liberation, freedom, and peace, via certain observations and methods under the presence of non-violence/non-forcing, on top of the presence of certain degrees of willpower, forbearance, patience, adaptation, adjustment, accommodation, perseverance, and determination.

That is freedom, liberation, or peace.

Not being over-powered or determined by the internal selfless impermanent limited and conditional restless modification of the mind, as well as all kinds of external influences/conditions/situations/experiences in the surrounding environment, regardless of agreeable or disagreeable, is the highest freedom, even though the existence and function of the body and mind, is non-self, momentary, selfless, impermanent, limited, and conditional.

Which means, even this freedom, liberation, or peace, that is highly important for the selfless mind that is existing and functioning selflessly in this present moment now, to be free as it is, is also momentary, because there is no permanent independent self existence of 'I' that 'exists', or 'keeps existing', that 'needs to have' the infinite or unlimited freedom and peace.

There is no existence of an infinite independent permanent self existence of 'I' that needs to be liberated, or to be free, or to be peaceful, but while under the selfless support of the selfless energy and elements to be existing and functioning as what it is, and under the presence of the selfless intentionless actionless changeless timeless attributeless universal consciousness, the selfless impermanent thinking and acting mind that is consciously aware of the selfless impermanent restless modification of the mind, while perceiving the sense of 'not free', 'emptiness', 'loneliness', 'meaninglessness', 'limitation', 'imperfection', 'dissatisfaction', 'disappointment', 'confusion', 'doubt', 'unhappiness', 'fear', 'uncertainty', 'sorrow', 'restlessness', 'fatigue', 'exhaustion', 'hurts', 'despair', and all kinds of physical, mental, and emotional 'suffering', can attain self-realization towards the truth of selflessness and impermanence, and can be resting in unconditional peace upon the selfless universal consciousness, during its momentary selfless impermanent limited and conditional existence and function.

Meanwhile, the selfless thinking and acting mind can make use of the precious selfless momentary life existence, of the selfless physical body, the selfless organs of the selfless senses, the selfless organs of actions, and the selfless impermanent mechanisms of the conscious perceptive thinking mind, the cognition, the intellect, the reasoning, the emotion, the memory, the understanding, the knowledge, the experience, the talent, the skill, and the opportunity and possibility that are non-self, to be performing selfless actions that would bring constructive changes/evolution to the selfless momentary life existence of oneself and others, as well as to be looking after the surrounding environment in the world of countless diversities that doesn't belong to anyone or anything.

The presence/availability of the freedom of existence and function, is highly essential during the entire duration of the momentary life existence of the selfless impermanent limited and conditional existence and function of the body and mind, in order for the mind to have peace or clarity, that gives rise to correct understanding (the wisdom and compassion that is always there within all minds but is veiled by restlessness that feed and powered by ignorance and its by-products), so that it doesn't hurt itself and/or others out of the restricted disturbed dissatisfied restless unhappy suffering state of mind.

'Freedom' and/or 'peace' is no longer valid or needed, upon the selfless impermanent limited and conditional body and mind ceased functioning and existing.

Develop correct understanding. Develop non-grasping, non-association, non-attachment, non-identification, non-craving, non-aversion, non-judgment, and non-expectation. That is the most constructive beneficial education for all and everyone in this world of human beings of many diversities.

Without the essential education or correct understanding to be looking after the physical, mental, and emotional health of the minds, all kinds of knowledge and skills, advanced technology, creativity, and invention deriving from worldly education that lead to certain achievements and success in life, as well as the existence of all kinds of control, rules and regulations, and painful punishments, don't necessarily guarantee that the minds will be peaceful and happy, or won't be hurting themselves and others and the surrounding environment, out of the highly restricted dissatisfied disturbed unhappy suffering state of mind, deriving from ignorance and its by-products.

Out of correct understanding, and out of one's own conscious awareness/freewill/choice/desire/action/inaction, one won't be generating behavior, action, and speech that would be hurtful and damaging unto oneself and others or the surrounding environment, intentionally or unintentionally, deliberately or randomly, which is not because of 'the restriction of all kinds of freedom being restricted/oppressed/disciplined/threatened/controlled by some others under the many rules and regulations and punishments' in this world of ignorance.

Allow this mind to be free, to be what and how it is. This mind is impermanent. And it is selfless.

Allow all the other minds to be free, to be what and how they are. All minds are impermanent. And they all are selfless.

All and everyone have the freedom to think, to feel, to express, to desire and don't desire, to like and dislike, to agree and disagree, to be kind or unkind, to be selfish or unselfish, to be whatever they are.

Allow all and everyone to dislike and disagree with oneself. Allow others to express their dissatisfaction and unhappiness towards oneself. Allow others to behave the way that they behave, either intentionally or unintentionally. One can move away from the hurtful damaging behavior of others, as much as possible. One doesn't need to stand there not moving away from the hurtful damaging behavior of others, if possible. One doesn't need to accept the hurtful damaging behavior of others. But one is not being determined or disturbed by the thinking, feelings, desires, points of views, likes and dislikes, agreements and disagreements, praise or condemn, satisfaction and dissatisfaction, happiness or unhappiness, behavior, action, and reaction of all and everyone.

The absence/lack of physical, mental, and emotional freedom, or the freedom of existence/function of the body and mind is being restricted/oppressed/disciplined/threatened by others or even by oneself, to be and not to be in certain way, by force or control, will only be damaging the physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Under the presence of more and more rules and regulations and control, the world didn't and doesn't become more peaceful, but contributes to more and more disturbing minds and disturbing human's behavior, or violence and unrest.

The yoga and/or buddhism practice, is not about restricting the modification of the mind to be or not to be in certain way, but more so, to be aware of and observing the selfless impermanent restless impure modification of the mind, allowing the imperfect thinking and acting mind and the restless impure modification of the mind (the limited and conditional mind stuff) to be what it is, while devoid of grasping, association, attachment, identification, craving, aversion, judgment, or expectation towards the imperfect selfless existence and function of the thinking and acting mind, and the mind perception towards all kinds of names and forms, of desirable or undesirable, pleasant or unpleasant, positive or negative, and pure or impure thoughts, ideas, feelings, emotions, sensations, memories, dreams, desires, or imaginations ceaselessly arising and passing away in the selfless modification of the mind, without forcing or controlling the mind to be quiet or silent, but eventually, the selfless impermanent restless modification of the mind will calm down by itself, naturally and effortlessly, under a prolonged persistent observation devoid of the idea of 'I' and egoism, and free from violence/force/control. That is the real meaning of non-violence.

Actions/practices are being performed that will lead towards the thinning-out, annihilation, or silence of the restless modification of the mind, but not by violence, force, or control.

Such as observing certain type of food consumption and physical/mental practices that suits the particular condition of the body and mind most, that can help to calm down the over stimulated restless thought current, that can help to remove laziness or idleness, balancing the two extremities of activeness and idleness, as well as the observation of dispassion, renunciation, silence, solitude, and seclusion, to move the mind away from the external influence of worldly passionate egoistic impure affairs, connections, communications, interactions, and activities as much as possible for a prolonged duration, while allowing the result or the fruit of actions/practices/observations to be what it is, allowing the annihilation or silence of the restless modification of the mind to be happening as it is, at its own pace.

Just as the action of preparing oneself to go to sleep, while allowing the mind to fall asleep as it is. The more the mind expects and forces itself to fall asleep, the more difficult it is for sleep to be happening. Similarly, one can only perform many actions/practices of purifying, calming, and quieting the restless impure modification of the mind, to be preparing the mind for self-inquiry and meditation, while allowing self-inquiry and meditation to be happening as it is, at its own pace, upon the cause is ripened.

Embrace and respect the freedom of existence and function, or the freedom of being what all and everything are, as they are, and all are selfless and impermanent, all are limited and conditional, all and everything are non-self, governed by the nature's law of cause and effect.

Allow the selfless mechanism or function of the mind perception, the senses, the organs of the senses, the cognition, the intellect, the reasoning, the memory, the emotion, the thinking faculty, the thought process, the different bodily systems and organs, the organs of actions, the ability and disability, and the opportunity and possibility, to be what they are, as they are, that they are imperfect and non-self, and there are certain inevitable defects, condition, or limitation, but without being over-powered or determined by all those ability and disability, condition and limitation, imperfection and defects, and the absence of opportunity and possibility, without hurting oneself and/or others under the presence of correct understanding that can be developed and empowered, and out of one's conscious awareness/freewill/choice/desire/don't desire/action/inaction.

Perform action/practice/duty/responsibility, and renounce the fruit of action/practice/duty/responsibility, allowing the fruit to be what it is, and evolves as it is - The essence of the yoga and/or buddhism teachings and practice.

Renounce the fruit of action/practice/duty/responsibility doesn't mean that being irresponsible towards one's action and the consequences of one's action, but it is about fearlessly taking full responsibility towards one's thinking and action and the consequences of one's thinking and action, by consciously looking after the physical, mental, and emotional well-being of oneself, by oneself, which is about attaining correct understanding and peace, by freeing the mind from the influence of ignorance and its by-products.

Meanwhile, one also has the freedom of performing or not performing certain actions that might bring constructive beneficial changes/improvements, or more peace and harmony into one's selfless impermanent momentary life existence and into the surrounding environment or the world that doesn't belong to anyone and anything. There is neither right nor wrong.

It's the freedom of all minds towards what they want or don't want to practice, and what they want or don't want to do with their selfless impermanent limited and conditional momentary existence and function.

Inquire the truth of everything. 

Beyond confidence

What make a person truly confident?

Nameless and formless confidence manifests naturally and effortlessly, upon the mind accepts and loves itself unconditionally, as it is. Such mind doesn't need to be confident or portray confidence.

This person doesn't need to show or prove to oneself or the world about, "I am confident."

This person doesn't need any attention, liking, support, agreement, acknowledgement, approval, affirmation, praise, and compliment coming from anyone about, "I am good enough to be confident."

This person doesn't need to be confident, to feel confident, to look confident, or to speak, stand, walk, sit, pose, or present oneself in front of the world confidently, not to say, to attend 'confidence boosting workshop/training', or to be inspired and empowered, to become a highly confident person, or to boost the existing confidence level to become 'more' confident than what it is.

Confidence doesn't come from learning, or training, or pretending.

True confidence doesn't come from desirable physical and mental condition/appearance/abilities/achievements, family or social background, social and financial status, family ties, relationship and friendship, social interaction activities, accumulated knowledge/experience/success/accomplishment, level of education and intelligence, talents or super extraordinary talents, and etc.

Confidence doesn't come from the presence and absence of any particular name and form, not to say, it doesn't come from participating in any kind of confidence empowerment workshop or training.

Confidence doesn't come from thinking, believing, acknowledging, affirming, projecting, and identifying as, "I am super confident."

If a person needs to attend certain kind of confidence empowerment workshop or training, then, no matter how many times and how much one has been undergoing such confidence empowerment training, trying to learn to become confident, to be getting deserving acceptance, appreciation, acknowledgement, recognition, liking, love, praise, and compliment from oneself and all the others about, "Yes. I am now good enough to be accepted and loved by myself and everyone else, and hence, I am a highly confident person," and presents oneself 'confidently' in front of the mirror or to the world based on what the mind thinks and believes as 'confidence', confidence will still be non-existing in this person.

One just need to stop trying to be good and successful enough in order to be able to accept and love oneself, to be proud of oneself, and to make other people to be proud of oneself, or to be 'deserving' to be getting attention, love, liking, support, agreement, acceptance, acknowledgement, recognition, approval, affirmation, praise, and compliment from all and everyone, and unconditional confidence will manifest as it is, naturally and effortlessly.

It's not about being dissatisfied with oneself in this present moment, and trying to become someone else that one is not, but having the self-awareness towards knowing what is one's strength and weakness, working on improving what is possible to be improved, and allowing impermanent changes and improvement to be happening as they are, without attachment, identification, craving, aversion, comparison, judgment, or expectation.

Being confident doesn't mean being strong, or tough, or aggressive.

Confidence doesn't mean that one can do and achieve everything that one would like to do and achieve. It's about one is not being determined or defined by what one can do or cannot do, and can achieve or cannot achieve. One doesn't need to feel and be proud of oneself, and doesn't need other people to feel and be proud of oneself.

When the mind has gone beyond all kinds of qualities of names and forms that are selfless and impermanent, when the mind is no longer being determined by any selfless impermanent quality of names and forms to be "I", or "who/what I am", then, the nameless and formless confidence will be there, as it is, without the mind thinking, believing, acknowledging, affirming, projecting, and identifying as "I am super confident."

Pride and arrogance, shame and humility, or envy and jealousy, don't exist in such mind.

Success and failure, achievement and non-achievement, or superiority and inferiority, mean nothing to such mind.

One is neither lack of confidence (I think I am not good enough and undeserving) nor full of confidence (I think I am good enough and highly deserving).

One is beyond what the worldly passionate egoistic minds think and believe as 'confidence'.

Such mind doesn't admire or look down on anyone.

Such mind doesn't even compare or compete with itself, not to say, to be comparing and competing with anyone else, even when one is actively engaging in certain kind of competitive competition.

Such mind never stop improving itself even when it is resting in contentment and is being comfortable with itself, as it is (NOT because it is discontented with itself, thinking and believing that itself is 'not good enough', or 'never good enough', or 'non-deserving'), and it does its best in whatever it is pursuing, without forcing itself beyond its limitation, without fear, without expectation, and it allows and respects the fruit of action being what it is, being undetermined by the action and the fruit of action.

Inquire towards the truth of everything, and be free.

Self love and self care

Self love and self care is commonly being understood as focusing on making oneself more happy or less unhappy by doing what will make oneself feel good and happy, or avoiding what will make oneself feel bad and unhappy, as well as pampering oneself in all kinds of pleasurable material and sensual enjoyments, or gratifying all one's desires of craving and aversion, empowering selfishness, ignorance, egoism, impurities, and restlessness.

Self love and self care in the teachings and practice of yoga, is not about that, but it's about being able to have the self-initiation and self-effort to be looking after the over-all physical and mental well-being of oneself while still having certain degrees of basic essential awareness and sanity, by working diligently to be freeing one's mind from ignorance, egoism, impurities, and restlessness, to annihilate the idea of 'I', attachment, identification, desires of craving and aversion, expectation, greed, pride, selfishness, possessiveness, separateness, discrimination, fear, anger, and hatred, to be attaining mental and emotional independence, where the selfless perceptive cognitive intellectual emotional thinking mind is no longer being determined by the mind perception towards all kinds of selfless and impermanent names and forms, experiences, ties and connections, relationships, interactions, activities, affairs, events, conditions, or situations, that are pleasant or unpleasant, agreeable or disagreeable, desirable or undesirable, and enjoyable or non-enjoyable, transcending duality, or the sense of goodness and badness, righteousness and wrongfulness, happiness and unhappiness, joyfulness and joylessness, meaningfulness and meaninglessness, positiveness and negativeness, success and failure, pride and shame, deserving and undeserving, pleasurable enjoyment and painful suffering, and etc.

One needs to be able to be kind towards oneself unconditionally (stops hurting oneself/the body and the mind) before one can truly be kind towards all and everyone unconditionally, without discrimination, attachment, or expectation (stops hurting all and everyone out of a disturbed/peaceless/fearful/defensive/violent/confused/ignorant/discontented/ambitious impure restless state of mind).

To be kind towards oneself, is about the selfless mind is being able to accept itself as it is unconditionally, or accepting the condition of the physical body and the state of the modification of the mind, that are selfless and impermanent, as they are, unconditionally.

Only when the mind can accept itself as it is unconditionally, or respecting all the selfless impermanent changes in the body and mind as it is, or accepting the perceived reality in the present moment now as they are, then only it can accept all and everyone as they are, and respecting the world as it is, unconditionally.

Only when the mind is able to look after itself, or is able to be resting in unconditional peace, then only it can have the ability to look after some others.

Inquire the truth of everything.

Upon coming in contact with someone or something that the mind perceives as ignorant, unpleasant or disagreeable

Before the mind developed certain degrees of basic correct understanding towards the modification of the mind, non-attachment, and mental and emotional independence, then the mind needs to move away from what it thinks and believes is disturbing or hurting itself, to have a few precious moments of limited and conditional peace and calmness, even if what the mind thinks and understands might not be true or completely true.

After the mind developed certain degrees of basic correct understanding towards the modification of the mind, non-attachment, and mental and emotional independence, then the mind understands that whatever it perceives or experiences cannot disturb or hurt itself unless it gives such 'power' or 'meaning' to such perceptions or experiences, and allows itself to be disturbed or hurt by them, even if it is something very ignorant, unpleasant or disagreeable, where any disturbance or hurt arise in the mind is due to its own incorrect understanding and reaction towards whatever it perceives or experiences that it doesn't like, doesn't agree with, and doesn't desire.

Meanwhile, the mind doesn't need to be continuously or repeatedly dealing with such ignorant, unpleasant or disagreeable affairs, interactions, ties and relationships, conditions or situations, where it can choose to move away from someone or something that it perceives as ignorant, unpleasant or disagreeable, if it's possible, not because the mind is being disturbed or hurt by that, but for the sake of conserving energy or not to be wasting energy onto dealing with such affairs, interactions, ties and relationships, conditions or situations that are ignorant, unpleasant or disagreeable, even if it's something related to one's immediate family members, such as one's spouse, partner, parents, siblings, relatives or friends, and without any dissatisfaction, disappointment, hurt, anger, hatred or resentment towards anyone or anything.

There is also nothing wrong if oneself feels very disturbed or hurt by someone or something, to the point that it's affecting one's physical and mental well-being, which also affects one's relationships with some others, and hence, it chooses to move away from someone or something that it thinks and believes is disturbing or hurting itself, that it feels disappointed, disturbed and hurt by, that it feels dissatisfied, angry, hating and resent towards, even if it's not all true, such as certain people blame all and everything else but themselves for all their physical and/or mental discomforts, shortcomings, imperfections, failures, mistakes, unhappiness, and unpleasant, disagreeable or undesirable experiences. At least, they can have a few precious moments of peace and calmness to be looking into their own mind to know and understand what is really going on in themselves, if they want.

It's the freedom of all minds for what they understand or don't understand, for how they feel or don't feel, for what they do or don't do with their life existence, or for what they desire or don't desire for themselves.

It's not selfish to move away from those who are ignorant and blaming all and everything else for all its unhappiness while inflict ignorant hurtful behavior unto oneself and others out of ignorance and unhappiness, even if they are one's family members or friends, in order not to be empowering such ignorance.

It's not a weakness to move away from someone or something that the mind perceives as something ignorant, unpleasant or disagreeable, even when all kinds of names and forms are just what they are. Or else, the mind cannot have the precious moments of calmness to see things as they are, if the mind is in a continuous state of disturbance or restlessness.

Inquire the truth of everything.

Why mental and emotional independence is highly important for mental health

There's nothing wrong with many people would think and believe that mental and emotional dependence in human beings is a genetic inheritance as well as part of the basic instinct that comes along in all human beings since the beginning of conception in the mother's womb. Many people would think and believe that it is abnormal and unhealthy, or even madness, for anyone to be mentally and emotionally independent. That's their freedom of thinking and understanding.

Mental and emotional dependence is conditional. Something that is conditional, it can be modified and changed, or be reversed, to become mental and emotional independence.

We all might have come into the world of human beings with the genetic inheritance and basic instinct of certain degrees of mental and emotional dependence, and it's vary in different people even since very young age, but it is also very obvious that the growing up environment and condition, of how the parents, care takers, and everyone and everything that the child come in contact with, are deeply influencing or conditioning the selfless perceptive cognitive intellectual thinking emotional mind to be in certain way, to think, believe, judge, understand, feel, desire, behave, act and react in certain way, where most people are growing up being encouraged, trained and empowered to be having intense mental and emotional dependence towards the parents, care takers, siblings, relatives, friends, leaders, teachers, employers, 'superior entity', belief and values, as well as towards the surrounding community under different identities, of particular ethnicity, culture, spirituality, religion, nationality, association, organization, or even, political party.

Mental and emotional dependency is a very common values and practice among the many different passionate egoistic thinking and belief in the world.

Out of survival instinct, attachment, identification, fear and possessiveness, many minds think and believe that mental and emotional independence is something terribly bad and wrong, and hence, they themselves dislike and disagree with the idea of developing mental and emotional independence, and they don't like their children, their family and friends, or the members of their specific community identity, to be mentally and emotionally independent, as for them, it means that, they can no longer have the 'power' to be influencing or controlling all and everyone to be and not to be in certain way that they desire it to be, the way that they think and believe how it should be, that would be benefiting them and their certain selfish desire in certain way.

If mental and emotional dependence can be influenced and conditioned in certain way, to be encouraged, trained and empowered to become stronger, then of course, all that can be reversed.

All kinds of mental and emotional related problem and crisis, such as issues with restlessness, dissatisfaction, discontentment, greed, confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, pride, arrogance, shame, guilt, regret, grief, painful sorrow, superiority, inferiority, self-harm, harm others, destructive and hurtful behavior, bully, intimidation, hostility, violence, offensiveness, defensiveness, hurts, mental breakdown, over-whelming emotion, boredom, loneliness, meaninglessness, jealousy, anger and hatred, and etc, are not only deriving from ignorance and egoism, but especially are strongly related to the empowered mental and emotional dependency in the minds, where the mind unwittingly generates clinging, craving and longing towards receiving attention, love, support, companionship, encouragement, motivation, agreement, liking, acknowledgement, recognition, glorification, approval, acceptance, praise and compliment from oneself and others, as well as have aversion towards the absence or non-existence of all these that the mind is constantly craving and longing for, and towards the impermanent changes or the experiences, relationships, interactions, conditions and situations that are not the way that the mind likes, agrees with, and desires.

Even though the state of mind or the state of emotion, is mostly under the influence of hormonal changes and energy levels on top of being determined or influenced by the mind perception of names and forms or experiences, however, the mind can overcome all those influences upon attaining certain degrees of mental and emotional independence. That is liberation.

Very often when the minds are being rebellious and behave in the way that is meant to be disturbing and hurting their parents, their spouse, their lover, their teachers, their leaders, the society, the surrounding environment, or all and everyone and everything that they feel dissatisfied and angry with, deliberately and intentionally, it is because they are not free, as they are always under certain control or restriction of not being able to be themselves, simply the way that they would like to be, to do and say what they would like to do and say, to think what they would like to think, to believe or disbelieve in certain things, to practice or don't practice certain things, to appreciate or don't appreciate certain things, to express or don't express certain things, or merely to just be free, being what they are, as they are, instead of being a hypocrite under certain self-identity and group identity to think, believe, feel, behave, express, desire, act and react in certain way that is according to how all and everyone desire and expect them to be.

People who are struggling with mental health issues, they just need to let go of that hypocrisy that is something very normal and in common among the many different diverse communities in the world, that they themselves might not even aware of that it is 'something' existing in them, and that, it is causing them not being free, that leads to many other unnecessary mental and emotional issues, that gives rise to many unnecessary behavior problems in oneself and into the relationships and interactions with all the others under the 'unfree' and 'dissatisfied' state of mind. That's why people think and believe that they need to unwind or getaway for a few days, or few weeks, or few months, or even, for a few years, which makes them feel so much better about themselves and life existence, even though not many people understand exactly why, or what is the cause of the disturbed state of mind.

That certain degrees of relief from the existing disturbed dissatisfied state of mind coming from being unwind or getaway from 'life', or 'duty and responsibility', or 'family', or 'friends', or 'relationship', or 'work', or 'social network and interaction', or 'social medias', or 'spiritual and religious community', or 'national and political affairs and news', and so on, for certain period of time, is also impermanent, if without knowing what is the cause of the disturbed dissatisfied state of mind, that leads to the disturbing behavior in oneself, constantly hurting oneself and others, either wittingly or unwittingly.

That is because they are able to be free to be what they are, no need to be a hypocrite all the time dealing with many different people under different personal and group identities, during those times when they are being with themselves, or with some others that don't know them personally in life.

People are afraid of letting go hypocrisy, because most of their relationships with all and everyone are built on hypocrisy, and all these 'fragile' relationships built on hypocrisy might be broken or cannot survive under the truth of not being a hypocrite that pleases all and everyone in certain way.

The minds that understand, the minds that are mentally and emotionally independent, they have no fear of being truthful as they are, being free as they are, that they don't need to be a hypocrite or liar to be pleasing anyone that need to be pleased by others under hypocrisy and untruthfulness, who don't like truthfulness that they strongly disagree with and don't desire, that would be offended and broken by truthfulness.

Relationships that built on hypocrisy and untruthfulness don't last long, as there are so much dissatisfaction and tension in such relationships naturally due to the presence of hypocrisy and untruthfulness, and the extreme effort of trying to uphold such hypocrisy and untruthfulness, so that the 'fragile' relationships won't be broken or shattered.

Some people might mistaken having high self-esteem being proud and arrogant as being mentally and emotionally independent. It's definitely not, and if fact, it's a form of mental and emotional dependency, that's why there is the presence of self-esteem of being proud and arrogant coming from attachment and identification towards the existence and possession of certain qualities of names and forms that they like, agree with and desire.

Some people might also mistaken being a bully to be intimidating others as being mentally and emotionally independent. It's not at all, and in fact, it's also a form of mental and emotional dependency, as the mind needs to feel better about itself by bullying and intimidating others.

Mental and emotional independence is about the mind doesn't need to depend on the existence or possession of anyone or anything, of agreeable and desirable ties, connection, relationship, companionship, experience, interaction and activity, of specific belief, values and practice, of love, support, attention, acknowledgement, recognition, approval, agreement, liking, praise and compliment from others, of any qualities of names and forms to be what it is, and to feel good, positive, happy and meaningful, or not. The mental and emotional independent mind is not being influenced or determined by the presence and absence of all kinds of influences or conditions. This mind is able to be peaceful and compassionate under any unforeseen circumstances, or challenging conditions and situations.

The minds that are mentally and emotionally dependent would feel being intimidated or offended by anyone or anything, especially upon the presence of the mind that is mentally and emotionally independent, even when that mind has no intention to be intimidating or offending anyone, but merely being what it is, being free and independent.

Freedom is upmost important. It is equal to peace and harmony in oneself, however, not many people know exactly what is real freedom, and how to attain the ultimate freedom, of the liberation from the idea of 'I', ignorance, egoism, impurities and restlessness, and the suffering deriving from all that.

That is why the teachings and practice of yoga and buddhism are existing here for the minds, to be reversing the mind behavior pattern under the influence of all those worldly passionate egoistic influences and conditions since conception, and even more so, during early childhood and adolescence, young adulthood and later adulthood, and even after entering middle age and old age, where many minds are continuously being influenced and conditioned by the many inputs and ideas coming from everyone and everywhere, either wittingly or unwittingly.

Certain degrees of mental and emotional independence is highly important for the mind to be able to renounce the worldly passionate egoistic thinking, belief, values, practice, ideas, affairs, family ties and connections, relationships, interactions and activities, to be observing dispassion, silence, seclusion and solitude, to be performing self-inquiry towards the truth of everything, and towards what is the 'I', that the thinking in the mind that thinks and believes and identifies as itself, or a permanent independent individual self-existence, holding a self-image under certain way of living, thinking, belief, values and practice, physical appearance, mental and emotional traits, physical and mental ability and disability, different types of background, association, accomplishment and status, and specific personality and characteristic, that comes with many different personal and group identities under all kinds of qualities and different names and forms at the same time or in different timing.

The mind will attain real freedom that comes under correct understanding and self-control, be free from all kinds of suffering deriving from the idea of 'I', ignorance, egoism, impurities and restlessness, upon knowing Thyself.

The minds that know Thyself, that are mentally and emotionally independent, they are void of the sense of meaninglessness or loneliness.

Inquire the truth of everything.

The selfless universal Self

It's not about realizing our true Self of who we really are.

It's not about realizing my true Self of who I really am.

It's not 'my' Self, 'our' Self, 'his' Self, 'her' Self, or 'its' Self.

If it's selfless, there's no individual existence to be identifying as "I am That," or "I am the Self."

Just as the sun being what it is, there's no identification of "I am the sun," or "I am the Self."

If it's selfless, there's no "I am selfless," or "I am the selfless Self."

It's not even 'the selfless universal Self'. It is what it is.

It's realizing the truth of selflessness and impermanence in all and everything, that leads towards the realization of the timeless changeless birthless deathless beginningless endless selfless universal Self, that exists selflessly and independently within and without all and everything that are selfless and impermanent, untouched by the selfless impermanent qualities and changes in all and everything, that doesn't belong to anyone or anything of all kinds of selfless and impermanent names and forms that the selfless mind perceives through the selfless senses via the selfless sense organs of the selfless limited and conditional physical body, where all and everything being reflected as they are, that can not and do not exist independently and permanently, but inter-depending on one another and inter-influencing one another, to be arising, changing, and passing away.

Although the selfless existence and function of the limited conditional selfless body and mind is dependent on all kinds of selfless elements and selfless energy to be existing and functioning, but self-esteem, self-worth, pride, attachment, identification, desire, craving, clinging, or mental and emotional inter-dependency are merely the by-products of ignorance and egoism, that don't exist upon the annihilation of ignorance and egoism, or the idea of 'I', that generate the sense of separateness.

Under the veil of ignorance, egoism and the idea of 'I', there are unnecessary self-esteem, self-worth, pride, attachment, identification, desire, craving, clinging, or mental and emotional dependency occupying the selfless modification of the selfless perceptive cognitive intellectual thinking mind, where the ignorant egoistic selfless mind perceives all kinds of unnecessary mental and emotional suffering, or disturbance, or fear and worry, or dissatisfaction and disappointment, or anger and hatred, or painful hurt and sorrow, due to being ignorant towards the truth of selflessness and impermanence.

If all minds are free from the idea of 'I', egoism and ignorance...

Inquire the truth of everything, and be free.

Pride

There's something in common in the many different worldly passionate cultural beliefs, values and practices, which is being proud towards oneself and others upon the presence of certain qualities of names and forms that are agreeable according to the different beliefs, values and practices, respectively. As well as being proud towards oneself and others upon the absence of certain qualities of names and forms that are disagreeable to the different beliefs, values and practices, respectively.

Under the absence of the idea of 'I', egoism and ignorance, there's no idea of, "I am so proud of myself for this or that," or "I am so proud of you for this or that," or "You should be so proud of yourself for this or that."

Most minds that are under the influence of the idea of 'I', egoism and ignorance, and are being conditioned by certain worldly passionate cultural belief, values and practice, that expect others to be proud of oneself upon the presence and absence of certain agreeable and disagreeable qualities of names and forms in oneself, would feel being unattended, unappreciated, unacknowledged, unloved and unsupported by others upon the absence of such passionate egoistic appreciation, acknowledgement, recognition, praise, compliment, support and encouragement of showing pride towards the presence and absence of certain agreeable and disagreeable qualities of names and forms in oneself, or in others.

Many minds would want to justify that there's no harm in not being stingy but being generous to give praise and compliment, appreciation and support, acknowledgement and recognition by showing pride towards the presence and absence of certain agreeable and disagreeable qualities of names and forms in oneself, and in others, to encourage oneself and others to be motivated to do better and be better.

There's neither right nor wrong, neither good nor bad with that, as most minds are being conditioned deeply by such thinking, belief, values and practice since very young age to think, believe and practice in such way, where they strongly think and believe that all these practices, actions and reactions are all positive, good and right, and nothing negative, bad and wrong, while if people don't perform such practices, actions and reactions are something negative, bad and wrong, or are being unloving, selfish, stingy, ungenerous and non-supportive.

However, such passionate egoistic thinking, belief, values and practice is nothing but empowering the idea of 'I', egoism and ignorance in oneself and in everyone, which is nothing to do with the teachings and practice of yoga and buddhism.

All these are merely the play of the ego and egoism and ignorance.

Yoga and buddhism practice is mainly to be eradicating the idea of 'I', egoism and ignorance, or such passionate egoistic belief, values and practice from the modification of the mind, by stop feeding the mind with such practices, actions and reactions, which is what mind purification is about, which is what eradication of the idea of 'I' and egoism and ignorance is about.

The minds that understand, they don't need the presence of such passionate egoistic attention, appreciation, acknowledgement, recognition, praise, compliment, support and encouragement for being what they are and doing what they are doing, or continuously to be improving, and to be performing certain necessary actions, duties and responsibilities towards looking after oneself and others. They are not being determined by the presence and absence of such passionate egoistic practices, actions and reactions. They are what they are. They don't need to be motivated by the presence of such actions and reactions, and they are not being demotivated by the absence of such actions and reactions.

These minds are void of the sense of low self-esteem, low self-worth, loneliness, left-out, animosity, humiliation, disappointment, meaninglessness, unloved, or lovelessness.

That is what mental and emotional independence is about. This is what self-independence is about.

To be compassionate towards the suffering minds, to help the suffering minds to be free from suffering, is not by empowering the ignorance and egoism in the minds, but to allow the minds to know how to be free from ignorance and egoism and the idea of 'I'.

Even in the world of yoga, many yoga teachers bring in such passionate egoistic practices, actions and reactions into the yoga class, thinking and believing that it would be encouraging the yoga students to be practicing yoga. It's like giving them lots of sweets, sugary drinks and food with high salt and fat content to encourage them to be free from the suffering of diabetes, high blood pressure and heart disease, to have a healthy physical body.

Inquire towards the truth of everything.