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Friday, October 15, 2010

Keep smiling and be grateful even though life is not easy for us...

Some people may think that when a person is always smiling and cheerful, it must be because his life is very "good", there's no obstacles, difficulties or unwishful happenings in his life, everything is just what he likes and what he wants it to be... But in truth, no body's life can be free from the law of impermanence which is the cause of all suffering, but we still can be grateful and thankful for all the good things that we had before and what we have now.

Everyone has to go through impermanence, fear, worry, disappointment and dissatisfaction, as well as pain, weakening, decaying and death towards this physical body, no matter we are rich or poor, knowledgable or not knowledgable, healthy and fit or not, happy or not, having good behavior or not, speaking good language or not, smart or not, and having whatever we want in our life or not?

Some people will want to know how come I can still be smiling, cheerful and grateful when my mother had passed away, my father is sick and paralyzed, and my entire family has financial and health problems, my siblings have lots of resentment about life and responsibility, the world has so much problems, our living environment has problems, my close friends also had their own personal problems, many people that i know are suffering anxiety and depression, and people here and there also have many problems?

But the point is, whose family has no problems at all? Whose family and friends had never had lost somebody that they loved and closed to? Who has never been sick or unhappy in life? Who has never encounter any discomfortable situations or difficult moments in this life existence?

Some people think that I am selfish and don't care for anybody else, that I am feelingless and cold hearted. They think that I should not be smiling or feel happy at all, because my life is "bad" and full of "unwanted and unhappy happenings"... They think why should I be happy when so many people are depressed?

Why can't I?

My life also encounters many different kinds of problems and difficulties before. On and off, there will always still be some other difficult moments may arise here and there... But I never see all these happenings as "problems". I don't have "problems", why do I need to be unhappy?

About other people's problems and unhappiness, I am compassionate towards all of them but I don't need to be unhappy for someone else's "problems", how could I? I will try my best to help them to come out from suffering and unhappiness if possible. But if these people don't want to help themselves, or don't want to come out from miseries, and are enjoying being upset, unhappy and depressed, then there is nothing much that I can do about it. Everyone is a free person to live their live the way that they want it to be, the way that they are comfortable at and do whatever they want to do with their body and mind. I cannot stop someone from endangering his own life even if he is the dearest person to me in my life. Everyone has to take responsibility for their own self.

Who said that we cannot be cheerful and smiling when we encounter different kinds of problems in our life? And why do we want to make small little problems into huge problems? Why don't we make big problems into small problems, and make small problems into no problems? Unwishful things are always happening whether we like it or not, but why do we want to see everything as a problem?

Who said that when our body is sick or when our family and friends are sick, we should be moaning and is not appropriate to smile and be cheerful? Cheerfulness is the best natural medicine to cure any physical and mental sickness... Even if our body is so sick that it cannot be cured, we still can be cheerful and enjoy the very last moments of our life and live meaningfully...

Who said that everyone should become depressed since the world is so depressing?

Who said that we cannot enjoy life when there are unhappiness everywhere?

Being depressed about things that are depressing is not going to help to ease depression nor can it make the depression go away...

Being unhappy and worry for unwishful happenings cannot help things to improve or help the situation to get better, nor can it make unwishful happenings disappear or not happen at all.

Why do we want to waste energy and time in being upset, unhappy, moaning, fear and worry, while we can turn these energy into something constructive and productive that can help to make some positive changes if possible, and to accept the fact as it is if changes are not possible and let it go?

When true compassion exists, there is no unhappiness or depression, no craving or aversion, no attachment or expectation, no disappointment or dissatisfaction, and no fear and worry, but only love and wisdom is there to perform actions that need to be done for the well-being of all beings, for ourselves and for others.

If we don't have compassion, then we need to have forgiveness to accept ourselves and other people for being imperfect.

If there is no attachment, there is no need of letting go. We need to let go of "something" only if we had attached to something.

Non-attachment will lead us to become undisturbed or unaffected by all the conditions of names and forms in the world, but that doesn't mean that we are feelingless or cruel.

Having negative emotional expression towards the law of impermanence and the law of cause and effect will not help anyone to feel better or to be free from the effect of impermanence.

The existence of this physical body and the mind is an unchangeable truth about the effect of impermanence. We are creating suffering for ourselves if we cannot let go of things and human relationships when impermanence strikes.

It is perfectly okay to feel sad, to cry and to show respect to the dead and the sick, but there is no need to create extra suffering onto the existing suffering.

When suffering arise, we observe, aware, and let it go...

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