We
can only share happiness with others when we ourselves know how to be
happy and are happy. If we are not happy (it means we don't know how to
be happy), then how can we share happiness with others and want others to
be happy, when we don't have happiness in ourselves?
We can share our joy and happiness with all beings without any discrimination of human beings or non-human beings, good beings or bad beings, happy beings or unhappy beings, wise beings or ignorant beings, regardless of whether they will appreciate, or not, but we cannot give happiness to others nor can we make other beings to become happy.
If one can give happiness to others or can make another being to become happy, then there shouldn't be any beings being unhappy in the world, because we can just give happiness to everyone and make everyone happy. But it doesn't work like that. Not even Buddha or any enlightened beings can make another being to become happy or to become enlightened. If it is so simple and easy, we can just ask for happiness or enlightenment, and be happy forever and be enlightened. It is all come from within ourselves. Happiness or enlightenment (devoid of ignorance), it is up to our own initiative and efforts to realize it from within ourselves. It cannot be given by or be bought from someone else. All the teachers and teachings are there to guide us to attain true happiness and enlightenment by our own initiative and effort.
When beings are unhappy, have no peace in the heart/mind, it's because the mind is full of attachment, ignorance, anger, hatred, jealousy, envy, pride, arrogance, dissatisfaction, frustration, disappointment, offensiveness, defensiveness, bitterness, resentment, avenge, greed, doubt, fear and worry, where the mind is feeling restless, disturbed, depressed and unhappy, then no matter how sincere we want to share joy and happiness with them, they will still be unhappy. We can give them what they want and tell funny stories that might make them feel good and happy for a few moments, but we can't really give them happiness or remove their unhappiness. Everyone has to remove unhappiness in them all by themselves through their own initiative and effort.
If the mind is not satisfied or is not happy, then no matter how sincere other people try to make us happy and care for us, or how nice is the environment and how good are the things happening in our lives, we will still be dissatisfied and unhappy. Even though we have a good life and have many people to love us and care for us, we still can be unhappy when we are still having a lot of impurities of anger, hatred, jealousy, envy, lust, greed, arrogance, irritation, frustration, dissatisfaction, disappointment, doubt, fear and worry.
If our mind is satisfied and is happy, then everything appears to be good and beautiful, everyone appears to be okay and fine. It doesn't matter if the world is in chaos and everything happens against our wish/desire, but everything will be okay and there is no problem if the mind is satisfied and is happy.
The world is neither a happy place nor a suffering place. It is our own mind being at peace or not at peace that gives us the impression that the world is a happy place or a suffering place. The world itself has no intention or quality to be good or not good, to be full of suffering or be free from suffering.
No one can give us happiness nor can anyone takes away our happiness. It is our own mind.
No one can make us happy nor can anyone makes us unhappy. It is our own mind's responsibility towards how it reacts towards everything that it perceives.
It is our own mind that is feeling happy when it is pure, calm and at peace, while it will be feeling unhappy when it is not pure, not calm and not at peace. We think that it is the things/objects/affairs/happenings out there and whatever happens in our bodies and in our lives that make us happy or unhappy. In fact, it is nothing to do with anybody else or any happenings in our bodies or in our lives. We think that we are the one who is happy or unhappy, but it is not. It is the selfless mind perceives pleasantness/unpleasantness, and there's reaction of feelings/emotions of happiness or unhappiness. If there is no idea of 'I' to be identifying with the modification of the mind as 'I', we (the selfless thinking faculty/the perceptive mind) will be at peace all the time, not being affected or disturbed or influenced by the state of our mind. And the state of the mind whether it's happy or unhappy, it is all impermanent. True happiness comes when we have gone beyond the happy and unhappy feelings, or the state of peacefulness and calmness, when the mind is free from ignorance, the idea of 'I', egoism and impurities. Even the state of peacefulness and calmness is also impermanent. If we can unattach even towards this temporary state of peacefulness and calmness in the selfless modification of the mind, then the selfless restless modification of the mind is just what it is, and we can be truly at peace transcending all the different states of the mind.
To be happy or unhappy, it is all up to what we think is ourselves (the selfless perceptive mind itself). The momentary feelings of happy and unhappy is coming from the mind. If there is an idea of 'I' existing in the mind attaching onto the selfless impermanent modification of the mind, then we will think that we are happy or unhappy according to the impermanent state of the mind. The truth is, if the selfless mind knows how to not attach towards the impermanent states of the mind, there is only the selfless awareness that is being aware of and witnessing all the different states of the mind, then no matter the mind feels calm or disturbed, happy or unhappy, good or bad, we (the selfless perceptive thinking faculty) will know that it is not "I am happy or unhappy/good or bad", it is just the selfless impermanent modification of the mind. Go beyond the modification of the mind or the happy and unhappy feelings, we will be free from the impermanent sense of happiness and unhappiness, and be truly happy and at peace.
Happy feeling might arise from within a peaceful mind, upon the absence of fear and worry or other impurities. But true and lasting happiness is beyond this momentary happy feeling that comes from a peaceful mind. Before we can go beyond the peaceful state of mind, we need to be able to achieve the state of peacefulness in the mind. We need to transcend Tamas (darkness/idleness/negativeness) with Rajas (brightness/activeness/positiveness), and then transcend Rajas with Sattva (calmness). And then, we can transcend Sattva with non-attachment and non-identification. Everlasting peacefulness/happiness is there as it is,, when we are beyond all the three Gunas and not being determined or affected by these selfless impermanent Gunas (energy fields) anymore.
How to achieve the peaceful state of mind?
By understanding the truth of everything. When we understand the truth of everything and know what is going on in our mind (the selfless impermanent modification of the mind), then only we can accept the perceived reality as it is. When we can accept the perceived reality as it is, we can let go and not attach towards anything (both desirable and undesirable experiences). When there is no attachment at all, there is no fear, no worry, or any other forms of impurities. When there is no worry and no fear, devoid of impurities, peacefulness is there, as it is. When we are at peace, true happiness that is beyond the impermanent happy feeling, will be there as it is.
How to understand the truth of everything?
We can share our joy and happiness with all beings without any discrimination of human beings or non-human beings, good beings or bad beings, happy beings or unhappy beings, wise beings or ignorant beings, regardless of whether they will appreciate, or not, but we cannot give happiness to others nor can we make other beings to become happy.
If one can give happiness to others or can make another being to become happy, then there shouldn't be any beings being unhappy in the world, because we can just give happiness to everyone and make everyone happy. But it doesn't work like that. Not even Buddha or any enlightened beings can make another being to become happy or to become enlightened. If it is so simple and easy, we can just ask for happiness or enlightenment, and be happy forever and be enlightened. It is all come from within ourselves. Happiness or enlightenment (devoid of ignorance), it is up to our own initiative and efforts to realize it from within ourselves. It cannot be given by or be bought from someone else. All the teachers and teachings are there to guide us to attain true happiness and enlightenment by our own initiative and effort.
When beings are unhappy, have no peace in the heart/mind, it's because the mind is full of attachment, ignorance, anger, hatred, jealousy, envy, pride, arrogance, dissatisfaction, frustration, disappointment, offensiveness, defensiveness, bitterness, resentment, avenge, greed, doubt, fear and worry, where the mind is feeling restless, disturbed, depressed and unhappy, then no matter how sincere we want to share joy and happiness with them, they will still be unhappy. We can give them what they want and tell funny stories that might make them feel good and happy for a few moments, but we can't really give them happiness or remove their unhappiness. Everyone has to remove unhappiness in them all by themselves through their own initiative and effort.
If the mind is not satisfied or is not happy, then no matter how sincere other people try to make us happy and care for us, or how nice is the environment and how good are the things happening in our lives, we will still be dissatisfied and unhappy. Even though we have a good life and have many people to love us and care for us, we still can be unhappy when we are still having a lot of impurities of anger, hatred, jealousy, envy, lust, greed, arrogance, irritation, frustration, dissatisfaction, disappointment, doubt, fear and worry.
If our mind is satisfied and is happy, then everything appears to be good and beautiful, everyone appears to be okay and fine. It doesn't matter if the world is in chaos and everything happens against our wish/desire, but everything will be okay and there is no problem if the mind is satisfied and is happy.
The world is neither a happy place nor a suffering place. It is our own mind being at peace or not at peace that gives us the impression that the world is a happy place or a suffering place. The world itself has no intention or quality to be good or not good, to be full of suffering or be free from suffering.
No one can give us happiness nor can anyone takes away our happiness. It is our own mind.
No one can make us happy nor can anyone makes us unhappy. It is our own mind's responsibility towards how it reacts towards everything that it perceives.
It is our own mind that is feeling happy when it is pure, calm and at peace, while it will be feeling unhappy when it is not pure, not calm and not at peace. We think that it is the things/objects/affairs/happenings out there and whatever happens in our bodies and in our lives that make us happy or unhappy. In fact, it is nothing to do with anybody else or any happenings in our bodies or in our lives. We think that we are the one who is happy or unhappy, but it is not. It is the selfless mind perceives pleasantness/unpleasantness, and there's reaction of feelings/emotions of happiness or unhappiness. If there is no idea of 'I' to be identifying with the modification of the mind as 'I', we (the selfless thinking faculty/the perceptive mind) will be at peace all the time, not being affected or disturbed or influenced by the state of our mind. And the state of the mind whether it's happy or unhappy, it is all impermanent. True happiness comes when we have gone beyond the happy and unhappy feelings, or the state of peacefulness and calmness, when the mind is free from ignorance, the idea of 'I', egoism and impurities. Even the state of peacefulness and calmness is also impermanent. If we can unattach even towards this temporary state of peacefulness and calmness in the selfless modification of the mind, then the selfless restless modification of the mind is just what it is, and we can be truly at peace transcending all the different states of the mind.
To be happy or unhappy, it is all up to what we think is ourselves (the selfless perceptive mind itself). The momentary feelings of happy and unhappy is coming from the mind. If there is an idea of 'I' existing in the mind attaching onto the selfless impermanent modification of the mind, then we will think that we are happy or unhappy according to the impermanent state of the mind. The truth is, if the selfless mind knows how to not attach towards the impermanent states of the mind, there is only the selfless awareness that is being aware of and witnessing all the different states of the mind, then no matter the mind feels calm or disturbed, happy or unhappy, good or bad, we (the selfless perceptive thinking faculty) will know that it is not "I am happy or unhappy/good or bad", it is just the selfless impermanent modification of the mind. Go beyond the modification of the mind or the happy and unhappy feelings, we will be free from the impermanent sense of happiness and unhappiness, and be truly happy and at peace.
Happy feeling might arise from within a peaceful mind, upon the absence of fear and worry or other impurities. But true and lasting happiness is beyond this momentary happy feeling that comes from a peaceful mind. Before we can go beyond the peaceful state of mind, we need to be able to achieve the state of peacefulness in the mind. We need to transcend Tamas (darkness/idleness/negativeness) with Rajas (brightness/activeness/positiveness), and then transcend Rajas with Sattva (calmness). And then, we can transcend Sattva with non-attachment and non-identification. Everlasting peacefulness/happiness is there as it is,, when we are beyond all the three Gunas and not being determined or affected by these selfless impermanent Gunas (energy fields) anymore.
How to achieve the peaceful state of mind?
By understanding the truth of everything. When we understand the truth of everything and know what is going on in our mind (the selfless impermanent modification of the mind), then only we can accept the perceived reality as it is. When we can accept the perceived reality as it is, we can let go and not attach towards anything (both desirable and undesirable experiences). When there is no attachment at all, there is no fear, no worry, or any other forms of impurities. When there is no worry and no fear, devoid of impurities, peacefulness is there, as it is. When we are at peace, true happiness that is beyond the impermanent happy feeling, will be there as it is.
How to understand the truth of everything?
Applying and materializing
the yoga philosophy and its practice in our daily life, such like Yama,
Niyama, Asana, Pranayama, Dharana, Dhyana and Samadhi, are one of the
ways for anybody to realize the wisdom that is already there within us. By
gaining control of the mind (self-control) and not attaching towards the modification of the mind (not being over-powered by the restless modification of the mind), wisdom will
be uncovered or arise within us. Upon the presence of wisdom (the absence of ignorance), we will understand the truth of
everything, accept the chaotic world as it is, accept everything (agreeable or disagreeable) as it is,
accept everyone (pure or impure/good or bad) as they are, and accept ourselves as we are. We will be
free from the past and the future, and be free from disturbance and
unhappiness deriving from ignorance, the idea of 'I, egoism, restlessness and impurities.
When we care for somebody who is disturbed/unhappy and share our knowledge with others about how to attain true happiness, it is up to their own initiative and efforts whether they will be happy, or not. When the people are happy when we share happiness with them, it is not us that make them happy, but it is because their own mind is at peace and is satisfied in the present moment. If anyone is happy, it is because they are able to accept the reality as it is and able to let go, after they understand the truth of things. It is not us that make them happy. They can remain unhappy, if they still don't understand the truth of things, and are not able to accept the reality as it is, and not able to let go. That's all.
If we truly understand the truth of things, and are wise, we will not be attached to wards the action of giving and sharing, and will not be disturbed or be affected by the fruit of the action. We can give and share unlimitedly and unconditionally. We will be free from judgment, comparison, expectation, dissatisfaction and disappointment. We will never feel tired even though we give so much, if there is no idea of 'I' existing to be identifying as the doer of the action, and perform actions without the influence of egoism, but out of the selfless compassion. We are just the channel or the instrument for the selfless universal consciousness to act in the world intentionlessly that might or might not help the suffering beings to come out from miseries. We act without any selfish intentions. It is only when we have selfish intentions behind all our actions, there will be expectation, tensions, stress, attachment, tiredness, dissatisfaction, disappointment, frustration, anger, fear and worry in us.
If we act out of selfless compassion to serve others, to carry out our multiple duties and responsibilities as a human being, as a friend, as a child, as a parent, as a citizen, as a teacher, as a student, as a brother or sister, as a leader, as an employee or employer, as a wife or husband, as a partner or companion, as "this" and "that" and so on..., then there will be no stress and tension at all. There is no attachment. There is no identification. There is no fear and worry. There is no anger and hatred. There is no hurt and disappointment. There is only kindness, joy and peace.
Give and share, and let go.
Be true. Be free. Be happy.
May all beings be happy.
When we care for somebody who is disturbed/unhappy and share our knowledge with others about how to attain true happiness, it is up to their own initiative and efforts whether they will be happy, or not. When the people are happy when we share happiness with them, it is not us that make them happy, but it is because their own mind is at peace and is satisfied in the present moment. If anyone is happy, it is because they are able to accept the reality as it is and able to let go, after they understand the truth of things. It is not us that make them happy. They can remain unhappy, if they still don't understand the truth of things, and are not able to accept the reality as it is, and not able to let go. That's all.
If we truly understand the truth of things, and are wise, we will not be attached to wards the action of giving and sharing, and will not be disturbed or be affected by the fruit of the action. We can give and share unlimitedly and unconditionally. We will be free from judgment, comparison, expectation, dissatisfaction and disappointment. We will never feel tired even though we give so much, if there is no idea of 'I' existing to be identifying as the doer of the action, and perform actions without the influence of egoism, but out of the selfless compassion. We are just the channel or the instrument for the selfless universal consciousness to act in the world intentionlessly that might or might not help the suffering beings to come out from miseries. We act without any selfish intentions. It is only when we have selfish intentions behind all our actions, there will be expectation, tensions, stress, attachment, tiredness, dissatisfaction, disappointment, frustration, anger, fear and worry in us.
If we act out of selfless compassion to serve others, to carry out our multiple duties and responsibilities as a human being, as a friend, as a child, as a parent, as a citizen, as a teacher, as a student, as a brother or sister, as a leader, as an employee or employer, as a wife or husband, as a partner or companion, as "this" and "that" and so on..., then there will be no stress and tension at all. There is no attachment. There is no identification. There is no fear and worry. There is no anger and hatred. There is no hurt and disappointment. There is only kindness, joy and peace.
Give and share, and let go.
Be true. Be free. Be happy.
May all beings be happy.
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